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my friend
well theres this friend i have and i always catch her in lies. a lot of my other friends do to, so we all know she lies. i never really wanted to confront her about it, but the other day she got mad at me, and we were fighting so i told her that i noticed that she lied ALL the time, and i even gave her examples, but she still says she didn't lie. well we all know she did, because she tells us all different things. well now we're in a big fight, so i don't even think i should have brought it up in the first place becasue i hate fighting,which is why i never brought it up before. so now what should i do?
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*It is a good thing that you confronted her because she needed to know how you felt! If she was a friend, she wouldn't lie to you, but maybe thats just how she is! Whenever she lies and you know it just kind of go along with it! But if you still want to be friends with her maybe you and some of your friends should talk to her about it and tell her how you feel! And if she keeps up with it just try to stay some what distant and don't hang out with her that much! She needs to realize that she doesn't need to lie and what shes doing is wrong!* xOxO Kaela <3
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If she lies again just be like oo really thats cool. Just go along with it. But if she's your friend and you want to work it out try talking to her again but be more calm about it and try not to fight with one another. But if you don't want to put up with it anymore, just don't really hang out with her that much, just hang out with your other friends. Maybe she'll realize that she shouldn't lie and you guys don't want to put up with it anymore so she'll stop and run back to you guys.
xoxo Kourtney
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If she really is your friend then she would back off a little bit and admit that she's wrong. If that doesn't work just try ignoring her and hang out with different people. Trust me she'll come up in a little bit after she finds that she lost you as a friend.
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i'm thinking what u should do is confront her again. and just b seriouse about it.dont tell her examples or anything,just straight out tell her.if she goofs off about it,then talk to your other friends about it.or,tell her it really bugs u.
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I think that it is good that you confunted her about it she needs to know how you feel think of it like this you were in her shoes and everyone is holding something from you, wouldnt you want to know? I would I think you should fa sho reminder that you are her for her but you just hate her lieing and if she cares as much about you as you do to her she will understand and stop ehr lieing ways. hope this helps good luck!
*!*Crystal*!*
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ha this is another example of the same girl and this would be "ella" we always caught her in lies but never confronted her about it until someone got majorily mad at her and said something about it when they were in fights and she eventually got punched in the face... but just tell her your sorry and you didnt mean to emberass her and we all lie sometimes and not to worry about it you just wish she could keep things plain and simple for you and your friends-trix
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well if she lies that much she must not be much a friend now is she. a real friend always tells the truth unless its something that will really hurt. its ur desicion but my suggestion is 4 u 2 drop this sista..lol. i hope i have helped.
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Well, it seems like you (and most of your other friends) are definately the more mature ones in the situation. I can totally relate to your postion right now. First, you have to realize you can't change your friend, you know? I mean, she may really be addicted to lying..I know that sounds weird, but there are some people that like to lie about anything and everything because they enjoy getting all the attention and they get liek a rush from it. Sounds weird to me and you, but there are people like that. So, you and all your other freinds are great-good hearted people for still sticking by your friend through this. In time, she may grow out of it, because it's very childish, but there's a good chance she may not..or at least keep a part of her lying personality. In a way, you were totally right to have said something to her. But, in a fight wouldn't of been the best time to say something. When people fight, they say things they totally don't mean. If you still want to be this girls friend, which it seems like you do, I would try and talk to her civily. You know sit her down (1 on 1) not with all your other friends because they she may feel like y'all are attacking her, and you know explain to her that she's your friend nad you are gunna be there for her through thick and thin, and that you hate fighting and 1 little fight isn't gunna let you destroy the whole friendship. Tell her that, you were wrong to have yelled that she lied, but sometimes you really feel like she does lie to you. Make sure you make some kind of comment after that liek " But we all have our flaws". And just end the civil convo with something like " We all say things, and make up things, it's a part of human nature..but I just wanted to let you know how you make me feel when you do these things...but I want to make up and I'm sorry for fighting with you, Friends Always? I hope I Helped!! :)
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