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Hey! My name is Ashlea. I've been a member on here for a few years. I'm 24 years old and have a little baby boy. I'm pretty outgoing and I love to joke around. I have a very strong sense of humor and I love making people laugh. I don't care too much about what other people think about me because in the end, you're all you got. Nothing else matters but your true opinion of yourself. I think everyone is beautiful in their own ways. I never look down on anyone nor do I judge people for their decisions or lifestyles. I love to listen to music. That's probably the only reason I like driving, otherwise, It'd be boring as hell. I love spending time with my son. He is by far the best thing that's ever happened to me. He is my best friend and when I'm with him, nothing else matters. The whole world could pass me by, and as long as I have him, it doesn't matter one bit. He's the only one who can truly make me smile. I am truly happy because of him. I love spending money when I have it, and sometimes, that can be a bad habit. I love to write poems, and am told I am very good at it, but only when I'm upset or bothered by something. Lately, though, I have not written any. I also enjoy writing. I seem to have a way with words and I love how a paper sounds after I write it. It makes me sound more intelligent.(lol) I also like to watch movies, mostly comedy and drama...I hate action movies and boy-ish movies. Horror movies give me nightmares(yes, even at this age.) ...I like to go on the computer alot and I love meeting new people, so feel free to get in touch with me!
I hate people who think they are better than you, and people who are snobby or stuck-up. Having that attitude will never get you anywhere in life, and I look at it as a sign of immaturity. I like to be around people that within the first 5 minutes of talking to them you know that you will already feel comfortable with them because they are that down to earth. I can't stand people who criticize other people and their lives. Understand that you, as well, have things about your life that you do not like...so you wouldn't like it very much if people talked about you in a bad way, would you? We're all human, we all make mistakes and run into bad situations. Things happen that we can't control. These are all parts of life though and can be handled with the help of others, which is why negative criticism is not needed.
I believe that what you can't control, you have to let go. Too often we hang onto things when we have no control or power over its outcome, so in the end, life will take its course and we have to just go with it.
I guess some people would say I can be selfish at times, although I choose not to believe that(lol), and if things don't go my way, i WILL be upset. But, I also learn to get over it and move on. I love giving advice. Everyone I know say that's the one thing they love about me the most...I never judge anyone on any of their problems and I truly do enjoy helping people with their problems in any way I can. I will go to any extent I have to in order to help someone else. I have a habit of putting other people's needs ahead of my own. I have been giving people advice and helping people so much with their problems that I don't even get that GREAT feeling anymore from helping people. It's just in my nature and I am happy to just be able to be of some sort of help to anyone: stanger or friend.
I am not here for the ratings or comments. I am only here to help you, and I hope to recieve help in return when I am in need as well. I understand how sometimes you just need somebody to talk to...someone that understands. So don't be afraid to ask me any questions about anything...i'll help you with anything I can. If there is anything I can help you with that you would like to discuss privately, you can note me in my inbox or email me as well as instant message me on AIM. I would be glad to help you. hope to hear from you soon!!
♥ .even the people that never frown...eventually b r e a k . d o w n. ♥
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Kinda long! But please I need your opinion!
22/f. I recently started talking to a guy that I met on tagged. I haven't seen him in person but we have seen pictures of eachother. We've been talkin for over a week now, almost all hours of the night, and I swear we can have a conversation about anything. I will admit, I am not the type to talk on the phone, so it MUST be serious if I'm sacrificing what little sleep I already get because I enjoy talking to him. For once, I'm talkin to a guy who is like myself in very many ways and is not about sex and all that. I can tell he is a very genuine person. We are both very focused on being friends first....
The thing is I know that one day he is going to want to meet me in person yet hasn't mentioned anything about it yet. I'm a big girl (BBW), and I'm just terrified that his opinion may change if he meets me in person. I mean I have pictures on my tagged showing me from my knees up, but I'm wearing black so you can't truly tell how big I really am... I am my worst enemy and there's many flaws that I know I have (big feet, etc.) But I will say what I lack in looks I make up for in personality.
I haven't dated in 4 1/2 years. So I am very shy when it comes down to it. I've been hurt numerous time and I've come to a point where I put my love life in PARK. I've found extra things to do to keep myself busy so the love life wouldn't be such a big deal. But it's tough cause I feel so alone. My friends are getting married and having kids and I feel just so out of the loop...
What do I do? Continue talkin to him?
Yes, continue talking to him! Why not? Even if this turns out to be nothing serious, at least you made a good friend in the process: someone you can talk to, trust, and depend on. As for your looks, you can always do things to get in shape. At the end of the day, if he cares about you, he wouldn't mind. But, it is obviously an insecurity of yours, so, if for your own personal reasons, work on getting in shape. The things you cannot change are what make you who you are...we all have flaws that we would love to change, but it's who you are and you need to find a way to accept that. If you do end up meeting him, take a friend with you because you never know who you're connecting with on the internet.
Hi!I am 15 years old and am a female. You might be thinking 15 years old? Ridiculous. But please i am not the average pathetic 15 year old! I really need help, i'm almost stuck in a love triangle. I met this guy Mike and he is super nice, very polite, and cute and only one year older than me. But he seems to just be wanting to have sex. I've only known him for about a week and i am on my period so its delaying everything thank god! But than there's this guy Steve. He's 4 years older than me but he's really nice, funny, but ugly. Which i do mind a little, but in all honesty looks are not my all! And Steve says that if I keep associating with Mike he will not talk to me any more and things. I like them both but i am scared Mike will hurt me or more like use me for Sex, and Steve well, i see him more as a really good friend but he does not seem to understand that. Just a little advice please, or what you think i should do. Thank You so Much!
Ok first things first, if you think, or better yet know, that Mike is only going to use you for sex, drop him. You will get nowhere with him and you WILL end up getting hurt. You will develop feelings for him and he, on the other hand, will be interested in something completely different. Mike, in my opinion, seems like a dead end. Steve seems to like you, and while his looks may not be what you would like, take it from me, as you get older you will realize that being treated right and being happy is so much more important than how someone looks. At the end of the day, however, a little attraction to someone never hurt anyone either. Steve seems to be looking out for you and he seems to feel something toward you that Mike does not. I know it may be difficult to push off a guy that wants sex, like Mike. He may push harder to be with you and tell you how much he cares for you, but, keep in mind that all of those sweet nothings are just simply efforts to get into your pants. Simple as that. If I were you, I would give it a shot with Steve. He seems to be your safest bet here, and if it doesn't work out, so be it. At least you tried. Hope I helped!! Write back if you have any other questions!!
ok so i asked the question about the boyfriend and ex bf that wants me back.
so i told the ex that we should just stick to friends but that didnt really work out, he still asks for me back every day.
and now, my mom and i are fighting a lot about my grades and she walked out and said that she didnt want me or my brother anymore, so i called my bf (the 21 year old) just to talk to someone and he said he wasnt gonna deal with my bull sh*t and to call him when i have all my probelems solved permanently or else dont call him again. Why is he doing this?? i wasnt trying to bring him into it, i just needed to talk to someone about it all. And i really miss him a lot, and he told my best friend that he'd talk to me but he wasnt promising that we'd get back together because he has a lot to deal with already and he didnt wanna stand in the way of me graduating...but him breaking up with me only made things worse because now i cant concentrate in class at all...i dont have any idea what to do, because my mom said she doesnt want me anymore, and neither does my boyfriend...so i kinda feel like no one cares. =( What do you think i should do? I really love your advice.
first off, people definately care about you in life. i know how it feels to think noone cares about you because situations fall into place around the exact same time in your life that is unfortunate.
as for your bf, he is wrong. i think its time to reevaluate everything you have with him. you don't need him in your life. he turned away from you at a time you needed him the most. anyone that cares about you even the slightest bit shouldnt do that. he should be there for you. there are no excuses for this one. he said you have alot of b*llshit going on? who doesnt? he isnt worth it. this is just an early sign of many more back-turnings to come.
as for your mom, sometimes people are going through things emotionally within themselves and turn away from the people they love. this does not mean your mom doesnt love you...just because shes a parent doesnt exclude her from having real feelings and being depressed. i dont know whats going on with her and it isnt fair that you and your brother have to deal with this. you didnt do anything wrong. kids have trouble in school all the time. thats no reason for your mom to turn away from you. sometimes people, even parents, say things they dont mean, so i would give it a few days and see what happens. talk to your mom and tell her how this made you feel. if you arent close enough with your mom to share your feelings, maybe talk to your dad, older sister, or another adult that could possible help you guys. do whats best for you and your brother as a family. dont turn away from your mother, but maybe bringing someone else in to help the situation will be good.
overall, try your best not to let yourself get too upset over this. i know its easier said than done, but stressing out will only intensify the situation. sit back and think about everything going on right now. dont take it all as a whole, but one thing at a time. think about your situation with your boyfriend first. think hard about it and decide what you want to do and where you want to take it. if he left you, i would leave it be because you shouldnt want him back after this anyway. you're much better than that. thank him for letting you go. he did you a favor. trust me. ...then, take the situation with your mom..decide if right now is the best time to talk to her about it all or to wait a little while. know that she does love you. arguing with someone and saying hurtful things doesnt take away any amount of love. remember that....third, dont feel alone with any of this. so many people go through things like this everyday. trust me.
lastly, please dont let this stand in the way of school work. i know how it feels to stress out so bad over things that you cant concentrate at school, but please try to remember what YOU want out of life and YOUR goals in the long run: graduating.
please write back if you ever need/want to.
me: 17
ex: 18
current bf: 21
okay, so my boyfriend and i broke up at the beginning of august. we had dated for a year and almost 8 months.
Let me explain a little about this situation. He broke up with me for no apparent reason, while i was recovering from a tonsillectomy. He just walked out. then, two days after that
he came back to my house and begged for me back. he said he needed me and loved me more than anyone in the world and all that good stuff. So we gave it another try. Then we got in a fight and i caught him in a lie and he told me that i could never deserve anyone better than him, i could never get anyone better so i told him to lose my number. So we didn't talk for a few weeks. During those few weeks i was talking to anohter guy. We went out on a date, and it amazed me how well i was treated. he was so chivalrous, so kind and polite. He pulled out my chair, offwred to buy me whatever i wanted, and it was great.
So now he's my boyfriend. And he is just amazing. And my ex and i are friends, but he is begging for me back. And he kissed me last night and said he needed me. And now he is telling me he is tired of everyone telling him everything is his fault, and that he always messes things up, so he wants to make it to where he'll never have to hear it again...meaning ending it all.
And I feel bad because i have told him before that it was his fault we broke up and i did nothing wrong, because i didnt. i literally woke up one morning after what i thought was an amazing night, to find him packing his clothes...
i dont want to hurt him, and i dont want him to hurt himself...and a huge part of me wants him back, badly. but i dont wanna lose my current boyfriend either...what should i do?
This is a situation where you need to just stand back and evaluate everything. Sometimes, things are best left in the past and taken as a lesson learned. In relationships, sometimes we dont always treat the other with the respect and care they deserve. And sometimes we deserve a second chance. At all times in life, we are not always going to treat other people fairly, and it's okay to mess up. I think your ex boyfriend really does care, or maybe hes just sick of everyone on his back about what he did to you. Lying is in no way acceptable and never should be. I don't know what he lied about, but if it were something serious, then that can't be overlooked. There is a reason he walked out on you, and it's upto you to decide whether you want to risk that again. You don't want someone who is going to second guess your relationship and walk out. Did he give you a reason for it? A GOOD one? Try to understand his feelings and maybe you guys need to sit down and really talk.
As for him wanting to hurt himself, it seems like he has issues that go beyond you and him. For someone to have thoughts like that, there is something else going on in his head that he needs to get help for. You can't stay with someone just because youre scared they may hurt themselves. If he were to hurt himself, that would be in no way your fault. You did nothing wrong so please dont go on with that on your shoulders. He may just say that because he thinks if he says hes gonna hurt himself, youll see how much he wants you back and forgive him.
As for your new bf, he sounds wonderful. I wouldnt ruin things with him. Take it as far as you can. You deserve respect and love and it's hard to find someone like that nowadays. If you've got the full package, hold on to him.
All in all, I would sit down with your ex and the two of you spill out your feelings. Dig dip and let it all out. Explain to him that you do care for him, however, am seeing someone else now and you dont know where it will lead, but youre moving on. Tell him you can still be friends and you will always be there for him, but you cant go back to the past. Life doesnt work that easily.
Good luck and lemme know how it works out .
Okay, (rather long, brace yourself)
so my boyfriend and i have been going out for almost eight months.
And he does things that really piss me off to no end, he does really immature things, and he goes out of his way to make me feel bad about myself.
Ill give some examples.
Immaturity
When im telling him an important story, and say things like "He came really fast"
He'll laugh at the sexual content.
the other day a basket ball hit me in the face.
and i call him im like
"Jake, i was playing basketball with alyssa and the ball hit me in the face, it really hurts"
He'll laugh at the balls part.
Like, its funny the first few times, but then it just gets annoying, and it makes me feel like he doesnt care about me.
Or he'll (please dont get offended) say the N word to me and he gets mad when i dont laugh.
Im like, "Thats not funny, its mean"
and just other things, and they may seem funny, but he brings them up at the worst times.
Making me Feel Bad
We were video-chatting the other day, and my web cam is attatched to my lap top, so, when i move around it moves with me.
And i guess my boobs zoomed in on the screen,
and he'll start laughing and be like "Your tits were on the screen"
Or ill dive in his pool.
and i KNOW my bathing suit top didnt fall down, and he'll make something up to say he saw my boobs. And i'll automatically be embarrassed.
When i know that didnt happen.
Or if i point something out about him that annoys me or bothers me.
He'll turn it around and blame it on me, or make it look like its my fault
For instance, I was watching gossip girl one night, and he knows that i cant talk on the phone and watch t.v at the same time.
So, i was like "We can talk on AIM"
And he was like "nono its fine go watch tv, ill do hw or something"
I take funny pictures of myself and send it to him cuz i think theyre funny, and when i dont do something he wants, he threatens to put them on facebook.
Or he shows people, when i strictly told him not to,and one time he set one as his backround
I just dont trust his witht hem anymore
and he makes me feel really bad.
On purpose.
Showing off in front of his friends
He is a totally different person in front of his friends. He'll show me off in front of them about how we make out and stuff, and act like he doesnt care about my opinion, and says really hurtful things even though he's 'just kidding.'
Too close for comfort
he shares things with me that really gross me out, and he relies on the fact that we love eachother so much that i wont break up with him. He's got that wrong, becuase i can totally still dump his ass. We made a promise to eachother that we'd stay together long as possible, and he gets too comfortable with that, and thinks he can do anything, and i wont break up with him for it. Like saying mean things about my friends, and all of the above.
Now, my sisters wedding is coming up in about 2 weeks, and i invited him to it.
Im the maid of honor and i wanted him to be my date.
I cant break up with him now.
and i know if i do, despite all these things, i'll still be upset.
Why is that i can come up with a billion things i hate about him, but i still love him, and would be really upset if we broke up?
That makes no sense.
Also, what should i do about these problems?
Sorry for writing so much.
I really hope you can help
Unfortunately, each person is different and each person matures at a different speed. It seems to me that your boyfriend is just immature and still stuck in that annoying boy phase where sexual words are funny and teasing is okay. It is not okay for him to blackmail you or go behind your back and do something he says he wont(show your pics around). You should be able to trust your boyfriend, especially after 8 months, and if you can't, I suggest you leave him. I know you care about him and thats expected, however, right now, it doesn't seem like he fully understands what a committment is on any level. Maybe you breaking up with him will make him realize. He may think its all "harmless fun" and doesn't truly see how it is making you feel. I would try seriously sitting down and talking to him about it ALL, and if that doesn't help, I would break up with him. It's not going to work on these terms right now.
my kind of boyfriends dad passed like a year and a half ago and i think they r having a memorial for him this weekend.
he said he may ot be able to hang bc he has a tough weekend. and i asked me if i knew about his family (which i did) and i just feel so bad. and i want him to know im here for him but i dotn want to be annoying like eveyrone was to him. what can i text him or say to him so he knows im here for him? and he knows im legit, not just hav pity on him?
here's what i would say (21 year old female who has been with my boyfriend for 3 years):
life isn't always fair and i'm so sorry about what happened to your dad and what you must be going through. just know that i'm here for you with whatever you need. i'm here to talk to or if you want to be alone, i completely understand that too. i may not understand how you feel right now, but i do know i'm here to listen, and i wanted you to know that too.
i went with this boy back in the 6th grade and it was great at first then he broke up with me for 1 of my best friends.This year in the 8th grade i really really want him back but he is going with my friend still but she doesn't like him.i need some tips on how to get him back can somebody PLEASSSSSSSSSSSSSSSE HELP ME GET HIM BACK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!(I AM 13/F)
Ok, first off, you dont ever want to purposely make your friend look stupid as another person on here suggested. First and foremost, that is your friend and you dont want to ever embarass or belittle that person. Second off, I would reevaluate that friendship also because your boyfriend left you for her, meaning she is not such a good friend after all for going with him and pretty much betraying you. Third, please dont be desperate and vulnerable. You do not want someone that didnt want or respect you enough. He went with your friend. That right there shows complete disregard and disrespect for you. He is definately not worth it. No way, no how. He is pathetic to say the least. You do not deserve that. If he left you once for someone else, he'll do it again the next time he thinks something better comes along or even when he just feels like it. Not in any way, shape or form a way to live. I wouldn't be able to rest easy at night being with someone like that.
But, after it all, if you still want him, do not do anything to embarass yourself or anyone else. Thats not the way to go about it. I would just simply tell him how I feel and if he doesnt want you back, so be it. He doesnt deserve you anyways.
16/female
How long should you wait after hooking up with a guy and not recieving a phone call before deciding if he's used you or not? Sorry if that was a little confusing to understand, but it's been a week now and im not sure if i should just forget about him and move on, i really just can't stop thinking about him and i know after having sex the guy should at least call if he cares about the girl at all right? i mean if he dosent.. does that mean he has no feelings for her whatsoever?
if you had sex with him and he hasn't contacted you since then, then yes, i would say he's not interested anymore. i don't know him personally and we're not in his head, so we can't exactly say he used you but that's typically how the scenario goes if a guy doesn't call you afterwards. it's time to just take it with a grain of salt and keep walking. us girls get emotionally attached in some way after that, but for some guys, its just another notch on the bedpost. i know you cant stop thinking about him, but you really dont want a guy like that anyways and be glad you saw his true colors now and not when you were really deep in. after 3 or 4 days of no contact with him, i'd say its safe to say hes a loser. if he calls within 3-4 days at most, then give him a shot because some people dont feel the need to talk every single day. everyone is different. but, if he likes you and is interested, he would WANT to talk to you whenever he possibly can. so, as i said, give it no more than 4 days at most, and then take that as a hint.
im only 16 and iam pregnat i dont know what to do i feel like im dieing from my inside
the father of the baby want me to have an abort but i want ot have my baby and i dont know what to do is so much pressure and idont think is right to kill a little innocent baby i want to have the baby but this boy dont want to have a baby.. hes 17 and i love him but i cant do an abort.
:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:((: help me please ...
Let me just say one thing: If your boyfriend cared at ALL about you, he would NEVER even mention abortion! He should love you and even though you both are young, this baby is a product of the BOTH of you, and there should be no reason to even think of abortion.
Second: I respect you so much for not wanting an abortion. I am very against abortions and you are absolutely RIGHT...to kill an innocent child, let alone your OWN, is in every way wrong in my opinion. the subject of abortion is very controversal, however, it comes down to morals and self opinion. Bottom line, everyone deserves a shot at life, even if you put the baby up for adoption, you are giving YOUR child a fair shot at a wonderful life, versus not even trying.
Third and last: I have a wonderful 6 month old baby boy. I am 21 years old and my boyfriend is 20. We have been together almost 3 years and have been through our ups and downs, but when I found out I was pregnant when I was 19, never ONCE did he ever mention abortion. That is not something you say to someone you love in my opinion. You and your boyfriend made this baby, so you have to deal with it no matter how hard it is. If you truly feel you cannot care for the baby and give it a good, safe, stable life, then consider adoption. But, please understand that in my experience, yes it is hard, but having a child changed my life in so many ways for the BETTER. He is so wonderful and truly my heart and happiness. You never experience true love until you have a child. It is a whole new kind of love. And PLEASE, never ever let your boyfriend steer you in a direction you do no want to go in. This is YOUR CHILD, and first step in being a mother is being there for your child and never letting anyone harm your child. I'm so disappointed that he would try and force that on you. There is so much help out there for you and your child if you decide to keep it, with or without your boyfriend involved.
If you need ANYTHING , please contact me. Email: babyash1669@yahoo.com
DON'T HESITATE! take care and good luck.
f/18
My best guy friend isn't much of a reader but I'm the biggest bookworm alive. He use to tease me about reading all the time but one day at Borders, he turned to me and said, "You know what? I'm gonna start reading a lot like you do. I need to get educated with literature. Since you're good with books, pick out a book for me to read and we can read it together." Well, the big secret is I've had a very big crush on him for 4 years now and I think there's something there that he feels, too. I wanted to take this opportunity to write the story how we met and end it to admit my feelings for him and then I'm going to print this story and give it to him as the first book I chose for him to read as a surprise. I've been trying so hard for weeks now but I can't think of an interesting or cute opener. I can finish off the ending easily but the beginning I have come up with is as primitive as "There was this girl who met this boy when she was 14 and then she liked him." That doesn't sound interesting at all.
Any ideas to make it sound better?
Love. One word that could change everything. There are no boundaries. No limits. No holding back. And that is exactly what one girl in particular decided to face. She would bare all, without fear, and put her heart on the line.
Hope this helped! If you could, send me your story afterwards! I would love to read it. This, by the way, is a PERFECT idea and that's awesome how you have it planned out. good luck, i'm sure he'll LOVE it !!!!
If some girl was forced to give a guy a blowjob from her school, and she has a boyfriend, she obviously thinks he will break up with her but she was forced, does that considered as cheating?
If by force, you mean against her will, then she should go to the police or someone that can help. This is a bigger issue than cheating. However, if she "gave in" after this guy bothered her and kept asking, then that is not against her will and was her personal choice and yes, it is cheating.
ok so im inlove with this guy and trust me i know its love...im a poet and this is like poetry love for me!long story short.."er" is that i met this guy in my music class"outside of school"at first i liked his bro.and i also had a b.f at the time but then he started telling my peeps and bro's that he was into me.at first i thought they were jut kidding until i overheard him."shhh.."oh well so i started to like him now i mean he was just perfect for me.he was always flirting with me and always bud ito my buisiness.he wasn't like that with anyone else.so i guess he might have liked me.but when my friend asked him if he liked me he said"maybe"she even told him about how i dumped my b.f for him.then she asked if he would ever go out with me and he said once she go's to my school which was a year from then.any who months went by we started flirting more nd more,he even asked my friend for my number but he never called."SHY IM GUESSING"then just when things got really hott he quit my music clss.teacher told me it was cuz of money problems and how they couldn't afford it.but i.d.k!!now its been two months since i last saw or spoke to him,i will soon see him at school in about five months and im thinking if he was serious about liking me then he would have waited as i did for him.wat do you think?is he over me,will the spark relite once i see him again,is there any hope,or is my wish a failure?please respond..i mean i know this was really long but im so depressed cuz of this,im only 15 and i need to be happy at such a young age,but unless i know the truth i will not be.your my only hope.please answere my question.thank you!!
hey ..im sorry this is so late getting back to you. i dont know if you ran into him again since your post, but if not..this is my opinion on it..i honestly dont know what is going on inside his head and only time will tell if the spark will relite itself once meeting eachother again. it is odd he never called you, even after he quit his music class. if someone likes someone, shy or not, they will call. but, as i said, only time will tell. see what happens when you see him again and how he acts. see if he makes a move or even how you feel. just go with the flow, and if this guy doesnt work out, trust me when i say there are plently more. write back and let me know how things are with this!! again, im so sorry it took so long to respond! take care and good luck !!!
heyy. im a frosh and im really a shy girl! i need help flirting.. theres this one i guy i really like but hes shy! what can i do to make him like me? im sick of this crap like "wink!" or like "drop somethin so he can pick it up" i need ur help!!
try hanging out with your friends somewhere you know he will be !! See what happens !!
Ok if you really like someone, but they're going out with someone else but you know they like you, would it be stupid to wait for them? I really need to know what you guys think about that. Thank you so much!
XoXoJamie
All i can say is that if this guy is really interested, what is he doing with his current girlfriend?? And, how much love does he really have for her at all if he can let himself be attracted to someone else?? ..You definately need to confront him because there is no point waiting around for someone that is taken and not interested.
hi. okay well..i had a boyfriend for a little over nine months. and we got so close we were really in love i think. i feel like that i was in love at least. but then i don't know..something happened. and he kind of treated me wrong a little i guess and i don't know things fell apart because he got a new friend & he like influenced him or something who know..guys are weird. so then he broke up with me. but of course i still love him. i always will he was my first love. but now his friend is telling me that he likes me again & he's sort of acting like it. but for some reason, i'm so of scared. because i know i want to say yes to him..but in a way i'm not sure if i should. i want to move on in a way but i miss him so much. and like i'm scared it's going to be akward with us or something because it's been like almost four months i guess since we've been apart. but i don't know. i know i shouldn't worry about this now because i'm not even sure that we're even going to get back together. i don't know. maybe there's no way you can help but should i get worried? or should i just wait it out until something actually happens? i'm just confused. so please help if you can..
hey! ok, well heres what i think ...the only reason he broke up with you is most likely due to his "friend" that is a bad influence on him. His friend must have done or said something to make your man(i mean ex) want to break up with you and be single...im not saying that his friend told him to leave you or anything like that...im just saying that maybe seeing his friend living the "single" life or always wanting to hang out with your man gave your man a different outlook on things...maybe for the worst. If i were in your shoes, I would give this guy another shot...but not without letting him know how his actions have made you feel first! Let him know that you're angry and upset. Then, and only if you feel you are ready(because if you just give it time, you WILL get over him and move on happily), then you can give it another shot. But, first, give yourself some time to let him sulk in his own misery without you. Let him know how he made you feel...and then decide what your best move will be.
Well, hope i helped!! If you need anything else, feel free to get in touch with me!! Take care hun.
Love,
ash
A bit long hey, I'm involved with this guy the beggining of our relationshirp he told me that he is not a pefect boyfriend and he has been alone for a long time so and he doest want to get emotional hooked to me since he avoid being hurt, but he is inlove with me he doesnt wanna loose me so my problem I'm from a relationship which was more like a commitment so now I find it so unusuall the way things happen to my current relationship,for example he does'nt give himself more time to spend with me he likes being with his friends more than anything in his life he calls even after three days and ther's no reason not to, he doesnt give me that attention but what is amazing in his friends, work he always talk about me introduces me to all these peaple as if we one of happily family what is strange when we are to gether we enjoy a lot we dont fight at all so some times it looks like I think the worst of him because he sees nothing wrong from this relationship Ieven ask myself if i want to live him why I dont have a reason because we dont fight at all He does nothing wrong besides his ignorance is it a charector or he is not crazy
about me?because i'm not happy sometimes I miss him so bad but i know where he is I sometimes go through his phone wondering who does he calls I'will finds his friends all the way, and he does'nt like girls I tried to trap him on that i found nothing, so confused pls help
It seems to me that he just doesn't know how to be in a relationship. I mean, he told you he was scared of being hurt and all that, right? Well, then there you go...there's your answer. He has been alone a long time he also told you, so he is used to being alone and not having to answer to somebody all the time. He is not used to being in a relationship again, so definately give him time to get used to this change, and of course, talk to him about this. Just let him know how you're feeling. He may not even realize what he is doing wrong, so by telling him, you would definately be helping A LOT. Also, you have to remember that he is probably hanging out with his friends and love his friends so much because that's probably how it's been for him for a while...just him and his friends. But now that he has a girl, that has to slightly chance. But, you have to let him know that. And, since he introduces you to everyone and talks about you all the time, I'm pretty sure he's crazy about you, so no need to worry there.
Well, good luck and i really hope i helped!!
take care hun,
Ash
okay, so here's the deal. I went on vacation for a week and before vacation, me and the boy I liked made plans to hang out after vacation. By the way, he told me he liked me too. So when I got back from vacation, he hasn't even talked to me. Not even an attempt to talk to me. It's almost like I don't exist anymore to him. Then I heard from my other guy friend (who likes me) that he was hooking up with this other girl. But today she told him that they weren't anymore. So what's going on?? Why won't he talk to me? ANy help here?!?!?
this guy probably feels really weird talking to you after he started hooking up with this other girl. he most likely was scared and distant, and only for the simple fact that he told you he liked you and now that he was hooking up with another girl, he felt weird around you and most likely wanted to stay away from you. now that hes not hooking up with this girl anymore, talk to him. ask him what the deal is. dont be angry that he hooked up with another girl because its not your place to be mad since your not his girlfriend and it will only cause problems. just shake that off, let it go, and work on the present. im pretty sure he still likes you by the way, so just take it easy, give it a day, and if he doesnt call you, call him "just to say whats up" and see how he acts. good luck, take care, and whats meant to be will happen. bye hun.
i wanna make my boyfriend know that i like him. like i dont want him to break up with me cuz i feel like i havent been the best. and two other girls like him and i personally think they're prettier than me =/.. and i just really dont wanna loose him..like i feel like telling him i love him isnt enough but i dont wanna sound corny if i say more..help!
actions speak louder than words!!! definately call him and just spend time with him as much as you can. by SHOWING him that you like him, he'll get the picture. my boyfriend right now...he used to go out with this girl that never really hung out with him or even called him...and i do just the opposite ...i try and see him as much as i can and call him whenever i miss him(which is alot lol but i call him every few hours or so) ...and he even told me that he can tell i really like him just by how i am acting...so trust me that works!! good luck and take care hun. x0x
Okay mine and my boyfriends one year is coming up. And I have NO idea what to get him for it. He doesnt like watches so thats totally out of the picture. PLEASE HELP! I need good ideas!
me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years and for his last birthday, i spoiled him with clothes and the whole bit. you can never go wrong with clothes since everyone loves em!!! good luck and have fun hun. x0xx
This may be a little long...Sorry.. but i really need to know what was meant... So.. The other night I was at my boyfriends house we were laying in bed watching a movie... and his friend showed up... and then his brother came in and was watching the movie with us... Well then they all started talking about getting their new cars.. well my boyfriend and his friend.. and his friend said that him and my boyfriend could pick up chicks.... well my boyfriend was like no way.. Ive got mine right here... and put his arm around me... well then his brother said that all Kevin (my boyfriend) would have to do was have me with him to pick up chicks.... So my question is... Was he saying that I'm Hot... Or was he saying that I was like a lesbian or something... I was really confused by what he said..
that all depends on how your boyfriends reaction was. if your boyfriend gave a look or looked at all angry, then he meant that you were a lesbian so to speak. but if your boyfriend smiled at you or a good reaction came out of him towards you, then that means you`re hot.