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living in the shadow...
you know that ashlee simpson song? i sadly can actually relate to it. my big sister is pretty much perfect-straight a's, varsity captain for soccer, charity work, sca president-you name it-she does it. i reallly try to make myself better but im just not that atheletic and math is just so hard for me. i feel like i cant do anythingright compared with her. how do i get out of this? i cant keep living like im a second class citizen.
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Don't worry, I feel the same way sometimes. My parents even say stuff like "Your sister always had straight A's why don't you?." "Your sister never did that when she was your age, why do you?" It's annoying and it hurts because you will always feel like you're 2nd best. What you need to do is find a special talent that you have, something that your sibling isn't good at. I found out that I'm actually good at violin, and it really did make me stand out from my sister. Even though I do get the occasional, 'why aren't your grades high enough', it's good to know that I'm better at something than my sister is.
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Try finding something you are good at. you might be good at volunteering and helping others instead of sports and that looks great on a college application. maybe you like theater or something completely the opposite of math and sports. you just gotta find something that makes you happy and don't compare yourself to your sister. do the best YOU can and have a good time with your life. <3
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HEy!
We all have our own special talents, and you're not going to be good at everything you do. Your sister has her faults too I'm sure. you probably just dont see them.
Heres my advice, make a list of like 10-20 things that are totally awesome about you and tape it to your mirror and then everyday before you go to bed and/or when you get up in the morning, read them off to yourself. Also make a goals list. Try and sign up for somethings. you say she does all of these things well you dont have to do them all but try and do a few other things like charity work, you dont have to do the same thing as she did, just try and do a few of your own good things. If you make yourself feel awesome then thats all that matters. Make your goals achieveable and set a deadline. If you do them all by that time then you can reward yourself.
Tell yourself everytime that your sister brings home a report card with straight a's that you have awesome talents too, and maybe you put more effort in you your grades because they are harder for you to achieve. Take pride in what you do well, and dont complain that you arent as good as her, until you have as many things going on as she does. Because shes probably putting a lot of work into that stuff and if you put in that much work too, then you wont feel like a second class citizen, you'll feel just as good as her and you'll end up being a well rounded person. Good luck, and I hope I helped. Reach for the stars!
Love ya,
Angie91
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quit trying to live in your sisters shadow...get out of it...make a name for yourself...join a sport or a club and excel in something she didn't do...be yourself...your not your sister.
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