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she hates that i'm hanging out with him.
hey!:) i'm in a bit of a predicament and i was hoping you could help! i'm 18f.
so me and this guy have known each other for 5 years now .. we call each other best friend but we really have this weird relationship where we're more than friends but we're not having sex or anything. he's also my cousins neighbor. anyway my cousin doesn't like him anymore because she thinks he is always playing me (even though we're not even dating) and just dumb things like that. she doesn't even like us hanging out, when truly we're close friends. one time i was at his house and we were sitting outside by his pool and she seen us out her window and texted me saying "why are you over there with him??" it's like hellooo we're friends what the hell. and the funny thing is she has this boyfriend that she keeps going back to after he constantly yells at her and they always fight and he treats her like shit and she thinks she can tell me who to hang out with?
the problem is my cousin is one of my best friends so i hate her hating that i'm hanging out with him, especially when she knows since she can see whenever i'm at his house. i even tell her we're just friends but she still gets pissed .. i don't know what to do!!
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Hey there..
hm this is a bit of a predicament all right! il do my best :)
okay so yes your cousin really has no right to dictate like that to you.
there could be a number of reasons why shes doing it too! what struck me most was the most obvious.have you considered she might be jealous?maybe she has some sort of underlining crush on this guy?(I dont know just a thought) as that would explain her hostility.
she may also just be over protective and think shes looking out for you.
either way you need to talk to her..tell her shes one of your bestfriends but so is this guy..and your not prepared to loose either && tell her in the nicest way possible to step back tell her you dont get involved in her relationship or friendships and don't tell her who she should/shouldnt hang out with & that she should do the same,tell her you hope she can respect that.
If she can't tell her you don't want to fall out or feel like you have to chose one over the other but lets face it nobody wants to be around someone like that even if they are family.
you guys need to talk and thrash it out basicly in a civil way.
this girl needs to see sense otherwise shes gonna loose alot of close friends.
I hope she gives you your space otherwise your gonna have to make a choice between them both something I hope and im sure you hope won't happen.
I hope this helps!
good luck & anymore questions please feel free to inbox me :)
Jess-16/f
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