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SHe trying to steal my bf
My best friend keeps trying to steal my bf and she keeps yelling at me and bringing my other bff in to this and i want to know what to do before i beat her @$$ and kill her....
HELP ME!
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THIS sounds like someTHing i had happEn to me. it was my best friend too, and believe me, we can fight a lot. it depends if she is your true friend or not. if she really loves you, liKE a good friend should, then she will eventuallY back off. If she doesn't, then she's not worth your time. WOw. Deja vu.
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I have had this same problem. Except it was my own sister! This is what I'd do. First tell her that if she's a real friend she'd want you to be happy. If that doesn't get through to her then she really isn't to great of a friend. Also make sure the guy is important to you and not going to dump you for her. If he is he's not worth it either. She needs to face the fact that you're his girl. When she figures that out she will have no choice but to get over it. I hope this helps you. =]
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I can hear the anger in your words and respect how hurt you may be feeling.
I cant give you any advice about keeping your friend away from your boyfriend but I can give you advice on how to control the one thing you have full control over... you.
If your best friend is capable of stealing your boyfriend, it sounds like you should reexamine first of all what kind of best friend she is. Perhaps it is time to move on and find some new friends, some that you can trust and don't cause so much stress in your life.
Secondly, if your boyfriend is capable of being "stolen away", he isn't really worth trying to keep. You don't want to spend the rest of your relationship with him wondering WHAT ELSE could come along that could tear the two of you apart. A relationship should be built on trust and confidence and enjoyment, not the stress of hoping he will stay with you when he encounters temptations.
Your friend and your boyfriend may be good for each other. You may just want to let them have each other so you can find a few new people who actually deserve to be in your life.
You should NOT be in a relationship with anyone, male or female, that constantly hurts emotionally (or physically) and it needs serious help if it is constantly "spiraling out of control".
You are worth more than that. Don't ya think? So treat yourself to better people. You deserve it. Don't "settle" because you are comfortable with it.
Best of luck.
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Okay, well. One, if you and your boyfriend's relationship is strong enough, nothing'll break you two up. But as much as she gets to you, ignore her. Because beating her ass to a pulp isn't going to get you anywhere, seriously. Write, sing, play your emotions out on anything but people. Or talk to your bf about this, see what he thinks. I know it's hard, and I've been through it before. It's a pain in the neck. But as jealous as she is, you need to let her go, atleast for a little while. Let her realize that your friendship is more important than being jealous over a guy. Or, your guy, in this situation.
If you need more help, let me know.
kitty
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