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i totally hate myself

Question Posted Sunday April 16 2006, 10:06 am

well i have this problem..i really hate myself i think i'm stupid fat and totally ugly! my mom always tells me i'm not and i'm soooo pretty but i think she's just saying that cause she's my mom! and well a lot of grown up's are also telling me i'm the most pretty girl the've ever seen but in my school people always tell me i'm ugly except my best friend but i think she's also just saying that cause she's my friend! and i really dont get it .. all the grown up people think i'm soo pretty and they tell me that when im not even asking! but in school everybody says im ugly and everytime i look in the mirrow i start crying! i dont know whats wrong with me! i wanna like me but i really hate me! can anybody tell me how i get myself to like me again? please!!!!! i'll rate high for good advice

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angelwings answered Thursday May 3 2007, 12:55 am:
Sorry to tell you but no one can tell you how to like yourself. It is in your own mind why you are unhappy. You say all the grown ups say your pretty but the kids at school don't, but it doesn't matter. You shouldn't need any one to make you feel beautiful. You should know you are. True beauty is not outward but whats in your heart and your character. If people can't see how wonderful you are then thats their problem and you'll be better off without them in your life. You need people in your life that motivate you and make you feel good, like your friend. These people who call you ugly are just self centered and don't care about how they make you feel, but you know what, they won't ever find anyone who loves them for the person they are and not just what they see, they don't have your potential. Besides, after high school you probably won't ever see those people again in life and then their opinon won't even matter. You find some one who loves you and appreciates you the way you are, beautiful on the inside and out. Those are the people and opinions you'll cherish in life. Those are the one's that matter. Trut me you are as beautiful as anyone else and don't let anyone tell you differently, not even yourself.
Good Luck. I hope you realize how special you really are.

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crashxheart answered Saturday April 29 2006, 6:27 pm:
Nobody will like you if you don't like yourself.

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VainTaraLynn answered Tuesday April 18 2006, 3:02 am:
Well, their all telling you your pretty because I'm sure you are. Everyone is beautiful in their own way. Just tell yourself that you are gorgeous, and you will start to believe it. The only reason you dont is because everyone in school is telling you your not. The definition of pretty in high school is platinum blonde hair, blue eyes, skinny, and medium height. Which is so unaccurate its not even funny. Sweetie just look in the mirror and say "Im gorgeous because I'm me" & that should be enough. Dont let what others say get to you, its just jealousy, trust me. & in high school what other people think NEVER matters, because once you graduate, it really wont matter. noone will even care what you looked like in that school picture, or the "horrible" outfit you wore.. so why let it get to you now when everyone is going to forget it in 5 years. :)

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am-bur answered Sunday April 16 2006, 6:43 pm:
dont worry about people at your school and what you think!

to me i try and not see ugly! i dont know whta you believe in! but the lord doesnt see ugly or colord and yeah

i dont know you but if you boost your self asteem it will make you look better! i know people who say there ugly but they have such a great personality it makes them look better!!

dont worry your not ugly....i promise

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hotpotato answered Sunday April 16 2006, 1:02 pm:
Happens to me too. People this age are weird. I think adults' opinion might be more trustworthy here. I mean, if you weren't pretty by their standards they would not say anything at all, but they sort of just mention it randomly, that must count for something. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, right? Your classmates probably cake on tons of makeup anyway and want to bring the real beauties down.

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NinjaNeer answered Sunday April 16 2006, 11:50 am:
In elementary/high school, people are superficial jerks. If you're not one of the 'beautiful' clones, then you're ridiculed! This is precisely why I wasn't a fan of high school.

It's not right to hate yourself because of your appearance. There's so much more to a person BENEATH the skin. There are a lot of beautiful people who should hate themselves, because they're not nice people, and a lot of so-called ugly people who are truly beautiful because they have amazing personalities. I know it sounds corny, but it's true; beauty fades, an ugly personality is forever.

You know what? I'll admit that I'm unattractive. I'm quite possibly downright ugly! But you know what? I've learned not to care, because I know that my personality overtakes my appearances by a long shot!

Just remember that it's what's inside that really counts, because it's true!

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Kayendall06 answered Sunday April 16 2006, 11:38 am:
Those people are jerks. Yeah, adults always tell kids that they are so pretty and beautiful, but if they say it that much, they are not just saying it for fun. Do you have a picture trail or photo bucket or anything? I feel be flat out true if your pretty or not. Just send me a picture! My email is

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RealisticWench answered Sunday April 16 2006, 10:42 am:
Most people in school will say things like that to make you feel bad because they're so insecure themselves.

You need to start doing things to boost your own self esteem. If you feel fat start exercising and dieting. At least once a week do something that makes you feel good about yourself, get a manicure, buy yourself some new clothes, get a new hair cut, etc. Simple changes to your looks can make a whole lot of difference like plucking your eyebrows or making an effort with your hair. And if you're having a low day do something to take your mind off it like call up a friend and go out with them.

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HxC_arrrrie answered Sunday April 16 2006, 10:27 am:
aww. sweety. we all have something we hate about ourselfs. im not pretty. at all. everyone else thinks i am. except for the b.itches school. look. maybe the reason they are saying that is because they are jealous. just believe in your self if someone calls you ugly again ethier let it slide or say something. thats what i do. we people say im ugly i say, just like your face.
good luck and IM me if you need me lol.

sn- HxC arrrrie

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