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he shouldn't be doing that...
okay well first of all i'm 13 and a girl and i have a friend and the other day her boyfriend tried to lift up my skirt so do i tell her?
i mean i know he was only messing around but still should i?
plz help! && thanks so much!
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What he did was inappropriate regardless of his intentions be they playful or not. You didn't invite him to do that to you and he needs to learn a strong lesson here. You MUST tell your friend what he did but in a gentle manner. She deserves to know this and to take care of the issue with him.
If they broke up it's not your fault at all. It's his fault for lifting up your skirt. Who knows what else he might be doing with other girls? You just doin't know where his inappropriate behavior starts and ends with other people.
Tell her the truth and stay clear of him as much as you can. He needs to learn to keep his hands to himself. You should have slapped him and walked away. He needs a wakeup call here not to do this again as some day if he ever repeated it with another girl he could land in serious trouble.
Tell your friend exactly what happened and how embarassed and upset it made you. She will respect you for being honest with her. After that be weary of him and do not be alone together. It's up to your friend after that to resolve the issue and keep him in line and out of trouble.
You have every right to tell her or for that matter anyone else (girlfriends) etc. what he did if you feel it was incredibly wrong (which it is) whether he was playing around or not. However, my advice is you talk to your friend first in a gentle manner and give her the same info you gave us.
Your friendship is too tight to be ruined over a guy anyways. This kid might also need some help to learn to keep his hands to himself too. If after telling your friend about it you notice she's done nothing tell your classmates.
Your friend may be angry at first but will ultimately stand by you in the end as wrong is wrong and everyone you tell will know that. If you have to make this jerk undatable to protect yourself and other girls he may go after do so.
My hunch is all he needs is a scolding from your friend and a reminder to grow up, keep his hands to himself and respect girls. Feel free to slap or strike back at anyone who tries to lift your skirt etc. as it is a form of assault and at your age you could file a report on it and get him charged.
If you friend does nothing tell your parents, your teacher, guidance counsellor or principal to deal with the issue and set the boy straight. There is nothing funny or playful about him doing this. You need to understand that as it's inappropriate at all times unless you invited him to do so.
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I think you should tell your friend, but in a casual way. Dont pull her aside and be all serious thats making the situation way too serious, especially because he wuz joking around. For example be having a conversation with your friend about her boyfriend and be like "omg that reminds me in 5th period or w.e he kept tryna to lift up my skirt! i told him "get away, your *insert friends name here*" she'll say something and you can take it from there
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Don't drag your friend into this. She didn't do anything and she's not in charge of his behavior. Let him know that this is unacceptable and you don't take kindly to it. Don't be with him where she can't see what's going on because he probably won't do it in front of her. If he does it again, do what you think is right. Personally, I'd prepare to defend myself. I wouldn't care if they said "she can't take a joke" because it's not a joke. It's cruelty.
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