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i snuck out to meet this guy at his house and we got drunk.
k so there's this guy that i've liked since 8th grade(i'm going into 10th).He's been going out with one of my good friends for about 11 months. She went out of town for 2 weeks and the other night, i snuck out to meet this guy at his house and we got drunk. One thing led to another and we ended up having sex.He and his girlfriend havent even had sex yet. We haven't mentioned it to each other since. Do you think he was using me for pussy? because we've been like bestfriends for awhile now. should i feel guilty? because i feel bad for what HE did to her not for what I did to her...please answer this-i really need advice
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Remember how old you are. You both don't need this sort of interactions just yet in life, especially getting drunk to do it. I know everyone has probably told you "Trust me, you're just a kid, you don't know any better". At the moment I'm 20, not that far from you, so maybe it might sound better coming from someone not over 35.
Anyways, You should tell your friend what happened, and let her decide what to do from there, otherwise it's a relationship based on lies. As for the guy, even if you went out with him and everything is hunky dorey for you three, what happens when you let him go to a party or hang out with some friends and they get drunk? He'll probably end up doing the same thing you guys did together with another girl.
So, if I were you, forget the guy and try to make nice with your friend.
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the guy does deserve to feel bad but you should to. its not fair to do that to your friend. if one of your friends did that to your i know you would be pissed. you should be ashamed of your self. and most likely a guy that would cheat isnt up to any good so he probley was just looking for a good time. not trying to sound rude or anything but you really need to grow up and learn that friends are hard to find and very hard to be a good one and you need alot of work.
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You were both wrong, It wasn't just his mistake.
You have control of how much alcohol intake you put into your body, Nobody forced the alcohol down. Did he use you as a booty call? Well, I wouldn't be surprised if he didn't have sex in mind as you both were not responsible.
You have caused your friend a sore spot by sleeping with her boyfriend, You and him have put the relationship in jeopardy. It takes a sour friend and a sour boyfriend to do something like that to someone. Assuming that you and her boyfriend are not going to tell her what happened...I think you should rethink about what the meaning of a true friend is. A friend does NOT go out of their way to hurt someone. You were wrong for sneaking out of the house to meet up with him, You were wrong to get drunk and you were wrong again for blaming him when it was just as much as your fault as it is his.
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Well i guess he could like you but if he has another gf i wouldnt really suggest going out with him because i mean he could cheat on you with someone else too if you guys start to go out. I think you should just be friends nothing more because its not a serious relationship with this guy hes seems more like a player.
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Well it depends on the guy, if you were both drunk then its kinda hard to say whether or not he was using you, you know? i dunno maybe you should keep it on the low to your friend if you dont wanna lose her... and just talk to him about it and see if he had any feelings for you what-so-ever that way you can tell if it was just him being drunk or him actually liking you, if that makes sense...
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Hmm. Well, there could be many reasons for this. If you both were drunk you probably didn't think right. It's true that drinking makes you think unclearly but that doesn't me you lost control. He make have used you being drunk as an advantage and knew that you were more capable of having sex with him that way. Or you might be right about him using you. He might say soemthing like well I didn't mean to, but that is most likely untrue because alcohol doesn't affect you that badly that you can't not mean to have sex with someone. Since he is going out with your friends...and you both had sex without her knowing that really isn't fair to her. For instance if you had a boyfriend for like a year and he had sex with your friend before he did with you wouldn't you want to know? I know that I would feel guilty if I did that to my friend. And I'm not saying that you should too, people have different views on things. He was wrong..and yeah you should feel guilty for what he did to her, but are you sure you don't feel guilty just a tiny bit about what you did to her also? If you don't..then you don't. And that's fine. It's a difficult thing to have gone through without your friend knowing. I guess what I'm trying to say- and I am just being honest with you- I would feel guilty for that. But you aren't me and you don't have to feel guilty for that. Should you feel guilty? Maybe. But you don't have to. Hopefully everything turns out okay! Best of luck in everything! Love you! -Mandee
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heyy chik!
umm.. id sae that u shuud tell her.. l0l.. but i knoe it isnt that easy or whatevrr... but yea.. if u dont wanna tell her.. then convince her that he isnt good for her.. i mean..yea.. and thynk bout thys... if he were to go out with you.. he myte play u lyk he played her.. so .. idk.. i wouldnt thynk you shuud stae with him.. and yea.. just convince ur friend that hes not go0d for her..
XoXo.. sorry if thys advice sucked ..oXoX
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