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this question is kinda complex...but im gonna try and make it as simple as possible...Basicaly i see myself as getting less and less attractive by the day lol, and im getting the idea that the girls are thinking the same thing. See, i used to be pretty damn popular and liked by the ladies, and i still am, but its waring off, and im not getting the attention i used to, which is fine, but im wondering.....is a girl gonna loose interest in me based more on my looks getting better or worse...or are they gonna stick around for my personality????? Thanks, adam
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First of all, everyone feels at some point that they're the most unattractive thing alive but things change. Girls are gonna like guys that are confident and sweet. Personality has a lot to do with it. In truth, looks draw people in but personality is what keeps people there. I don't think you should worry about it too much. You'll get your attention again in good time. Personality is important so don't rely completely on looks and what others think of how you look.
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Well, everything is first based on looks. If they think you are attractive, then they will hang around for your personality! If they think you arn't very cute/hot then they won't even bother! You could start off as being friends with a girl, then gradually grow to a more complex relationship. Hope that helps.
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ok. lol. i c wut ur askin. um, well 4 me- its basically all about personality and looks are rly just a plus uk? but idk how it works at ur school. but uh, just dont worry bout it. i mean, idk if its rly possible to become "less attractive" or w/e. but yea. just b urself cuz thats wut rly matters to rl grls. so i hope i helped and ont worry. i bet ur just fine lol. rite bak if u hav ne more questons. also, (lol im desperate 4 s/ns ((jk))...) but u ken IM onine on dragonfli1020 or lizzieh423
ok. byebye lol
~lizzie
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Hey Adam. I'm sure you're real attractive, but wouldn't you rather have a girl go out with you for your personality and not just your looks? Personally, I don't go out with a guy just because I think they're hot, they have to make me laugh and have a good personality, etc. And if girls aren't being friends with you or whatever just because they don't think you're attractive, then they aren't the kind of girl you want to go for anyways or the kind of girl to be friends with. You rather have a girl like you or be friends with you by your personality. Hope this helps! =D
xoxo Kourtney
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If you thinkyour getting less atractive and girls are leaving you b/c of your look then they're not your true friends. But the ones that are still sticking around and are acting the same are your true friends. In other words in the end whoever is still stickinking w/u are what you call friends. Let me know how it goes
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Nat
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hun, their prob just wanting to get to know other people and if u think urun popular then try to hang around other people and see if they think ur popular ., look Im populr in my school and the same thing hapened to me, but I got to know other people and stayed more popular, and I knew u I prob wouldnt think u would be less attractive by the day ,hope I helped if any more Questions plz ask if u want , Jenipher
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Adam,join the club man! The thing that we guys have to remember is right now the girls like us if we're a jock. But in the future,they'll like our personalities more. It's like you:Do you want Mildred Knowles,a straight A physics major or Stacy Hancock,dancer and model. Now,you want Stacy,but once she proves how slutty she is,you'll want Mildred. It's the Gilligan's Island concept my dad told me. He first wanted to bang Ginger,then Mary Ann,then Mary Ann still,and he says in about 10 years give me Mrs.Howell. And Ginger and Mary Ann of course. My point is people's tastes change. Don't worry about not getting a girl now.
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Well i go for personalatity but they have to be somewhat decent looking ya know what i mean but yeah if my friends change like appearence wise i dont really notice cuz im around them every day so i guess i kinda see them change every step of the way without noticing so ur friends probably wont notice too much but if they do they are ur friends they should still like u especially if they like ur personality they wont care what u look like and other peoples will probably like u too not just your friends or ladies whatever im trying to say but yeah hope everything turns out ok
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Well some girls are diff. I go for both.. more for the personality because if you like them they will be attrative anyways.. because you like/love them. So most girls go for the personality but shallow ones.. well they go for looks-trix
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I know exactly how you feel, and it sucks. When I quit all of my sports almost all at once, I gained over 30 lb. It seems though, that I didn't lose too much attention. Thankfully, from what I've seen guys are pickier than girls. Girls think about personallity more, and it tends to be us guys who are more likely to be shallow.
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TO: adam
looks shouldnt hab anything to do with a relationship...if a chick is going out with you one day it should be for the heart not the face doode...fer your question it prtty much depends on wat kinda chick...just dont depend too much on wats outside coz all thah aint gonna be around in a coupla years...ya noe?
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girls are all different!! some are whores n only care about how far ull go w, them, sum r shallow n only care about looks, n some r genuine n care about personality! n girls can tell wen u dun have confidence in urself, so stop thinking ur getting less attractive bcuz im sure ur a hottie ;) if u think ur personality is getting old, then spice it up a bit!! try saying something you normally wouldnt to a girl, idk a compliment or something? a girl loses interest when u get boring, so dont!! jus b urself!
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I haven't read the other answers so what I say may be a bit repetitive. If that's the case, then I'm sorry. Just a forewarning.
Anyway...
First off I'm not calling you ugly because it's apparent I have no idea what you look like. In any case, going off track... bah. My advice: Wait and see what happens. The sad fact of the matter is that girls (and guys, I'm not being biased) can be very shallow. There are exceptions, however (I love exceptions) in which case the person is attracted to your personality and overlooks and unpleasant physical attributes you may have. Isn't this the kind of person you want anyway? If somebody finds you unattractive and therefore will not be with you, then they aren't worth your time. Find somebody who, regardless of what you look like, doesn't care about the way you look. In order to do so, you just have to give things time and hope for the best.
I think what I'm trying to say is don't worry about the way you look and don't change your appearance for anyone. Find someone who likes you for exactly who you are.
I rambled. Forgive me.
-Maisie
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wellL! hunnie! maybe you're spending too much time with the same gals. GET OUT THERE! i doubt your gettin worse! maybe its your confidence. just let me tell you...any girl who is worth your time won't care what you look like. and you seem like a genuine guy. so let um stick around for your personality. those relationships usually last longer =]
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Anyone who is even WORTH your time will stick by you no matter what! I'm sure you're a great guy, so I wouldn't worrie about it, Adam! Honestly, who cares; it's no big deal! There's more to people than physical appearence! Just brush it off, and stay confident! =D
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Girls are...hmm how can I say this... There will be girls who are drawn to looks, and not care for the personality. But then again there will be some girls who have more interest in the personality than anything. This is the type of girl you want. People change and it's natural to ware off the popularity with the girls. The thing is, if you have an amazing personality ( which you seem to have) girls should reconize this. And if they don't they are crazy! Girls are different..they have different expectations, and everyone does. For the most part...some girls will stick by you no matter what if they love you..and it wouldn't matter if your looks were better or worse because they love you and not what you look like. But there will be bitches that turn against you for looks. It's wrong..but it happens. It sucks but it's the truth. You will know who the girls who matter the most are, and they will stick by you! Good luck! Love you! -Mandee
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If your nice to us, we will generally stick around. Even though looks are generally what grabs the attention, personality is what shows who you really are. Be interesting, sweet, and funny and the girls will keep on coming back! Em'lee
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Hey Adam!! If you have a girlfriend that truly loves you, then it doesnt matter what is going on with your looks. I highly doubt you are getting less attractive but usually girls are going to stay around for your personality! Heres an example: I've been going out w/ my boyfriend for almost 9 months and in the middle of our relationship he started getting really bad acne, but I didnt mind! Acne wont stop me from loving him or being with him, but recently hes been taking good care of his face and he looks GORGIOUS! Even though there was a time when he didnt look as good as he does now, I never lost intrest!! Remember, girls are also attracted to guys with confidence!! Good luck hun!!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR *Rate me please!!*
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Dear Adam,
I'm sure you are a Great guy and you obviously have confidence if you used to be a ladies man. Girls LOVE confidence. and honestly if you are a sweet, caring guy ... girls will like you no matter what. I'm sure your looks aren't getting THAT bad and who wants a girl who likes you based only on your looks anyway? If you need to, change up your hairstyle a bit or maybe you just need a couple new shirts or something to spice things up a bit. You'll feel more confident and ready to go get those ladies again! just remember to be sweet, kind, and caring!!!
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