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am i ready to have sex with my boyfriend??
I am a 14 year old girl but im 15 in 3 months and i know its illegal to have sex in uk before 16 but i really love my boyfriend and i'll be honest caue i want real advice i've been going out with him over a week and i already feel he loves me and i love him and i think i feel ready i mean he's given me oral sex if that can be correct but i've not done anything to him and i think he's the right one and the one i want to loose my virginity too and i want to know if theres a way of checking to see if ur ready by tasks or talks or something . one magazine said to see if ur ready to have sex see if you can walk up to your local chemist and buy condoms out of it from a lady who knows you live near by is this a good way of telling if im ready please email me bak or reply soon cause tomorrow or the next day is ment to be kinda big with him and me
please help love me xxxxxxxxxxx
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There's no way that your ready.. You have only been with him for a week. I would give it a few months before u even think about sex. But for now i think that you should go online and so some research on safe sex. Talk to your boyfriend about sex if your not able to talk to him about sex then your def. not ready to have sex
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There is NO way you are ready to have sex. Going out for over like 8 months is more reasonable. You are no where near that. He's probabaly like one of your first boyfriends and you feel a need to automatically trust and love him, and feel like he does too. It happens alot with young relationships, but the odds are, your not in love. Eventually you could be. And I know, I HATE when people tell me I'm not or haven't been in love. It pisses me off so much. But seriosly, you barely know what this stuff is all about, it's so much more than just having sex. You need to be emotionally ready, and at 14 no one is. You need to give yourself time to know what love is, and that could take years. I'm saying all this as a person who is just deciding to have sex after about 9 months. It's a huge huge huge step and cannot be taken lightly. You need to reevaluate your priorities and understand that you are no where near sex, or love with your boyfriend of the week. If you want to talk more about it you can message me or instant message me at x3ashleyjean because I really don't want you to do something you'll regret 100%.
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The decision to have sex is a major one...and in my opinion it shouldn't even be an option when you're 14 or 15 years old and have only been in the relationship for a week. You can't REALLY love a person unless you REALLY know them and you can't REALLY know them if you've only been dating for a week. I mean, if he's already given you oral and you've only been together a week, you're moving WAY too fast physically. Ultimately it's your decision to make and if you choose to have sex with him please use protection for your own good.
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if you have to ask us if your ready, your obviously not!
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Sex is a REALLY serious thing to consider. Being 15 years old and being with a guy for a week, doesnt sound like a good idea to me. In the end, you might end up getting hurt // pregnant // ANYTHING...YOU never know. I would wait on it for a while, at least until youve been dating more than a week, its way too soon.
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i personally think that you are ready. i understand that you have been dating him for only a week but if you really feel that you like him and hes the one who want to loose your virginity to i say go for it..youve already had oral sex and no body knows about it from uk and oral sex is kind of the step right before sex. theres no real way to tell your ready or signs like that..you have to know and think about it dont get yourself so worked up about it. just dont be stupid and go and have unsafe sex, if your going to do it most likely no body is going to stop you so at least be protected. hopeee i helped =]
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If you need advice on how to know if your ready, then your not. When your ready you'll know you don't need advice on it. your 14 going on 15 and you've been going out with this kid for a week. thinking about sex is not very reasonable after a week. i would give it time and see how you feel after a while and determain on your own whether your ready or not. please don't make a mistake because your virginity is something you lose once, you can never get it back. trust me i know from experience hun. it's not fun to go through. because i'll tell you, you may think they are the "one" and everything& you give it up then they turn around and break up with you and your miserable for weeks even months some times longer. i'm sure you don't want to experience that. but i hope i helped if you need anything just ask kthxbye<333
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If you have to question us, your not ready.
And the fact the relationship has only been going on for a week...why would you want to give up your virginity to a guy you've been going out with for a week.
A week doesn't even bring love, your just starting a relationship and I highly doubt you love him. And a week's time is nothing compared to the price your willing to give. Is your innocence really that inexpensive to you?
To those who said follow your heart. In a sense their right, but don't be stupid and be swept away in what you consider "love". Because 9 times out of 10 no 14 year old really knows what "love" is. Be smarter than that.
That is my fair warning, take it as you will.
-Ryan
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Listen Kido, i say follow your heart with most situatons, but at least wait for the second month to have sex, there's alot of other stuff you can do, if your still with him at 2 months, then do what you feel is right but know this, you HAVE to think this through, are you going to marry this man? would you give your life for him?
GoodLuck
Jon a.K.a MadHatter
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ok your dumb. youve only been dating him for a little over a week and you want to bang him? whats wrong with you? ho. i think you should get over your "love" and wait for marriage. sicko
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omg r u serious this guy only knows you for a week and u wanna screw him...are you serious.....why are people so horny...well i dont think your ready...your just a bit horny you dono if this guy is just using you you have to give it more time and i dont think you should break the law...tell ya this when you turn 16 and if you two are still together than sleep with him but if your not...which no offence im sure you wont be then he just wasnt the right one
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As stated in another answer when your ready you will just know, You have been with this guy for only a week I would give it more time like wait at least until you are together for a month. There will only ever be one "first time" so try to do it with someone really special who respects you so that you will always carry a good memory. Also by waiting you will be able to know that he loves and respects you enough to wait.
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It's illegal to have sex in the UK if you are under the age of 16? Wow, I bet the law gets broken a lot there. Haha. Anyways, if you think you're ready, talk to your boyfriend and tell him. If the two of you can talk about sex openly, then you know that you're ready. Yes, buying a condom at a store from a lady you know can be a test in a sense. It shows you are mature enough to be open with your sexual life. If you're ready, then go for it and have fun. Good luck with your relationship :)
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I lost mine at 15 with a boy I was seeing for 3 months...before we were intimate together. We broke up 3 months ago after dating for 2 years and 3 months. I can tell you the moment you'll know...you'll know. You wont have to question, it will happen. If you're ready no one else will be able to tell you no. You'll be nervous and second guess yourself...but when you are ready you wont. There aren't really any tests you can do...I guess that condom one is good...but it just shows if you are embarassed by it or not. I still can't buy condoms like that, doesn't mean anything.
I wish you the best of luck with you and him, and with your sex situation...and just so you know...a good way to know if you're ready is that sex shouldn't be a situation...it should be a release and showing of intimacy that you want to feel with him.
Xo
Woven...let me know how it goes.
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