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My guy bestfriends Girlfriend (Well ex now) cheated on him and his upset and crying alot and now he smokes i need to give him some advice any at all please ! :( (link)
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This is some true advice that works in this situation.
"Dont do something you'll regret later over some stupid girl whos not even thinking about you"
"Shes simply not worth it, dont waste you're time"
Since this girl cheated, she obviously has no respect or regrets. Shes probably out having fun and hes crying, messing up his life over some girl who wont matter in the future. Shes not beating herself up and she probably doesnt care that she hurt him, so why should he care about someone who doesnt care about him?
You could tell him that too.
"You'll find a great girl whos good enough for you who likes only you, and you'll forget about ____. You wont find her bawling youre eyes out smoking a cig. Thats not you at all"
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okay well first of all i'm 13 and a girl and i have a friend and the other day her boyfriend tried to lift up my skirt so do i tell her?
i mean i know he was only messing around but still should i?
plz help! && thanks so much! (link)
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I think you should tell your friend, but in a casual way. Dont pull her aside and be all serious thats making the situation way too serious, especially because he wuz joking around. For example be having a conversation with your friend about her boyfriend and be like "omg that reminds me in 5th period or w.e he kept tryna to lift up my skirt! i told him "get away, your *insert friends name here*" she'll say something and you can take it from there
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my bff is colorblind~what do they see like black and white like a dog or what~this whole year hes been my bff~and i keep forgetting~like sendin color tests tht say like press different color buttons in order~what do colorblind people see (link)
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in most cases its when there are a few colors you cant see correctly. The most common is Red Green colorblindness, where u'll see some other color. one of my friends is colorblind too, he sees blue when he looks at red or green, sometimes even orange. if u'r really curious have a whole bunch or colors and ask what he sees
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Do people define others upon their social status more so in middle school or high school? I know that there are so many more kids where i am going to go to high school next year, so wouldn't it be difficult to get to know everyone? thanks =] (link)
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Middle school definetly. Everybody whos been to high school says so, and people are just more mature there, they think cliques are dumb. Plus there are more people, so you are bound to have more friends all over the place. Getting to know EVERYONE will always be hard, but the right people will come early. After all you don't need to know everyone, some people are mean, or do bad things. Don't worry.
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theres this girl whos a complete bitch named sophia
i was talking to a guy on facebook and she commented that he should stop talking to me &shed explain later.
i dont want to stop talking to him.
would it be a completely bad idea to message him saying "what did sophia say about me?" (link)
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Thats exactly what I would do, just make sure shes talking about you, and make sure the guy your talking to is better friends with you, than he is with sophia. My words would be sumthing like "wuz sophia talking about ME?? wut did she say 2 u?"
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mk, this girl who is my best friend and has been since 3rd grade is the biggest hypocrite who has even been born on this earth.
for example, she said she hated when people go, "umm okayy?" or, "okay..." and then she does it. she said she hated the word drama and she uses it. she said she hated this girl, amanda, (who is supposedly her best friend) and then she suddenly loves her when she feels like it. she said she hated this girl, nicole, & then she acts like they are really good friends. she said she hated ae, a&f, & hco .. then she goes out and buys 30473982423 things from those places.
GOD! i can't stand it. what should i do to make her stop!? (link)
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Sadly you cant MAKE her stop, but since you guys have been best friends for a while, you can influence her to tell the truth by pointing out wen shes contradicting herself. Like if you see her talking to nicole be like i thought you hated nicole, then she'll probably come up with some lame excuse, and just her appearance will give away shes lying, so dont believe wut she says, and make some kind of gesture that hints at the fact you know shes lying, like saying mmmhmm without really paying attention to what she has said, and switching the subject abruptly. If this doesnt give her the hint, avoid her a bit. Now if you cant do this, dont pay much attention to what she says, look away respond with one word answers, things like that. Your behavior, body language, should give her clear hints that you dont really believe or care about what she says, then she'll shuttup. I know this, a good friend of mine did this all the time and now shes almost completely stopped
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well, I am a 15 year old female. My best friend and i have been inseperable for like 5 years and we do like everything togetther. Well she has this boyfriend now and i really don't like him i think he is just bad news, he is rude to me, he gets in trouble by teachers and his parents all the time, also when i am around he like totally acts like i am not there. I don't know what to do, bcause i don't wanna lose my best friend , i just really dislike her boyfriend. i have tried talking to her about it but she never says anything. (link)
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You need to talk to your friend to see if agrees with what you say about him. Yes you guys are bffs, but this boy is probably very nice to her, so she may find it hard to believe hes not all that. If she agrees with most of it, try to get her to talk her bf into being nicer to you. If this fails talk to her bf and be like why do you hate me so much? Go on from there. Then make sure that he'll treat your bff well, so you all can be happy together. He may have senced that you dont like him and got defensive and backed off, after all you wouldnt pay much attention to a person who doesn't like you if your around them. Just dont try to talk your best friend into breaking up with him unless she finds good proof hes not right
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one of my best friends has recently revealed to me that she has a crush on this boy. howver, we are seniors in high school, and he is only a freshman in high school. what makes it weirder is that my friends brother is a freshman too (he doesn't know she likes this kid). i know that age shouldn't matter, but i just feel the wholse situation is so awkward & weird. he isn't really "matured" yet, so it is SO strange. she keeps on talking about it & it just bothers me that she basically has a crush on a little boy. the kid doesn't even know she likes him, but she talks about him as if they are married. what should i do? am i wrong in saying this is sort of innappropriate? (link)
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Honestly I think your right. I would feel the exact same way. Currently this is happening to one of my friends, so I have to admit I play it off as a normal thing. It will fade. Most girls like younger guys because there funny and cute. Try and support your friend until she doesn't like him anymore.
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I dont have a best friend, I never did, I am not in a clique, and I dont have many friends. Sounds fun, right? Yeah right. There is a major clique problem in my school-- I figure, If i cant fix it, find the clique I fit in. Idont fit in any clique. The popular kids rule the school. I'm friends with indivudual Pop ular kids but together, i'm a no one. Most kids in my school dont like me, dont ask me why but i really want more friends. I tried out for cheer. and kick. and didnt make it, I was dissapointed because I really wanted to be part of a team. And have those girls to sleepover with and have my 'group'. Help?
I rate high!
(13/f) (link)
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Be friendly and nice to everybody. Talk to people your intrested in being friends with whenever you have the chance. Maybe have a party when you meet enough people. If people see that your cool with everybody and not just cool with a particular group people will like you for it. Some people might be jealous and not like you, but you dont want to be their friends anyways. Try confidence. Dont walk around like your a nobody. Be the happy person with friends that you've always wanted to be. Dont sulk or complain. Smile and walk with good posture.
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hi,14/mif it helps. well yesterday my friend accidently told me that she liked this guy that she used to go out with. the thing is, he treated her really bad, as in cheating, and makin her cry. and after that i never really liked him much, until a lesson we were made to work together. and we were kind of talking and then a couple days later(yesterday) she tells me that she likes him again. the thing is, im just so frustrated about the fact that she still likes him after how he treated her. Im really angry at her, even though i know she cant help her feeling. what do i do? (link)
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her feelings arent about you, so you shouldnt and dont have reason to be mad at her and you know that. You need to talk to her and ask her why she likes him again, and tell her to rethink everything about him. she shouldnt make a move on him so you should tell her that. if he ever becomes interested in her and says anything about it to you tell him to straighten out his attitude before he does anything to her cuz shes not going to put up with any crap from him.
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my bestfriend lets call her kate she's like so kool.but i don't think i trust her because she's starting to talk to my crush alot and flirting with him and not even knowing she's flirting! and i've talked to her about it and she says that she'll try to back off but she hasn't i told her she could talk to him but just not flirt with him and she's done this to me before and i've dealt with it. she's told me she's liked the same guy i like after i tell her i like him!!!!! it kind of gets mad...no it really gets me mad!! and she acts like good bestfriend and all, but in this case i hate her!!!! pease help me out with this problem.... (link)
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Don't hate her. She's not in love with your boyfriend or anything, so neither one of you has claim on him. If its just because you said you liked him she started liking him just to piss you off, then you need to talk to her. She might have liked him before you. you dont have much of a right to tell her who to flirt with if you two arent together. if she doesnt no shes flirting you cant blame her either. You need to talk to her, if you dont you would have no reason to be mad
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Well, I am stuck in the middle of all my friends. I am not unique in any way. Even my boobs are in the middle, and my butt is like flat. I'm not super skinny, but i'm not fat either. I'm like stuck in the middle. I can't wear bikinis, but I can pull off a tankini. It's so weird, and I even act slightly... loopy to try to get attention, and my nose is super big. Do you know how I can get some extra attention?
Like I wanna be... noticed for once. (link)
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not many people are in the middle so you should be lucky to be you.you probaby stand out enough because most people arent like you. getting attention can be tiring and even annoying. geting physically attractive to get attention is just naturally the instinctive way to go, but the absolute wrong way to go. you cant do much about your nose without plastic surgery but you can wear flattering clothes that people will like for a while. acting stupid gets false attention to. being one of hyper spazzy funny dumb people will get attention but people will lose respect for you so they will never take you seriously. im guessing your somewhere in your teen years like tons of other people using this site like me and its important to be cool with your friends and stand out, but if they no you to be the dumb girl, instead of the nice middle girl they really shouldnt be your friends, but most of the time your friends no more about you than you think and can already see right through you. they already no who you are and they like you. the right people will like you for who you are and you do want the right friends dont you? just be yourself in hot clothing. flaunt your tankini, cuz skinny people would look dumb in them. be the person you are to yourself, not you to your friends.
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What do you do when a friend for 9 years gets upset because they were told that you said something supposedly They won't talk about it. They say that they are upset and won't tell you what was said so that you can deny or explain (link)
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do you mean if your friends for 9 years get upset because they heard something you said and they wont tell you wat it is so you cant deny or explain whether you really said it or not? then i have an answer for you. if you are persitant enough, or you ask other people who no whats what what you supposedly said, you can find out and talk to them even if they dont want to hear. you can do this is person or a letter to some of them, because its easier if you dont have to be there when they read it. tell them you really wanna be friends with them you miss them, and your sorry. if they dont tell you, they dont want you to explain yourself, so they probably dont want to be your friend, which means, i hope at least, you dont want to be their friend either
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Is god real im confused (link)
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God is real who do you think created everything? There has to be a supreme being that made the world and everything in it, which we call God. Now, religions vary, so His name varies from religion to religion. Basically whichever religion ends up with the right name of God and follows His word, gets to heaven. In my case God is Jesus Christ and I follow his word so I get to heaven, because I feel strongly I'm correct and that means I get to heaven!
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i've had a best friends named jill since i was four (13 now)and she is now 15 (2 years apart) and since i was 11 shes been changing! shes a diff. now and she acts diff.(she makes me wanna roll my eyes,which i never do!,only when im really upset) on the computer.but when im with her shes the same as shes always been and hasnt changed at all!when im with her and her friends she acts diff from both of the two! ugh i just hate how she got into saying "do these match?" and "im LIKE still here" she was never like that :(.i still wanna be her friend but how can i deal with the change? (link)
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Sometimes you have to remember why you became friends with her in the first place to cope with your changing friend.She's older than you,and I guess its a time of her life where shes changing trying to find her self, or maybe shes going through something deeper you dont know about, but what I know for sure, everyone acts differently around their friends, and her being older than you adds to that. Like an older sister for example, she can be mean, but she really cares about you and will be there for u nomatter what, even though afterwaard she might say something to insult you or act like a snob. If you became friends with her for a good reason remember that. If not, take a break from her for a while or talk to her about her attitude.
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There's this girl at school that tries to stick to me like glue. We both get to school very early in the morning, and she comes every day to chat. I don't dislike her, but she's rather aggravating and I can tell she has a monster crush on me. Sometimes I can catch her staring at me in he hallway. What should I do about her? She's nice and all, but she doesn't realize how goddamn annoying she is. What would you advise? (link)
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Try being nice to her. Eventually her crush will go away and she won't talk to you as much, and if you talk to other girls too, she might not want to get in your way, so that may help too.
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My Best friend in the whole entire world might be moving. I mean FAR away. Like I live in Ky and she might be moving back to Michagan. I don't have any other friends. And it really hurts me cause I am afraid that she will move and I will never see her again. The same thing happend with my old friend Allison. She moved and I haven't herd from her in a year. I don't know what I am going to do. I have no friends but her. Please guys help me. Cause I am so hurt... 13/F (link)
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Pray that she doesn't move, keep in touch if she does move, and make new friends! I know you can do it! You'll survive.
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I like my best friends X. They just broke up and it was only 2 months but i still cant like do that to my gurl. and the guy is still like in love with her how can i get him to see me?n not have my friend get hurt or mad? (link)
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well she has no right to get mad,because they are over, and they broke up 2 months ago. if they both still like each other, they shouldhave gotten back together weeks ago. if she gets hurt, then she isnt a good friend. I would just flirt with the guy untill he gets over his sadness
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What does it mean to be outspoken? Like examples and definition.. (link)
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basically it means to not hold back or sugarcoat anything you say and not think twice about it. an example of that. A 13 year old is pregnant and doesnt no wat to do. the responce she gets is that she should have never had sex and shes too young and that she should have used protection and that she should tell her parents and that she should keep the baby. outspoken people are also very opinionated and will say their opinion is always right.
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Why do preps call people that aren't preps preps. Sorry kinda confusing but I'm just wondering that. Cause a few of the real preps call me a prep and I deff. don't consider myself or my friends preps. (link)
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It's because they want a self esteem boost by calling other people preps so they can feel good about their preppyness. Just ignore them because they're dumb to need to feel good about themselves to call people what they aren'.t
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