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Urgh Dad
I've been having problems with my dad lately ... well now that I think about it i've always had these problems. Sense my parents got divorced when I was like one I've only seen him everyother weekend. I used to hate it and lately i've been wishing I'd never see him. He always seems busy, and when hes not he always seem to be judging people, and mostly me. He won't let me have certian piercing because he think they will make me a bad kid ... he honestly said that! He also said he'd be embarresed. I've just started to learn he doesnt realize im growing up, I just can't stand him sometimes, he makes thing seem like there always my fault, and I just feel really uncomertable around him, like I can't be myself, and he doesn't know me so hes always asking me questions about drugs and stuff, I just don't know what to do, ive tried to tell him not to judge me to get to know me, and i've told him im growing up and he needs to accept it, i evenasked him to respect me because he didn't act like it. And after he seemed like he felt bad, but it didnt last long. Any advise would help thanks aton!
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Hi. Well i my parents recently went through a divorce and i was in the opposite situation...i had problems with my mom...the same problems you have with your dad...and what helped me was to know that my dad would always be there for me to talk just like your mom WILL ALWAYS be there for you...she loves you...and your dad does to...you just cant see it right now...but dont get to frustrated...you might say something you will really regret later in life...just remember he loves you and try to talk to him calmly and ask him if he can let you grow up and tell him that you love him even if you dont think you do...i hope that helps
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Well my mom said something about the piercings to.. she just said they would give some of the people the wrong impression on what i intended it for. He cant help what he is emberassed from though so you cant put that on him. He may just wnat you to be his lil girl and not grow up parents have a hard time with that. I dont think any girl really at our age feels 110% comfortable around there dads.. even if we no they wont do anything to us its just something we feel and we most defintly cant help how we feel. And for all the questions and stuff he is just being protective and cares about you! But one day sit down and talk to him and hopefully he'll gain more trust and respect for you! And you will to with him. -trix
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all dads do this! they dont want to let go of their *lil girl* heck my dad was always in denial that i EVER had a boyfriend! sooner or later hes gunna have to realize that ur growing up and stuff ya no? and im sure he will! it just takes time! its hard for dads to let go of their baby girl! *hope i helped* <3/Dakota
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Hey. Well first of all life is gonna bve hard exopecailly with parents but dill with it cuz my dad died and i wish i would of never done anything ive even done to hurt him .. sOo spend all your time that you can with him cuz when he dies your gonna wonder what would of happed if you did spend moe time with him.
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Hey your dad does have a say in your life because he is your father, but he does need to loosen up a little bit. Also I think it depends on your age but there is a certian time in your life where you can say you dont want to go over there anymore, (my friend did it and she was only 15 when she picked to do this) But I may be wrong! Maybe you could talk to your mom and have her talk to your dad about it. Good luck
-holly-
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okaii... your dad must really care about you and he might just think your still the little 9 year old running around but at the same time he has to notice if he wants you to actually talk to him he is gunna have to treat you like an adult and not a little baby.. i think you should sit down with your dad and have a serious talk with him... if not.. try talking to your mom maby she can help too! goodluck!
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I have the same problem with my dad, only i only see him every other year. What i've learned is that when you have a relative that doesn't see you on a regular basis, they seem to think you are as naive as you were before they left. You need to show him that you've grown up. And tell him if you get a peircing, it wouldn't make you a bad kid, just an independent one. One thing, don't be afraid to speak your mind in this situation, that way he will learn who you are, and he might not even like it, but he will respect you and love you after that.
Lizzy
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Dads will be dads...this is true. But I'm sure its even harder on you since your parents are divorce. I have a pair of capris from Aeropostale and there like low cut hip huggers or whatever (thats like the only kind they have knowa days) and my dad said i needed to get some that werent falling off me. I lied though and said oh these are just to big. And OF COURSE your dad is going to dis-approve about you getting a piercing somewhere idk where unless its like a normal one in your ear lobe. It's just what dads do since they never had that kinda stuff when they were kids. Tell him that u wish he could understand him more and try and help him too.
hope i could be of some help...
-katie
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Awww! I'm so sorry to hear that! Yeah I don't blame you...no dad should treat you like that but sadly it happens. And if you tried talking to him but still didn't get his attention maybe it's time to talk to your mom or and adult you trust. The only person that can fix this problem is your dad himself. And since he seems to be ignoring the problem he isn't willing to fix it. I would give it another try at talking to your dad. Just tell him that you feel like he doesn't want to take the time to know you and maybe you guys can set up a day where he spends time with you and gets to see the real you. Tell him you honestly aren't a bad kid and he will know that if he spends some more time with you. If nothing happens I would tell your mom how you feel. Maybe ( and only if your parents are willing to without fighting) they can get together and set down some guidelines. Mainly just make sure your dad knows that the weekends you spend with him you want to enjoy..and you don't see him alot so when you do it would be nice to feel secure with him. If your dad is still not improving then he is the only one who can change this and it's something that you might not understand now and may never will. But that is just how he is. I truly hope that things work out between you and your dad. Good luck! Love you! -Mandee
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Many parents live in the own little world and are over protective.. of their little girls.. im soo sorry "FRIEND" but like u said we are in the same boat.. soo here i come to ur rescue and try to help.. well.. if u dont wanna see he him you shoudent have to.. not sure about laws and stuff.. but you and ur dad need to talk about judgement. and try to change his point of view. at least make him get to know a person before even attempting to judge them.. its not cool to sterotype and lable people freaks and things.. becaues of how they are on the outside.. if he is goin to judge he outta at least judge there character.. cause that woudent bother me.. if someone says YOUR A GREAT GUY.. and have a reason.. i would appreciate it.. and admire them for at least taking the time.. to get to know me.. and if they said i was an asshole.. for whatever reason same thing goes.. at least they took the time!!!!!!
YOUR FRIEND KYLE
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