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imk Nikki im a 11 yeear old girl. my best friend is hanging out with a girl im not that close too. i mean ive been friends with her since 2nd grade. but recently we drifted and havent hung for a while. now she just blows me off and never wants to hang out. and whenever her and someone else hang out she always video chats me and makes me jealous. i dont understand. are we true friends?

Hey there,
I understand how you must be feeling. We have all experienced something like this at some stage or another. Unfortunately sweetie it's a part of life and growing up.
People Change, I know it's not nice and it hurts, but it happens.
It may happen to you a few times over the course of your life but the truly great friends who are worth holding on to, won't treat you like a hot topic one day.. then yesterdays news the next.
I hate to say it but this girl only has her own interests at heart. She is immature and is taken up with the idea of having new friends. Sure, it's okay for you guys to have separate friends but blowing you off and making you jealous? what does that say about her? you're better than that. Don't let yourself be treated that way. You seem like a very mature girl for your age. Unfortunately for some girls it takes a while for them to mature and respect friendships. Move on. You'll find friends who are worthy of your friendship and who will stick with you through thick and thin. You're only eleven you have years ahead of you to form life long bonds and trust me you will! don't let this one silly girl get you down. Smile and be happy :)
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My best friend is visiting me for two weeks and I'm not sure what we should do. We are both 12 and won't have very easy access to transportation. What could we do?

Hey there,
Why not get a load of dvds and have a girly night in? Get some chocolate popcorn and juunk and just chill? You could get face masks too. Me and my best friend used to do this all the time. Paint each others nails do make up etc. We used to get dressed up and just take a bunch of goofy pictures when we were that age too lol.
Baking is also fun. Make some cool cupcakes or cookies?
Make a random youtube video? If you have transportation go to the mall movies bowling etc.
If not why not take a walk to the park if there is one near you?
Invite more friends over for a sleepover one night.
If you put your heads together you can come up with more ideas! Good luck and have fun
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I went over to my friends house the other day with four other people. Two of them are dating and the other two are dating also. We watched a movie and all my 2 friends did was make out! Is it stupid for me to think that it was really rude? I mean they could have at least gone into a different room right? I think there is a limit on PDA and they crossed it.... Is that wrong to think this? Oh btw I'm 14 and a girl.

Hey there,
No of course not. It's not wrong to think that at all.
It's always awkward/uncomfortable when two people start making out right in front of you!Especially when you were all meant to be hanging out and watching a movie. It's always tough having to be the third wheel. It was unfair of them to put you in that situation. You are right if they had any respect they would have moved to another room. I recently went travelling with a group of friends,one night we came back to our hostel and two of my friends started having sex in the bunk next to mine. It was disgusting and down right disrespectful,not to mention there was a girl we didn't know sleeping in the bunk below them.
Some people just don't have any consideration. If it happens again politely ask them to stop or move.
If not just don't hang out with them if that's all they are going to do. There is a time and a place.
It may seem old fashioned or whatever,I'm all for holding hands and kissing in public but there is a fine line. Practically kissing the face of one another and mauling each other just isn't nice to see.
Hope I answered your question.
Good luck and much

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Okay, so the other day my two best friends got into a fight and they haven't talked since. My other friend and I have something to do, and the other one is inviting me to do something, and I know that if I choose a side, I'll end up losing one of the two, and honestly, I just want them to get over it, and we could be okay again. Any help on this?

Hey there,
This is always a difficult situation. It's never nice being stuck in the middle.
You need to explain to both of them (if they agree to sit down together) If not individually. And tell them that you will not take sides.
Explain how that would be completely unfair of them to expect you to do that. Tell them you love them both equally and value their friendship. Explain how you are not just going to stop seeing one over the other. Express your concern over their falling out and hopefully they can sort it out so you can all get back to hanging out together.
I'm sure they will get over it eventually. Until then make it clear you want them BOTH as friends and see them separately or if they can't handle that not at all. Until they sort it out.
Also make it clear that you will not tolerate either of them bitching about the other in your presence as you wan't to remain impartial and stay out of it.
If they keep being pissy about it just distance yourself from them until they learn to grow up. You don't need other peoples drama in your life.
Good luck and much

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A few months ago my exboyfriend and I split up after he cheated on me. I've forgiven him for his transgressions (for my sake, not his--hatred is toxic), but for some reason it still really bothers me that we have some mutual friends. I guess the vindictive side of me wanted everyone to turn against him after he hurt me. Why is this? How can I get these feelings to go away? I feel more anger towards my friends for still speaking to him than I do towards him for cheating on me at this point.

Hey there, I understand how you are feeling,and I can see how that could hurt. But you must understand they probably didn't want to take sides. I know that sucks given what he did but people have their own opinion on things. Are your friends a mix of guys and girls? I can understand why guys would still tall to him brotherhood and all that. Your gorlfriends should be more understanding. However the dact is you cant expect them not to be friends with him. He never actually did anything to them personally. So it would be getting involved in other peoples business if they do wgich they probably wanna stay well enough out of. They probably called him out on it but forgiven him. Like you said hatred is toxic. I suggest you let go of yours towards your friends too as when you think about they havnt actually done any wrong here. Good luck and much

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okay, I've had this friend for almost 4 years on and off;

well about three weeks ago, she came over and stayed the night; and everything was fine. I took her home the next morning; and we talked a little bit after that;
which is normal; we don't talk every single day; just here and there.


well, today I get on facebook and I was going to tell her I missed her on her wall; and when I did, I realized we weren't friends on there anymore.

So I texted her, and I asked her how come we weren't friends on FB anymore, and NO TEXT BACK.

I sent two more about an hour apart; and nothing.


Well, I found out that she has a new facebook because she is still friends with my mother; and her status said 'new facebook, had to get some people off my other one-add me'

and I sent her a message saying 'idk if you got my texts, but im just curous as to why you deleted me; everything was great between us; and I know I haven't done anything to you; I would like an explaination and than I will leave you alone'


and nothing.


Idk what the hell happened; and I obviously can't ask her because she won't talk to me..

any advice?

Hey there, Hmm that is a little strange alright. I hate to say it but she obviously isn't a real friend if she just goes and deletes you off facebook without an explanation! Her actions were selfish and immature not to mention inconsiderate of your feelings. You don't need people like that in your life. I know it hurts but she isn't worth it. I know you really want an explanation.but you have done your bit and she refuses to reply. It just shows she is a coward who slyly deleted you off of facebook becase she can't handle confrontation. I would not text her again. its only giving her ammunition. You dont wanna come off desperate. Dont buy into her crap. What you cold do is ask another friend do they know why she deleted you and wont text back. Other than that I would say move on people like that are not worth your time or energy. Good luck and much

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I'm sorry if this should be in the family section but this is about a conversation I had with one of my best guy friends. I'm 16/f

Well somehow we got into the topic about how guys can't date or hook up with their best friends sister, so first question is shouldn't that be up to the sister? Shouldn't she get a say in this?
And then he started talking about how it's because brothers are protective of their sisters and I understand it's because they don't want to see us girls get hurt but why can't they realize we can take care of ourselves we aren't babies and don't guys understand that whether they like it or not we will get hurt, it can't be prevented. Is this just by instinct or something?
But don't get me wrong I am greatful that u guys have my back I appreciate it I just don't understand some of the reasoning behind it
Thanks and I hope my questions were clear

Hey there,
I guess it's pretty much a loyalty thing between guys.
You're right it should be as much the girls decision as the guys but unfortunately it rarely is. It's just another silly aspect of society and what is deemed "acceptable" and "unacceptable"
You would think a guy would be happy his friend wants to date his sister seeing as they trust them the most.
But for some reason it's almost always seen as betrayal.
Of course this is a general stereotype there are some guys out there who are dating their best friends sister.
A lot of it could also be down to jealousy. The guy may feel pushed out and left out if his best friend suddenly got with his sister. He would have less time to spend with him. When he comes over to his house instead of spending time with him he is there for his sister.
Switch the roles around. How would you feel if your best friend got with your brother?and suddenly you rarely saw her or hung out with or anymore? pretty sucky. That can be another reason behind it.
My cousins brother got with her best friend and at first she hated it but she soon came around once her friend made time for both of them. That's the important thing should this situation arise that all involved are not left feeling ignored or pushed aside.
That's my take on it anyway I hope it helped!
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My best friend has been getting into drugs the last month, and she is now addicted to Cocaine. Her parents and sister know, as well as me and almost everyone in school. She doesn't know how much we all want to help her, and shes getting out of control. She ran out of her house the other day because her mom said she had to do the laundry, she flipped off her mom before she left. Her mom ended up calling me crying asking me questions about her and whats been going on. I explained everything.

I told her she was addicted to Cocaine. Which she already found out. I told her that she doesn't care about anything anymore.

She has always told me that I'm her best friend and she cares so much about me, but now she says that she hates me and I am a hypocrite (She told me this after I said I want her to be healthy again). I get that the drugs are messing with her head, but is there Anything I can do to make her see how much she needs to smarten up?

She has to be able to want the help first, I understand this, but I don't know if she will even talk to me anymore..?

Help???

Hey there,
I understand this is a very tough and painful situation but I think it's time you think about taking a step back. Like you said she has to WANT the help first. No amount of pleading with her is going to make her see that. From first hand experience (uncle was on drugs for years)
You have to let them hit rock bottom. It's horrible and painful to watch but once she realizes she has managed to push everyone away then she will reach out.
The best you can do is let her know how much you love her and will always be there for her. Let her know how scary and out of control her behaviour is. That if she doesn't seek help she is going to end up dead. Try one last attempt at an intervention. Lay it all out. Suggest rehab and counselling. After that the ball is really in her court. There is only so much you can do for someone without becoming emotionally drained yourself.
You shouldn't feel like you are giving up on her either you're just giving her the time she needs to hopefully come to her senses. You will be there for her when she does.
Good luck and I'm sorry I couldn't be of more specific help.
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Is there anyone out there that feels as lonely as i do? Due to the job I do I have sustained a lot of stress and as a result I have lost most if not all of my friendships. I feel upset that I don't have any females friends who I can chill with and talk about stuff with. I want to know if I am the only other female feeling this way.

Hey there,
You are not alone. Everyone feels lonely from time to time. It's only natural. I currently feel the same way as you do. All my friends left for college last September while I decided to take a year out.They have since moved on and made new friends. I still talk to them via twitter text and facebook and we meet up from time to time but it's not the same.
I sometimes feel isolated during the week until the weekends when I have the possibility of seeing them.
Maybe you need to consider the benefits of this job. Is all the stress really worth it?Especially if it's making you lose your friendships. It's not healthy for one to be consumed with work and in the meantime become cut off from almost everyone around them.
I know you need your job. Especially in the current economic state,but is there any way you could possibly reconnect with your old friends?
Organize to see them again explain the pressure and stress you felt due to your workload? surely they are bound to understand. It happens to the best of us.
Also why don't you try doing some things to relieve stress?reading walking,listening to music,baking,yoga,shopping among the endless possibilities. you need to make time for yourself and your relationships. If your job is preventing it I would consider looking for a new one or speaking to your boss about reducing your work load perhaps. Friends are really the greatest de-stressers. If you don't have them you're just going to become more stressed.
If re connecting with your old friends isn't an option why not try and make some new ones?
Take up a new hobby? or night course.
Something to get you socializing.
good luck and I hope I helped.
If you ever need someone to talk to my inbox is always open.
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I am a sophomore in college. Last year I guess I had a little too much fun. i had sex with a lot of guys and i regret
it. i was never given the time of day from boys in highschool and the fact that guys wanted to hook up with me actually
made me feel good about myself. but my self confidence is a different problem. my friends are awful to me and always make fun of my past sex life and keep asking how many
people ive had sex with. i dont want to tell them but i dont
know what to say. i know what i did was wrong but ive changed and i regret it and im sick of being disrespected. i know they are awful friends and i should find new ones
but i want to gain my friends respect. whenever i try to stick up for myself they dont take me seriously. what can i say to stick up for myself that will actually make them stop?

Hey there,
Okay so you made a mistake. We all do we're only human. The fact that you recognized it and have learned from it says a hell of a lot.
You should never have to justify yourself to anyone.
No one should have to be reminded of their past mistakes and regrets and made feel bad about it continuously.
You hit the nail on the head when you said you need to find new friends. Why should you have to prove yourself to anyone? Is it worth sucking up to these people in attempt to gain respect?when you can find people who will respect you straight off the bat?
If they were true friends they would understand that what they are doing is hurting your feelings and stop.
Sure everyone can take a joke or a tease about stuff but there is a fine line.
I'm sure they have done stuff in the past that they are not proud of. I would tell you to throw something back in their faces but that would be lowering yourself to that standard.
Walk away. It really isn't worth constantly trying to defend yourself.
Remember you don't need to sleep around to feel good or wanted. As I'm sure you know. The right guy will come along who will make you feel the way you should just by loving you.
Good luck and I hope this helped.
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i'm really good friends with this guy and i don't know if he has feelings for me or if i'm just reading to much into it. he always has my back and is there for me like every friend is but he also teases me a lot, which i know may not be a big deal, but sometimes at random moments he tells me how beautiful i am and how i have an amazing personality and looks out for me.....is he just being a good friend?
i am 16 and a female

Hey there,
No one can tell you for sure as only he knows the answer.
It's always tough trying to guess if a guy likes you or what's going on in his head. They say one thing and mean another half the time.
Telling you you're beautiful and have an amazing personality is a great indication.
Does he flirt with you a lot?
You could try sending him one of those fun questionnaire things through text. My friend and I used to do that a lot. You the ones that ask name age how we met what you like most about me would you date me would you kiss me..That sort of thing. That way you can take note of his answers.
Or you could always just come right out and ask him. As nerve racking as that is. But you have nothing to lose. Especially if you have feelings for him yourself. Be bold.
Hope this helps
good luck and much

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Please help me! I just don't know what to do! My friend has a date for the prom and then he asked her out and she said yes! Me and my friend Madelyn don't have dates for prom or boyfriend.
Ever since, she's been ditching me and her other friend for her boyfriend and other couples.

It's hard to talk to her! Let's say me and Madelyn, her used to be only two friend haven't hung out with her in forever. Whenever I try to talk to Jasmine on Facebook she responds a lot slower than usual and whenever I ask what she's gonna do today, she says she's going to hang out with her boyfriend or her new friends, who are also together. During lunch at school she eat with them and me and Madelyn are left alone. Jasmine is even starting to hang out with people she said that she hated! I can't talk to her, it's awkward and I don't know what to do about her. Me and Madelyn feel completely left out of her life nowadays and she seems more happy with her new friends and boyfriend than with her old two friends.

I can't take it any more. Her behaviour is hurting our friendship in my view. Please tell me what to do! :(

Hey there,
Okay well if she is ditching you and your other friend for her boyfriend and new friends then she isn't really a true friend is she?Think about it.
If she actually cared about you and your other friend she would make time to hang out with you and make the effort with you.
Move on from this girl. it's not worth the hurt or the hassle.
Girls who ditch their friends for their boyfriends almost always end up regretting it months down the line when they are single and friendless.
It's the whole boyfriends may come and go but friends are forever thing.
You and Madelyn should confront her about her behaviour. Let her know how you feel how she's treating you. How it's unacceptable.
sometimes.
It's her loss at the end of the day.
She is not acting like a true friend.
good luck and I hope this helps.
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At school and around others I feel like I really just don't fit in.. everyone else is on Twitter and facebook, everyone talks about chart music whereas I have no one who can relate to my taste in music e.g bands like arctic monkeys & oasis.. I always want to die my hair different colours and wear really stand out clothes but I don't have many friends at all and I'm really shy.. what I want to know is, although it may sound really stupid, should I change myself so I can fit in more?

Hey there,
You should NEVER change yourself just to conform with society or fit in with people.
You are who you are and that's unique and wonderful.
We are not all the same and that's what makes life interesting.
If you change yourself you will be unhappy as you will have to keep up an act just to have something in common with people. Its mentally stressful and not healthy.
Its great that you like those bands and want to dye your hair. That defines you. Stay true to yourself.
Find friends who will accept you for you.
Not all friends have absolutely EVERYTHING in common. My group of friends and I are a complete mix of personalities! My best friend is sort of into rock and indie music whereas I prefer the more current stuff. She wears skinny jeans and cons whereas I wear floral dresses and boots etc.
Get to know people they will respect you more for being yourself and not a poser Honestly:)
best of luck and much

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Well,I have a boyfriend,he has so many friends and hasn't stopped meeting them as well as hanging out with them since we first met,I just felt like giving more importance to the relationship from the very beginning of it,so I started to lose contact with everyone of them,all of a sudden I realized I was completely alone,just my partner and I.So now I'd like to get them back or make more friends I don't know,it's not fair that my bf can still have his friends and I don't,I'm feeling like I was only devoted to him,I don't wanna do that anymore,there are some weekends when he goes to parties or nightclubs along with his friends and I just stay home watching a movie with my cat:(the whole night thinking about my friends and all the things we used to do together back then when I was a single one.

Hey there,
You're right it isn't fair that he has a great circle of friends and your left on your own.
Whats stopping you from going with him?
mixing with his group of friends?getting him to introduce you to some of his friends?
It's not natural that he keeps his girlfriend and friends separate. I mean my boyfriend hangs out with me and my friends all the time and vice versa. Talk to your boyfriend about how your feeling alone and left out. Tell him how much you miss your friends and having a social life. He is bound to understand.
In the meantime why not get back in contact with your old friends?see how they're doing what they are up to? maybe ask to hang out ? talk about old times to break the ice.
apologize for losing contact. say that you didn't mean to come across as the type that forgets all about their friends but you were just so excited about having a new relationship. It happens if they are good friends they will understand.
If that doesn't work or is not an option why not think about taking up a hobby? something that will allow you to meet new people?
have a think about it :)
best of luck and I hoped I helped.
If you have anymore questions feel free to inbox me.
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Ok, I had a group of really close friends in middle school and high school, me and three other girls. We would spend EVERY weekend together, all weekend, despite the fact that we all went to different high schools. I'm not trying to be egotistical but I was the popular, smart, athletic, and pretty one in our group, the other girls got didn't have any interest in boys, C-averages, didn't play sports, and were a little on the heavy side, but they were my best friends. Now we are sophomores in high school and the guy that one of my friend likes, likes me and she's bitching at me, because she is basically blaming me and saying I was to, I don't even know, likable I guess? But I tried to explain to her that the only reason I even talked to him was because i was trying to hook them up, but now he likes me and I don't even know him really. I need to figure out what to do. I have grown apart from the other two girls because they turned on me for no reason and made better friends since but I don't want to lose another best friend over something so stupid. How Do I Get My Friend Back?

Hey there :)
Okay well what it seems to me is that perhaps your friends feel a little threatened by you? that sounds harsh maybe insecure around you?
As you said yourself you are the pretty out going ones. They are more shy reserved. The probably feel like they aren't noticeable in comparison to you.
I'm not saying this to try and make you feel bad or guilty you have a great personality and you shouldn't change it. But try and see it a little bit from their perspective.
Your friend is probably feeling totally rejected that the guy she liked ended up liking you..it's not a nice feeling.
My best friend was the one who used to get all the male attention even though people would always tell me I was prettier and had a nicer personality.
They probably feel a bit stuck in your shadow. I felt that way for ages with my friend until I got more confidence in myself.
You might say well it's not my fault they feel that way I'm not going to change to make them feel better and that's true but show them you have some understanding.
Talk to them and explain it wasn't your intention to get that guy to like you it was to help your friend. Ask them why they are growing apart from them.. have a heart to heart.
Help them to be more confident and out there like you. Tell them you value their friendship they could be feeling like you are too "cool"for them.
Ask them what's going on
Don't patronize them but ask how they are feeling what they think of you to be honest with you.
If they don't want to listen to you or stay friends with you well they are being immature and need to figure out how to overcome their insecurities.
In that case it's time for you to move on as hard as that can be. If they are true friends after you all sit down and talk get emotions and stuff out there then things should be fine.
Hope this helped..If you have anymore questions please feel free to inbox me :)
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A few of my close friends have started drinking and hooking up with random people at parties & they're only 16, yet i'm totally against it because i have my own morals and i have made pledges to myself for certain reasons. But now they exclude me by not inviting me to things and such because i"m ultimately not "cool" enough because i don't drink and stuff. my best friend has ditched me for another one of my friends because she is in to drinking and thought she got pregnant. I've never dissed them for what they do, i just don't do it and they respect that. but it doesn't mean they have exclude me from everything? Please help, i don't know what to do ???

You ought to be really proud of yourself for staying true to yourself and who you are and not giving in to peer pressure :)
I have to say I find your maturity inspiring. Ask yourself if these people are willing to not make an effort with you because you aren't willing to drink and have sex can you actually count them as "friends"
I know its tough and you must be feeling incredibly lonely but these people are not worth hanging around with. They are way too immature.
In fact my best friend is a lot like that. She used to hang out with me and another girl in school but then ditch us at parties and stuff to get drunk and go off with random guys. She eventually moved schools and it was the best thing that ever happened to me I was not stuck in her immature shadow I branched out and I found my current group of friends who are just amazing. We have the best fun and we drink (Im legal) but responsibly. We have good morals values trust and loyalty. You will find a group of friends like that who are just as mature as you. Its hard leaving friends but it happens in life so many times.
They might look down and say your not cool,but your the one having the last laugh. When they grow up and finally mature if they ever,they will be the ones thinking god if only we had sense. Especially your girl friends if they get pregnant which is highly likely at the rate they are going.
Remember they are the ones building up an endless list of regrets and mistakes. Not you. :) Branch out. Youl find better responsible friends. They are out there somewhere join after school groups volunteer :)
Hope this helps
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I want to say something to make her know im thinking about her at all times, that she is amazing and everything i want what do i say?

Hey there :)
aw thats sweet my boyfriend is like you too :)
What he does is text me every morning before school good morning beautiful and then at the end of the day he asks me how it went.
we could be talking about something and he will randomly say i love you..or your amazing..or I love your smile your laugh..etc.
Text her and let her know you miss her.
Its the small things that count :)
Don't over compliment but don't under compliment either.
We just like little reminders that you think about us and that you care. those sort of things work.
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hey!:) i'm in a bit of a predicament and i was hoping you could help! i'm 18f.

so me and this guy have known each other for 5 years now .. we call each other best friend but we really have this weird relationship where we're more than friends but we're not having sex or anything. he's also my cousins neighbor. anyway my cousin doesn't like him anymore because she thinks he is always playing me (even though we're not even dating) and just dumb things like that. she doesn't even like us hanging out, when truly we're close friends. one time i was at his house and we were sitting outside by his pool and she seen us out her window and texted me saying "why are you over there with him??" it's like hellooo we're friends what the hell. and the funny thing is she has this boyfriend that she keeps going back to after he constantly yells at her and they always fight and he treats her like shit and she thinks she can tell me who to hang out with?

the problem is my cousin is one of my best friends so i hate her hating that i'm hanging out with him, especially when she knows since she can see whenever i'm at his house. i even tell her we're just friends but she still gets pissed .. i don't know what to do!!

Hey there..
hm this is a bit of a predicament all right! il do my best :)
okay so yes your cousin really has no right to dictate like that to you.
there could be a number of reasons why shes doing it too! what struck me most was the most obvious.have you considered she might be jealous?maybe she has some sort of underlining crush on this guy?(I dont know just a thought) as that would explain her hostility.
she may also just be over protective and think shes looking out for you.
either way you need to talk to her..tell her shes one of your bestfriends but so is this guy..and your not prepared to loose either && tell her in the nicest way possible to step back tell her you dont get involved in her relationship or friendships and don't tell her who she should/shouldnt hang out with & that she should do the same,tell her you hope she can respect that.
If she can't tell her you don't want to fall out or feel like you have to chose one over the other but lets face it nobody wants to be around someone like that even if they are family.
you guys need to talk and thrash it out basicly in a civil way.
this girl needs to see sense otherwise shes gonna loose alot of close friends.
I hope she gives you your space otherwise your gonna have to make a choice between them both something I hope and im sure you hope won't happen.
I hope this helps!
good luck & anymore questions please feel free to inbox me :)
Jess-16/f

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My friend's boyfriend is cheating on her. I've seen him hooking up with plenty of other girls before.

I've told him that he's hurting her, that he should man up and tell her about it, etc. but he refuses.

What do I do? Should I tell my friend? Do I have a right to meddle in her relationship like this, even though her boyfriend's being an unfaithful bastard?

Hey there.
ugh im sorry to hear this your friend deserves better I hate guys like that.
If I were you I'd definately tell her I know it might feel like your medeling but think about it if it were you wouldnt you wanna know?
its gonna hurt her like hell but youl be doing the right thing by telling her what you know.
It will be ten times worse if she finds out by someone else or that you already knew.
Just let her know what youve seen and that youl be there for her..and that you dont wanna get involved in her relationship but you thought she ought to know..then take a step back and let her make her decision.
Hopefully she will dump his ass imediately & is not one of theese girls that gets blinded by love and sweet talked easily.
If she reacts badly or doesnt believe you which is unlikely but it does happen.. in that case just take a step back until she comes to her senses. :)
Don't worry your being a good friend and your friend will apreciate it be there for her she doenst need this jeerk.
good luck and hope this helped
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My friend and I are 15. She's beautiful and desperate for a boyfriend (even though she refuses that shes desperate). She is planning to lose her virginity to a guy we know soon. They aren't going out and haven't known each other for more than a year. I've told her the first time should be special and that she should be in love first. She's nervous and I know she'll regret it. What can I tell her to make her change her mind? Thanks.

Heyy there.
ok first let me say wait a go for being responsable by telling your friend that because your absolutely right.
She doesnt even know this guy and she probably isnt emotionally ready.
try to explain to her the consequence os if she goes through with it.
she will most likely feel like shit after it and regret it,she will have the bad expierience of her first time for LIFE..AND she may also get branded a slut if it got out.
unfortunately you cant make your friends decisions for her. what you can do is do your best to influence them in the right way.
Hopefully she will see sense and make the right choice.
if its the wrong one there not much you can do as if shes gonna do it shes gonna do it.
in that case at least you will know you warned her.
be there for her after if things don't go as she planned refrain from saying i told you so..as she will most likely realise her mistakes by then anyway.
i really hope it doesnt come to that,and that your friend makes the right choice.
either way your a good friend and i hope this elps! :)
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