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Ex-boyfriend Vs. Amazing Current Boyfriend
me: 17
ex: 18
current bf: 21
okay, so my boyfriend and i broke up at the beginning of august. we had dated for a year and almost 8 months.
Let me explain a little about this situation. He broke up with me for no apparent reason, while i was recovering from a tonsillectomy. He just walked out. then, two days after that
he came back to my house and begged for me back. he said he needed me and loved me more than anyone in the world and all that good stuff. So we gave it another try. Then we got in a fight and i caught him in a lie and he told me that i could never deserve anyone better than him, i could never get anyone better so i told him to lose my number. So we didn't talk for a few weeks. During those few weeks i was talking to anohter guy. We went out on a date, and it amazed me how well i was treated. he was so chivalrous, so kind and polite. He pulled out my chair, offwred to buy me whatever i wanted, and it was great.
So now he's my boyfriend. And he is just amazing. And my ex and i are friends, but he is begging for me back. And he kissed me last night and said he needed me. And now he is telling me he is tired of everyone telling him everything is his fault, and that he always messes things up, so he wants to make it to where he'll never have to hear it again...meaning ending it all.
And I feel bad because i have told him before that it was his fault we broke up and i did nothing wrong, because i didnt. i literally woke up one morning after what i thought was an amazing night, to find him packing his clothes...
i dont want to hurt him, and i dont want him to hurt himself...and a huge part of me wants him back, badly. but i dont wanna lose my current boyfriend either...what should i do?
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be his friend sit him down and tell him he needs to straighten his life out. it seems as if he doesnt know what he wants in his life he has plenty of time to figure that out it seems like he just needs a friend to be there for him
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This is a situation where you need to just stand back and evaluate everything. Sometimes, things are best left in the past and taken as a lesson learned. In relationships, sometimes we dont always treat the other with the respect and care they deserve. And sometimes we deserve a second chance. At all times in life, we are not always going to treat other people fairly, and it's okay to mess up. I think your ex boyfriend really does care, or maybe hes just sick of everyone on his back about what he did to you. Lying is in no way acceptable and never should be. I don't know what he lied about, but if it were something serious, then that can't be overlooked. There is a reason he walked out on you, and it's upto you to decide whether you want to risk that again. You don't want someone who is going to second guess your relationship and walk out. Did he give you a reason for it? A GOOD one? Try to understand his feelings and maybe you guys need to sit down and really talk.
As for him wanting to hurt himself, it seems like he has issues that go beyond you and him. For someone to have thoughts like that, there is something else going on in his head that he needs to get help for. You can't stay with someone just because youre scared they may hurt themselves. If he were to hurt himself, that would be in no way your fault. You did nothing wrong so please dont go on with that on your shoulders. He may just say that because he thinks if he says hes gonna hurt himself, youll see how much he wants you back and forgive him.
As for your new bf, he sounds wonderful. I wouldnt ruin things with him. Take it as far as you can. You deserve respect and love and it's hard to find someone like that nowadays. If you've got the full package, hold on to him.
All in all, I would sit down with your ex and the two of you spill out your feelings. Dig dip and let it all out. Explain to him that you do care for him, however, am seeing someone else now and you dont know where it will lead, but youre moving on. Tell him you can still be friends and you will always be there for him, but you cant go back to the past. Life doesnt work that easily.
Good luck and lemme know how it works out .
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