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Starting Over
Kinda long! But please I need your opinion!
22/f. I recently started talking to a guy that I met on tagged. I haven't seen him in person but we have seen pictures of eachother. We've been talkin for over a week now, almost all hours of the night, and I swear we can have a conversation about anything. I will admit, I am not the type to talk on the phone, so it MUST be serious if I'm sacrificing what little sleep I already get because I enjoy talking to him. For once, I'm talkin to a guy who is like myself in very many ways and is not about sex and all that. I can tell he is a very genuine person. We are both very focused on being friends first....
The thing is I know that one day he is going to want to meet me in person yet hasn't mentioned anything about it yet. I'm a big girl (BBW), and I'm just terrified that his opinion may change if he meets me in person. I mean I have pictures on my tagged showing me from my knees up, but I'm wearing black so you can't truly tell how big I really am... I am my worst enemy and there's many flaws that I know I have (big feet, etc.) But I will say what I lack in looks I make up for in personality.
I haven't dated in 4 1/2 years. So I am very shy when it comes down to it. I've been hurt numerous time and I've come to a point where I put my love life in PARK. I've found extra things to do to keep myself busy so the love life wouldn't be such a big deal. But it's tough cause I feel so alone. My friends are getting married and having kids and I feel just so out of the loop...
What do I do? Continue talkin to him?
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If you can talk about anything, let him know your concerns. If he reacts in a way that offends you then that takes care of itself. Or you can opt to just continue the friendship with no romantic ideas. Eventually when you actually meet the right man, if he cares for YOU, there will be no question.
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Yes, continue talking to him! Why not? Even if this turns out to be nothing serious, at least you made a good friend in the process: someone you can talk to, trust, and depend on. As for your looks, you can always do things to get in shape. At the end of the day, if he cares about you, he wouldn't mind. But, it is obviously an insecurity of yours, so, if for your own personal reasons, work on getting in shape. The things you cannot change are what make you who you are...we all have flaws that we would love to change, but it's who you are and you need to find a way to accept that. If you do end up meeting him, take a friend with you because you never know who you're connecting with on the internet.
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Yes you should continue to talk to him seeing as you two get along so good you being able to have a conversation with him about anything is a advantage for you you'll be able to talk about things easier and you won't have to struggle to find topics to discuss not all boys are the same their different some boys judge based on a girls looks and others don't if you can tell he is a very genuine person then i don't think you'll have a problem with him and the way you look don't let the fact that your nervous about him and your appearance stop you from meeting him in person anything can happen he may not comment about how you look seeing as he hasn't said anything before even though in the pictures your wearing black if you do decide to not go you may end up regretting your decision and saying i wished i had gone so i wouldn't pass up a opportunity like this...maybe this is your chance to not feel out of the loop and to not feel so alone i would try to not let your nerves get the best of you and go meet him in person be yourself don't constantly think if he is going to judge you on your appearance the main thing is that counts is that you have fun and enjoy yourself focus on you spending time with him don't let your thoughts wander to your looks it's worth a shot you meeting him in person :)
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