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Should I take him back?
Saturday night/ Sunday morning; I recieved a message from my ex on facebook. (we broke up thursday evening) He likes to write to express how he feels, so he wrote me this little poem thing, saying how much he loves me and misses me and how he knows he made a mistake.
I talked to him later on Sunday night. We talked in person. The whole time he was with me, he felt bad. I took advantage of it. We sat in his room, and I told him how bad he hurt me, and I got very detailed with it. He started to cry. He said his intentions were to never hurt me, and all he wants is to be in a realtioship with me, and just be happy. He doesn't understand why he kept having mixed emotions, but they would only last a day, and than go away after he went to sleep. I told him that maybe it was best if we both moved on; and the look in his eyes killed me. I oculd tell me saying that hurt him. He started to cry; and he said he doens't want to lose me. He wants to be with me; and hes not ready to move on from me because he has so much faith in our relatioship. So instead I told him we would take it slow.
(break up information, to help with the advice)
****His ex Marissa, he was with for a year and 6 months. The broke up several times, becuase she iddn't wnat him anymore; she wanted matieral things, and riley isn't very lucky with money,(they are poor) and she left him three times; The third time, he decided it was time to move on and he knows it will not work between them. So 3 months later; me and him started talking again, and started dating in November. She went those three months with out talking to him, plus a month after me and him was together; and than she randomly called and said she's been thinkin about him lately, and wanted to talk. He let her come over; and they talked. I was hurt, we agrued about it; he apologized, and told her it was best if they never spoke again; ever since then, he's had mixed emotions. ****
Since we have been broken up; he called her Saturday morning, and found out she had a new boyfriend; he was pissed, but yeah.
I want to take him back. I can tell how sorry he is. But I want him to realize what he has in front of him; I want his mixed emotions to be completely gone before we try "us" again. I want to make him realize what he's done (even though he already says he has) I just want him to prove it. I told him I wanted to take it slow, and he said he was going to fight for me, and chase me because he wants more than anything to be with me again.
Im just afraid that by doing this; ima end up pushing ihm away, :/
So whats the best way for me to do this? To make him realize what he has, and to make him NEVER want to leave me again? How do I make sure his mixed emotions are gone, as well?
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I think he's kind of in rebound mode and if I were in your position, I would allow more time for his actions to speak louder than his words and make him show you not just TELL you by being patient with you to take him back. Everything in life doesn't have to happen right this minute, some things are best with time and I think your relationship is one of those things. Patience requires self control and working towards a better relationship is best for you both.
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