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Boys And Friend
My friend Tracee has had a couple boys this past year. I have not really, but I am not jealous. I don't try to get guys to like me because I haven't really found anyone I really like this past year. Thing is, I've heard that she's been saying stuff behind my back about it. That supposedly like no boys like me and I have no "expierence" and I don't know guys at al she supposedly said to my one friend. Like, if I don't care about it, why does she? Should I say something or let it go?
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Be 110 with her.......let her know that you been hearing things that she have been saying.....if she say its true then let her know that your not a hoe (well you can sugar coat the hoe word) and you dont go sleeping around with anybody you saving yourself for the right one to come around. And let her know that she isnt a good friend to be going around talking about you like that. And if she got anything to say say it to your face let her know to keep it 110%.
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Tell her how you just haven't found anyone worth pursuing yet and that you won't pursue anyone until you're sure you really like them because you don't want to get hurt. Having "experience" doesn't matter because it's not like, "oh, I've given someone a hand job, let's check that off my list of experience!" No, it's not. You wait until you find the right person to give your emotional and physical self to. You're totally making the right choices and if she's got a problem with it, that's dumb. Tell her how you feel about what she's been saying. Don't let her get away with that crap.
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Maybe she thinks that she doesnt need you anymore but in the long run when she really needs you, you have moved on to bigger and better things. When she wants to talk to you ask her why she is acting like this and that you can't be friends with her if she is trash talking you like that! Just say you need friends who stay loyal. Hope I helped!
<3 Alli
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I think you should say something to this friend. I don't think that she should be saying things about you behind your back about things that she knows nothing about. I think that you should tell her that if she was really your friend she wouldn't be saying things like that behind your back. She shouldn't really care about your love life and just worry about her own because it sounds like she has enough to deal with, with all the guys she talks to. Whether you can get guys or not, or if you are just not interested is none of her business, i understand she's your friend and all, but if you haven't talked to her about it then its not her place to say anything about it especially to you other friends. If she's concerned then she needs to come to you, if not then she's just being a bad friend. And she should never think that no one likes you because she's supposed to be your friend and saying things like that can be hurtful, and that means you don't think anyone could like her. Which is not very friend like.
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You should be like "It doesn't matter if i haven't had a guy or not stop talking about it w/ people because its not a big deal." And she shouldn't care and she probably doesn't. I'm not sure why she said it though, because a lot of girls say stuff about other girls..even if their friends.
Hope i helped! :)
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Be careful about it because you don't seem to know for sure that she said anything. Just approach her and casually ask her about it. Or just bring up the subject and be like "hopefully the boys will be better next year" or something so she doesnt think you have no experience.
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just let her know that, thats the reason you dont get alot alot of boys. just tell her u dont really care about that stuff right now and she should mind her business
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