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running away
im not sure if this is the rite category but im a 14 year old male and i wanna run away. i dont like tthe way im being treated at home my parents r taking away my comps cuz they saw somethin on this site that they didnt like and they think i had somthin 2do w/ it. my mom is always yelling 4 no reason she thinx im always doin somthin rong my dad gives me no privacy and tries 2 read my messages. i hate having my life consumed by them. i want a life of my own.so should i stay or should i go?
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i feel ya totally... thas kinda how it is over my crib... i mean if yu can stay wid a friend or family member that wuld be go0d... buh yu`r only 14 nd yu wouldnt make it out on yu`r own... buh when yu turn 116 nd can get a car nd job... then go... buh yu have to make sure yu stay in sko0l get go0d grades nd shit...cuz if ya wanna be out on ya own.. yu need a good job ya kno.. yu`r still young nd have tyme.. jus yu shuld really think bout it... or yu can jus tlk to yu`r rents nd be liek listen i dun liek how yu dun give me any privacy yadda yadda... jus tell them flat out... how are they gonna kno if anything is wrong if ya dun tell them? ya feel me
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where r u gonna go? if u leave u all of a sudden have to find a place to stay...get a job...earn money and stuff like that..just suffer a little longer till ur older then do what u want.:)
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I think that you sould stay and just talk to your parents!! Was it really you that did the stuff that your mom blames you for!! Just sit down and talk to your parents and say that yu are sick of being treated like yu are and that yu want a little bit more privacy!! HoPe I hElPeD
LuV yA,
ShOrTy0990
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they're parents...that's what they do. mine do that sometimes too. unless they're beating you or something...don't run away. if you really think you can handle it, you could emancipate yourself...but only if there's something seriously wrong going on at home. if you run away, there's always that looming possibility of getting caught, you know? cuz your parents are going to wonder where the hell you are, and they'll probably have people look for you. hope i helped. sorry if i didn't.
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Hmm GREAT IDEA. How about you focus on the fact that you HAVE parents that care and that you HAVE a house and a computer and everything else. There are kids that are forced to live on their own at a young age that dont have anything. Stop being selfish and deal with it. That would be completely irresponsible of you to run off. Youd end up having to go home anyway..and your parents will most likely just ground you or something. You will be 18 in 4 years and you will be able to have all the privacy you want. I am sure you will survive.
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I think you should totally go...if you really hate your life with your parents at least try living somewhere else...but you need to be prepared dont just suddenly leave with out anything but clothes and a toothbrush youll need money(dont steal from your parents that will turn into a mega huge mess)
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if its abuse, go.
if not, stay and tell them to leave you alone for chist's sake.
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well.. i thynk everyones parents FrEaK out over tha smallest thyngs.. but yea.. dont run away.. cuz either... ull be on ur own.. witch is super hard.. and lyk... how would you get muney and stuf.. and if you wanted to go bak home.. u mite not be welcomed.. o0or.. u mite git grounded.. l0l.. that sux worse.. :/
GuUd LuCk hUn!
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Whatever you do don't run away. life will be worse is you run away. To me, it sounds like your parents don't trust you that much. Maybe if they had more trust for you they would let you do things on your own. You could try and get more trust with your parents and maybe the will give you more indapendance. Good luck!
xoxo chels
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hey... ive ran away before adn its not all its cracked up to be i had to come home i couldnt live at mah friends forever adn if your 14 you have no way to make money to live so its a waste!! but if you really think your parents are treatin you bad talk to them if you dont wanna do that write thme a letter! im sure if you tell them how you feel theyll understand and probably do something to help you! hope i helped rate me thanx bye
<3.Taylor
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No matter what, parents are parents, it's their job to be in your buisness. Think about this, if you run away, where are you going to run to? Who will take you in? How long before your loving parents figure out that your gone and have the world searching for you? What will you wear, eat, sleep... No matter how you see it, you are lucky, you have parents that care about you. Talk to them, if they still don't hear you, get help from someone you trust. Hope I've helped.
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i had the same problem a couple months ago and i though about running away for the same problems and you just need to step back and take a look at everything or actually talk to your parents and see why they are acting like they are its probably because they love you and if things dont get better dont do anything drastic just move in with a relative or friend if u can and if all else fails SCATTER!
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definitly stay, dont run away from home! your parents love you and they are just looking out for you and making sure your not doing bad things, they're just looking out for your well-being! im sure they have their reasons but all parents are like that and were all gonna have to get used to that! if you have any more questions make sure you ask me~! :) xoxo
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you should stay!! try and talk this whole situation out with ur parents..tell them that if they loved you and trusted you then they would know u had nothing to do with what was on the computer! and hopefully they will understand
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Okay Lisen..i understand what your goin through but alot of people are goin through the same thing i think you should just try as hard as possible and just let it be..dont let them get to you .It belive i kno but you kno once your gone they are gonna be way worse ..so Im telling you kno jus dont run away dont be bad ..and just be yourself and enjoy life
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You should definately stay. Running away doesnt solve ANY problems. Ask them one night if you could sit down and talk to them. Tell them exactly what you told me. Also tell them that you were thinking about running away, but you decided to stay because it wouldn't help anything. They might understand if you ask them to give you a little more privacy. Running away is Running from your problems. I hope you make the right decision :) If you need anything else, just drop a question in my inbox!
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casey
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i dont think running away solves the problem i think u shuld tlk to ur parents first about more privacy for urself.
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You're always going to have some problems with you parents. But running away NEVER will solve them. If anything, That will totally break any trust at all. Pluse, you're 14... Be smart. Just talk to them.... Sit them both down and tell them how you feel. They'll listen, They love you. Hope things get better :) -Britty-
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well i have almost the same problem with my mom. kinda. she wories alot and stuff. BUT the best thing to do is in school go to a gidence councerler. they always help you threw everything and dont tell anyone about it nd that do make sure you are fine and everything at home is fine. if your parents beat you or hit you, then you should take to another close parent. they will always help nd make sure you get treated the right way. =)
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you have absolutly NO reason to run away. no one has any reason to run away. unless you are being abused mentally and physically, i suggest you take a look around. TALK TO THEM! tell them how you feel about them. they are just trying to watch out for you, and making sure that you are safe and arent ending up somewhere bad in life.
i know how you feel, and im sorry to be stright foward, but just talk to them.
-sAveD
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Don't leave yet. You need to work this out. It may sound stupid but you need to talk with them and to a counselor, maybe even family counseling because it sounds like they have a huge distrust of you. First you need to discuss it, though. You need to inform your mom that you're not responsible for the content of advicenators because anyone can post on it, and you need to let your dad know that you don't think you've done anything to make him mistrust you. Do NOT run away, the situation isn't serious enough for that. Run away only as a last resort, like if they abuse you. GOod luck and hang in there!
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stay don't take the easy way out. talk to your parents. tell them how you feel.
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Ick. This is a tough one. First off, your parents probably took away your computer because the things they saw on it,they didn't aprove of, and they didn't want you to see something like that. Believe me they do care, because if they didn't would you even be here? Parents are there to give you love and nuture you,not make your life a living hell, even though it may seem like they are. They probably try to read your IMs because they are wondering if you are mixing yourself with the right people or not. So, here is my advice. Talk to them. Tell them that you don't like it when they read your IMs and that they can trust you. They'll come to there senses and understand that even if it seems like they're trying to help,they might make matters worse. So, running away is not an option, it's an easy way out, but things will just turn bad in the end,and after a running away experience, do you think your parents would trust you? They feed you, give you a loving home, and cloth you. Just talk to them.Alls you need is communication. Have you any more questions, IM me at FLCsibling
Have a better day, darling. Things will get better.
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Hey. i say you stay...because how are you gonna survive out by yourself with no money and food?...okay lets say you do but do you have a job? and where are you gonna stay for shelter? and in the end your money will be used up anyways so why not just stay? i mean try to ignore them if they are being unfair and just read a good book or something instead of surfing the net...and in 4 more years you can do whatever and you'll be off to college so why not just put up with it for 4 more years. besides why dont you talk to them too and ask why they are being so unfair sometimes...i hope i helped! x3 SweetStar
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I have been feeling sort of the same way. It may seem like running away is the best idea but in the end its gonna hurt you more then help you. My advice is to stay and fight the battle that they think you will give up on. ONly 4 years untill your out!
HOpe I helped
Britt
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Hello. In my opinion, I don't think you should run away. Since your parents supply the food and the shelter, you wouldn't have anywhere to go. I think you should have a serious talk with them and let them know how you feel. Maybe your parents are being too overprotective? So, just try to talk to them. =) I hope I helped ... drop one in the inbox if you'd like! <3 Steph
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Well.. first off... don't run away.. because you will be stuck with nothing.. money,food clothes shelter..etc. and 2nd once they find you.. your parents will be upset that you did that and probably won't trust you at all. I think you should talk to your parents...tell them your 14 years old and you want some privacy... assure them that if you ever had a problem that you couldn't handle that you would tell them about it.. and tell them that you have never given them a reason not to trust you. Tell them exactly what there doing that you don't like and give them reasons.... Tell them for ex. " You are always looking at my messages on the computer ... and i don't like that because.." (your reason) maybe you could say because its between me and my friends and when you look you make me feel like a little kid and that you can't trust me. And about them taking away your computers about the site...Take them to the computer and SHOW them this site.. and say yes.. some people put bad stuff on here.. but mostly its for normal day advice.... and other people help you.. make sure you tell them its not a chat service and your not talking to anyone you don't know.. your just taking there advice or your giving your own :)...If worst comes to worst and there still not easing up.. then try to spend as much time as possible away from your house... go to a freinds house.. go for walks..gets any jobs that are possible.. to spend time away from them.. Maybe they will begin to notice and ask you why your gone so much.. then if you tell them again it may be more clear ;)
-Hope I helped-
xoxo
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I think you definitly need to stay..running away wouldnt do anyone any good..and if u did run away where would u go? how would u get food and clothes? when skool starts again..go to the counselors office..they're always there and they help a lot..hope you make the RIGHT choice!--rOcKeR4GoD
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Running away won't really help, especially since you probably won't have any where to run to... Try to talk to them about what they're doing that you don't like, but don't sound like that you're accusing them...
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You should stay, everyone's parents are strict man. Don't think you're the only one. My parents suck too sometimes, but you gotta consider this, if you ran away, over something as trivial as being punished, doesn't matter if you did the crime or not, then where would you go? You're 14, not even out of high school yet. How would you support yourself? And don't say male prostitute, it doesn't work, trust me on this one, you just get the WRONG clientelle. Anyway, hang in there I hope this helped you. Good luck.
-The Knight Owl
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