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I have a question that i hope someone can help me with. Is it right to change for a guy? I use to have this one boyfriend that was a punk and I was jusst a normal 13 year old girl. all of his friends were punks to and at that time I was overwhieght and diddn't care about what I looked. Well then all of a sudden my boyfriend just dummped me w/no explanation. And a little while later I started getting into the punk music and cloths and i lost 20 pounds. Now I'm obsessed w/punk music and cloths but i don't know if it's b/c i want him to see what he missed out on or if it's really what i want. About 6 months have passed since my break up w/him. Since our breakup was just b4 the summer no body not even my friends have seen me, so I can't wait till school starts so i can see everyone's reaction esspecially his. But do n-e-of you think this is righ? Pleae someone help me.
Always
Nat
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A guy should not look on the outside for his ideal gf. But some do. If he didn't like you b4 and now he does (seeing the new u) then he is not worth your time. It's not really all that right but we all have or will change for our love. Remember this. A guy is not worth your tears and the only one who is, will never make you cry.
*~Random Kitty~*
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no u dont change for anyone but yourself! and if a guy dont like u for who u r, and wants u to change, he isnt worth your time.. and if u go back to school and that guy wants u back, dont go for it b/c hes just usin u for looks!!
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Never, EVER change for a guy. If a guy can't like you for who you are, then you don't want to be with him. A relationship cannot be based on lies, and if you change to become the kind of girl he'll like, you're lying to both him AND yourself.
Decide for yourself if the punkness is what you want or not. If it isn't, just be yourself. You'll find a guy who WILL appreciate you. There will be someone. Just keep your options open!
-Siren =)
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Never change for anyone, Including a guy. Be true to yourself, you will be much happier. Better guys will always come along. Just take awhile to think about if that is what you wanted...
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It would of been wrong if you changed while you were going out with him because then people would of thought you changed just for him. But, you didn't because you really got into the music and the clothes, so really you changed for yourself. And, for the breakup part, guys can be so dumb sometimes they just breakup with there girlfriend for no reason and sometimes they don't even know why lol. It may not have been because you weren't punk or anything, I mean afterall he did go out with you and you weren't punk, what would of made him change his mind? And good job on losing weight, 20 pounds, wow thats really good! =D Hope this helps!!
xoxo Kourtney
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no way..u should never change for no one.he should of except u like the way he saw u.If u think about it, he didnt really like u, cause u wasnt in his style or anything, but im just saying, that u should NEVER change 4 no1one especially a boy. Dont be like no one else be yourself.
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No its not right to change for a guy because if he cant accept you for who you are then hes an asshole! Well I dont think you changed for him, maybe the kind of music he listened to caught your attention... cuz thats how it was with me like i use to hate all the hard music and shit and i was like OOO POP music, now i'm into more of the "punk" i guess or heavy shit... and he was the one that got me to like the band underoath and it just went from there... to where i am now. But it really doesnt sound like your just changing for him you probably just like the stuff they listen to and what not.
-Holly-
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Alright when i just read the first line i had to say its not right to change for a guy because 1) what if your never with them you are pretty much forever changed and 2) would you want him to change for you? maybe lil things but not outer appearences or personality 3)its not the real you 4) your just like a creation but a real human that he created and now ill read the rest... How come none of your friends have seen you during the summer? are ya ok? But if you are cooping yourself up you shouldnt do that but if you really interested in it then it is okay but if u r just changing for him then its wrong-trix
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my personal opinion is that if you like the music and the style then you like it..i think the only way he may be involved is bcuz he is the one that opened your eyes to the style..if you do still have feelings for him and you feel youve changed for him but you like it too then who knows..im sure youre very gorgeous and he'll drop ded when he sees what hes missing!
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<span style="background: url([Link](Mouse over link to see full location); Are you just changing because of him? And do you like this change? If you do like all of this punk stuff and it makes you happy than you should go ahead with it. If you aren't happy with the whole new you and you just did it for attention or because of your ex-boyfriend it will make you upset. Because if you enjoy something...do it. If you still don't know if this is what you want or you are doing this for your boyfriend..you should try and figure this out. If you like the music and your clothes then you probably want this for you. But make sure this is what you want. Take care, good luck! And congrats on loosing the weight! Love you! -Mandee </span>
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Dear Nat , dont change my bf at the moment is punk and i am yep a preppy cheerleader and he loves me for me so i think u should b urself
Love Ashley , plz rate me
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HEy NAT!
I think it's alright. I think if you enjoy the music, and clothes, and all of that. I think you changed for the good. You lost 20 LBs, which is excellent, and I think you might have changed for him, but...hey..I think you enjoy being you now...so I don't really think it matters if you changed b/c of him. When you get back to school...everybody's gonna be like WOW...Nat...is awesome...I wanna be like her. BE a leader girl! Good luck w/ school! Have a great summer as well! <3
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It's not okay to change for a guy. Now, if you ENJOY what you are, then more power to ya. If you ever feel like you need to change, do it for YOURSELF, and NO ONE else! If you find that your ex now seems more attracted to you, I wouldn't give him the time of day! You're still pretty much the same person -- of course you can change little things like hair, clothes, and even some personality traits, but you can never fully hide the real you. This guy seems like a real loser caught up in a whirlwind of teenage trends. You can do much better! Enjoy your summer and keep your head up! =D
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