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17/f, My guy friend asked me out by a note about a year and a half ago and i never responded. I liked him then and I still really like him now. He's on my myspace and I've e-mailed im a few times and told him everything each time a little at a time and told him why and everything but he never responded. The last e-mail that I sent to him was a little over 2 weeks ago. I don't know why he's not answering me and I think about him all the time. He's the sweetest guy that I have ever met and I know that he really liked me because he would always tickle me and try to make me laugh. He's like the only guy right now that I can trust and I just really want to be with him but I don't know if he still wants to be with me. I know he read all the e-mails because they all said read. I just don't know why he is doing this by not answering my e-mails and just ignoring me when we are at school when he sees me. Also, I'm scared to go up to him at school especially because he's never alone and is always with his friends. Please help, thanks!! (link)
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You missed your boat, hon. If I was in his shoes, and someone didn't answer my note, I would have just given up, and gotten over said person. If it's been a year and a half, he's over you. I'm sorry to say it, but if he can move on, you can too. Plenty of shoes in the store. You'll find someone.
Hope this helps.
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I just really am about to spill. I don't have many friends I can share this with. So please help me!
To start I'm completly in love with my ex. We went out for 6 months and after ending it, not wanting to be friends, 6 months later, I'm still obsessed with him, and still unsure of the reason we ended it.
We'll call him Mike.
The next guy I just met. He's amazing but also 17, and I'm 15. He is exactly like me and I want nothing more but to be with him. Except, He doesn't know I like him, and I'm totally unsure about how he feels about me. & I don't want to tell him because it'll definitely change things. Oh and he doesn't go to my school.
We'll call him Steve.
And the last guy I've known for awhile. He's a COMPLETE asshole. He cheats on his girlfriend with me, he smokes, he drinks, he's a manwhore, he has sex with random people. But for some reason, I LOVE the attention. I just love it. I'm not sure if it's because I want to make my ex jealous, cause I find myself always talking loud about how we made out and things when I'm around my ex. Or if I actually like this guy..All my friends HATE HIM. They think he's a terrible person, and I know he just is going to hurt me. He's already lead me on twice and we're going on the third time. & I have to lie about him to my friends and stuff because thats how much they dissapprove of him. We'll call him Tom.
I think I like Tom, but I'm not sure if I do. and Steve is just amazing. But I'm not over Mike at ALL. And I'm not sure if steve likes me.
So what so I do?
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Kill Tom right now. You can get attention from people who aren't assholes. You should get attention from someone who loves you, not who just wants to f*** you. And if he's cheating on someone for you, what's going to stop him from cheating on you for someone else? Chicks before dicks. It's better to have friends than a loser who could harm you.
Now. On to...Mike. It may be time to move on. If there is no possible way that you could get together, then you shouldn't spend your time thinking that you can. It's just going to prevent you from meeting other guys if you compare all of them to Mike. Or if you even have him on your mind at all. Burn the pictures, delete the texts and emails. Let go. If there's a chance, and it's REALLY THERE, and you aren't just imagining it, still try to let go. Show him that you can live a life without anyone by your side.
Or if you have to have someone, I'd say go for Steve. He sounds good, but make sure you look for his flaws, and not just his perfections. Look past the surface. Flirt like crazy, and if you get good vibes, ask him out. Get your mind off Mike. Forget I even just said his name.
I hope this helps.
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Okay, so im a freshman at college, and i still feel like a high schooler, because im so insecure. i always think every other girl is prettier then me, and that has caused problems with me and my boyfriend (we have been together for 2 years) but im alaways scared wen he has a girl friend, that he will like her because she is prettier then me, or more fun then me, because i feel llike IM SO BORING AND NOTT OUT GOiNG enough, so the advice i need is how to boost my self esteem and try and have a better personality i wanna be outgoing and fun to be around! and i just hate being jelouse!!! (link)
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i have problems with people who have low self esteem who have nothing to be worried about. look into the mirror, and point out to yourself what it so pretty about you. is it your eyes? your full lips? legs? arms? find something you love, and then accentuate it. put on eyeshadow, wear shorter skirts, sleeveless tops, lipstick, etc. and if there's some type of drama at your school, join it. promise me, hon. what are some skills that you alone have? are you a writer? join MUSE BUNNY. if you can do makeup, teach you skills to other people.
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okay well i started to see this guy at school called kris who said always like i really like you + he asked me out alot but i kept saying no bcos i liked someone else at the time. but bcos he kept asking me out i said we shouldnt talk nemore. so i stopped calling him but he kept calling me every night + i didn`t answer, i just ignored him. 2 mnths later he called me and asked me out again. i ignored him again. so yea i pretty much ignored him alot ha ha but then months later i felt bad for what i did so i imed him and he ignored me. dya think hes pissed at me for ignoring him every time so he is ignoring me ????or mayb do you think he didn`t like me to start with bcos now i dnt think he liked me much @ all ??? help !! i`m 15/f. (link)
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Honey...If you ignored him for two monthS, chances are he got over you. you did the right thing, though, BecAuse if you led him on, he wouldn't have been very happy at the end. he's probably moved on, Cuz i would have too...Kay? if this is a pity thing, then yOu shouldN't even do it at all.
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My best friend keeps trying to steal my bf and she keeps yelling at me and bringing my other bff in to this and i want to know what to do before i beat her @$$ and kill her....
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THIS sounds like someTHing i had happEn to me. it was my best friend too, and believe me, we can fight a lot. it depends if she is your true friend or not. if she really loves you, liKE a good friend should, then she will eventuallY back off. If she doesn't, then she's not worth your time. WOw. Deja vu.
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16/m.
K to start off, my girlfriend of two weeks broke up with me about three weeks ago this friday (aka the week after homecoming..). I took it as a low blow because the monday after she broke up with me she had a new boyfriend (WTF?!) I was infuriated, and he isn't the nicest of guys (pot head). ANYWAYS, I got over it and I started to like this girl who has liked me for a while now. And I asked her out and we're currently dating. Im just wondering if it was too early for me to get back into a relationship? I mean the girl Im dating now is amazing and I wouldn't give her up for anyone, but was me rushing into another relationship a bad decision? (link)
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IF it was two weeks, chances are that YOU didn't like the First girl a lOt. i, personally, don't like gUys for that loNg. Anyway, she can Deal.
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I dont have a best friend, I never did, I am not in a clique, and I dont have many friends. Sounds fun, right? Yeah right. There is a major clique problem in my school-- I figure, If i cant fix it, find the clique I fit in. Idont fit in any clique. The popular kids rule the school. I'm friends with indivudual Pop ular kids but together, i'm a no one. Most kids in my school dont like me, dont ask me why but i really want more friends. I tried out for cheer. and kick. and didnt make it, I was dissapointed because I really wanted to be part of a team. And have those girls to sleepover with and have my 'group'. Help?
I rate high!
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I hate cliques. You should always be yourself. NO MATTER how much the "Coolest Group" is cool, you are you. Embrace that. People should like you for who you are, not the tag on your shirt. You may want to have a 'group', but think, is it worth it? Would you like having people ALWAYS follow you around, remember- no time for you! BE YOURSELF. Not someone else. Help others, treat them with repect. If you get you clique, don't be exclusive. I have a group of friends, 'cept we are whowe are, we're NOT exclusive. Start by being nice to that girl that you sit by. She's Nice? One best bud is better than all the sleepovers in th world.
Best of wishes,
Aneis
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what are some ways to show a guy that your interested in him??
14/f (link)
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You don't wanna go, "Hey, I love you" or something like that. The art of telling a guy you like him is very subtle, sit with him at lunch, start a conversation. Tell him happy birthday, or just show you care. I actually had a friend tell my guy I liked him, I shouldn't of done that though. More she told him without my consent, but wtf. You CAN have a friend tell him, but ONLY ONLY *ONLY* you are sure that he likes you.
I have faith in you,
Aneis
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One of my close friend's birthday is coming up in a few weeks. We've recently started hanging out more and i feel like i can really trust her with anything. I'd like to do something nice for her birthday to show her how much i appreciate our friendship. I'm not sure what I should do. I cant do anything that expensive because my family isnt doing that great with money right now. I'm open to any ideas, thanks in advance! (link)
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It doesn't really matter the gift, or how much you paid for it, but that it really came from you. My best birthday gisft was a card from my BFF, she made it all by herself. She glued the little beads on and it ws HER. When I look at it, I'm always suddenly happy, because the person that gave it to me, cared for me. You care for her, so what you get her (or make for that matter) should show YOU. The scrapbook idea is a great one, or give her some coupons, 'Good for an ice cream cone' 'Good for one day of supa fun' stuff like that. A sweater you made, or a picture of her cat, all put together.
Faith in you,
Aneis
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I have this friend...lets call the friend C. C is one of my bestest friends. C's so fun and lively and gosh, you can't tell that theres anything bad going on in C's life. C's one of the two friends that I have that are always cheerful and happy. Well, yesterday when we were being idiots and dancing in the hallways b/w class(don't ask) I saw that C cut itself on the top of C's hand and was concealing it with C's sleeves. I can understand why since C hates C's little brother, C's mom and dad are divorced, C's not all that rich, and C hates his stepdad. The thing is that I cut too... and do not lecture me on that fact. I haven't told ANYONE at my school that I cut and I want to keep it that way. I want C to stop and not cut though. I know it sounds weird and hypocritical but I wnat C to stop. I know it's a dangerous thing to do and can turn fatal at any given time. That's why I wnat C to stop. Isn't it weird that while I do the same thing I don't want C to do it? What is wrong with me for thinking that way? Why am I thinking that way? What are things I can do or say to stop C from cutting? If I try to talk about it, he ignores me and stops the conversation say he doesn't want to talk about it. (link)
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http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/feeling_sad/cutting.html
I don't cut (*Lectures you*), so if you are just doing this to get rid of the world aound you, I suggest getting a hobby, and do it with C. Maybe you could do yoga, meditation, writing, painting, check your local listings to find out more. You really need to confront C. Tell him you want to help, and don't let him get away! Prove your point, that cutting can be fatal, tell him that you really care and you want him to stop. Look him in the eye.
He may be mad at you for a spell, if he (or she for that matter), sulks off in a corner, or is mean to you. Still, hold your ground. You are a mighty rock in the riverbead, stand your ground. You care for him, so if he (she) supa cares for you, he will see your point. If you are starting to get really scared, I totally advise telling an adult. About YOU TOO. It is a long road to the path of recovery, but once your're there, sitting happily, you'll look back, and say, "Gosh, how could we have ever BEEN back there!"
You will get to your golden city, along with C, though time and effort, trial and tragity (sp), happy and whole. I have faith in you.
Best of wishes and luck,
Aneis
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There's this girl I'm friends with and I don't really want to be friends with her anymore. She's like way too clingy. She always makes me wait for her or wait with her while she's getting her lunch when she's in line. She also won't stop calling me and following me and she always wants me to be her partner for every single project. She also hurts me for no reason at all!!! And everytime I leave without her for lunch she looks for me and says," You ditched me. Why did you do that? Your my friend." I can't tell her I don't want to be friends anymore because she know who I like and she told me if I ever make her upset she'll tell everyone who I like. What should I do!!! HELP!!! (link)
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You have to set limits for yor friend. If you can't trust her, don't. Find other friends, and if you really need to, tell her that it would be better if you weren't freinds. You have to tell her what's wrong, if you don't, she will continue to pick on you. IF she does spill your secret of who you like, just brush it off. Say to yourself, "I wouldn't sink so low to resort to spilling secrets" keep saying this, and if people make fun of you, remember, you are kind. YOU WILL PULL THROUGH. I went through the same thing.
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I have been dating my boyfriend for 1 year and 6 months now and i thought i was happy. but things are starting to get hard for us and we can hardly see eachother. he dropped out of school so im there without him. this year i meet this guy who likes me. Me and him are close friends now and i think im starting to have feelings for him. I dont want to hurt my Boyfriend in any way but i know this isnt fare to him for me to be feeling something for someone else. I still love my boyfriend very much! Do i just like this other guy for the Convenience of him being right there? (link)
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I feel like I've seen this question, word for word....
Oh well, you don't want to cheat on your BF, and if you still love him, consideer this other guy as a really good friend. It sounds like you like having a friend right there with you, and if you and your BF's romance is falling apart, consider this other guy. If you and your BF are supa tight, leave that other guy, you are loved right now.
Aneis
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Alright there is this thing in my school for medley of voices. Its like chorus, but you have to try out and stuff. And i really really want to do this. The thing is, I HATE singing,talking,basically doing anything infront of people. I freeze and make an idiot of myself. So, i am very very nervous about these tryouts which are on Monday. I know i should smile and try to be confident but i cant do this. I AM SO SCARED. Help? haha (link)
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Okay, so you REALLY REALLY want to do this, so do it! OKay, that's not the best advice, so here's better:
Practice singing and talking in front of people, try your family, or maybe a group of friends, anyone who will listen. It will build your confidence, so when you get on the stage, just close your eyes, pretend it's the person you practiced with is the only one out there. You can do it!!!
Aneis
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What color shoes do you wear with a turquoise dress or shirt? What color leggings do you wear with this also? (link)
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Personally, for the leggings, maybe a nice pale color, and for shoes, a nice, lovely, green or soft blue...
Aneis
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For Halloween, my friends want to be Fantanas (there are four of us, like the Fantanas -- in case you don`t know what/who they are: http://sidesalad.net/archives/Fantanas.jpg). Anyways, last year, we all used to be really good friends, but now, one of them, lets call her Lola has been getting on my nerves really badly. She is very harsh to me and talks badly about me all the time. I really don`t want to be a Fantana with her, but theyve already got it all planned out. They all have outfits, I`m the only one that doesnt have one. Plus, they are going to go trick or treating, which I don`t mind, but I would rather go to a party. I told them we should throw a party, but the thing is I'm the only one of them that has any guy friends, so it would be a really lame party if they threw it.
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Oh, ouch. You're in a tight spot. I belive in freedom, beauty,truth,and love (call me Boho if you want), you should have the freedom to be what you want. This Lola person soundls like she needs some help. Find out if it's something that someone told her about you, or is it that she wants to move on? Talk to her, if you feel the need to do so, end the dying friendship. IF she continues to harras you, I strongly suggest telling someone you trust, that can do something to help you.
Well, I say you should do what ever you want to do about this party. If you want to throw a party by yourself, do it. But remember, trick-or-Teating, it's free candy!
Aneis
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hey, well there is this guy i reeeeally like alot aaand well we dont know each other but im constantly checking him out soooooo i definitally know him i mean were not friends or anything we talk here and there but well anyway his girlfriend just broke up with him sooooo i was tinking about asking him to the dance or maybe asking him out buuut the problem is i dont want to ask him and find out that he doesnt like me but sometimes in class i see him staring at me and he acts hilarious around me as in he make s up jokes that make absolutly no sence buuuut i love them but he kinda acts a little shy around me to sometimes... i really like him an di really want to ask him out or to the dance but i am afraid that he is gonna say no and i am gonna be crushed!!! I want to know what i could do ask him out and get rejected or be happy and he says yes or if maybe i would just lay low and see if he asks first... and about him sstsring st me and stuff like that what could that mean? (link)
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Well, if all the signs point to yes,yes,yes! Go for it girl! Rejection is something we all face, so instead of sayin, "I like you" wich would be more painful if you are rejected, instead ask him somewhere, like the local Ice Cream Parlor, but somewhere casual. If you have a blast together, ask him to the dance. If there's akward moments, consider other people, do you really fit?
If he likes you, you like him, all signs point to yes, I have faith in you.
Aneis
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