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Is my roommate ok?
So I got an apartment with a childhood friend of mine about about 3 months after my, now two year old, daughter was born. At first it wasn't so bad. He's quiet, hardly ever makes a mess, and pays his part of the rent and utilities early each month(by sliding the money under the door).
The problem is that the only time I ever see him is when he leaves for work at night. He never says anything to me when I'm on the couch reading or watching tv. He just leaves, and he's back to being locked up in his room before I wake up.
Other than his job. He's always home. I have to check the parking lot sometimes to tell if he's here because he never leaves his room and he's so damn quiet. In the two years I've lived with him, he's never had any friends over, he never goes to see anyone, and he never spends any time with me.
It's almost like I'm living alone, but it's unsettling because I know he's always there. It would be less disturbing if I just saw him come out just to get some food once in a while or something. He'll I'd be less freaked out if I thought he was a drug addict. At least he's have a reason to be so odd.
Back in high school he was such a sweet guy, a little awkward, but sweet. I worry about him, but I cant even check up on him because he has doorknob on his room that requires a fingerprint and an 11 digit code to unlock. WHO DOES THAT!?
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Okay nobody would blame you for feeling that way so Ummm as soon as possible ask him to sit near you when he gets back home and watch tv with you that way if he accepts you'll get to know everything about him but if he doesn't accept just keep trying to ask him keep trying to open up any type of convo with him till he accepts but don't try more than a week untill a week of trying hard just come up to him and say you want a roommate that's so much different from him but do not offend his actions it's just his human nature he just desires to live alone and have privacy 24/7 so don't go harch all that you need to do is keep trying
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Offer him food? Ask him to catch a movie?
He may just be fine, merely odd. However, if you'd like a bit more of a friendly roommate relationship, you can't go wrong with offering food.
If you aren't feeling comfortable, listen to your gut. Being 'not comfortable' is a good enough reason to ask him to leave, or look for another roommate.
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hmm.. that does sound odd. Maybe he's just a loner. I'd suggest you talk to him. I mean, it seems REALLY weird he has so much protetion just to get in his room... maybe you should watch him next time he goes in and get the code, then have him put his finger on gum so you can get his fingerprint and when hes gone go snooping around his room.. cause that seems really weird. Maybe you could throw a house party with your friends and invite him. Or just go up to him and say " I find it strange we live in the same apartment but we never talk. Wanna go get some coffee?"
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