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okay, well me and my husband got married like almost a year ago. the problem is im ready to have kids, but he says he doesn't want to have kids..ever! i really love him, and we have so much in common and we always have fun together, but this is like the first thing we have disagreed on and i really don't no what to do. please help.
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ask him why he doesn't want kids, find out the facts. Try and convince him out of whatever he claims to be his reasons. Say that having children would bring so much joy to the both of you and express hom important it really is to you. You will benefit from a long talk with him, and make sure you dont turn it into a fight
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I am surprized this was not discussed before the wedding. It's a pretty big part of a marrige, to have a family or not.
Will you be satisfied with just your husband the rest of your life? Can you live without having children? You can't force your husband to have children with you. If you don't have kids, you will resent him for it later in life, and if you do have kids, he will resent you.
As much as you both love eachother, I think you both have different ideas for your future together. I think you should disscuss what you both want out of life. Hopeful kids isn't the only thing you dissagree on.
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maybe u should wait a year or so, give it tyme
eventually he'll give in, men r suckers lol
but, maybe wen ur 2gether longer, then ur husband will feel different about the idea of havin a family
offer to watch sum1's child while ur husband is home, and show him the joys of havin a baby
if i wasn't so yung, then i'd LOVE a baby, rite now i just stick to babysittin tho hehe
my boyfriend joel said that eventually a man will give in to his woman.. he said wait a while, and maybe when u tell him u want a child, and u want to start to have the child, where sum sexy langerie, and make his fave dniner, do sumthin super romantic
sum men don't want kids, but when they find out their wife is pregnant, then they're all happy
Give it tyme and talk to him! :-)
o and sry this is soo late, u asked this like a week n a half ago!!
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Hey Hun...well I know how you feel. I have been with my husband for 3 years in Sept. Well I've been married since Jan of this year. My husband tells EVERYONE he doesn't want to have kids. BUT I have been having trouble having a baby, so I went to the Doctor. And since then he has been all asking me what my results and stuff are...but I think honestly girl..just give it a little time. I know you really want kids, but enjoy just the you and him time, and then it will happen and he will prolly shock you and be the best and most proud daddy out there. Keep your head up, and just think when he sees his friends married with kids, and how happy they are....he will change his whole outlook.. Hope I could help.! <3 Courtney
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That's a really big big thing to disagree on, but...you kind of need to understand that. It might be a year, but...give it a little longer. If he doesn't come around, then...start talking to him about it in very deep discusions. He shoudl come around...I hope! Good luck sweetie! <3!
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I think to show your husband your wants is to being children into your house hold, babysit family memebers children, show him how bad you want this. Also ask him to respect your wants when you two got married you were married to act as one and think alike.
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whoa... that's a REALLY big thing to disagree about. that should have been discussed before you married him. would that answer have changed your mind about marrying him then? maybe you should ask him why he doesn't want kids ( maybe he doesn't think that there is financial stabitlity or w/e). you should definently have a long talk about what is going to happen with the whole thing. good luck! peace out
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Well this sounds like something that you should have talked about be4 you got married. anways you guys need marital counsoling!!
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i have a solution... another guy....
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Maybe foster a child then maybe he will fall in love with it and maybe adopt it. or you can talk to him and ask why he doesn't want a kid. I am be 11, but i know that a child brings a marriage closer together. It worked for my mom and dad. I was adopted, and my family couldn't be closer. Maybe a child would make everthing better. Tell him that and see what happens.
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Consider the future. What matters more to you. Would you be happier with children and with someone else, or with your current husband. Having children is probably one of the topics you two should have covered before you got married. If you think you'd be happier with children, then leave your husband if he's too stubborn to have any. If you can't imagine being happier without him, then stay. Having fun and having things in common are great for a relationship, but not a key element in a marriage. Finding someone who has these but also has similar dreams for the future (Kids, a dog, that perfect house, etc)is probably more important in a marriage.
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<span style="background: url([Link](Mouse over link to see full location); Well, part of a marriage is being able to communicate well. And I personally think this is something you should talk to him about. Tell him how much it would mean to you to have a kid with him. I'm assuming he knows you very well by now and he loves you very much. Maybe if he took time and thought it over he would agree. As a husband he should be respectful to your dicisions as well as you should be to his. I think you both should have a long talk about this, and hopefully you'll find someway to make it work out. Maybe there is a reason to why he doesn't want children. I would ask him, and see what he says, The best thing though is for you two to have an agreement. I hope everything works out! Love you! -Mandee </span>
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First of all you need to tell him that you would like to have kids and how it will yall more as a family. Second of all he might not be ready. I know my parents didnt have my older brother for 2 1/2 years after they were married! Hes probally afraid of whats going to happen if yall have a baby, just sit down and talk things out. hope i helped! rate me plz*
--Julie
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Wow... tell him it means a whole lot to and you really really want to have kids... bring him up what if his parents never wanted kids... he wouldnt be here today its really hard in this type of situation ... real hard... but... thats the best i could really do! sorry-trix
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Try talking to him about it. Say well why don't you want to have kids? Ask him questions that you want to know. And just be like well we'll be good parents, I'll get books, we can go to classes, etc. And just tell him its been a year that you two have been married and you really think its time to have kids now. And tell him you think he would be a good father. And be like well if we have a son, you can teach him how to play sports, if you have a daughter she can be daddy's little girl. Just give him some stuff that'll make him smile and really make him think about it. I hope that helps. Good luck!!!
xoxo Kourtney =D
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Unfortunately, this is something you should have discussed before getting married. Some friends of mine just got divorced because of this issue - he wanted kids, she did not. He's now getting remarried to someone who shares his love of kids. My wife and I discussed kids long before we got married. We both knew that we wanted to have kids.
I wish you luck, as this is a hard thing to have a disagreement over. I hope that you can compromise and either consider waiting a little while to have kids, or that he changes his mind on the issue.
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