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Shoud I keep my baby or give it up for adoption?
Ok well im a 17/f and me and my boyfriend have sexand everything but like 4 months ago his condom broke and we didnt know it and now im pregnant. Well i want to keep the baby and my parents are all for me and any choice i make about the baby. Well my boyfriend and me are decieding if we should keep the baby and he wants to help raise the child if we decide to keep it. well i dont know if i should keep the baby. you see i will be able too because i act very mature for my age, i already moved out of my house when i was 16 because of family issues and i already have 1 child( i was raped when i 14 and i didnt give her up for adoption) what should i do should i keep the baby or give it up?
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I think if you are able by all means keep the kids together. It is ultimately up to you and your boyfriend. It seems he is willing to accept some responsibility and that is a big plus these days! I wish you luck in whatever you decide. :)
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I think you should keep tha baby so it doesnt go to a bad family or anything because you seem like a nice person and stuff so i think you should keep it and if you already have a child then i mean you know what to give her/him and stuff like that so yeah.
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Well it seems as though abortion for you is out of the question, and you officially rock because of that. The way I see it is, if you CANNOT financially handle having a second child then you should give it up for adoption. It's not fair to your child to suffer because you aren't capable of being able to afford for it. BUT if you are able to have a second child then by all means, you can keep the child. Your boyfriend wants to help you raise the baby and he seems like a great guy so I'm glad you have a great guy! Because most guys will deny it's their kid after the baby's born and then you end up on the Maury show. Not fun. But during your pregnancy, look at your financial situation, school and everything else that could possibly be affected by bringing another child into the world. If you feel you cannot raise the baby with a good life, you should give it up. There are adoption agencies that allow you to stay in contact with your child throughout his/her life even though they'd be living with their adoptive parents. So that could be something you'd like to consider. What kind of life would you want for your baby? If what you have is something you wouldn't want for your baby, then I think it would be best to give it up. I wish you the best of luck!
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I don't really have an answer but i give you major props for taking such good contorl of your life. Not many peopel could do that and still be around to talk abotu it. Keep it up!
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Personally i would keep it cause you might regret it later in life.. if its money problems then give it up for adoption but please dont consider abortion please.. and if i was you after you make your decision and have this child id recommend birth control.. also you might decide to give it up for adoption and then when you bring this child into the world you might decide to keep it.. ♥ Dez
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If your parents, boyfriend, and you are all for keeping your baby, then by all means keep it! It sounds to me like you are plently prepared to take of it and everyone is being supportive of it so you should be fine for sure. You have no reason to give it up for adoption, none at all unless you want to give it up for adoption, which is entirely your choice. But my advice is you should definately keep your baby and raise it yourself with your boyfriend.
Hope this helps and you make the right choice for you and the baby!
-Ryan
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i think you should keep the baby! if your parents support you at any choice you make and your b/f wants to help raise the baby you have alot of support there so i think you should keep it.
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keep it if you already kept one when you were raped you should defitly keep the baby and you have ur boyfriend to help you my sister had a baby and she kept it and she is turning 18 in 1 week
~*kristen*~
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Just think of it this way. Do you want to kill someone. I'd keep it, I'm totally against abortions, killing, stealing or anything that harms someone. It's just my opinion just hope your not into killing anybody.. Hope I helped! Hopefully you'll keep it. Sorry to hear you were raped by the way. Good luck.
Buh Bye,
ShanN*
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Keep the baby. You seem very mature. Also, you may never know that both your children may become famous one day. Good luck!
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It all depends on you. If you feel you're ready for another child and if you boyfriends, agrees to marry you, then you should give it a go. If you're not ready, or if he shows any signs of not supporting it, don't do it.
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Keep the baby! A baby needs to be with its true mom. If you already have one child another one shouldnt be the problem..If you didnt want another baby. You should have been on birth control. Its the safest way..
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You seem like you really are mature and know what your doing I think you should keep it your other child would love a sibling and your boyfriend seems supportive, i*m happy you*ve got such great support! You can have a family started early and since this is the second child they will be easier for you bc you*ve already gotten the hang of how to care for them! hope i helped sweetie and best of wishes! xoxo, chelsea
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i guess the real question is, can you give this baby the life it deseves? i mean do you have the money for another baby? do you know you bf is gonna get a GOOD job? well, ask yourslef that before you go and keep it. i mean you could always consider open adoption. which is you get to see your baby on visits and you get to choose who you want for its parents. but if you do keep the baby then you need to pull your act together. act more matrue or ask for a raise. i really hope you make the right desision.
leah
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I really think you should keep the child. You already have one child, as you said, and she would probably enjoy having a little brother or sister. She would be... four now? That's about how old I was when my little sister was born... and if you can support the child, keep it! An abortion will wreck you... inside and out. It can cause depression and self-harm, and it can also cause injury to your "insides," and prohibit you from having children in the future. Abortion is murder. I don't wanna seem harsh or uncaring, but it is. Everyone who is for abortion has already been born. Value human life! Do not become a murderer. I'm quite sure that's not what you want. If your boyfriend is willing to support and help raise the baby, by all means - go for it! You sound mature for your age, and you have experience (in the Mommy division), I think you should keep the baby. Best of wishes!
-FunnyCide
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You should keep the baby, you already kept 1, from when you were 14 so0o why not keep this one. I mean abortion is just to mean....think about the song that Nick Canon made... his mom was supposed 2 get his abortioned...and why would you kill your baby... if you had a heart you would keep him/her. i didn't mean that to sound like im a bitch im just saying don't you want to have a baby. Well i hope you have the baby and don't get it abortioned...
Well all my love michelle
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i feel so sorry for you.
i have never been in your situation and i hope i never will be. (the rape) do what your hearts telling you to do. its entirely up to you. if you can handle one child already you must be very mature i wouldnt be able to. its good your boyfriend wants to help raise the child. he obviously loves you and will support you whatever your desicion.
please do whatever you feel is right. dont give up the baby if you dont want to you might regret it.
do what your heart tells you.
xx
good luck.. sounds like you have a great boyfriend
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I say go ahead and keep this baby!! ok hope i helped!!*~*MUAH*~*
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Hey.No one can make such a big decision for you. Keeping or getting rid of a baby is a very big deal. Make sure your boyfriend will truly be there for you. If you go to college, will you have someone to look after both children while your there? If your not ready to take on another child then dont have it. But, if you are, and have a job, and everything you need to support it then go for it. It might be hard to pay for both children, at this age, you know? Well, i wish you the best of luck!
~Brina~
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IF YOU FEEL LIKE YOU CAN RAISE AND HAVE THE MONEY FOR IT AND YOU KNOW YOUR BOYFRIEND IS GOING TO BE THERE FOR YOU AND IF IT WILL MAKE YOU HAPPY YEAH I WOULD GO FOR IT ! but it's your descion... hope you make the right one, good luck, hun hope i helped!
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First things first go get a pregnancy test yo
All I can say is its up to you I'm not gonnatell you what to do because it' your baby. You should talk it over with your boyfriend. Really take some time to think about it even if it means vacationing. Don't strees over it take it step by step. Even if You don't want to keep it there's always someone out there that does. Don't do abortion because it truely is murder to a human being. That's my only thing I really don't want you to do. But if you raise it your previous child will have a sibling. Having another baby could affect your school life but you can always let grandma take cae of it or bay sitting. I'm sure if you talk to the school you can come up with something. What ever your desicion is...Good Luck.
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You need to make up your mind. First you said "i want to keep the baby" and then later you said "well i don't know if i should keep the baby".
Truthfully, no one can make a decision about this except you. Anyone that answers this question is merely giving you OPINION, not an answer. That said, I am also giving you my opinion.
I think if you kept a child that resulted from rape, I think you should keep the child that resulted from having sex for your own pleasure. You love your boyfriend right? Don't you think he would want you to keep the baby? It seems fishy to me that you would keep a baby from rape and not a baby from your boyfriend. I also think that if the child (that is in your belly right now) ever wanted to find her biological mother...don't you think he/she would be very sad that you kept one child, but let him/her go?
I know having TWO kids at only age 17 is really tough, but EMOTIONALLY I think it'd be best to keep the child.
Please, next time refrain from sex until you're married. Or at LEAST use better protection (There's more you can use than just a condom). Don't read this and think I'm trying to bash you. I only replied because I care. Good luck.
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Wow.... Your a really young mom.... I'm also a mom.. but I had Kadence when I was 16... But... For your question... Yes you should keep this baby also... you guys choose to have sex.... granted you did wear a condom.. but.... breaking a condom is a issue you have to deal with if your going to have sex... but.... You guys had sex.. made a baby.... and you should keep the baby... How can you not keep something that is growing inside of you.... Having some of you... and some of your boyfriend coming together to make a beautiful little baby.... That feeling is the best feeling in the world.. and by the sounds of it... You seem to be very mature.... Raising a baby on your own... Now You'll have 2.... Things may be a little harder.. But you've proven to be a strong person.. and you can raise another child...
I hope this helps... Good Luck
Keep Me Updated Please!!!
*Jackie*
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i think you should keep the child you sound like you could and i thnk you would be a good parent! good luck on your choice
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I strongly am against abortion of any sort and for any reason so if you think you cannot handle the baby please choose adoption. If you have a child already why would you not want to keep this one.
I strongly commend you for keeping the baby you had by being raped. It was a very great thing for you to do and alot of people would not have been strong enough to do it.
Just remember, babys alway happen for a reason, they are never a "mistake" even though they may come at a bad time.
I got pregnant at the age of 16 so I know what your going through somewhat.
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If you think you can, then do it. You seem to have support for the child, and you said you can manage. You are lucky in that you have the support of your parents and the father.
But if you are not sure, consider putting the child up for adoption.
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