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pregnacy
im only 16 and iam pregnat i dont know what to do i feel like im dieing from my inside
the father of the baby want me to have an abort but i want ot have my baby and i dont know what to do is so much pressure and idont think is right to kill a little innocent baby i want to have the baby but this boy dont want to have a baby.. hes 17 and i love him but i cant do an abort.
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Its your baby to, You make the descion.
I considered abortion at first, But people with a heart can not kill an innocent baby that you created.
A baby is a gift for god.
I'll be 21 weeks pregnant in a couple of days an I'm fifteen.
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I know you are young to be pregnant.
It is something to think about. I
was your age when I got pregnant.
I got married and it worked out
fine for me. My husband was
supportive and that was very
important.
You can do it alone if thats what
you decide to do. It is VERY hard,
but can be done. I don't recommend it.
But since you are already pregnant
thats not the issue. :)
OK. First thing. It sounds like your
boyfriend isn't supportive. Notice
I said sounds like. If he isn't then
you dump him and get on with life
because you don't need more problems
right now. You need love and support.
If he isn't going to be there for you
and the baby then end the relationship.
Keep in mind that this may be a first
reaction in a situation that has him
panicked. Becoming a father at 17 or
a mother at 16 puts a stop or a long
wait to most things you may have
dreamed of doing after high school.
I don't know when you found out you
were pregnant, but give him time to
really think about it. You need to
do the same.
Talk to your mom. It won't be as bad
as you may think. You will need your
parents behind you, regardless of your
decision.
You need to honestly think about the
pros and cons of having the baby. Are
you prepared for major life changes?
Be honest with yourself and make this
decision based on what you want for
your future. Listen to others opinions,
but in the end, you have to decide this
for yourself. Remember, you will be
living with the decision the rest of
your life. It has to be YOUR decision.
My email address is on my column. Feel
free to use it anytime. Put advicenators
in the subject line first time so I know
it isn't spam. :)
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Let me just say one thing: If your boyfriend cared at ALL about you, he would NEVER even mention abortion! He should love you and even though you both are young, this baby is a product of the BOTH of you, and there should be no reason to even think of abortion.
Second: I respect you so much for not wanting an abortion. I am very against abortions and you are absolutely RIGHT...to kill an innocent child, let alone your OWN, is in every way wrong in my opinion. the subject of abortion is very controversal, however, it comes down to morals and self opinion. Bottom line, everyone deserves a shot at life, even if you put the baby up for adoption, you are giving YOUR child a fair shot at a wonderful life, versus not even trying.
Third and last: I have a wonderful 6 month old baby boy. I am 21 years old and my boyfriend is 20. We have been together almost 3 years and have been through our ups and downs, but when I found out I was pregnant when I was 19, never ONCE did he ever mention abortion. That is not something you say to someone you love in my opinion. You and your boyfriend made this baby, so you have to deal with it no matter how hard it is. If you truly feel you cannot care for the baby and give it a good, safe, stable life, then consider adoption. But, please understand that in my experience, yes it is hard, but having a child changed my life in so many ways for the BETTER. He is so wonderful and truly my heart and happiness. You never experience true love until you have a child. It is a whole new kind of love. And PLEASE, never ever let your boyfriend steer you in a direction you do no want to go in. This is YOUR CHILD, and first step in being a mother is being there for your child and never letting anyone harm your child. I'm so disappointed that he would try and force that on you. There is so much help out there for you and your child if you decide to keep it, with or without your boyfriend involved.
If you need ANYTHING , please contact me. Email: babyash1669@yahoo.com
DON'T HESITATE! take care and good luck.
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i definitely wouldn't recommend keeping it OR getting an abortion. have you thought of putting the baby up for adoption? i have a few friends who have been in your situation, & they have all said although it's hard, they're glad they chose adoption. it's so hard for a girl your age to keep up with a child. you need to finish school & live your life to the fullest before becoming a mother. plus, there are so many couples out there who are unable to have children on their own. personally, that's what i think you should do.
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This is something you have to live with the rest of your life. If you feel it's not righ to KILL A BABY then keep it- if he raelly does love you he'll stick with you..if not, im sure you have a smaiyl that will support you thruogh the difficult times.
although its scary & you're young
just remember, you're bringing a little you into this world, another person that will make a diffrence.
[: goodluck darling.
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