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Hey, My name is Mandy Marie. I'm an Australian and always will be one. I still own the accent, but I live in the US. I recently just moved from Miami Beach to New York City. I like : Long walks, cars, paintball, hockey, football, painting, drawling, designing, sculptures, sewing, gum, guys, animals, surfing, bungee jumping, sky diving, pizza, fries, movies, I like throwing gum at the walls and laughing so hard it hurts my stomach, I love to sing in the shower, dance on the highway, cuddling, hugging, kissing, talking, I love to run up and down the stairs, get kicked out of stores, to go to a restaurant and bring my own food, I like to make a nice tropical drink, I like to stare at the stars, to hold hands, to just drive around not knowing where I'm going, to take road trips.
I want: to own my own sex shop called "Getting Freaky in the Basement" or just pretend I have one.
I am: really nice, I promise! I will do my best to help you. I've been through murders, deaths, abusive relationships, eating disorders, breakups, losing my family and my friends, giving up something you have your heart set on. Please ask me whatever you want. I will always listen to you and I respect whatever decision you make.
For more about me: A survey. Yessss! (You have got to be so bored by now. Half of you haven't even read this far..)
Basic Questions!!
First name- Mandy
Middle name- Marie
Do you like your name?- Uh, it's okay.
Are you named after anyone?- No, not really.
Who?-
Birthday- March 20th, I will be 20 soon! Yes!
Current age- 19
Where you were born- Sydney, Australia
Where you currently live- New York City, close to Manhattan
Your looks and body!!
Face shape- Oval.
Skin tone- Beige.
Do you have acne?- No.
Hair color- Blonde, currently has black and red streaks in it.
Hair texture- Straight.
Hair style- It's usually down and straight, or in pigtails.
Hair length- Past my shoulders.
Eye color- A dark blueish green color.
Eye shape- Um, regular? Circle? What the hell!?
How big are your eyes?- What?!
Do you wear contacts or glasses?- Neither.
How about braces? Have/had them?- Never had them, no.
Do you have straight teeth?- Yep.
Are they really white?- I would hope so.
Do you have high cheekbones?- Wow.
Long eyelashes?- Yeah.
Do you wear makeup?- Mostly.
What kind of makeup do you use?- MAC or Estee Lauder, Stila, Chanel, Urban Decay, LORAC, Pout. It all varies, I like to play around.
What brand of makeup do you use?- Because I'm such a dipshit I answered it above. *shrugs*
What shoe size do you wear?- 6 ..okay, so I have small feet. Kill me!
Ring size?- 4.
Belt size?- Um...
Pant size?- 4
Shirt size?- small
How tall are you?- 5'6
Happy with it?- I could be taller.
Your weight- 113
Happy with it?- I guess.
Do you exercise a lot?- Sometimes. Probably not enough though.
What kind of exercising do you do?- Well, does dancing count? How about walking?
Are you 'toned'?- Are you a fucking "tard"?
Muscular?- Oh baby! Check out my 8 pack. Kidding, gosh!
Overweight?- Nope.
Are you in shape?- Sure.
You and School!!
What school do you attend?- I go to college now.
What grade are you in?- Sophmore in college.
What classes are you taking?- My major is art.
What's your favorite one?- Art.
Least favorite?- ::::
Favorite teacher- :::::
What class do they teach?- ::::
Least favorite teacher- :::
What class do they teach?- Okay, seriously...
How many schools have you ever attended?- 3.
Are you in any clubs?- Oh.
What ones?- My.
What about school plays?- God.
Musicals?- No.
Do you go to a lot of school dances?- No.
Are you full of school spirit?!?!?- Hahaha, I never was.
Ever got detention?- Never once.
Suspended?- No.
Expelled?- No.
advice
ok i started talkin to this guy named chris about 5 months ago...we wer really good friends and our parents knew eachother so i was allowed to go everywhere with them!! they new we liked eachother 2....well he got grounded about 3 months later n we juss LOST CONTACT 4 S0O0 LONG....well i ben really thinkin bout him bc he treated me s0o well....and i called him up....he wasnt ther but his dad was like sara? ohh hey how r u? r u still in soccer?? blah blah juss totally tlkin to me!! his family loves me!! well ya so he called me last nite but my cell was on silence so i juss saw the missed call!! i was s0o happy!! well i called him today adn he had to go sumwher with his mom so we didnt get to talk and we havent talked for months....shuld i call him back?? wat do i say?? i have NO idea wat to say to him but i really like him n wanna hangout agen!! im really nervous!! plz help idk wat i shuld do!! WAT DO I SAY TO HIM??
Loosing contact with someone for so long and then suddenly getting a call from him is hard. Because you haven't seen or talked to him in so long and it's hard to pick up where you left off. I would call him back if I were you. Just because some people may be offended if you don't and it may seem that you don't want to talk to them which is untrue. So give him a good impression and call him back. You could say "Hey, what's up? I haven't talked to you in so long, so I just figured I'd call and see how you're doing. " And then just ask him if he wants to hang out. Or if you want to you could just talk to him for a while, and then the next day ask if he wants to do something. And hunnie, why are you so nervous? I'm sure he loved hearing from you as much as you did for him. You guys really need to catch up on things. So don't be nervous just be yourself, because he probably wants to remember you the way you were. So try not to act so nervous. He's your friend! Good luck with everything. And don't owrry it will be okay! Hehe. Love you! -Mandee
Okay...for the past 3 days I have had nausea, indigestion, and some dirrahea!! I have run out of ideas and don't know what else to do!! Can someone give me some suggestions on what to do??
Here is some info on IBS and maybe it will help you figure out if you have it...
What is IBS?
Irritable bowel syndrome, or IBS, is a problem that affects mainly the bowel,* which is also called the large intestine. The bowel is the part of the digestive system that makes and stores stool. The word syndrome means a group of symptoms. IBS is a syndrome because it can cause several symptoms. For example, IBS causes cramping, bloating, gas, diarrhea, and constipation. IBS is not a disease. It's a functional disorder, which means that the bowel doesn't work as it should. With IBS, the nerves and muscles in the bowel are extra-sensitive. For example, the muscles may contract too much when you eat. These contractions can cause cramping and diarrhea during or shortly after a meal. Or the nerves can be overly sensitive to the stretching of the bowel (because of gas, for example). Cramping or pain can result. IBS can be painful. But it does not damage the bowel or cause any other diseases.
What are the symptoms of IBS?
The main symptoms of IBS are
crampy pain in the stomach area (abdomen)
painful diarrhea or constipation
Most people have either diarrhea or constipation, but some people have both.
Other symptoms are
mucus in the stool
swollen or bloated abdomen
the feeling that you have not finished a bowel movement
Some foods make IBS better.
Fiber reduces IBS symptoms--especially constipation--because it makes stool soft, bulky, and easier to pass. Fiber is found in bran, bread, cereal, beans, fruit, and vegetables.
So if this sounds like you at all talk to your doctor about it and I'm sure he will give you a new diet to follow. I hope this information helped. Oh, and maybe if you just try watching what you are eatting for a day and record it. Get better soon! -Mandee
I've been having problems with my dad lately ... well now that I think about it i've always had these problems. Sense my parents got divorced when I was like one I've only seen him everyother weekend. I used to hate it and lately i've been wishing I'd never see him. He always seems busy, and when hes not he always seem to be judging people, and mostly me. He won't let me have certian piercing because he think they will make me a bad kid ... he honestly said that! He also said he'd be embarresed. I've just started to learn he doesnt realize im growing up, I just can't stand him sometimes, he makes thing seem like there always my fault, and I just feel really uncomertable around him, like I can't be myself, and he doesn't know me so hes always asking me questions about drugs and stuff, I just don't know what to do, ive tried to tell him not to judge me to get to know me, and i've told him im growing up and he needs to accept it, i evenasked him to respect me because he didn't act like it. And after he seemed like he felt bad, but it didnt last long. Any advise would help thanks aton!
Awww! I'm so sorry to hear that! Yeah I don't blame you...no dad should treat you like that but sadly it happens. And if you tried talking to him but still didn't get his attention maybe it's time to talk to your mom or and adult you trust. The only person that can fix this problem is your dad himself. And since he seems to be ignoring the problem he isn't willing to fix it. I would give it another try at talking to your dad. Just tell him that you feel like he doesn't want to take the time to know you and maybe you guys can set up a day where he spends time with you and gets to see the real you. Tell him you honestly aren't a bad kid and he will know that if he spends some more time with you. If nothing happens I would tell your mom how you feel. Maybe ( and only if your parents are willing to without fighting) they can get together and set down some guidelines. Mainly just make sure your dad knows that the weekends you spend with him you want to enjoy..and you don't see him alot so when you do it would be nice to feel secure with him. If your dad is still not improving then he is the only one who can change this and it's something that you might not understand now and may never will. But that is just how he is. I truly hope that things work out between you and your dad. Good luck! Love you! -Mandee
does anyone know the head advicenators website?? thanks!
Yep, I'm pretty sure it's http://advicenators.com/column.php?u=advicenator_admin Love you! -Mandee
what does it mean when a guy says he got cock blocked?
Okay, well I wasn't totally sure so I got some help on this. lol. What I heard was that when a guy says he got cock blocked he that is basically meaning "when you get in a guys way of getting some from a girl." So it's like a guy may want to have sex with this girl but someone is preventing him from it. A disruption. I hope this helps you out a bit! Love you! -Mandee
Iwas under the wrong impression that a guy that I am friends with at the gym liked me. I asked him out for coffee and he didn't tell me right then and there that he has a girlfriend. He phoned me and told me after a week and a half. The reason why he didn't say anything sooner was because he felt it was too personal a subject to discuss at work, and that he could get into trouble for getting involved with someone in the gym (he is a gymnist). When he told me he had a girlfriend and things where quite serious,it hit me like a ton of bricks. Now I'm realy embarassed to even face him at the gym. He says we will always be friends but I've lost face. In my own eyes it looks like I'm the desperate girl that asks for dates and then gets rejected. I should never have asked him out at all. How am I going to face him like nothing happened? I feel realy bad and uncomfortable. Tell me what I should do in facing him. Maybe I should ignore and avoid any contact with him. I'm embarassed. Barbie. (26yr female)
There is no reason for you to feel embarassed, hun. Okay, true...you wanted to take him out and didn't know he had a girlfriend because he didn't tell you. But that is not for you to blame yourself on, it was his fault because he did not tell you had a girlfriend at first. And no one can tell if someones taken or not because it's not like people walk around with a sign TAKEN on them. That would really be strange if that did happen but that's besides the point. If you guys were friends before, don't let this thing that happened break you apart. It's hard to act like it never happened when it did. There will be times when you have to act like nothing happened, and other times you can't act like it never happened. Because things aren't going to be back to normal for you it seems like. He knows you feel sad about it, i'm sure. And this happens to a lot of people...not just you. Don't ignore him and avoid eye contact with him, that will make him think you hate him when you don't. Talk to him more on this if you are that concerned, and maybe it will release all the tension about this. If you want to be friends with him be there for him. In friendships there's bad times and good times. This was just a bad time, just put it in the past and move on. Your frienship is worth more than that if you want it to be. Take care! Love you! -Mandee
k so there's this guy that i've liked since 8th grade(i'm going into 10th).He's been going out with one of my good friends for about 11 months. She went out of town for 2 weeks and the other night, i snuck out to meet this guy at his house and we got drunk. One thing led to another and we ended up having sex.He and his girlfriend havent even had sex yet. We haven't mentioned it to each other since. Do you think he was using me for pussy? because we've been like bestfriends for awhile now. should i feel guilty? because i feel bad for what HE did to her not for what I did to her...please answer this-i really need advice
Hmm. Well, there could be many reasons for this. If you both were drunk you probably didn't think right. It's true that drinking makes you think unclearly but that doesn't me you lost control. He make have used you being drunk as an advantage and knew that you were more capable of having sex with him that way. Or you might be right about him using you. He might say soemthing like well I didn't mean to, but that is most likely untrue because alcohol doesn't affect you that badly that you can't not mean to have sex with someone. Since he is going out with your friends...and you both had sex without her knowing that really isn't fair to her. For instance if you had a boyfriend for like a year and he had sex with your friend before he did with you wouldn't you want to know? I know that I would feel guilty if I did that to my friend. And I'm not saying that you should too, people have different views on things. He was wrong..and yeah you should feel guilty for what he did to her, but are you sure you don't feel guilty just a tiny bit about what you did to her also? If you don't..then you don't. And that's fine. It's a difficult thing to have gone through without your friend knowing. I guess what I'm trying to say- and I am just being honest with you- I would feel guilty for that. But you aren't me and you don't have to feel guilty for that. Should you feel guilty? Maybe. But you don't have to. Hopefully everything turns out okay! Best of luck in everything! Love you! -Mandee
once a cheater, always a cheater?? TRUE OR FALSE?
Either way. People change, so it could be false. Then again people can stick to their ways and still cheat so it could be true too. You just never know! lol Love you! -Mandee
ok so i went out with this girl (we'll call her jane) ok so me and jane started goin out last year march 20th 2003 and we were good for the first 3 months talkin and hangin out like we were meant for each other and really havin a good time then she broke up with me but i kept goin at it and we started goin back out keepin our original date so bout 9 months into the relationship shyt started gettin bad and we hardley ever talked, hung out or nethin but we still loved each other and shyt but when we talked we constantly fought.. so when march 20th came up this year it would have been a year and i thought that was pretty special idk maybe that sounds gay cuz imma guy but i really thought it was special and i wanted to spend time with her and everythin.. but we didnt talk or see each other at all and she didnt even call me so i got mad like ne other person would.. so we talk the next day and shes actin like nothins wrong so i get tired of it and i ask her if she still loves me and all that and shes like i love u but i dont have the same feelings for u nemore so i was like iight well then i dont wann go out with u nemore..... so its been over 3 months since we broke up but im in love with her and i dont wann let her outta my life ya kno so i keep goin at it but she stays at sayin that shes not ready for a relationship and so my question is....should i keep goin at it with her or just move on?
thanx
-Anonymous
Well if she said she isn't ready for a relationship and she doesn't have feelings for you anymore why waste your time hun? You are such a sweet guy, and I can tell you loved her very much ( and yes a relationship for a year is special, I agree)...but if she is not willing to make an effort why should you? I think for you it would be best to move on. You tried your best to keep things together but they fell apart, and she obviously didn't care enough to make this work. You can now date other girls, try to find someone who wants to be with you as much as you want to be with them. Just look around and find a girl you have interest in. Don't try to keep something going when it's not there. It will only depress you. Take care, and good luck! Love you! -Mandee
I have a little problem.
I Like my bestest guy friend ever. His Name is mike, i don't mind if you kno his name, but anyway. I asked him out and now he is like avoiding me or sumthing. It is weird.... When i asked him out he said.." Umm, let me think that thru a little." and i dunno why he can't just be like no or yes. and i think by him saying that, it is a definet NO! and since he won't talk to me and is like never online and isn't home when i call him, i dunno what to think..
what should i do?
- Signed
In guy trouble
Aww. I think he just got freaked out by this. He might think that this will screw up the friendship you have with him or that he is just not interested in dating and wants to keep it on a friend-based level. And there is nothing wrong with that. Whenever you get a hold of him ask him what he is feeling. Tell him to be honest because then you will know exactly what he wants. He could be giving you hints that he doesn't want to go out with you without telling you. But don't just assume. Find out from himf or sure so that you know. Give him time to think it through if he needs to, and maybe you can think about it too. And if it is worth the risk of losing your friendship. I hope things work out for you and him! Love you! -Mandee
this question is kinda complex...but im gonna try and make it as simple as possible...Basicaly i see myself as getting less and less attractive by the day lol, and im getting the idea that the girls are thinking the same thing. See, i used to be pretty damn popular and liked by the ladies, and i still am, but its waring off, and im not getting the attention i used to, which is fine, but im wondering.....is a girl gonna loose interest in me based more on my looks getting better or worse...or are they gonna stick around for my personality????? Thanks, adam
Girls are...hmm how can I say this... There will be girls who are drawn to looks, and not care for the personality. But then again there will be some girls who have more interest in the personality than anything. This is the type of girl you want. People change and it's natural to ware off the popularity with the girls. The thing is, if you have an amazing personality ( which you seem to have) girls should reconize this. And if they don't they are crazy! Girls are different..they have different expectations, and everyone does. For the most part...some girls will stick by you no matter what if they love you..and it wouldn't matter if your looks were better or worse because they love you and not what you look like. But there will be bitches that turn against you for looks. It's wrong..but it happens. It sucks but it's the truth. You will know who the girls who matter the most are, and they will stick by you! Good luck! Love you! -Mandee
are all dieting pills bad for you?
if not do you know of any that arent?
Right now there is a lot of different views on diet pills. People say they aren't as bad, others may say they are extremely bad for you. But I think it depends on your health. For instance if you lack water, or...just anything diet pills can be very harmful for you. Diet pills are very addictive. Just like drugs, if you are on them for a long period of time, and then forget to take it one day you may start to shake. It happened to my friend who took them. And I have heard about that many of times. Sorry but I don't know any pills that aren't. Love ya! -Mandee
I have a question that i hope someone can help me with. Is it right to change for a guy? I use to have this one boyfriend that was a punk and I was jusst a normal 13 year old girl. all of his friends were punks to and at that time I was overwhieght and diddn't care about what I looked. Well then all of a sudden my boyfriend just dummped me w/no explanation. And a little while later I started getting into the punk music and cloths and i lost 20 pounds. Now I'm obsessed w/punk music and cloths but i don't know if it's b/c i want him to see what he missed out on or if it's really what i want. About 6 months have passed since my break up w/him. Since our breakup was just b4 the summer no body not even my friends have seen me, so I can't wait till school starts so i can see everyone's reaction esspecially his. But do n-e-of you think this is righ? Pleae someone help me.
Always
Nat
Are you just changing because of him? And do you like this change? If you do like all of this punk stuff and it makes you happy than you should go ahead with it. If you aren't happy with the whole new you and you just did it for attention or because of your ex-boyfriend it will make you upset. Because if you enjoy something...do it. If you still don't know if this is what you want or you are doing this for your boyfriend..you should try and figure this out. If you like the music and your clothes then you probably want this for you. But make sure this is what you want. Take care, good luck! And congrats on loosing the weight! Love you! -Mandee
My boyfriend is a punk and i am like a cheerleader and im like a prep and stuff i dont know if i shold break up with him because later on in life i mean we might not work because he is a punk and he told me to choose him or cheerleading i am half hawaiian so like i have been doing hceerleading since i was 5 and surfing since i was 2
please help
Hey Sweetie!! The first thing that caught my attention was when you typed that he is making you choose between him and cheerleading. And that definitely puts you in such an awkward place right now, deciding which one you want better. But to me that is just not right. There should never be a time when your boyfriend makes you give up something just to be with him.
In this case you should talk to him about that. You love him, and you love your cheerleading and surfing..it's a part of who you are and it is something you enjoy. You wouldn't say to your boyfriend which one is it, your music..or me? Hunnie if you love something...go for it. Never give up on something you love because someone thinks differently. This is YOUR life and you do what you want to do. If he loves you and wanted to be with you enough he should understand this.
So you are a cheerleader/prep and he is a punk? How long have you been dating him? In my opinion if he resepcts what you told him about how you love your cheerleading and surfing and he comes to realize that he shouldn't let you choose I would give it a chance. Sometimes it's unbelieveable how differences between you and other people make you love the person because of the different things you do. And also, you'll try and learn new things. It's kind of like me and my boyfriend. We have our differences but we just learn from them. And it is so much fun!!! One night we'll go to a concert or i'll preform on stage with him because he is in a band and then the next night we will go to the beach and just party. I hope you guys can come up with something that will work out. All the best of luck to you! Love you! -Mandee
hey, i heard this song on the radio that i love. but i don't know who wrote/performed it (it was a woman though).
some of the lyrics go..
"i held your hand through all of these years"
Anybody know?
i rate
Yep, I know. It's My Immortal. And it is such a really good song, I love it too!!! Hehe. Love ya! -Mandee
okay, well me and my husband got married like almost a year ago. the problem is im ready to have kids, but he says he doesn't want to have kids..ever! i really love him, and we have so much in common and we always have fun together, but this is like the first thing we have disagreed on and i really don't no what to do. please help.
Well, part of a marriage is being able to communicate well. And I personally think this is something you should talk to him about. Tell him how much it would mean to you to have a kid with him. I'm assuming he knows you very well by now and he loves you very much. Maybe if he took time and thought it over he would agree. As a husband he should be respectful to your dicisions as well as you should be to his. I think you both should have a long talk about this, and hopefully you'll find someway to make it work out. Maybe there is a reason to why he doesn't want children. I would ask him, and see what he says, The best thing though is for you two to have an agreement. I hope everything works out! Love you! -Mandee
ok i think my friend asked me a question about being anorexic and wut to do. she asked me if i knew who asked the questions and i said no and hen she stopped talking for a bit and then when she did respond she said g2g and signed off. i really want to help her and she is sooo pretty so she doesnt need to lose any weight but how should i bring up the topic?! Help ASAP cus i really would like to help her!!!!
OreoGirl
Yeah, you definitely should tell her quickly because she could be starting right now. I would just kind of start out with " I'm really worried about you lately, and I am very concerned because I think you are putting your life at risk." Then hopefully she should get the idea of what you are talking about. But sweetie, don't worry about whether she will get mad at you for it or not..she is going to kill herself if she does this. You really should talk to her about it as much as possible, make her listen to you. She is probably in a position where she is very unhappy with her self image even if she is pretty. Have a serious conversation with her because you're right she should come to you whenever she needs it, but sometimes when she is in a state of insecureness you have to come to her. Do whatever you can for your friend. You could save her life! Good luck, I seriously hoep she is okay. Love you! -Mandee
He loves her right?
She was so pretty..
He had such great teeth
She pushed him away
He didn't stay
But she knew he'd come back
So she could lay her head..
on his warm lap
But he never did
and so she bled
For every inch that peirced her thin
weary, tired, aching skin
she thought of him
But he wasn't there to dry her tears
or wipe up the crimson blood that stained
The knife she had
For every sapphire tear she shed
she would cut that much deeper
and so she bled
Girls like her just didn't slice
There flesh with kitchen knifes
The cold metal felt like ice
She was so pretty
and so was he
She didnt think this through right
she peirced her flesh instead
pretty cheerleader just broken inside
and so she bled
Last breath, what's left to say?
She thought of him
Her life was just one big cliche
Tragic story ending with a broken heart
She remembered everything he said
but he's gone now..
and so she's dead.
Oh my god, that was so good! It's kind of depressing about the girl..but you did such a great job writing that! Like I've said a million times, I wish I had that talent. Great job, I loved it! Love you!- Mandee
Look no further, this is real.
I express the way I feel.
I am proud that I am me.
I am what I want to be.
I feel used; I feel alone.
I feel upset; I want to groan.
I feel hurt; I feel deprived.
I feel angry; I hate lies.
I feel hunger; I feel pain.
I feel like I have gone insane.
I feel happy, I’m all smiles.
At least for just a little while,
I put my true feelings away
To face another lonely day.
You are such a good poet!! Hehe. I think everyone can relate to that in some way. I know for me that it reminds me of years I had a long time ago, I felt like some of the things your descibed. But yeah I really love your poem! Never give up what you have for writing, you are excellent at it!! Love you! -Mandee
one of my really good friends (shes 14) has been having sex with this one guy for over a year now. she used to be going out with the guy, and not she's not, but she's still having sex with him. she's been hurt before because of this guy, and i just don't want her to get hurt again or get into a bad situation. she has b.c. but sometimes forgets to take it and doesn't read the instructions on how to make up for lost pills. i don't want her to mess up her life at such a young age. any advice on the topic would be great. thx.
Awww! That is so sweet of you to look our for her and care about her! She is so lucky to have a friend like you! Hehe. I think anything you can think of to do for her would be best. Maybe talking might help. You could maybe just her yuor opinions on this. Like how you care about her and what this guy has done to her before maybe it's not best to still have sex when they aren't together because it could really hurt her. * Hey, i'm sorry I have to go real quick, I promise I will finish this when I get back! Haha*