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she makes me upset
18 years old female.
i'm in college but i commute so i don't really get to live the college experience and its like 30 minutes away so i don't like going out there to party. but one of my best friends did stay and goes to a community college so i always have her to hang out with. well i usually don't do much during the week because i have a lot of homework and i have a job so i look forward to the weekends. well i always hang out with my friend because there is nobody else to be with? and i mean i can trust her with everything and she is so nice but she is probably one of the most boring people i have met. she doesn't like to meet new people, she doesn't really like going out much. her fun is me going over there and watching like a hockey or baseball game and to me thats just boring. we will make plans ahead of time and then that night or the day before she will be like "oh i forgot that i have this family thing to go to" she doesn't really have any other friends, she hangs out with her neighbor who is annoying 24/7 and she goes to her parents friend's parties. but then that leaves me with nothing to do and i end up sitting home on a saturday night and that just drives me crazy because i love going out and doing something fun, i'm outgoing. i am close with my cousin, she is 18 and a senior in high school so occasionally i will hang out with her and her friends but they're into different things than me and more of a "bad influence" so i don't like to be with them that much. i just don't know what to do. i feel like i have such a horrible life, i want to live it up but i cant. all my friends went off to college :( and it's not an option for me to live in a dorm. me and my friend say we will go visit all our friends but we just don't have the same schedules so it is hard. i'm just so lost and confused. it's making me depressed..
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Ok first lets start with your friend, I think that if you just dragged her out of the house and out of her comfort zone she might realize that life is more than just sitting at home watching games and going to parties with her parents. She might end up really enjoying herself you just have to take the intiative and make her do it. If my friends didn't drag me out I would never go anywhere and I live on campus. And you know what else, I always have fun. Its more the people your with than the actually place that constitutes a good time. If you dont like the company get new company. If dragging her out of the house doesnt work though I would consider finding someone else to hang out with. You say your outgoing so it shouldn't take that much. You don't have to be bestfriends with a person just start out making new friends and testing out going places with them. If you don't want to do that then I really thing you should go out with your friends at school. I really don't think 30 minutes is a long way to travel. For me it usually goes by so fast I don't even notice it. I mean 30 min. of your times is not a steep price to pay to have a good time. I mean where is it that you are planning to go and have fun if your not willing to travel a little bit. These are just some suggestions but I think it would really help.
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