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Hey there!I'm Meg(or Megan).I'm 13 yrs old.I live on beautiful Cape Cod(except when it's the summer,and the tourists come,LOL!).I love to give advice,and my friends say I'm really good at it.My friends came up with this crazy idea that I should go to this site and give other people advice.Whaddya know?I love it!I also think it's good practice,because I want to be a child phycologist someday(I know,isn't that wierd?I'm already starting to think about the future!)I also love music.I mostly listen to Country music like Kenny Chesney(isn't he so hott?),Big&Rich,Gretchen Wilson,and Rascal Flatts.I also listen to some alternative like Weezer,Hoobastank,Jack's Mannequin,and Simple Plan.I know,those are two totally diverse genres!Remember:If you need some good advice,just ask.I will usually get back to you in a day.

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I'm 14 year old gurl. okay to my question..I like my moms bestfriends son, my mom and his mom have been friends since highschool and there now around 40 years old. Anyways I like her son and he likes me too..we have discussed dating eachother, and really want to but our parents won't let us because their afraid if we break up that it will destroy their friendship, I just really want to date and be with him but dont want my mom and his to hatte me for it.

I think you need to talk to your mom about this.Tell her how you really like him,and so does the son.Try to convince her that if you guys do break up,the friendship won't be ruined.Sounds really obvious,but just try it!

hi,
i hav 3 friends that were my best lets say friend 1,2 and,3. i overheard them talkin about some one i assume is me. friend 1 said my name n then started whispering, friend 2 then said- i know with a dirty look and friend 3 kept on looking at me and then said- i don't like her either. i got upset and really really really really angry! i even start crying. my other friends were comforting me but im stressing over it, if i made a mistake because i stopped sitting next to them and talking to them.
about 2 days later(today) i was sitting next to friend 1(the closest) because i wasn't allowed to move and i passed her a note asking her wahat it was they didn't like about me and that i heard them talking about me. she just pushed it away . now i always hear them talking about me. it really hurts because i do care for friend 1 alot(not bothered too much about the 2 though).
they've started ignoring me completely.
i want to talk to them again but i don't want to
seem like a suck-up...help me please.
i kind of miss them...
yours stressingly
sad sad girl

They are not your friends!I kind of know how you feel,because this has happened to me.Just don't talk to them.It's their problem that they want to lose a good friend.

Right after I met Kate she was my very best friend. Now, Kate is moving. When I asked her parents why they had to leave, they had such stupid answers, and I'm going to miss her like crazy! I'm so upset that she's leaving me, it feels like the whole world is crashing down. Now what? How will I deal without her?

Friends moving is hard.You can still keep in touch with Kate.You can e-mail,call eachother,or IM.If she's just moving a few towns over,you could ask her parents if she could come visit you on the weekends(or you could visit her).You could have your parents ask Kate's parents why their moving,if their not giving you good answers.

ive been friends with lisa sinc freshman year. she moved lasts umemr but we were together like everyday last summer. we chilled a couple times over the year but still remained close. she started going out with this kid. he seemed really nice but he was really creepy. he hit on me and christina (lisas bestfriends) multiple times. hes over in texas right now for training and hes just such an asshole to her, i know he must be nervous but hes so mean. hes parranoid and always calls her names and assumes shes cheating but she doesnt even give any hints that she is. he called my phone over 9 times one night and i didnt answer cuz i dont want to deal with him shit to her. he left a voice mail saying mean stuff about lisa. first off.. no one messes with my friends. they broke up but now shes like talking to him and it just pisses me off. i cant talk to her if she talks to him, he was trying to send me mean messages on myspace, he called me fuckin fat and that hurts, even tho i know im not its still annoying. what can i do, i dont want her to have anything to do with him. oh yeah he told her he had a gf wen they were goin out and she replied"i never even cheated on u " and he goes i was kidden i justw anted to try to get it out of u. i hate him like all her friends hate him

You definatly need to tell your friend about this.first off,he shouldn't call you "f***in' fat".Second,he shouldn't accuse someone of cheating just so he can find out if he did.Third,he shouldn't be talking to you and harrassing you on Myspace.This guy is a total jerk!I don't even know why your friend is still talking to him!Just tell your friend what happened.

me and my group of friends about 9 of us always hang out together. theres 5 girls and they are each different. i noticed that they are competitive. because 1 of them im really good friends with and she tells me everything. she tells me about what the other girls say about her and how they said things to make her feel bad, because 2 of them liked my other friend rob.

it's a big mess, but now the other girls started to tell me stuff too. you kno what they all said? not to tell any1 anything they told me. so now almost all of them tell me things about how they dont like 1 or 2 of them because of things they said to them or said to other people. its confusing and they are trying to out-do the other just for my friend, and just to make sure that 1 girl doesnt get more attention than the other.

2 questions: why all this competition, i mean are girls always like this? and two, what should i do, stay out of it or help them? i've known them for a long time and i like all of them as friends, but they dont seem to get along. please help me

Girls naturally tend to be competitive(not all of them).I think you should stay out of it.Joining in will just make you more confused.

i love my best friend to death and I REALLY dont want to disobey her trust. see a while ago she told me all this stuff about how she has another world she can escape 2 and sometimes she feels like she doesnt know who she is. she sometimes even, she says, forgets her name. shes already tried talking to her parents and a therapist, and her parents have tried giving her pills. all of it, she says, just make her feel worse, like shes insane. she has a lot of friends, gets good grades, in whole leads a very normal life and acts perfectly normal. we didn't mention this for a while, but over the weekend i went down with her family to the beach. saturday night she started randomly dancing in the sand, running and spazzing randomly all over the place, inchined way to close to the firework display just so, as she put it, she could be close to the sea, and wrote the name's of random people we no in the sand. all of this is very unlike her, and i at the time half-jokingly asked her "if she was here as herself" she wudnt answer me for a while and then very quietly said "who else would i be" and then wouldnt answer any more questions. later that night i asked what was going on and she wouldnt tell me. one of our other friends was there, who doesnt no everything i no and said shes fine stop overreacting. iasked her if she "promised" she was fine (promise is our trust word) and she wouldnt promise. i tried talking her into talking to me cuz i just wanted to help, I didnt want her to go through whatever it was alone. she wouldnt say anything. the next morning everything was back to normal. i dont know what to do and i cant tell anyone because i REALLY REALLY REALLY cant betray her trust like that. please help.

You are not betraying your friend's trust if your trying to help her.Talk you your parents...maybe they can tell her parents.She needs help,and she will thank you one day...if you tell.

My friend is doing drugs a lot. She smokes weed every day and does ecstacy a few times a week. I have talked to her about it a lot, and she's not going to change. I don't know if I should tell her mom or do something else. So what should I do?

Yes!You definatly need to tell her mom.It's important that she know.Then,she could get help for her daughter.Just tell your mom,and have your mom call her mom or something.Hope I helped!

-Lady M ♥

Well, my situation is as followed.

I have two best friends. One of which I dated, and we broke up. Now my other best friend whom is a girl, always thought my boyfriend was hot and lusted after him.

I trusted both of them completely, and not even a month after we broke up they had sex. Well, If one of them would of told me - it would of been nice but I found out thru HER ex boyfriend, and only because there was a pregnancy scare.

I feel betrayed because she promised she would never do anything with him, and I am still in love with him and she knew that when she did what she did.

He's away at basic in the army, and I had to deal with her. Her response was, "It's in the past, I cant do anything about it now." and her explanation for the event happening was that He started it, and she said (I quote) "I'm a ho, It's in my blood. Someone wants to hit this, I let them!"

I don't know how to deal with this situation. I didnt deck her like I wanted to, but I stayed over at her house and chilled that day because I wasn't sure how to react. Now she calls and I don't want to anwser her phone calls...how do I deal with this?

She seems to feel no remorse for it.. wants to be friends still..

But I know I can't just go on without having my say in it or else I will always feel bitter.

Yes it's in the past but the consequences are NOW.

I need help right away!

Sorry to say this but:She deserves to have the cold shoulder from you.She had sex with your ex not even a month after you broke up,and that's just not right.No one's reason should be,"I'm a ho,it's in my blood.Someone wants to hit this,I let them!"That's just foolish,and dumb.This girl shouldn't even be considered a friend.You should definatly talk your "friend" about this.Tell her how you feel about it,and everything else.

-Lady M♥

My best friend is everything to me, but sometimes we make plans and she ends up ditchin me. And she always says that SHE'LL BE THERE, and then I ask her if she if going and she says "no", and when I ask "why" she says "I made plans before" and that absolutly ticks me off. And I get sooooo mad at her that I end up calling her a name or something. I always think that she talks about me because we kinda fight when we're not together. What do I do? Not be her friend? or... tell her to screw herself? or just ignore it and keep being her "friend"?

This must really annoy you.I know how you feel.Just tell her she said she'd already go with you.But if she still keeps doing this,maybe she just isn't a real friend.Don't ignore this,it will only get worse.

I'm not a good friend. I don't do it on purpose but I let friends go easy. They like, move to a different school and we say we'll stay in touch...but then I don't call.

If friends want me I'm like there for them and all but I dunno I find it hard to meet new people and speak to them cos I'm quite shy so I'm losing friends and can't make new ones so I'm left out a lot and feel very lonely.

What can i do to get new friends and be better at keeping the old ones?

You're not a bad friend,you just don't know how to make/keep them.The best way to make friends is to talk to them.Just start a small conversation.It might be a little hard for you because you are shy,but just try it.You could also invite someone that you want to be friends with to go somewhere with you.Like the movies,or to the beach.

Keeping friends is a little easier.If they invite you to go somewhere,by all means go!Call them on the phone once in a while.It's harder for some people to keep in touch with friends over the summer because you don't see them at school.

Those are some things you can do to make/keep friends.Hope I helped!

there is this guy i used to be best friends with years ago. he ignored me all of a sudden, and now its weird. i miss him so much, and i have finally have come clean and told him. we are friends now, but its not the same like it used to. we dont really hang out. my (girl) best friend now is bff with him just like him and me were. they are so so close and like each other and it makes me so sad and jealous. i am tired of beating myself up just because he liek sher and not me. =[ please help me i have no idea wat to do.

This must be really tough for you.Don't beat yourself up for something that really isn't your fault.Maybe he just wanted to break out to a new group of friends.Just tell him how you feel.He can't be friends with you like he used to be if he doesn't know how you really feel.Just talk to him.See what happens.

I have a secret crush and she dosent know it, or at least i dont think she does, she has a bf and she really likes him, i have had a crush on her for awhile even before her bf but i had a gf at that time, should i try to go for it or leave her alone?

The only thing you can do right now is wait.You don't want to be the reason why your crush and her bf broke up.Just leave her be for now.When the two of them are over,wait a little then tell her how you feel.

I'm really tired of my current friend group. They are all fake, not trustworthy,inconsiderate, they always talk about their friends behind their back...they probablly even talk about me. I've talked to them about this problem but they just ignore it, and continue.

I started talking to a new girl at school this year, and we really got along well. We never hung out or anything because she has her own friend group so i was afraid to...

I want to invite her over this summer though and hang out with her. The problem is im really shy and it's kind-of hard for me to talk to new people that i want to like me...and i really really want her to like me.

My question is how should i invite her over, what should we do, what should i talk about, and how to I relax and continue conversation... and have fun =]

thankie thankkkkies!

-Anna, age 15

Find out what she likes("I love country music!How about you?"),then talk to her about it.You could invite her to go to the movies or the beach.Just ask her straight out if she wants to do something with you.Good luck!

My friend is really selfish. I mean, she's my best friend but she's so damn selfish. Like, when I go to her house, she eats stuff right in front of me. She never asks if I want anything. And she doesn't let me play her Nintendo DS. She's really spoiled too. It annoys me so much because she has all these things that my mom would never get me. And I want to play a freaking video game and she's so "NOOOO! PUT IT DOWN! I DON'T LIKE IT WHEN PEOPLE PLAY MY GAMES!" It's like, shut the f up! I'm so tired of it. What should I do?

I know alot of people like that.Just stay away from her,that's all I can say.

okay, there's this gorgeous boy I know. He's completely flawless, and I have a big thing for him. One of my friends tells me that he actually likes me. Naturally, I was thirlled, but there's on problem: HE WON'T GO OUT WITH ME!! There's a lot going on with him, I guess. I mean we still flirt, hang out, etc., but does this mean I should lay off him in terms of flirting? the things have nothing to do with me [more-so family], but does that mean I should leave him be for now? thanks

If you both are doing the flirting(not just you)and you guys still hang out(even while he's trying to work out his problems),then I don't see why you should stay away from him.Be patient while he works out his problems.If he likes you,he'll ask you.

hey my names maddy
my two best frends are guys
one has a girlfriend who im frends with and ones single
ever since i met them, both of them have liked me on and off but they dont know i know that..
i like both of them in that way aswell just not alot and i hav too much of a single life now to drop it all for a boy
what do i do when eventually one of them asks me out? i dont want to loose my best frends.... but then again i like them...

The thing about dating your friends is that if you break up,your friendship will probably never be the same.So,ask yourself this question:Am I willing to give up a good friendship?When you answer that question,you will have also answered the other question.

lol..i didnt know wat category to put this under but here it goes... im 14/f & i am emo. people think that emo people are freaks. but we are not! we think of life in a different way. my problem is that people are making fun of me. thay call me a loser & stuff like that. i really dont care what people say but there is this girl that keeps on bugging me. she keeps on telling me that she is gonna jump me & stuff. i already told her that i didnt want to start a fight with her. but she wont listen. she is still bugging me.& its getting too far because she has been threatening me. how can i make her stop? thanks 4 your help. =]

There's really nothing wrong with being an emo.You're off to a good start,by telling this girl you don't want to fight her.If these threats are major(like,"I'm going to kill you!"),then you need to tell someone.Even if the threats aren't major,you still need to tell someone.If she still keeps bugging you,just tell her.Be like,"Hey (insert girl's name here),you are really bugging me.Just stop it!"I know this sounds lame but if it can work for me,it can work for you!

I really hate my uncle's girlfriend. she isn't nice and i think she's making my whole family treat me wrong. And I'm the one whose wrong when i try to stand up for myself to them or tell them the problem i'm having. how do i deal?

Woah!She sounds like a witch!Okay,you need to talk to your uncle...alone!Make sure you talk to him when he's not busy or doing something.Just be like,"Uncle bob,I really don't like the way your girlfriend is treating me!"If he continues to make you sound "wrong" because you stood up to her and told him the problem you were having,just give it time.Hey,a relationg ship can't last forever right?

so theres this girl and we were friends for a long time since 5th grade .. but this year we kinda stopped talking.. idk why but the people who we hated in september now shes BEST friends with them.. and it made me mad in the begining but now it doesnt bug me.. so we made plans sometime in december when we were close and we had a great time and lauging and everything and then the next day we went to the mall and had fun again.. but then after that we started talking less and less everyday.. we were in the same math class and lunch table and we hardly talked to eachother..i felt like we werent hanging out and talking much so i decided to try to become better friends with her again by asking her to go to this carnival by my house and she said yes so i went to go pick her up except my sister(one of her friends but they dont do anything out of school) and her best friend(my sisters best friend) went too! so this girl who i invited wasnt even hanging out with me just talking to them because shes better friends with them and i was like in myhead.. uh hello i invited you ! so then when we got there they ran off and me and this girl started walking around but we ddint really have enouigh money to buy those bracelt things so we didnt know if we should buy tickets.. so for like 20 minutes we were like in dead silencewalking around.. and it was really awkward cause everytime i tried to start a conversation or laugh or something she would just be like..yeah..whatever and keep walking and so then i said how bout we go get more money from my mom and buy tickets and so she said yeah.. and so we went on the rides and laughed a couple times but it was still awkward around her.. i thought she was ina bad mood that night or something but then when we ran out of tickets on our last ride.. my sister and her friend came right behind us and i was left out again because im not really friends with the other girl either. idk if i should keep on trying to be friends with this girl or not..it seems like evry time i try to talk to her or hang out with her its so awkward sorry that its long..

You are obviously trying really hard to be this girls friend,and it sounds like she couldn't care less.Heres's what you do:Sit her down and confront her about this.Tell her how you feel about it.If she still doesn't care,maybe you should just move on.

im really mad. lately ive been missing my clothes. i went to my BEST friends cabin with her last weekend and when we got back i realized that i was missing a pair of my pants and then today i go to wear one of my newer tank tops and thats missing and then one of my cami's are missing. i brought all these to the cabin and now theyre gone when i get home? im positive that i didnt leave it at her cabin because we were in the tent together the whole time and i would of seen that i left it in the tent. i kind of think that my friend took it or something because what else could of happened to it? i go to her cabin with all my clothes and now when i come back theyre all missing?..i asked her about my jeans and im like did you take them on accident or something and shes like noo i didnt see them when im unpacking. this is REALLY making me mad actually i started crying because also before that i lost one of my brown tank tops. theye all missing all my clothes. also i went swimming with her yesterday and she doesnt have a swimsuit so she had to borrow mine but she never gave it back she just went home with it on so how do i get that back too now? what should i do? when i asked my mom about my tank tops and if she washed them shes like no..maybe your friends arent that trustworthy? i cant go to my friends apartment because her mom is weird and she doesnt like people going in there..i havent even been in there once so there is no way i could actually go look myself. what if my friend is lying to me and has all my clothes? what should i do. because its making me really mad..and also my parents too we dont have the money to go replace all my clothes. and my friend is also suppose to go on vacation with us in like a couple weeks but now im kinda pissed at her but i cant accuse her because i cant prove she took them but where else could they have gone??

well thanks for taking your time...

Just ask her straight out if she stole them.Yeah I know that might sound obvious,but that's what you have to do.Just be like,"Hey,did you take my (insert clothing item here)?If you did,can I have it back?".If she says she didn't take it just say,"Well,I've looked everywhere,so you must have them!".If she still denies it,she doesn't have them.

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