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I dont have a best friend, I never did, I am not in a clique, and I dont have many friends. Sounds fun, right? Yeah right. There is a major clique problem in my school-- I figure, If i cant fix it, find the clique I fit in. Idont fit in any clique. The popular kids rule the school. I'm friends with indivudual Pop ular kids but together, i'm a no one. Most kids in my school dont like me, dont ask me why but i really want more friends. I tried out for cheer. and kick. and didnt make it, I was dissapointed because I really wanted to be part of a team. And have those girls to sleepover with and have my 'group'. Help?
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I hate cliques. You should always be yourself. NO MATTER how much the "Coolest Group" is cool, you are you. Embrace that. People should like you for who you are, not the tag on your shirt. You may want to have a 'group', but think, is it worth it? Would you like having people ALWAYS follow you around, remember- no time for you! BE YOURSELF. Not someone else. Help others, treat them with repect. If you get you clique, don't be exclusive. I have a group of friends, 'cept we are whowe are, we're NOT exclusive. Start by being nice to that girl that you sit by. She's Nice? One best bud is better than all the sleepovers in th world.
Best of wishes,
Aneis
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Work on being a good friend to others.
The better you get at this, the more easily others will want to become friends with you too.
Luyah
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Fitting in is never easy. Some people want to fit in so bad that they become something they're not. I know it's hard to not "fit in" but it's better to not fit in than become fake and pretend to be someone. If people don't like you for who you are now, then they aren't worth your time. You should never go out of your way to try and get people to like you. "cliques" make school hard for many people and sometimes even make people resent school. You just have to try and focus on other things like school, God, your family, and the TRUE friends that you do have. Goodluck and I hope everything works out well for you.
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umm,ok...if you have tried out for cheerleading and didnt make it than try another poular sport like basketball or something like that!!and if you are friends with individual popular ppl than why arnt they letting you in there clique??? and like another person said dont follow them around because wethey probably be like shes a freak she follows people but anewho,,,dont be shy or hold back from taalking to people just be yourself and try out for another poular team like basketball ok...hope i have helped atleast a little bit,♥ Amber
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The number one thing a person hates is when you try to follow them around. Don't follow them, but want them to follow you. Easier said than done...huh? Okk... don't feel nervous when you go anywhere... just feel confident and know that you're gunna find some friends (you have to, and you will). Maybe when the teacher calls on you make a joke or something. It will lighten the mood. O ya make sure the teacher you do it with is like open minded and not wierd. Just be confident, when you're at your locker say heyy to the people next to you- no matter who they are.
*Hope I Helped*
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your really dont need that many friends. i have three friends i really talk to and hang out with. my boyfriend, his sister, and my guy friend rob. you dont need to be part of a group be your self. and you will make plenty of friends. you want to be part of a team try out for different sports team i did soccer and made a few girlies to talk to. good luck
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Hmm , Ive been in your positon before.
I'm glad your attempting to try and get involved, thats an excellent start but you cant MAKE THEM join you, so its not your fault you didnt make it.
I am in a popular group at my school, and what you have to do is let friends come to you.
If you wanna have friends its easy to make friends, whether they are popular or not.
Start off talking to people about casual stuff and build off of that.
If you wanna be more popular, dont hang around them until they get annoyed but talk to them about what they like talking about and friendships will build off that .
Good luck!
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hi! ;
school's EVERYWHERE have clique problems...mine is probably the WORST; people say we dont but ya we do and it hurts def like when you were in one but you like get booted out of it for 1 thing u did! stupid eh? yea! honestly i'm tryin to fit in a little to and we're the same age! but what i'm doing more often is like being friends with everyone i have a lot of friends from the volleyball team and we hang out everyonce in a while but it's not an everyday thing and i'm also friends with cheerleaders and people admire me for some really weird reason...just be confident and people will start talkin to u. or if being confident don't work talk to someone who's mayb in all of your classes. and you don't have to be in a certain group to fit in. i'm not i'm friends with like cheerleaders; total preps; goths <-mean i kno but yea one of my closer guy friends is gothic ; volleyball [i'm kinda on the team but i don't really fit in with them because they all have bf's who are football players!]; even really smart people and at lunch there's this group called the uhm patrol people i think it's stupid honestly & i am friends with people who sit at that "table" but i don't sit there i have 1 best friend and all she does is talk about her bf or talks to him so i usually talk to a lot of people but don't get down!!! stay confident!
hope i helped!
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1] Please do not put 'i rate high' because in the page that you fill out your question and submit it, it says 'please do not put 'i rate fives' or 'i rate high'' I just wanted to let you know that because you can have your account deleted for that.
2] I don't think that you should be part of just one clique. You need to make friends with at least a few people in each clique. That will be easier. You can't just expect the 'cheerleader' group girls to just come and start hanging out with you all of a sudden. [[ Pardon my stereotyping ]] You need to be friends with the 'band' clique, the 'popular' clique, the 'nerd' clique, ect. That will make your life a whole lot easier, trust me.
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aw. i've never had this problem, i'd say you need to start making more friends, when i was in 7th grade, i thought trying out for cheerleading would help me get more friends, i ended up not trying out, and suprizingly i know a lot of people know. you just have to be nice. and something else, don't be too quiet, because if you sit there, and don't say anything, it might make people think that you think you're too good for them, just be nice :D anyone can make friends, and so can you, i guarantee you :)
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Be friendly and nice to everybody. Talk to people your intrested in being friends with whenever you have the chance. Maybe have a party when you meet enough people. If people see that your cool with everybody and not just cool with a particular group people will like you for it. Some people might be jealous and not like you, but you dont want to be their friends anyways. Try confidence. Dont walk around like your a nobody. Be the happy person with friends that you've always wanted to be. Dont sulk or complain. Smile and walk with good posture.
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I know the popular kids "rule" the school, but trust me, in a few years once you guys get to Highschool, there's no popular people, really.
I know you're only 13 and you're trying to find what group you belong to and everything, but it really doesn't matter. Why not belong to all groups? You shouldn't HAVE to fit in with a certain style of people, why not make friends with everyone, which might make more people like you, and it'll increase your amount of friends. Just try talking to more people in class and putting yourself out there and socializing with everybody and all your friends friends.
That's really smart of you to try out for activities to make some more friends, so don't let that stop you ; go out for more activities. There's always thousands of different clubs or activities you could join like Choir, Art, Drama, Photography, Dance Commitee, Student Council, etc.
I hope I helped.
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Well, trying our for cheer and kick was an awesome idea. Don't let the fact that you didn't make it get you down. Find another club or activity to take interest in. It's a great way to make friends with similar interests. If you can't find a club that draws your attention, talk to your principal about starting your own club involving one of your personal interests.
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