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Why? I don't get it
I'm sorry if this should be in the family section but this is about a conversation I had with one of my best guy friends. I'm 16/f
Well somehow we got into the topic about how guys can't date or hook up with their best friends sister, so first question is shouldn't that be up to the sister? Shouldn't she get a say in this?
And then he started talking about how it's because brothers are protective of their sisters and I understand it's because they don't want to see us girls get hurt but why can't they realize we can take care of ourselves we aren't babies and don't guys understand that whether they like it or not we will get hurt, it can't be prevented. Is this just by instinct or something?
But don't get me wrong I am greatful that u guys have my back I appreciate it I just don't understand some of the reasoning behind it
Thanks and I hope my questions were clear
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Meh, your friend is just being a bit simplistic and immature, but his heart is in the right place.
Everyone has a responsibility to behave in the way they believe is respectful and kind to their friends. For a lot of guys, that will mean NOT dating their friend's sister.
Guys, especially when they are younger, often make the mistake of not recognizing that women are complete human beings, who can make their own choices - but that isn't the only thing that is going on here. Yes, the women get's a say, but when too people are interested in each other, if either of them says NO (for any reason) then NO is the answer.
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Hey there,
I guess it's pretty much a loyalty thing between guys.
You're right it should be as much the girls decision as the guys but unfortunately it rarely is. It's just another silly aspect of society and what is deemed "acceptable" and "unacceptable"
You would think a guy would be happy his friend wants to date his sister seeing as they trust them the most.
But for some reason it's almost always seen as betrayal.
Of course this is a general stereotype there are some guys out there who are dating their best friends sister.
A lot of it could also be down to jealousy. The guy may feel pushed out and left out if his best friend suddenly got with his sister. He would have less time to spend with him. When he comes over to his house instead of spending time with him he is there for his sister.
Switch the roles around. How would you feel if your best friend got with your brother?and suddenly you rarely saw her or hung out with or anymore? pretty sucky. That can be another reason behind it.
My cousins brother got with her best friend and at first she hated it but she soon came around once her friend made time for both of them. That's the important thing should this situation arise that all involved are not left feeling ignored or pushed aside.
That's my take on it anyway I hope it helped!
Much <3
Jess 18/f
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