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ok so i went out with this girl (we'll call her jane) ok so me and jane started goin out last year march 20th 2003 and we were good for the first 3 months talkin and hangin out like we were meant for each other and really havin a good time then she broke up with me but i kept goin at it and we started goin back out keepin our original date so bout 9 months into the relationship shyt started gettin bad and we hardley ever talked, hung out or nethin but we still loved each other and shyt but when we talked we constantly fought.. so when march 20th came up this year it would have been a year and i thought that was pretty special idk maybe that sounds gay cuz imma guy but i really thought it was special and i wanted to spend time with her and everythin.. but we didnt talk or see each other at all and she didnt even call me so i got mad like ne other person would.. so we talk the next day and shes actin like nothins wrong so i get tired of it and i ask her if she still loves me and all that and shes like i love u but i dont have the same feelings for u nemore so i was like iight well then i dont wann go out with u nemore..... so its been over 3 months since we broke up but im in love with her and i dont wann let her outta my life ya kno so i keep goin at it but she stays at sayin that shes not ready for a relationship and so my question is....should i keep goin at it with her or just move on?
thanx
-Anonymous
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Well if she doesn't like you like you thought she did then you should just move on. I know its hard, but trust me there's always someone better out there! Thanx much!
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hey I know what your going through and my advice is to try to move on i know you might think this is cheap advice but it's the best thing you can do. If that doesn't work then let her know what your feeling r 4her, by doing something romantic for her like flowers or write her a poem or send her a card or a bear, maybe the only reaon she didn't feel the same was b/c you weren't being romantic enough so she probably thought you ddn't feel the same.
let me know how it goes
always
Natalie
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aw thats so cute u guys are switched usually the guy is the one that causes all the problems no affense guys, and the girl thinks the anniversary is special but u dont want to bug her too much cuz if you do then that will make her mad and annoyed and u guys dont need to fight anymore if its ment to be it will happen it just might take a little time and if you end up with someone else thats okay cuz im sure it will be someone great but for right now just go explore well i hope everything turns out okay hope i helpd a little
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Hey anonymous,
i no wher u are i gues u could say been there done that gotta t-shirt. personally i think you should move on but i no that in ur situation you feel like you can't move on. i mean you try and try agin but u cant stop think about him/her. this is something ur going to have to overcome tho. we all do sometime or another. it seems like u would be much better without this girl and that you can do a lot better. good look write to me sum time!
<3 fran
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Move on but you are always going to have feelings for her you always have feelings for someone you once loved but you will be fine in the end and you will meet someone that wont treat you like that good luck hun!-trix
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TO: -Anonymous
gib her some space and time to coo off...grls need thah...especially since, as you say, you were like going at her fer a long time...if shes thah important then let her coo...if shes not soooooooo worth it then try other ppl first...mehbe youll find some other "special person"...remember thah wen one loves anotha always gets hert so dunt rush...ya noe?
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It may not be what you want to hear, but I think you should move on. Don't stop talking to her entirely by any means. Let her know that when she's ready for a relationship with you that she can come to you. You shouldn't waste your time (for lack of better words) dwelling on something that may never happen.
Hope things work out.
-Maisie
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you could try moving on and see if she comes back? but then your using someone... hmm thats sooo tough. well like you said- you want her in ur life and obviously she doesn't wanna go out. so start w/ being friends, become close friends but dont count on her falling back in love. but at least shes in ur life and she might fall back in love w/ u
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Dear Mr. Anonymous,
You sound like me and my ex. We went through the exact same thing. We lasted 2 1/2 years, but probably broke up 30 times. And last Oct. we broke up for good. And after all of the good times and bad, I learned something from it...only I can provide my own happiness. Everything that happeneds is/was MY choice. So, I made a decision, instead of pushing him away, and trying to bring back love I can't have, I can always be his friend. So, instead of pushing him away, I accepted it. See what I'm saying? See what I'm saying? So, say my lesson to yourself, even if you feel like a dork, it's one lesson that is a lesson of life. "I can provide my OWN happiness. Everything is MY decision. Everying is MY choice. I can push Jane away, or I can accept the decision she made 3 months ago, and be her friend, so I can always be with her, and start all over again as friends, maybe later in the future get together as a couple again. Or I can try telling Jane I love her and take the chance of her taking it, or leaving it because THAT decision is hers." The choice is up to you.
I hope that helps! Remember you can always come to me for advice, the choice is up to you! LoL.
Sincerely,
MiSSc
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if she doesnt like u you shouldnt waste ur time. but if u love her i mean do wut you want. follow your heart it never fails you. but i would stop...but maybe you could ask her how she feels and why she stopped liking you all of a sudden. good luck...i hoped i helped...
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Well if she said she isn't ready for a relationship and she doesn't have feelings for you anymore why waste your time hun? You are such a sweet guy, and I can tell you loved her very much ( and yes a relationship for a year is special, I agree)...but if she is not willing to make an effort why should you? I think for you it would be best to move on. You tried your best to keep things together but they fell apart, and she obviously didn't care enough to make this work. You can now date other girls, try to find someone who wants to be with you as much as you want to be with them. Just look around and find a girl you have interest in. Don't try to keep something going when it's not there. It will only depress you. Take care, and good luck! Love you! -Mandee
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Dear Anonymous,
Thats a very sweet and sad story! I bet this is really hard for you especially if youre still in love and she doesnt want to be with you. So heres my advice, dont move on. When she is ready to have a serious relationship, she'll want it to be with you because you never gave up on her! You say you could move on from her, but I doubt its that easy because first loves are never forgotten! Make sure you keep talking to her (even if it is just as friends) and being really sweet and generous! She'll realize what a wonderful guy you are eventually! I think that you should let her know you love her and you'll wait for her until whenever! If after a while she still doesnt want to go out with you, maybe thats when it'll be time to move on! I wish you the best of luck with *Jane*!!
LoVe,
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