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or a personalized chain with your date on it {like the 2 heart halves].. thats what you suggested.

likee two necklaces with the hearts torn down the middle? like the best friend ones?

yeah but like the big dogtag ones. i've seen them in stands at the mall... you could both get a heart if you dont want the halves...just something to hold on to.

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14/f
my boyfriends moving, we;ve been together more then a year. hes coming back for me in two years, he's leaving this saturday. i want to buy him something, but i REALLY need something good

you could..
make him a scrapbook or photoalbum
make him a myspace [to keep in touch]
buy him stationary for letters
or a personalized chain with your date on it {like the 2 heart halves]

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my boyfriend is mexican and his little sister is having her quince or quincenera party on september 16. i have to go and my boyfriend said i need to wear a dress, like a party dress. what kind of dress could i buy? a black one? or what? i have no idea what kind of dress to wear!

I went to a hispanic sweet 16 [she had both] and she wore a big poofy blue dress. a lot of the guests wore little black dresses around knee length. i saw other colors like silver, tan with black...wear something simple... not like prom gown material, more like homecomming style dresses.

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me
lately right after i told you about that party i went to and met that brother of my sisters room mate you sound jealous. and you don’t know why you were but to ask you this, what is going on between us? is something on your mind? what is bothering you? i did tell you how i felt and it is not right to play with my mind. you seem like you are not respecting how i feel and i don’t like it. just tell me what is going on! its time for me to move on and now it seems like you don’t want me to and why is that? you have no idea what i am going through, if you want to know then ask!
if u does care about our friendship then please don’t ignore this.
friends share!

lara
ok well my reply is this... to me i don’t think its right to force someone into a relationship (even if you to did not talk much.) i don’t no if that’s how you saw it or not, but that is what i saw when you told me about it. and i did feel jealousy yes, i felt the same when you were going out with aaron and anthony.

i felt (for that split second) that if you did happen to get a boyfriend then we would not be as close of friends as we are now any more. i felt like i was falling behind in life. everyone seemed to be moving forward but me. and it’s not just you either.

i know you hate hearing about my family drama. but they have a part in it as well. you see my cousins are getting married... and there younger than we are!!!!! their ages range from 17 to 20. and when they talk about it i again feel stranded. it may sound stupid but that’s how i felt. i never meant for you to think i’m trying to play with your emotions.

if that’s not what you were looking for in a reply the e-mail me back ok?


talk to you later


chat room with me and jane

me: why do you think i am going to leave you behind?

lara: i don’t no really. it’s just a feeling i get some times, icy cold feeling

me: but i am not i mean i do sound like i want to move on but there were reasons why

me: but i not sure if i want to tell you why

lara: i guess i’m just afraid of what may happen when you move away

lara: we won’t get to hang out any more

me: this might shock you but i have to say this

me: okay the reason why i went out with anthony and aaron is because to get over u. i
hated myself and i wanted to die. i became depressed because of my stupid likings to you and i thought it will be the best to move away so you wont get in to my depression. i never wanted to tell you about it but i had to. i hid away from my problems and worry about everybody else but me. i don’t want to let go of you and the others and the only way to keep it strong is to always try to stay together
alee: i don’t have a choice i have to go but if i did have a choice i would stay. i don’t trust myself and i don’t care about myself. but people say you have to love yourself to have love share (something like that)

me: umm yeah that’s why sorry

lara: i guess i can sort of understand that

lara: i don’t want you 2 b depressed though

me: i can’t stop it

me: it won’t stop

lara: if you don’t mind me asking why do u like me?

lara: i’m nothing special

me: let’s see i ask myself that every day

me: the answer is i don’t know, i don’t know how it happened but it did. but i am attracted by smarts, mysterious and adventures personality and that’s what you are.
but i really can’t explain it, its hard to put into words.


me: that’s why i want to leave

lara: clear your head type of thing?

me: yeah that’s why i think

me: i got mad at you when you said you were mad when i told you about that guy i met. because i
don’t know if you liked me too and i didn’t want you to. i rather see you with someone else. but you said the reason why you got mad is because you didn’t want me to leave our friendship and focus on some guy

me: but i wont do that, hell i hardly pay attention to my last boyfriends i like to spend time with friends and family

me: r you still there? we can talk about something else if you want


lara: yea i’m getting ready 4 beds. i got work 2 marrow

me:can i ask you something?

lara:yep

me:did you wanted a boyfriend? because it souned like you did on your reply.

lara:no not really


the rest of the chat was about work, and thats was it.


i send this just to show you our chat about the situation
do you think she likes me or cares for our friendship?
or both?

wowww.. i think you guys need some time away from each other honestly. you can always get closer all over again i guess. i guess moving on and getting over your depression completely could come from a separation from her...meet other people and you can get over her and everything else. anything else, let me know... i'll try to sort it out.

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I became depressed and never liked myself because of who I am I want to run away from every one to keep them away from my depression. But I couldn’t hold it in, I told them what was wrong and they said I should tell Lara how I feel. I deny it for 7 years to not tell her but it got to the point that I was about to blow! So I told Lara that I am bi sexual and I am in love with her. Lara was in shocked but stayed there by my side to listen to me. She respected me and will try to help me as much as she can.

After I told Lara how I felt 10 months ago I went to a party and met this guy, nothing happen but I told Lara about it. She then got mad, she said she was not sure to be happy for me or pissed. I didn’t understand what she meant.

I told her that I am moving on and you are not making it easy on me. And she said she was jealous because she didn’t want to drift apart from our friendship and was afraid that we won’t be close anymore. She told me that she was jealous of my last two boyfriends in the year of high school. I told Lara that the reason why I went out with them is because I want to get over her and move on. And that’s why I want to move away to rethink my thoughts. She ask me why I liked her and I said i don’t know how it happened but it did. but i am attracted by smarts, mysterious and adventures personality and that’s what you are.
but i really can’t explain it, its hard to put into words.
I even ask her if she wanted a boyfriend and she said “no not really”.
I got mad at Lara because it sounded like she like me back and I didn’t want her to (even thou I do wish it)
Because I don’t think I can be good in a relationship because of me not believing in myself.
I told Lara that but she didn’t respond to it.

Everything is slowly getting together and right now I am letting things settle.
But I am wondering…

Did she like me back more than a friend or was she afraid of losing our friendship?
And
What does she mean “we won’t be close anymore”?
(The only thing of close I can think of is that she leans on me and holds me sometimes for no reason)
and
When she said she was jealous of my last two boyfriends did that mean she like me then in our high school year or she wanted a boyfriend?

hmm that is really confusing.
i think maybe she is confused too... about her orientation and her feelings for you. just keep her as a friend and time will tell what really happens in the end.
it's hard to tell if she wanted you or a bf... its really not clear and wit this case i think that even if we had an answer, she could change her mind at any given moment. moving on to part 2...

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I have to get up at 6:00 A.M for high school... In your opinion, is it better to shower the night before, or when you wake up? Because, I have P.E...and when I take a shower, I preferably wash my hair. So, which way do you do it? This is a really weird question LOL

I take showers at night. I have a wet2straight straightner so i straighten my hair right after then sleep on it so it's really flat. it just works better for me to not have to rush in the morning to get ready.

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14/f
i've had boyfriends before, but this boy, is my world. he loved me when i didn't even love myself.
we have been going out for a year && a few months, but suddenly his grandma has cancer and there are other reasons, but hes moving to Ecuador. He told me he'll come back for me in two years. [He's moving in two weeks] I spent last night crying till i threw up and only got an hour a sleep. 2 years though!? what am i suppose to do? im only 14. his parents asked for me to come with him, but i said no. i can't, im too young and even i know that. advice or opinons are appreciated =/

aww that's so sad!
luckily, technology can help keep you guys close. im & email each other and plan to meet somewhere in the near future. if it's meant to be, you will find a way. maybe they will only be there for a little while...[things can change]
hang out a lot before he moves and enjoy every minute you spend together... that's what you'll hold on to when you are down and missing him.

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I'm turning 16 and I don't know what to ask for for my birthday presents!
Ah help, nothing too expensive, but tell me what you all want. I dont know what I want, I already have a cell phone, digital camera & laptop btw.

things i would ask for:
-a small party with my friends
-a trip to ny/la/chi town
-concert tickets
-new clothes
-a dress for prom
-ipod
-a nice purse
-shopping spree
-a ring or jewelry
-down payment on a car
happy sweet 16

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okay so i have a concern....
now, my boyfriend is bisexual and im perfectly okay with it. now if we have a threesome with another man, and my boyfriend gives the other man oral sex and THEN oral sex to me directly after, is it possible for me to get pregnant?

you should do "ladies first" just to be safe from stds, etc.

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Hi, My mom is 100% careless, she gets me whatever i want, like anything, but i asked her tonight "Can i go to victorias secret to get bras and underwears?" she was like, THATS FUC*ING INSANE! I dont even wear that?! You'll get it when i start!" and shes 46, my sister, whom is 19.. turning 20 in january, she gets it with my MOMS CREDIT CARD! its redicilous! All of my friends wear their bras, but of corse, mine are from like, target, and the rest of my clothing is from abercrombie, it doesnt make sence! HOW CAN I TELL HER I DESERVE STUFF FROM THAT STORE!? and i already have underwear from there, my mom gave me her credit card when i was on a school trip in washington DC. and i got stuff in the mall, its pissing me off!

* what can i do to prove to her that i should be allowed to wear it?
* why do you think she wont let me?
* she wants my father to pay for it, just like everything else.

I know you're probably going to rate me a 1 because you are angry with the world [yes, i was 14 once], but i'll give you the info on victoria's secret stuff.
i get all of my underwear from there. it's comfy, i love it and my mom never had a problem with it.
however, i have bought bras from there once and they honestly SUCK. i'm not telling you this to make you feel better or to ruin your dreams of a VS bra. one of the push ups was so bad... it wasnt supportive enough and you could see the line where the padding was... absolutely awful. so i ran to kohls and got one from mudd and i wear it all the time. honestly, VS ist the most amazing store in the world. if you want good bras that are AMAZING, go to american eagle. i'm angry at myself for not thinking of it before. i got an amazinnggg push up there for $11.95. i know you want clothes that are grown up and mature but you can find those somewhere else. they make thongs and skimpy lingere everywhere, i promise. be original. i went to a local discount store and got a cutecutecute playboy thong. it's onestly the cutest thing i own and one of my friends went and got one for herself. chill out, everything will be OK.

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you know that ashlee simpson song? i sadly can actually relate to it. my big sister is pretty much perfect-straight a's, varsity captain for soccer, charity work, sca president-you name it-she does it. i reallly try to make myself better but im just not that atheletic and math is just so hard for me. i feel like i cant do anythingright compared with her. how do i get out of this? i cant keep living like im a second class citizen.

Try finding something you are good at. you might be good at volunteering and helping others instead of sports and that looks great on a college application. maybe you like theater or something completely the opposite of math and sports. you just gotta find something that makes you happy and don't compare yourself to your sister. do the best YOU can and have a good time with your life.

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If i'm a size medium in tops and 6/medium in bottoms at american eagle, what size would i be at abercrombie&fitch? because they got rid of the store that was in my area so i'm ordering online now, and i never trust the size charts.
thanks :]

I can't help with the a&f [i don't know my own size] butttt..
in ae i'm an 8 and at hollister i'm a 7
so i'm guessing you would be a 5 in hollister.
you might even be a 3... depending on if they are stretchy but i'm betting on a 5.

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i'm a 16 year old male and i'm looking to switch my style up for the next year.for as long as i can remember i've always stuck with stuff like band shirts and various skater clothes with jeans...that gets kind of old.what can i wear that's like that but a little more exciting.i'm kind of looking for shirts that have designs all over them instead of just a little something on the front or whatever but i can't find any.

have you tried american eagle or stores like that? they have some shirts with all over prints for guys. forever 21 has a guy line now and i think they have a big variety of styles. you could wear polos too or button ups with prints.

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Okay, I've recently lost quite a bit of weight (started at 135lbs and I'm now 105lbs) and my breast size went down by two cupsizes (I was a C, now I'm an A).

Big breasted women aren't exactly common in my family, I'd say my mom was about a B but I wanted to know what the chances of me growing up top (if I'm 15 and still developing) are? without me gaining all my weight back?

there's no surefire way to predict it but i think they will probably grow to a B in the next couple years without the weight.
can i ask you how you lost all that weight? [you are inspirational!] leave it in my inbox?

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What is the difference beetween gel nails and acrylic nails? Which one is better *lasts longer, looks prettier, which one is worth my $*
Thanks!

i have acrylics on now and i got a solid pink & they look really pretty and they weren't expensive. they're strong too.
i've seen gels gone "bad" before...some girls have really ugly ones and they paid twice as much for them so i would go with acrylic.

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ok. my sister& her boyfriend have been datin for a year& a half. shes sixteen. always been a goodgirl.
i just found out last night that hey had done it 2 times. she says i cant tell anyone!
when she told me i started crying.me& her are really close andshe wont tell mom.
i told her to never do it again but i think she will. i'm 13 so she says that its not so terrible when you're older.
im really upset about her doing that though.
what do i do?

it's ok... i know its upsetting to hear that people grow up and are doing more adult things but think of it this way- you'll have someone to help you or give you advice when you start to do things when you are older.
you can't take back what she did... just hope that she is safe when she does it. she going to do it, obviously, but really if it's ony one guy.. she's not a slut. she's just a 16 year old girl with raging hormones. oh day, you will also have the same feelings for someone and whether you decide to do it or not it your choice, just because she threw it away at 16 doesn't mean you did or will.
don't tell your mom... it wont change anything. it will only make things tense in your house between you and her and her and your mom. if you need to take it out, talk to her or go ahead and type me a huge long inbox thing and ill help you through.

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my parents found out i had friends over and that we drank. she threatened me to tell who was here, so i told her, after about a half an hour. now she won't ever let me see those friends again. i am going off to college in a week so it's not the end of the world, but still i feel bad that i told which friends were here. i don't know what to do. should i tell these friends? they are not my friends from school...they are from work. i feel like i betrayed them (my mom won't call their parents, she said she wouldn't) but i still feel bad & don't know how to explain to these girls i can't ever see them again. also how do i earn my parents trust back?

you can just tell your friends that you had to... they'll probably understand after they blow off some steam.
you can probably still see them... you work with them still right? and you're going to college... have them over to your dorm or meet them somewhere. you're old enough that your mom can't keep you away from people like you are 9 years old.
it's not a big deal... they won't freak out at you for it as long as they don't get in trouble. if they do then they might.
earn trust back... don't drink and follow all the house rules.

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So i am 15 and i am going to my friend birthday party in 2 days. At the party there is not going to be alcohol or smoking or anything. But afterwards I am spending the night at her house with a whole bunch of people and there is gonna be drinking and smoking and i already know i don't want to smoke but I am iffy on the drinking. My friend told me I didn't have to but I would feel kind of left out so I kinda want to. Do you think its a bad idea? or should I enjoy my youth?

do what makes you feel comfortable. a lot of people respect people that don't drink and that fine. act crazy without drinking.
most kids that age cant get enough drinks to get everyone drunk so don't be too wild... they'll remember it.
if you "pretend" to drink... please don't act & say you're drunk & that you "forget" everything. it's annoying and no one respects those people.
if you are going to drink [i saw this because in your teens at some point you probably will] remember these rules:
-beer before liquor, never sicker. [don't drink beer before vodka, for example]
- don't do it excessively.. one or 2 drinks is usually fine. 5 or more you'll probably puking all night.
-if someone is realllllyy drunk and passes out or needs to sleep, have them sleep on their side in case they puke.
that's about it. don't drink if you don;t want to or goes against your values. it's not a great thing to do or the only way to have fun.

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If it takes 129KJ of energy to propel a rocket 2KM, how much energy is required to propel the rocket 2.24KM?



I really need help & if you can do this, you don't have to tell me the answer just tell me how I can do it and how I can get the answer.

you need the work & energy formulas to solve it.

if you need more, ask.

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17/f
I was dating my boyfriend for about a year and half when he cheated on me. He didn't just kiss another girl or hang out with her but he had sex with her at a party after we had had a fight. He didn't even tell me and i had to find out from the girl herself. She didn't even know i was hius girlfriend and she asked me to give him his ring back.( the ring was a promise ring we gave to eachother awhile ago) up until this happened i thought i could spend the rest of my life with him. I haven't talked to him since but he is always with my brothers. I just don't know if he went so far that i should throw away everything we had. Where is the line of going to far to be forgiven? Do i just give up and say let's be friends?

is your boyfriend on this site at all? i got te exact same question [cept it was a guy] not too long ago.
i would have him make it up to you and then decide if you want him back... let him beg and plead and do stuff to show he cares and cut off all ties with that girl he cheated with.
i'm not great with drawing the line... i hate cheating but sometimes its ok to take them back. it's really up to you. i know that isnt an exact yes or no answer but it varies. if you need help with the pors and cons or something let me know, i'll listen and put in my 2 cents.

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