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OK...sorry, this will be quite long.
Well, my parents are divorced and I live with my mother. I don't see my father any more, because he got married to this lady called Karen, and she sends me loads of horrible emails, accusing me and my mother of all sorts of crap. I'm perfectly happy with not seeing him because I never got on with him, so that's not my question.
The thing is, my mother still wants me to see my father's parents. I really don't like them and all they do is complain at/about me while I'm there and I never enjoy any time I spend with them. My mother keeps going 'oh well you should do what you want I'm not forcing you to see them', but if I mention not wanting to go and see them, she moans at me and says I really should or whatever. She is really adamant that she hasn't influenced me or told me what to do in any of this business with seeing my father and his parents, but she is forcing me into seeing my grandparents!! They always talk about me not seeing my father while I'm there as well and it's driving me mad.
What can I do about this?? My mother swears she isn't MAKING me see them, but she complains at me if I don't go, or punishes me by not letting me go out at the weekend or something. How do I make her see that she IS influencing my choices over seeing that side of my family?
No answers saying that I should see my family please!! That's not my question and I don't want that answer thanks. I'm very aware that they are my family, thank you very much, and that most people see theirs. Well I'm not most people, so no preaching if you guys don't mind! Thanks! (link)
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Honestly, I think you should go see your dad's side of the family, but wait.. I'm not finished. I think you should tell them straight up that you don't appreciate them always complaining about you and everything little thing you do, do. And that it's not your fault that you don't want to see your dad. Tell them that he's the one that left and got married to some other woman who sends me and my mom emails that we are rotten people or whatever the emails do say. (If you don't say something to them then they will think that they can always treat you like shit. They are stepping all over you and you don't deserve that, of the way you sound.) And one last thing you can say to them is that it's also not my choice of coming here. Do you really think I like to hear bad things about me? And I'd talk to your mother about that. Say something like Mom look I get it I should see family but I don't like them making rude remarks to me I can't stand it when I'm sitting/standing right there hearing complaints about myself. And that if your mom wants to prove that she's not (trying) to influence you to see them then she shouldn't complain about not seeing them nor punish you for not wanting to see people that make you feel like crap 99.9% of the time (I know where you are coming from, not with the whole dad situation but like my family sometimes makes me feel like shit most of the time like that that's why I'm not a big family person I hate seeing my family I don't care for them, I don't like to see them, I just don't appreciate seeing them more than twice in 5 years ha, ha). Hope I helped! You don't have to take my advice it's only a suggestion always remember that.
Buh Bye,
ShanN*
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This guy I met at camp seems to have a thing for me. While we were there he tried to pull me into a room by ourselves so we could talk. (I definitely know he was not trying to get some. I'm positive.) He also talked to me from his friend's house, and he flirted so much it was crazy. Seriously, every sentence he said alluded to the fact that he has a thing for me. So my question is how do I know if he really likes me or if he just flirts with everyone and wants me to fall for him? (link)
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I think you should flat out ask him next time you talk to him. You should be like I was wondering if you were trying to trick me into falling for you and if you do this to a lot of girls. Honestly, if a guy pulls you in a room just to talk and not get some I think he has a thing for you. I see it as he doesn't just want sex from you he wants to listen and respect you. I see that as a good thing. If he says he's not just saying it then I'd say then why don't we hook up? Or something. Hope I helped. You don't have to take my advice it's just what I'd do, ya know? Hope everything works out.
Buh Bye,
ShanN*
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well, theres this guy, and hes friends with my ex, but we've always been really good friends, and now i realize that i really really like him, but, he liked one of my really good friends, and he told her, and got rejected. and now i ddont know if i should tell him, or just stay friends with him. anyideas? (link)
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Yeah, I think you should be straight with him and tell him you got feelings for him more than just a friend. That you would like it if he had the same feelings for you and that you understand if you don't want to date me because you think it would be kind of awkard and all and you would rather have a good friendship than being in risk of losing one. But if your his good friend he should understand that you grown a liking to him. If you take my advice and get rejected then just realize there's more guys out there for you. Hope I helped. Good luck.
Buh Bye,
ShanN*
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Hey Everyone!! Well I met this guy a month ago and we completly fell for eachother. The problem was our age differences because I'm 15 and he's 20 so he decided that he couldn't be w. me because i'm too *Immature.* Recently I've been checking out his profile just to look @ his pictures and I came across his new GF!! I have to admit that they look really happy together and I'm happy 4 him but @ the same time I wish that I was his GF. I can't stop thinking about the fact that he's moved on so quickly and I'm still getting no where. I really like him but I know there can't be anything between us..How do I get over him?? Please help!! (link)
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Just think about if you were his girlfriend the cops would always be there. I think he just lead you on to see what you were made of. Your 15 and he's 20 of course he's going to say your immature. Personally, I think 20 and 21 year old men are so immature. God they get me on webcam showing me their dicks. I'm only 13. So screw him he's no good just try and think in the back of your head all you would have had with him was having your parents call the police if they ever found out and throwing his ass in jail. Hope I helped. Sorry if I didn't.
Buh Bye,
ShanN*
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me and this guy were really good friends. i really liked him a lot and in a way him lead me on a little bit. so it really hurt me when he flirted with other girls. and i felt like he didnt care about me. well my best friend liked him too and he liked her, but he hardlyu ever talked to her because he was talking to me. at the end of the school he asked her out and itreally hurt me. so me and her friendship was over because she choose him over me. they broke up like a few days ago, and now i dont like him as more then a friend, and i told him that, and hes getting like upset and mad that i dont ike him anymore. he got mad becasue i called somone hott, and he was like im hotter then them come one, and he said he was goint o ask me out. but i wasnt going to be the rebound girl, but i dont no what to think or, what i should tell him. so he doesnt get so mad at me, because me and him are still good friends. thanks (link)
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I'd tell him that maybe you shouldn't have lead me on believing that you liked me and you wanted to ask me out, and then go and ask out my bestfriend. Tell him that you did like him but you realized what you would have with him is nothing but pain in the end. (Technically all relationships like that go straight down into hell.) And that your past that stage of liking him more than just a friend, and wouldn't want to lose his friendship that you guys have now if yall broke up. Ya know? It would be kind of awkard. Hope I helped. Thanks.
Buh Bye,
ShanN*
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ok..here it goes.
my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and 3 months...and dont get me wrong he is amazing and sweet and everything. but lately ive noticed that im looking at other guys more. like thinking they are cute or checking them out or whatever i never make a move on them tho. is this a sign that im losing interest or what??
im 13/f (link)
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Nah, I have been with my boyfriend for a year and 1 day. Ha, ha but yeah I do it sometimes and I bet he checks out chicks at some point as well. It doesn't mean your losing intertest it just means your human. Just think of it this way you really thought you was going to look at one guy and check him out for all your life. But yeah hope I helped!
Buh Bye,
ShanN*
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it may be long not sure, but please do not delete this lol- ok i just moved to maine from florida and so yea i dont know very many people but i started going to church and so theres this boy i think is really cute seems soo nice and today i was there and we were sittin across from eachtoher on the couches and i was reading and looked up and he was looking right at me stayed there for about 1 min and lady goes you going to finish readin i looked down and its like i totally forgot how to read lol, i really want this boy to like notice me alot cause yea i really need a guy up here in maine, see we start school in september and we go to the same school and same grade. you think theres anyway i could get him to notice me a lil more before school starts? and if you think by what i typed if it seems like he notices me at all?? * kim (link)
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Yes, he does notice you. You just need to talk to him that gets a guy to really notice you. Tell him you like him and noticed him a lot. Hope I helped.
Buh Bye,
ShanN*
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okay so i went to a dance on firday and i ment this guy we used tog o to school together and i found out her likes me and so i dance with him and i like him ...but the only problem is that i ahve a boyfiend and i love hima lot and i dont want to hurt him but i wanna get to kno the ohter guy better and he likes me alot and asked me out but i told him i ahd a b/f and i really odn kno whats going on i told himt hat if me and my b/f ever brake up that i would go out wiht him do u think thats right idk just give me some sort of advice ill rate 4 and 5'ss (link)
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Well like what you have with your boyfriend may be "lust" not love. Ya know? But I think you have a right to get to know the other guy your not doing anything wrong, unless you like kiss him and stuff like that but I don't think you will. I have been in your situation before and I made the right one I got to know the other one better so I broke up with my boyfriend at the time and me and the other guy started really talking and yeah we are going out for a year now. I'm not saying you should break up with your boyfriend just get to know the other guy and see if he's better than you boyfriend now and if he treats, looks, or listens to you better than your boyfriend now I'd go with him. Hope I helped!
Buh Bye,
ShanN*
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Allright, I've liked this girl I've known for a while, but everytime I start to make a move she hooks up with someone else. I know I'm waiting too long, I just don't know when the opprotune moment. For the past year she's been going out with my best friend. My best friend recently broke up with her girlfriend, but he told me what he was going to do beforehand.
She's one of my best friends; I've known her nearly all my life. And someone found out. That someone told her everything. She's not acting any differently towards me and I don't know what to make of my situation. Should I back off? OR should I hope for the best. Please, I don't know what to do. (link)
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You should always hope for the best. You never know she could like you she just might think it will be kind of awkard because before she found out everything you felt about her she probably thought of you as a brother she never had. Just keep your head up and I think you should tell her how you feel about her even if she already knows from somebody else. She may think it was a joke or something you never know, until you try or ask about it. Like I said before to someone else girls love sweetness in a guy, well most. But still try and hope for the best to talk to her about it. Never back down before you try. Hope I helped!
Buh Bye,
ShanN*
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Im confused: someone who absolutely meant so much to me, my best friend (a girl. im a girl too) started to be a little (so for being harsh) but a jerk.. we would have plans made for a week and then a day before she would cancle and go out and do something with this other girl (lets name her "freeda" :-D... it even got to where if me and her had plans to go to the movies she would invite "freeda" without telling me (even though I thought it was just goign to be us) Its starting to get annoying and i dont know what to do? (link)
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Just be straight with her. I'd tell your best friend that you don't appreciate her inviting some other girl while you are still thinking of having a good time with just you and her. And that if she wants to do that just exclude me out of it. Tell her it bother's you feeling not that appreciative around her and that you mean just you and her when you say you and her. Hope I helped! Hope she listens to what you got to say if you do talk to her. (Or you could just start doing the same thing to her.)
Buh Bye,
ShanN*
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Well okay I have this best friend whose a guy named Joe.. me and him went out before well a lot? and actually a few weeks ago we liked eachother (and i'm like still madly in love with him) until this other girl came into the picture.. her name is brooke (i dispise her) well see the thing is me and him talk 24-7 and stuff and we still hang out and he flirts so much but him & brooke are together still =/ but he doesn't really seem to like her that much? he considers me and him bestestest friends forever.. we even share secrets together? but i am in LOVE with this kid =( .. well last nite we had a school dance (he slowed danced with her obvisioly) and like when the fast songs were on i was like getting low and stuff tehehe =] and he was all near me i loved it =] and brooke and all her friends were like ugh but oh well for them? but idk what 2 do..? hmm what should i do (link)
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I wouldn't give a guy what he wants because like he is probably feeling pretty pimpish right now he got 2 chicks maybe more coming after him, ya know? But as you say your *Madly* in love with him I would tell him you still have mad feelings for him and ask him what he feels for you. Say something like we have been bestfriends almost all our lives or (whenever), and I know you the best out of Brooke. I really like you and I want to be with you and I know I will make you happy. Or something ya know? Just ask him to be honest of what all he thinks of you and if it's rejection then just say to yourself "Fine I can do better". Hope I helped! Sorry if I was a little rough around the edges.
Buh Bye,
ShanN*
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13/m. me and my girlfriend have been going out for two months now. but im a pagan which most people think is devil worship but thats really not the case. but the point is shes christian and i dont want her to think im a devil worshiper, cuz im not, and break up with me so should i tell her about my religion or keep it ro myself?? plz help me (link)
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If she put up with you for two months now. I don't think she will care that much, and she probably won't think of you as a devil worshipper. Hopefully you believen god unlike me. Your only a devil worshipper if your goth. Well not true but yeah I think you get my point. I would tell her, don't lie and say your something else because no relationship should be based on a lie. Hope I helped! Good luck.
Buh Bye,
ShanN*
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hi pplz. i think i like this boy but i'm scared to tell him. what can i say to give him hints that i like him. he's supposed to come down tomarrow. to talk to me and stuff and watch a movie. but i still wanna tell him b4 hand that i like him..please help me (link)
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Ask him if he has a girlfriend. If he's smart he will know where your going with it all. Then he'll react. Hopefully I helped! Or just tell him you like him a little more every time you talk to him. Have fun with the movie.
Buh Bye,
ShanN*
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Okay, so I like this girl, she knows I like her, but I asked her if she liked me once, she said that she likes me as a friend. I really want to hang out with her, etc, so that maybe I'll get her to rethink her response, but I'm at an age where co-ed is kind of discouraged. So, like, I got into an advanced science class, and there's only 20 people in that class. I was thrilled when I found out she had gotten in. The bad news? One of my other friends---a guy---also got in, and so I'd probably be expected to sit next to him, if we had a choice in seating.
Also, whenever I throw a party, should I invite her? I mean, theres some 15 guys there, hanging out, talking about DnD or how far we just got in Warioware, but then it would be kind of awkward to have just one single individual girl theere. I'm really kinda screwed in the head right now, she invited me to her parties, but then again, there were like ten guys there. What should I do, advicenators? (link)
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I Think you should tell her everything that you feel about her. And of course invite her I mean you like her, right? Well yeah do it. Always remember most girls like sweet guys. If you invite her tell her how you feel then. Hope I helped! Pretty sure I didn't, sorry. (And if she invites you to her parties and you don't show up she will probably think you blew her off and weren't that into her. Go to all of em* that she invites you too.)
Buh Bye,
ShanN*
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I have a boyfriend at this moment in time. We have been going out for almost three months. As of a few weeks ago I started realizing that I have feelings for my ex, and I'm jealous of my exes girlfriend. What should I do? (link)
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I honestly think you should break up with your boyfriend now. Just incase he finds out about you still having feelings for you ex he'd be really hurt, and staying single for awhile until you get your head all cleared up and until you are 100% positive on what you want. (Just think of who treats or treated you better, and the one that was a better listener to what you had to say) and if your 100% positive you want your ex tell him how you feel about him and all. And if you want your boyfriend that you should dump tell him that your sorry and you were just confused and it won't happen again. Remember (obviously) it's you choice on what you do. Hope I helped! Good luck with your situation.
Buh Bye,
ShanN*
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hey
my best mate introduced me to dean through msn. we have never met but we have kinda connected. we have been through the same kind of emotional problems and the other day he said we should meet up and talk about things properly. i really want to as i need to talk about my life. but im scared because i dont like the way i look. i am overweight. do you think that will matter.
i want to meet him because wen we speak to each other its like we know exactley what each other mean. he helped me to get over self harming and a broken heart and i helped him to get over his thoughts of suicide and depression so we are very close emotionally, we just have never met.
do you think it would be a good idea?
thanx
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*emz* (link)
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Well yes and no, because you never know he could be a cereal killer, but um being over weight shouldn't get you down. He sounds really interested in you, just be careful if you do meet him you should bring a friend like somebody else said they would do. And your more beautiful inside than you'll ever be outside. You still probably are pretty. I'm a different kind of person I never say a chick is ugly unless I hate their dumb slutty asses. It's all good. You should feel confident about yourself and meet him, just be careful. Hope I helped! Good luck hope you two match.
Buh Bye,
ShanN*
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i have scars from acne on my forehead, i was wondering what can i use to have to scars fade awayy? any help? (link)
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Yes, there is SPF 30, and Niquette. You get it from the dermantologist usually. But there is some of those kinds of products out there. Hope I helped!
Buh Bye,
ShanN*
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I am talking to my ex-boyfriend on sunday at church I am going to set down and just tell him how I feel.But I just talked to him the other day before we got off I said I love you to him and he said same to you what does that mean does he still love me? what do you think? (link)
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I think "same to you" is saying "I love you too" just in a different mature way. He may be shy or feeling awkward because like you said he's an ex boyfriend and all. I can see you still have feelings for him I mean you wouldn't have said "I love you" for nothing, right? Well yeah hope you and him work everything out! Have fun at church together, remember no fighting your going to be in god's house.
Buh Bye,
ShanN*
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Ok well im a 17/f and me and my boyfriend have sexand everything but like 4 months ago his condom broke and we didnt know it and now im pregnant. Well i want to keep the baby and my parents are all for me and any choice i make about the baby. Well my boyfriend and me are decieding if we should keep the baby and he wants to help raise the child if we decide to keep it. well i dont know if i should keep the baby. you see i will be able too because i act very mature for my age, i already moved out of my house when i was 16 because of family issues and i already have 1 child( i was raped when i 14 and i didnt give her up for adoption) what should i do should i keep the baby or give it up? (link)
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Just think of it this way. Do you want to kill someone. I'd keep it, I'm totally against abortions, killing, stealing or anything that harms someone. It's just my opinion just hope your not into killing anybody.. Hope I helped! Hopefully you'll keep it. Sorry to hear you were raped by the way. Good luck.
Buh Bye,
ShanN*
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okay this guy his name is charlie! well people think he is known for wanting to get in girls pants and then breaking up with them. But, i have heard some stories about how he is really sweet to his girlfriends and is not like that. Well, i like him alot an he said he likes me! should i try it with him and if thats all he wants dump him or what?! i really want to try it i mean he calls me alot! and he acts like he likes me!and he takes care of me (link)
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Well like that old saying "You never know til' you try". So I'd say go for it. I mean just think most people are just jealous and saying that because they probably can't get with him, and the people that are saying he's real sweet to everybody exspecially his girlfriend and he's just not like that is true. It could also be the other way around. Ya never know. But give it a try so you can figure it out if it's true or not, I'm guessing you like him if your asking advice about him. So yeah hope I helped! And yeah be smart if that's all he wants is getting into your pants. Dump him, no man uses their hand. Hah.
Buh Bye,
ShanN*
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