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Hey this is angelwings saying if you need advice don't be afraid to ask. Anything goes, if you're not ashamed to ask it im not afriad to reply to it. If you feel you can't talk to anyone around you remember you always got me.
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18 years old female.
i'm in college but i commute so i don't really get to live the college experience and its like 30 minutes away so i don't like going out there to party. but one of my best friends did stay and goes to a community college so i always have her to hang out with. well i usually don't do much during the week because i have a lot of homework and i have a job so i look forward to the weekends. well i always hang out with my friend because there is nobody else to be with? and i mean i can trust her with everything and she is so nice but she is probably one of the most boring people i have met. she doesn't like to meet new people, she doesn't really like going out much. her fun is me going over there and watching like a hockey or baseball game and to me thats just boring. we will make plans ahead of time and then that night or the day before she will be like "oh i forgot that i have this family thing to go to" she doesn't really have any other friends, she hangs out with her neighbor who is annoying 24/7 and she goes to her parents friend's parties. but then that leaves me with nothing to do and i end up sitting home on a saturday night and that just drives me crazy because i love going out and doing something fun, i'm outgoing. i am close with my cousin, she is 18 and a senior in high school so occasionally i will hang out with her and her friends but they're into different things than me and more of a "bad influence" so i don't like to be with them that much. i just don't know what to do. i feel like i have such a horrible life, i want to live it up but i cant. all my friends went off to college :( and it's not an option for me to live in a dorm. me and my friend say we will go visit all our friends but we just don't have the same schedules so it is hard. i'm just so lost and confused. it's making me depressed..
Ok first lets start with your friend, I think that if you just dragged her out of the house and out of her comfort zone she might realize that life is more than just sitting at home watching games and going to parties with her parents. She might end up really enjoying herself you just have to take the intiative and make her do it. If my friends didn't drag me out I would never go anywhere and I live on campus. And you know what else, I always have fun. Its more the people your with than the actually place that constitutes a good time. If you dont like the company get new company. If dragging her out of the house doesnt work though I would consider finding someone else to hang out with. You say your outgoing so it shouldn't take that much. You don't have to be bestfriends with a person just start out making new friends and testing out going places with them. If you don't want to do that then I really thing you should go out with your friends at school. I really don't think 30 minutes is a long way to travel. For me it usually goes by so fast I don't even notice it. I mean 30 min. of your times is not a steep price to pay to have a good time. I mean where is it that you are planning to go and have fun if your not willing to travel a little bit. These are just some suggestions but I think it would really help.
I wanna be cool but im just too overweight...i have nice clothes and tons of friends but am afraid ill never have a boyfriend because im overweight....i love food.....everything. People make fun of me and i eat healthy but i can just never lose weight...it hurts when people call me fat...and i know it's true...help needed..i wonder what i should do.
The question you have to ask yourself is "are you unhappy?" If you set aside the worry of having a boyfriend, are you happy with yourself. IF the answer is yes then thats all you need and if you like yourself everything else will follow. Yes, teenagers can be mean and talk about your weight but those arent the people you need to associate yourself with let alone start a relationship with. IF you like yourself people will like you for you and you will find that one boy that doesn't care about your weight. However, on the other hand if YOU are unhappy with the way you look its time to do something about it because in the end its all about what you want and what it takes to make you happy. So to answer your question, there are other ways to loose weight other than to starve yourself. Actually thats not how you loose weight at all. You have to eat but eat smaller portions and drink more liquids in order to change your matabalism. Also as you eat you must exercie on a regular. Create a schedule and make sure you stick to it. Good Luck!
It never fails. Everytime I find a guy, who I think is
Perfect, it never works out. If they’re cute, they’re almost always taken. It never fails!I know I got to work hard for what I want, yeah I know, I’ve heard it way too many times before. But I just don’t want to try that hard for something that will never work out. What is the problem? I don’t get it. Is it me? I need some serious help, Oh man. I wish it came easily to me like it does to every other girl. What am I doing wrong??? Its like every cute guy is totally wrong for me and all I can get are the ugly ones. Should I just settle for that? I need help!!!
You should never settle for anyone but maybe you should go for something you wouldn't necessarily go for anyother time what you find might surprise you. Sometimes you have to step outside of you box to find something that will really work for you.
how do you get rid of hiccups?
hold your breath until you feel another hiccup coming
Okay, i had this friend named maddie and i introduced her to my friend caitlin and i said hi to caitlin and she told me my friend was weird and i ignored and i said hi to maddie on aim and then she was like WHO R U? and im ike jasmine im on my other account lol and then she said how kat was so mean to her and i said sorry she was mean and all and then she said YOU BETTER BE I ALMOST CALLED THE POLICE ON HER so i dont know how bad what caitlin said was! And im scared facing her because she might be mad at me because she said DONT TALK TO ME and im really scared and i really wanna be her friend! What do i do?
two friends=0????
I think you should try to explain to her that you didn't know your friend would act that way and keep trying to aplogize. I also think it would be in your best interest to find out what happened between those two and talk to your other friend. Let her know that what she did was wrong and she needs to aplogize because if it was serious enough for maddie to call the police than there is a problem that needs to be confronted and fixed.
Ok, dont think im crazy, or weird, but i have a problem. What do you think the point in life is???
I asked one of my friends, and they said to serve god. and i go to church and believe in god, but im not very religious (ok, well i am, just im 14, and to afraid to tell my parents i dont believe what they and the church (roman catholics) believe.)
I think i have an issue (like...mental, not LITTERALLY, but like depression ,or someting....my friends, even my bf said im bipolar, b/c i am happy, then all of a sudden depressed for no reason)
ANYWAYS, what do you think the point in life is?
thank you, and sorry this is a long Q. im just trying to explain myself!
Well, i am also a roman catholic so i won't speak on that subject but i think the meaning of life is to be happy and do what ever it takes for you to be happy. If you are not happy with your life try making a change. Don't do anything dangerously drastic but something productive. You said that sometimes your happy and then in an instant your mad. Well, i think you should take a step back and figure out why your happy during those times and expand on that. Do anything you can to make you feel good about your day and about you as a person.
I'm 15/f, he's 16/m
I've been going out with my boyfriend for almost 6 months now... well by Christmas that will be 7 months. I have random little ideas for a gift for him, like based off of inside jokes we have and stuff. I'm not really into generic gifts, like chocolate etc... The problem is just that, though - all the gift ideas I have are LITTLE. I don't think they would really amount to anything, I've only thought of a few. Is there a way I can tie small gifts and a bigger gift together in a way that they would make a good gift? And what can that big gift be? I want to make him happy with this but I have such trouble being creative.
I think it would be really cute to put all the little stuff in little boxes and but all the little boxes in a really nice big box. They also have these cute little boxes that you have to open in wierd ways and that would make him anxious to see whats inside. But still put them all in a big box.
well i have this problem..i really hate myself i think i'm stupid fat and totally ugly! my mom always tells me i'm not and i'm soooo pretty but i think she's just saying that cause she's my mom! and well a lot of grown up's are also telling me i'm the most pretty girl the've ever seen but in my school people always tell me i'm ugly except my best friend but i think she's also just saying that cause she's my friend! and i really dont get it .. all the grown up people think i'm soo pretty and they tell me that when im not even asking! but in school everybody says im ugly and everytime i look in the mirrow i start crying! i dont know whats wrong with me! i wanna like me but i really hate me! can anybody tell me how i get myself to like me again? please!!!!! i'll rate high for good advice
Sorry to tell you but no one can tell you how to like yourself. It is in your own mind why you are unhappy. You say all the grown ups say your pretty but the kids at school don't, but it doesn't matter. You shouldn't need any one to make you feel beautiful. You should know you are. True beauty is not outward but whats in your heart and your character. If people can't see how wonderful you are then thats their problem and you'll be better off without them in your life. You need people in your life that motivate you and make you feel good, like your friend. These people who call you ugly are just self centered and don't care about how they make you feel, but you know what, they won't ever find anyone who loves them for the person they are and not just what they see, they don't have your potential. Besides, after high school you probably won't ever see those people again in life and then their opinon won't even matter. You find some one who loves you and appreciates you the way you are, beautiful on the inside and out. Those are the people and opinions you'll cherish in life. Those are the one's that matter. Trut me you are as beautiful as anyone else and don't let anyone tell you differently, not even yourself.
Good Luck. I hope you realize how special you really are.
My friend Tracee has had a couple boys this past year. I have not really, but I am not jealous. I don't try to get guys to like me because I haven't really found anyone I really like this past year. Thing is, I've heard that she's been saying stuff behind my back about it. That supposedly like no boys like me and I have no "expierence" and I don't know guys at al she supposedly said to my one friend. Like, if I don't care about it, why does she? Should I say something or let it go?
I think you should say something to this friend. I don't think that she should be saying things about you behind your back about things that she knows nothing about. I think that you should tell her that if she was really your friend she wouldn't be saying things like that behind your back. She shouldn't really care about your love life and just worry about her own because it sounds like she has enough to deal with, with all the guys she talks to. Whether you can get guys or not, or if you are just not interested is none of her business, i understand she's your friend and all, but if you haven't talked to her about it then its not her place to say anything about it especially to you other friends. If she's concerned then she needs to come to you, if not then she's just being a bad friend. And she should never think that no one likes you because she's supposed to be your friend and saying things like that can be hurtful, and that means you don't think anyone could like her. Which is not very friend like.
my ex boyfriend and i just broke up. we had an EXTREMELY strong emotional relatoinship, and were each others best friend. but, he told me he loved me one night, and that freaked me out. i said it back by accident and when i told him i didn't mean it yet, he was devastated. we ended up breaking up b/c i didn't feel like it was fair to him for me not to be able to return his feelings. now we both still have extremely strong feelings for ecah other, and i don't know what to do. is it okay to be in a relationship if someone likes you more than you like them? i know ill fall for him, but it will take me much longer than it did him. help!
Ok well its my opinion that everyone in a relationship will have one person have more intense feelings for the other person but that doesn't mean that they don't need to be together. I don't think breaking up with him was the answer to your problem, the fact that both of you still have really strong feelings for one another means that obviously you felt deeply for him, whether it was as strong as his feelings for you or not. I think that you should give it another try and if he loves you as much as he says he does then he will understand how you feel and know that it isn't because you don't care about him at all, its just that you want to be sure of your feelings before you tell him something of that significance. Just because you dont love him now doesn't mean that you won't feel that way for him in the future. Love really does take time and not everyone comes to that reality as fast as others do, and like i said if he loves you like he says he does then he should understand that and not penalize you for it. The most important thing was that you were honest with him in the beginning.
There's this guy in my class that one of my friends thought I would make a cute couple with, and some of my friends think he likes me. They're always bringing him up and stuff, and they always ask if I like him, but I won't tell them I do because they would torture me even more about it. Not that it really matters because 2 of my friends are already convinced I like him (which I do) but also I like this guy from camp who lives 45 minutes away who I haven't seen or talked to since summer, and he told me he liked me and I told him that I liked him on the last day of camp, so I feel bad liking someone else. Me and the guy in my class talk alot even though we aren't exactly friends, and sometimes I see him looking at me (which for all I know could just be a coincidence) but my friends swear that he likes me. I'm not sure what to do...
Any help would be appreciated, and I'm sorry if this was long/confusing
btw, I'm 14/f
First of all I don't think that you should feel bad about liking someone else because ya'll said ya'll liked each other but didn't really make it offical that ya'll are together, so technically your not doing anything wrong. And i think you should figure out if this other guy like you back or if your friends are getting mixed signals, cause depending on his answer that would pretty much make your decision for you. and then depending on his answer you might have to decide which one you like most or which one would work for you the most.
I like this guy... and he likes me. yeah. makes sense. were like... together- but I just like.. LIKE LIKE him, but he's obsessed with me. He likes me more than i like him. is that bad? or.. well. he kinda just wants to get more involved right now more than i do. like... well. im just fine being simply 'together'. he wants to get into all of the LOVE life kind of deal. how do i deal with it?
Well, you cant force yourself to love someone especially when thats not what you want right now and im sure he'll understand that. One person in the relationship is always going to feel a little more than the other person, thats natural. But I think if you really do like him and your just not ready for love right now then maybe you will later. You have to grow to love someone not just do it because they do. I think eventually your feelings will change, and if he loves you like he says he does then he'll wait for you.
I just want some opinions on this:
Do you think it's wrong to let your boyfriend go to a strip club?
I personally think it is wrong, but then I see some girlfriends even go with their boyfriends to stripclubs!! I just don't get it. How could you let your boyfriend get turned on by another woman? ..or let alone get a sexy lap dance by another woman? I personally think that can even lead to the thought of cheating.
What do you guys think? I am 18 and my boyfriend is 17 and he will be 18 next month. I don't know whether to never let him go to a strip club(since that is a common thing for men to try out at least once in their lives) or to let him try it out. I am really uncomfortable with that idea.
It all depends on how you feel. If you really feel uncomfortable about letting him go then you should tell him that and he should understand. But personally I don't really see the problem because in the end it is just entertainment. Guys do it for fun they usually don't go in there looking for girls to cheat on you with. Its something about watching what you know you cant have that turns guys on. YOU just have to remember that your the one he is coming home to in the end
Hey! This is my first attempt to buy a mini skirt and i was questioning the way they should fit. On the one i bought, the skirt fits around my butt, but then is loose under the butt area. Is this how it should fit, or should it fit like a pair of jeans, tight all over??
Well it depends on what type of skirt ur looking for, but most mini skirts are loose at the bottom, so yes your skirt does fit right.
I started going out with this guy that I really like and he's turning 17 real soon and I'm his 1st gf. Well he sweet and nice and everything I like but he's missing one thing he needs to intimacy just like a LITTLE freak to him he's so shy and stuff and I want to just get something I mean he hugs me but I need MORE!!! How can I get that to him without me saying it .... HELP!
Well first i think you should try just kissing him spontaneously and see what he does. If that doesnt work then start hinting towards it a little. And if he still doesnt get it I'm affraid you might have to actually talk to him about it. Just kinda ease into like asking him to cuddle. and then asking him for a small kiss. Eventually things should start to heat up. Hopefully
he is always making me uspet even over little things. im really over sensitive so i just leave it alone.
today he told my firend he didnt like the "rules i was giving him and all i asked as these so called "rules" was he didnt smoke or drink and didnt ignore me when friends were over and he goes and tells my best friend he is mad at me cause i asked those "rules" so he lied and told me he was never mad and yells at her. so now she hates me and he is mad at me and im crying my eyese out. i dont know what to do. please help me im crying. :) thanks a lot.
Well i think that u should sit down a really ask your boyfriend if he has a problem with your rules and ask why. And if he still gives you the same answer like he doesnt have a problem with them than tell him that if he ever does she should come to you about them not ur best friend. And as for your friend i dont know why shes mad because if he wanted to lie to you and say he never said that than it isn't her problem anymore, and she should tell him that if he didn't want her to go back and tell you that he was havin problems then he shouldn't have told her and he had no right to come back and yell at her when he should've just come to you in the first place.
ok so my boyfriend and i have been going out for a year and i love him sooo much. lets just say were really serious. but hes really moody, and im sure alot of guys are but sometimes he gets extreme. sometimes he gets so mad and tosses me around.. and when i try to hug him he gets really mad, and tells me to slapp him really hard.. like he wants me to hurt him. but of course i dont want. after he goes through his little phase he starts cryin and feels super bad. its only happened twice & very recent. but i get really scared. what should i do? part of me thinks hes bipolar, but i love him so much and i know he loves me to. wat should i do? im sorry this is so long but i really need help with it thank you soo much!
I think that you and your boyfriend should get counseling and try to work out your problems. If you really love him you should try to find out whats wrong with him. See if something is really wrong with him or if he just has anger issues. And if he does you should try to get him help.
I love this boy, but my parents hate his parents and they don't want me to talk to him. We go to the same school and that makes it even harder not to talk to him. His parents didn't tell him anything and he is always trying to get close to me. What should i do?????
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In my opinion you should keep talking to him. obviously if his parents are willing to let you keep talking to him then you should have nothing to worry about. Your parents cant dictate who you talk to just because of their issues. Its not your problem that they don't like his parents and you shouldn't have to pay for it with your happiness.
ok this is kinda weird! My BFFs little brother has beem doing some gross things like making my little sister suck on his dick! And the other day he was snapping my bra! Are famalies are like best friends and My parents and their parents know but it feels so weird even to talk to my friend's little bro. II want things to go back to normal but I neeeed help on deciding wut to do!
If you want him to stop doing these things you really need to talk to him regardless of how wierd you think talking to him is. Or just tell your friend and ask him to talk to his brother. If that doesn't work then i suggest that you sit down with your parents and their parents and ask them to do something about it. Since your families are so close.
ok to set the pic i am 13/f and he is 16/m. ok so on to my problem: this kid, lets call him john. well anyways i really like john, but he doesnt like mein that way. he used to be my bros bff, but now we pretty close. wheni was younger i used to like him, and he liked me, but we were too young. well anyways the thing is, i asked him is he liked me nad he was like no,i like this other girl in my grade and i am gonna ask her out. i said oh ok. they just broke up today, and idk if i shopuld tell him how i feel. like i dont want our friendship to change but i really want tolet him know. please help i need to know what to do. also should i ask him how he sees me, i havent seen him in like a month but we always talk on im. so please help
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confused about *him*
Well first let me say I do think that you should tell him, if you want him you should go get him. But I think that you should give him a little time after his break-up. If he really liked this girl he will be a little broken up and you in his face about how you feel about him won't help him any, and he might do or say something that he might regret in the long run. Don't just drop it on him though. Tell him with a little suttlety. And like I told you wait a while because you don't want to his rebound girl and end up the one with your feelings hurt. Wait like 2 or 3 weeks and tell him how you feel.