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my sister had sex with her boyfriend
ok. my sister& her boyfriend have been datin for a year& a half. shes sixteen. always been a goodgirl.
i just found out last night that hey had done it 2 times. she says i cant tell anyone!
when she told me i started crying.me& her are really close andshe wont tell mom.
i told her to never do it again but i think she will. i'm 13 so she says that its not so terrible when you're older.
im really upset about her doing that though.
what do i do?
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She's 16! Why do you think it's a bad thing? Just ask her if she's protecting herself. If she is, don't worry! If she isn't, talk to her. If your really close, she'll understand!
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it's ok... i know its upsetting to hear that people grow up and are doing more adult things but think of it this way- you'll have someone to help you or give you advice when you start to do things when you are older.
you can't take back what she did... just hope that she is safe when she does it. she going to do it, obviously, but really if it's ony one guy.. she's not a slut. she's just a 16 year old girl with raging hormones. oh day, you will also have the same feelings for someone and whether you decide to do it or not it your choice, just because she threw it away at 16 doesn't mean you did or will.
don't tell your mom... it wont change anything. it will only make things tense in your house between you and her and her and your mom. if you need to take it out, talk to her or go ahead and type me a huge long inbox thing and ill help you through. <3
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If shes only had sex twice and is 16 shes doing better than probably a majority of kids her age.
I would recommend keeping it to yourself. Why?
1) If you tell your parents, nothing will change. Your sister isnt going to stop doing what she wants to do. Trust me when I say people will go to ridiculous lengths to get sex when they want it. All that will happen is that alot of people will be miserable.
2) If you tell your parents, it will ruin trust between you and her. If you were 16 and she were 13 the situation would be different, but you have offered nothing to tell us that she is being irresponsible.
I would also recommend talking to her. Ask her if shes willing. Ask her why she is having sex. Why didnt she decide to wait. Get her perspective on it. You dont have to share her perspective, you dont have to agree, but its more important for you to understand what she is thinking.
Also. If you do decide to tell a parent, tell your father first, alone.
Guys are easier to manipulate, and while mom is more likely to be angry dad is more likely to be freaked out. Once he gets used to the idea dad will generally help calm angry mom down.
And if you tell her, tell her that you are going to tell your parents. Tell her why. Discuss it.
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Pray for her soul.
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don't freak out about it, its okay.
its your sisters choice.
everythings going to be alright
Jess <3
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