I'm a very wise old soul. I know about and understand many things. My motto : Good judgement comes from experience...And a lot of that comes from bad judgement. If we learn something from the bad judgement, it was not a wasted experience.
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ok im looking for adivice. my girlfriend doesnt seem into me! im looking for answer that tells what i should do help as soon as possible. thxn alots bye ima male and 16 helpsssss plssssss (link)
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As I have told others, you just can't force anyone to love you. It's that simple, you will never win over anyone who doesn't want to be won. If she isn't into you find someone who IS. If you don't you're basically kicking a dead horse.
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18/f
my mother and father fight a lot. This doesn't really bother me. It's the fact that she always takes her anger out on me. If idobt agree with her, I basically am discommunicated from the family for a few days, till I apologize. It's not fair. My brother will get in trouble for something, but then I end up getting grounded. My brothers are afraid of her, so yet always agree but I don't anymre, because she is usually wrong. She overreacts and always will start crying and will sy mean things to me. Like how I'm stupid or she hates me. I don't know what to do, or what to say anymore.
I really need some advice.. (link)
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Gently remind her who the MOTHER is and who the anger needs to be directed at. Don't do it in the heat of the moment, most situations like this only get worse if you pick the wrong time to talk, but when she's in a recpetive mood,(happy) or relaxed, speak to her with love and let her know your feelings and how much pain she is causing you with angry words. If it doesn't resolve the issue, consider removing yourself from her, she sounds toxic.
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Saturday night/ Sunday morning; I recieved a message from my ex on facebook. (we broke up thursday evening) He likes to write to express how he feels, so he wrote me this little poem thing, saying how much he loves me and misses me and how he knows he made a mistake.
I talked to him later on Sunday night. We talked in person. The whole time he was with me, he felt bad. I took advantage of it. We sat in his room, and I told him how bad he hurt me, and I got very detailed with it. He started to cry. He said his intentions were to never hurt me, and all he wants is to be in a realtioship with me, and just be happy. He doesn't understand why he kept having mixed emotions, but they would only last a day, and than go away after he went to sleep. I told him that maybe it was best if we both moved on; and the look in his eyes killed me. I oculd tell me saying that hurt him. He started to cry; and he said he doens't want to lose me. He wants to be with me; and hes not ready to move on from me because he has so much faith in our relatioship. So instead I told him we would take it slow.
(break up information, to help with the advice)
****His ex Marissa, he was with for a year and 6 months. The broke up several times, becuase she iddn't wnat him anymore; she wanted matieral things, and riley isn't very lucky with money,(they are poor) and she left him three times; The third time, he decided it was time to move on and he knows it will not work between them. So 3 months later; me and him started talking again, and started dating in November. She went those three months with out talking to him, plus a month after me and him was together; and than she randomly called and said she's been thinkin about him lately, and wanted to talk. He let her come over; and they talked. I was hurt, we agrued about it; he apologized, and told her it was best if they never spoke again; ever since then, he's had mixed emotions. ****
Since we have been broken up; he called her Saturday morning, and found out she had a new boyfriend; he was pissed, but yeah.
I want to take him back. I can tell how sorry he is. But I want him to realize what he has in front of him; I want his mixed emotions to be completely gone before we try "us" again. I want to make him realize what he's done (even though he already says he has) I just want him to prove it. I told him I wanted to take it slow, and he said he was going to fight for me, and chase me because he wants more than anything to be with me again.
Im just afraid that by doing this; ima end up pushing ihm away, :/
So whats the best way for me to do this? To make him realize what he has, and to make him NEVER want to leave me again? How do I make sure his mixed emotions are gone, as well? (link)
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I think he's kind of in rebound mode and if I were in your position, I would allow more time for his actions to speak louder than his words and make him show you not just TELL you by being patient with you to take him back. Everything in life doesn't have to happen right this minute, some things are best with time and I think your relationship is one of those things. Patience requires self control and working towards a better relationship is best for you both.
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I am not sure how to begin. I am a male, 50 years old. I moved in with a 22 year old girl as friends and roommate. The first night she comes out looking sexy. We did some drinking. I did not
to the next level. I wanted this relationship to be friends. As time went on, we really hit it off being friends. Until now. She drives me crazy sexually. I am trying to keep this relationship as friends. I believe I can't. I might have to move out. This was a temporary place until my house is ready. My question is, should I confront her on the way I feel? Is it possible she might feel the same way? I have not felt this way for a woman in a long time. thank you.. (link)
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Talk openly and honestly to her about this and find out how she feels and then simply respect her wishes. If the situation is just too difficult as friends, it might be best to live somewhere else unless her feelings are reciprocated. I wish you the best of luck and love, age isn't a factor when it comes to matters of the heart between adults.
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Since I got into 3rd year college, I always feel on a rush. It seems to me that I need to run before its too late. I want to be knowledgeable thats why i do a lot of reading which turns out to be im not finishing book i read because another book entered on my mind and feels the need to read that. I feel anxious because i might be too late for everything i want. Whats wrong? Help please? I want to be at ease. (link)
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In order to keep growing and learning,you have to allow time for unwinding as well. To do this, sit down and make a schedule for yourself, but allow time for just simply being alone and relaxing. Starting several books is great, just alternate and read a little of each when you feel the urge. You might also try some sort of physical exercise to help slow your mental race down some. You only have this one life and if you race through it too fast, you will miss lots of great things. You will have the time to become who you want to be if you also allow time to slow down.
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i'm 18. how can i get birth control pills without my parents knowing? I know since I'm 18 i can just do it but i don't want the bills to come to my house and stuff cause i live with my parents. and how much is it and stuff? (link)
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Look up your nearest Planned Parenthood. They offer free and confidential birth control. They won't send you anything at all in the mail, everything is done at their clinic.
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What is a good teeth-whitening product that actually works?
Note: I'm a broke college student; it needs to be affordable. (link)
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You can make a little paste of baking soda and peroxide, gets your teeth their cleanest is cheap and whitens them too. Also, avoid staining types of foods and drinks. Peroxide will cause spongy gums by itself and if used too often, but if you just mix it with the baking soda until it's pasty enough to brush with it's great!
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19/f
the other night my boyfriend and i were having sex and we did it for about an hour and towards the end i didn't feel "wet" anymore and it started to hurt. I figured that it was just like that because we had sex for a long time but i still feel abnormally dry down there. is this normal? (link)
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Yes. Normal.
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I volunteer at the hospital and I work really hard because one day i want to be a nurse. So I got...I wouldn't say trouble but I gave a patient water that wasn't supposed to have water (but they knew so they didn't drink it). I apoligized the nurse who told me and she's like, "It's okay. I know; you try too hard."
is that supposed to be a bad thing or good thing? Because I cna't think of anytime when the phrase "you try too hard" sounds pleasant. (link)
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I think she means that you are trying to hard to keep the patients happy, instead of doing your job. No matter how much you enjoy anything, if you put too much into it, you can burn yourself out. Pace yourself, especially at work, and concerning the patients. In some cases little mistakes can become life or death in a hospital, so just slow down your enthusiasm just a bit, enjoy your work, but be more concientious about it. In the long run you will serve yourself as well as everyone else better.
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So recently my boyfriend and I have been 'exploring' I guess you could say and like if were lying on a bed or just standing and full on kissing and picking up and I would get ' wet' downstairs and can I stop that? Then we were on the bed and had dry sex ( clothes on) and I would get wet and it gets annoying what can I do?! Thanks f/15 (link)
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Thats your body's natural reaction to being turned on. There is nothing you can do except maybe think of something else to keep yourself from enjoying it. But if you do that, then whats the point. Just accept it.
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I like phones that slide sideways with a full horizontal keyboard. Unlimited EVERYTHING, nothing fancy looking, just a messaging phone. It can't be ugly though! I like blue phones.
What would be the best plan for me if I want something that is less than $100/month and companies that have messaging phones.
MAYBE: Touchscreen with a keyboard, can take pictures & videos with it, and the internet looks good when you go on it.
Thank you to everyone who answers! (link)
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Go with ATT, they help you pick a phone you will like and update them free as long as you renew your contract.
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I really love my husband but i keep having these thoughts what it would be like with out him we have a lot of problems and then again i feel like i do not have a good enough reason to leave him. our problems are i feel he yells at my son (his step son) to often and over stupid stuff if i correct him my husband throws a fit saying you are always telling him the oppisite, he is constatly trading and selling dogs, he hasnt had a job longer than a week since i have known him, his last real job was in like 2008 sometime, around the house i can not get him to do anything, if i ask him to do anything its days before he will do it and i ask him why its not done he says why do i have to jump up and do it. if i start to do it then hell get up. we had split up because i had surgery and he refused to help me i had to take care of my two kids and my self a day after i had surgery well while i stayed at my dads he gave my furniture away for a dog, all my dished and stuff are gone i have nothing any more and he doesnt seem to care. the furniture i am upset about i am still paying on them almost 3 grand i still own and he wont help me get them back and he still talks and hangs out with the people like nothing is wrong. sometimes i cant even think of the good things. its just once in a while he has good times were hell straighten up a little of offer to take my son with him to the store something like that. sorry so long. (link)
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You answered your own questions. Dump him!!!
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nobody can see my profile pictures album how do i let them see it (link)
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You need to go in and edit your privacy settings through your profile then edit settings button. If that doesn't work, go to the help section of FB and ask them to help you correct this. They also have a section of help questions and more than likely they have answered the same question for someone else. Check that and see if you can find the helpyou need to fix this.
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To begin with, I love my boyfriend...we always have a great time together and he is my best friend. He's the only guy I've ever done stuff more then kissing with and I've lost my virginity to him (and he lost his to me). This morning I woke up really happy because we had a date last night and it was really fun. But then I checked my facebook, and everyone else updated their status about them hanging out with friends and my best friend sent me a text and said she missed hanging out with me...I'm so confused, because I LOVE hanging out with my boyfriend, I'd rather hang out with him then anyone else, but at the same time I miss hanging out with my friends. I feel like my friends are just like "oh, she's always with her boyfriend now, she probably won't want to hang out with us anyway" and they never invite me to stuff like they used to :( I guess I have been more distant since I've been with this guy, and I miss my friends but I'd still choose to hang out with my boyfriend over hanging out with them...I don't know why but I've been craving the 'single life' lately, even though I'd never break up with my boyfriend, at least not right now. And I don't believe in 'taking a break'...if I ever broke up with him (or him with me), I couldn't ever allow us to get back together because if we can't work out the first time, then we probably can't work out the second time. So what do I do? I feel like I'm torn between my friends and my boyfriend, but I'm not...I'd rather hang out with my boyfriend. Maybe I just like the idea of being more social rather then actually doing it? A lot of times when I used to hang out with a friend, I'd get really bored and just want them to leave so I could be alone...I just don't know what's up with me! I'm so confused :( please help, any advice is appreciated!
Also, if it helps, I'm 17 and he's 18...we've been together for a little bit over a year. (link)
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You can't choose one over the other. Everything in life requires balance, that includes, friends and boyfriends. Your question is more about time management. Find ways to include them together and seperately. It's important to all relationships concerned, like plants they will eventually die without care. To preserve them all, nourish them all.
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Hi. My husband and I had a baby in 1998. She died at five days old and never made it home from the hospital (long story). We had another pregnancy in 2004, but he died at 5 months gestation. We aren't able to try again. The hospital took photos of our daughter after she died as a keepsake. They were very caring. We sent a photo later to my parents and in-laws and have one framed at home. My mother displays Katie's photo very prominently, and for some reason this doesn't feel right, especially after so many years. Katie's face is greyblue and it reminds me of her last day and our pain, and I just can't look at it. I keep my copy where I can look if I have the urge, but I just couldn't keep it out where I'd see it all the time. I think Mom has hers out as a tribute, but it feels like time to put it away and replace it with a photo of another, living grandchild. Should I ask her to remove it or do you think this is still appropriate in her home? Thanks! (link)
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If it makes you uncomfortable, it should be put somewhere else. Period. If it causes you pain, let her know.
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15/f
There are two boys that treat me strangely. I want to know why. They're both the grade above me and are kinda clowns, but not the kind that everyone finds endearing. Some people love them, some want to punch them, ya know?
The weird stuff they do--
-Teasing me about things involving sex. One of them kept saying the weirdest things, and honestly I think it was to make me blush. Why? Because the redder I got, the happier he looked. Very, very awkward. The other does sometimes too, I think.. I don't quite understand the things he says, but my friends say it is. Either way, whenever I get confused he just laughs and says "nevermind."
-Acting like they want a high five, then pulling their hand back and laughing. I get annoyed and call them jerks. A couple minutes later they will force me to give them one.
-One always sings some kinda song to me and tries to scare me by hitting my desk when he goes by, the same one that tried to make me blush by talking about sex.
To be honest, these guys don't seem like the sincerest types on Earth, so I'm sure it isn't attraction. Why pick on ME, though? :/ The biggest compliment I've ever got on my looks from a guy was that I "am alright", so what the heck? Are they just getting a thrill from teasing someone who is admittedly rather sheltered?
Sorry that this is so long. Thank you very much though for reading all this way and, if you answer, for answering. :) I appreciate it a whole lot. (link)
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They do it because of the reaction they get from you. Try to ignore them, and if that helps your problem is solved. In my experience, people do this because they have found an easy target. When you take away the easy target factor, they have nothing left as a reward and the behavior should stop.
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15 F Canada
Hey, I really hope you can help and follow what Im getting at It would mean a lot to me.
I'm having troubles sleeping, I CAN'T EVER SLEEP .
I could stay awake all night and never sleep (just like tonight) I'm very tired but I can't sleep. I will go to lay down and I'll get all paranoid and I will hear things, and I get so scared I almost hyper ventalate sometimes, I hide under the covers all night, I always need my pet cat in the room, and I still can't sleep, when I go to sleep i always have to cover my ears and have a light on of some sort because I get so scared. I dont know why Im scared though!? Like its gotten to the point where I don't expect to really be asleep till about 4 or 5 am. Probably not at all every night. I have heard things about being Schitzo, or some kind of things like that but I'm not quick to make a conclusion, I try and tell my parents but they just laugh at me, but I think its very serious.
Any insight would help thank you very much! (link)
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Have you tried playing soothing music into a set of headphones? Are you drinking tons of stimulating drinks during the day? There are lots of things to address here, but you must get some sleep. Try using some sort of white noise, music,or nature sounds, something like that. Talk to someone close to you about your fears and maybe make a trip to the doctor for a health check up. Sometimes it is a physical, not mental problem that keeps you from getting sleep. I hope this helps.
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My boss is more then 50yrs old and lives with his parents. He does not have a lot of social skills. I have caught him following me around the office and looking at what I am doing, like what mail I put in the outbox or who am I talking with or where I am going in general. His behavior is creepying me out. I can do my job without even talking or speaking with him for weeks and have tried to stay out of his way to see what would happen and it seems this makes his behavior worsen. I find it creepy to come out of the women's restroom to find him leaning against the wall near the men's waiting for me. He then joins me and walks back with me into the office. He watches my emails through the network server (only mine as he moved my and his email to a separate server from everyone else) and watches the websites I go onto and programs I access.
What is the best way to handle this guy? If I tell him to back off, he tells me I am paranoid. And yet this continues. (link)
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He's your boss, and has every right to oversee your work. But not walk you back from the restroom. You need to write him a letter, or email, addressing your concerns. If this doesn't work, go over his head. It's one thing to oversee you work habits but quite another if he's creeping you out. Follow the proper steps to get this resolved, and let him know that the distraction of his presence is affecting your job performance and ability to concentrate. The reason I say to address him in writing is because you don't want to get into a he said she said sort of game with this person. You need proof that you have sought resolution in the appropriate way.
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Kinda long! But please I need your opinion!
22/f. I recently started talking to a guy that I met on tagged. I haven't seen him in person but we have seen pictures of eachother. We've been talkin for over a week now, almost all hours of the night, and I swear we can have a conversation about anything. I will admit, I am not the type to talk on the phone, so it MUST be serious if I'm sacrificing what little sleep I already get because I enjoy talking to him. For once, I'm talkin to a guy who is like myself in very many ways and is not about sex and all that. I can tell he is a very genuine person. We are both very focused on being friends first....
The thing is I know that one day he is going to want to meet me in person yet hasn't mentioned anything about it yet. I'm a big girl (BBW), and I'm just terrified that his opinion may change if he meets me in person. I mean I have pictures on my tagged showing me from my knees up, but I'm wearing black so you can't truly tell how big I really am... I am my worst enemy and there's many flaws that I know I have (big feet, etc.) But I will say what I lack in looks I make up for in personality.
I haven't dated in 4 1/2 years. So I am very shy when it comes down to it. I've been hurt numerous time and I've come to a point where I put my love life in PARK. I've found extra things to do to keep myself busy so the love life wouldn't be such a big deal. But it's tough cause I feel so alone. My friends are getting married and having kids and I feel just so out of the loop...
What do I do? Continue talkin to him? (link)
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If you can talk about anything, let him know your concerns. If he reacts in a way that offends you then that takes care of itself. Or you can opt to just continue the friendship with no romantic ideas. Eventually when you actually meet the right man, if he cares for YOU, there will be no question.
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so call me stupid, but I met up with this guy I met online a few days ago who I actually have mutual friends with and who lives a town over. He was sweet and bought me coffee and we walked around and talked for a while, getting to know each other. Until I stupidly obliged to go to his house with him (even though his parents were home -he's 20 almost 21 by the way, I'm 19). we just hung out for a while until he put it in a movie and that's where things took a turn...I had actually never even been kissed before (yeah, at 19) and obviously also never done anything else. well, we kissed, and did more.. we didn't have sex, which I'm glad we didn't, but I know he wouldve gladly wanted to. he's not a virgin and really experienced.
he keeps texting me now asking to hang out again, but my gut is telling me I shouldn't. He was nice and sweet, and had a cool personality but I wasn't really that attracted to him and the fact that the majority of our little date was sexual gives me a bad idea of what would happen at the next date.. this leaves me confused though because he was my first kiss and whatnot and if I don't see him again then I'm just another girl and he's just a random hookup.
there were times where things were cute- we were just cuddling on the couch and he'd be like "I like this" leading me to believe a relationship could form out of it.. but I don't know if I even want a relationship. let alone with him.
I'm confused. I feel like this was a bad idea to even meet up with him in the first place. I don't regret the fact that he was my first kiss, but I just don't know what to do or say to him now cause I don't think I want to see him again. help? (link)
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Be honest, tell him he's a nice guy, but you are only interested in being friends with him. You owe him NOTHING. He gave you coffee and you got kissed. End it there if that's what your gut says.
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