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Confused about crushes...
There's this guy in my class that one of my friends thought I would make a cute couple with, and some of my friends think he likes me. They're always bringing him up and stuff, and they always ask if I like him, but I won't tell them I do because they would torture me even more about it. Not that it really matters because 2 of my friends are already convinced I like him (which I do) but also I like this guy from camp who lives 45 minutes away who I haven't seen or talked to since summer, and he told me he liked me and I told him that I liked him on the last day of camp, so I feel bad liking someone else. Me and the guy in my class talk alot even though we aren't exactly friends, and sometimes I see him looking at me (which for all I know could just be a coincidence) but my friends swear that he likes me. I'm not sure what to do...
Any help would be appreciated, and I'm sorry if this was long/confusing
btw, I'm 14/f
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Well first of all, you shouldn't feel too bad about liking another guy after the one from camp. People change their minds about who they like ALL the time and if you haven't seen him or talked to him since Summer, you can't be expected to hang around and wait for him forever without knowing if anything is even going to happen.
You need to make up your minf what you want to do about this guy. Do you want to ask him out? Personally, my recommendation would be that you at least try asking him out. From experience, it's the better thing to do or you will find yourself, years from now, wondering what might have been. Even if he says no, at least you will know and won't have to wonder "What if?"
Also, I would suggest you ask him yourself. Although it's riskier to your pride in case he says no, most guys have a greater respect for girls who make the first move themselves rather than doing the whole "My friend really likes you, will you go out with her?" scenario.
So take a deep breath, catch him in a good mood (preferably when he's away from his boymates - he has his 'manly image' to worry about)and tell him you like him and were wondering if he wanted to do something sometime. See what he says and take it from there. If he says no, you have to cut your losses and move on. I'm not going to tell you there are plenty more fish in the sea, but there will be other guys out there for you and they WILL say yes, even if he doesn't.
Good luck!
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if you haven't talked to the guy since summer then there is no reason for you feeling guilty. if you 2 really did like eachother over the summer then you would have kept in contact more... so with the new guy just slowly flirt with him and make small unnoticable hints towards him. if he is a shy guy then you might want to do the talking though.
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First of all I don't think that you should feel bad about liking someone else because ya'll said ya'll liked each other but didn't really make it offical that ya'll are together, so technically your not doing anything wrong. And i think you should figure out if this other guy like you back or if your friends are getting mixed signals, cause depending on his answer that would pretty much make your decision for you. and then depending on his answer you might have to decide which one you like most or which one would work for you the most.
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dont feel guilty that you like another guy. you probably will never see him again anyway. try and make the first move on him. it works 99% of the time. only do this if you are POSITIVE he likes you because if he doesnt, you will make a fool out of yourself. it might have not been a lot of help but that is all i can think of right now. sry! hope i helped though!
kathryn
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