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i don't really know how to title this one...
ok so i asked the question about the boyfriend and ex bf that wants me back.
so i told the ex that we should just stick to friends but that didnt really work out, he still asks for me back every day.
and now, my mom and i are fighting a lot about my grades and she walked out and said that she didnt want me or my brother anymore, so i called my bf (the 21 year old) just to talk to someone and he said he wasnt gonna deal with my bull sh*t and to call him when i have all my probelems solved permanently or else dont call him again. Why is he doing this?? i wasnt trying to bring him into it, i just needed to talk to someone about it all. And i really miss him a lot, and he told my best friend that he'd talk to me but he wasnt promising that we'd get back together because he has a lot to deal with already and he didnt wanna stand in the way of me graduating...but him breaking up with me only made things worse because now i cant concentrate in class at all...i dont have any idea what to do, because my mom said she doesnt want me anymore, and neither does my boyfriend...so i kinda feel like no one cares. =( What do you think i should do? I really love your advice.
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first off, people definately care about you in life. i know how it feels to think noone cares about you because situations fall into place around the exact same time in your life that is unfortunate.
as for your bf, he is wrong. i think its time to reevaluate everything you have with him. you don't need him in your life. he turned away from you at a time you needed him the most. anyone that cares about you even the slightest bit shouldnt do that. he should be there for you. there are no excuses for this one. he said you have alot of b*llshit going on? who doesnt? he isnt worth it. this is just an early sign of many more back-turnings to come.
as for your mom, sometimes people are going through things emotionally within themselves and turn away from the people they love. this does not mean your mom doesnt love you...just because shes a parent doesnt exclude her from having real feelings and being depressed. i dont know whats going on with her and it isnt fair that you and your brother have to deal with this. you didnt do anything wrong. kids have trouble in school all the time. thats no reason for your mom to turn away from you. sometimes people, even parents, say things they dont mean, so i would give it a few days and see what happens. talk to your mom and tell her how this made you feel. if you arent close enough with your mom to share your feelings, maybe talk to your dad, older sister, or another adult that could possible help you guys. do whats best for you and your brother as a family. dont turn away from your mother, but maybe bringing someone else in to help the situation will be good.
overall, try your best not to let yourself get too upset over this. i know its easier said than done, but stressing out will only intensify the situation. sit back and think about everything going on right now. dont take it all as a whole, but one thing at a time. think about your situation with your boyfriend first. think hard about it and decide what you want to do and where you want to take it. if he left you, i would leave it be because you shouldnt want him back after this anyway. you're much better than that. thank him for letting you go. he did you a favor. trust me. ...then, take the situation with your mom..decide if right now is the best time to talk to her about it all or to wait a little while. know that she does love you. arguing with someone and saying hurtful things doesnt take away any amount of love. remember that....third, dont feel alone with any of this. so many people go through things like this everyday. trust me.
lastly, please dont let this stand in the way of school work. i know how it feels to stress out so bad over things that you cant concentrate at school, but please try to remember what YOU want out of life and YOUR goals in the long run: graduating.
please write back if you ever need/want to.
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