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Friends with Drug addictions
My best friend has been getting into drugs the last month, and she is now addicted to Cocaine. Her parents and sister know, as well as me and almost everyone in school. She doesn't know how much we all want to help her, and shes getting out of control. She ran out of her house the other day because her mom said she had to do the laundry, she flipped off her mom before she left. Her mom ended up calling me crying asking me questions about her and whats been going on. I explained everything.
I told her she was addicted to Cocaine. Which she already found out. I told her that she doesn't care about anything anymore.
She has always told me that I'm her best friend and she cares so much about me, but now she says that she hates me and I am a hypocrite (She told me this after I said I want her to be healthy again). I get that the drugs are messing with her head, but is there Anything I can do to make her see how much she needs to smarten up?
She has to be able to want the help first, I understand this, but I don't know if she will even talk to me anymore..?
Help???
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heres what you have to do your friend is addicted to cocain well now is the time to be a true friend spend as much time with your friend as possible that your her true friend dont put her down because of the cocainb if she has been doing it for years you cant quite iver night taqke her to na aa get herr to go to doctors they may put her on something to take her off the cocain slow if she craves or ask for the drug of choice nake her caarrot celery sticks grapefruit gingerale tea with dip take her shopping she must haxe low self esteem right now by the sounds of it you reaally care for her if all else fails send her to rehab but stay in contact show her theres more inportanbt things then just the door
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I'm not sure how old you two are, but you said school, so I'll assume you're teenagers...
You gotta understand that drugs don't just mess with your head - they mess with your body too. Cocaine is like caffeine times a thousand - you know how you feel when you get a caffeine crash? That's what happens when you lose the high from cocaine. You don't drop back to normal, either - you drop further down, and need cocaine to return to normal, and even more to get high. It can even mess with the serotonin and dopamine receptors in your brain and cause you to feel absolutely HORRIBLE without it, physically and psychologically, which can make a person REALLY irritable... which explains the flipping out (and off) of her mother. If she really is addicted to cocaine, it's not that easy just to stop.
In addition, this is a tough situation. Most likely from your friend's point of view, by talking to her mother you've already chosen your side, and it isn't hers. She may very well shut you out - you're against her doing what makes her feel good - but you can avoid that if you can manage to be (or act) objective.
You can't make her want help or even decide that her cocaine habit is a problem, but you CAN assure her that you still care about her, and that you're there for her if/when she needs you. It's possible that something will scare or steer her away from the drugs, but she'll probably still need help recovering.
Unfortunately, in the end, you're right; your friend has to want to get help. You can't badger her into it, or it won't work. The best thing you can do is go to her with your arms open and care about her. She's making some really stupid decisions right now, and pushing away the people who care about her.
BUT.
Just because she pushes doesn't mean you have to go away. Be the best friend you can be and stick by her! Even if she doesn't talk to you, talk to her. Hopefully this is just a phase that she can get out of before it's too late.
If you have any further questions, feel free to post them or inbox me. If not, best wishes to you and your friend. I hope everything works out. :)
Siren
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My ex boyfriend was into drugs. And its not easy at all. Her family should see about putting her into rehab because no amount of telling her things will help. She has to have help and professional help. Withdrawls are very hard and can be damgerous if not carefully watched. Im sorry youre going through this. Maybe see how her parents feel about rehab or even a halfway house.
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Hey there,
I understand this is a very tough and painful situation but I think it's time you think about taking a step back. Like you said she has to WANT the help first. No amount of pleading with her is going to make her see that. From first hand experience (uncle was on drugs for years)
You have to let them hit rock bottom. It's horrible and painful to watch but once she realizes she has managed to push everyone away then she will reach out.
The best you can do is let her know how much you love her and will always be there for her. Let her know how scary and out of control her behaviour is. That if she doesn't seek help she is going to end up dead. Try one last attempt at an intervention. Lay it all out. Suggest rehab and counselling. After that the ball is really in her court. There is only so much you can do for someone without becoming emotionally drained yourself.
You shouldn't feel like you are giving up on her either you're just giving her the time she needs to hopefully come to her senses. You will be there for her when she does.
Good luck and I'm sorry I couldn't be of more specific help.
Much <3
Jess 18/f
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