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popular wannabe
I wanna be cool but im just too overweight...i have nice clothes and tons of friends but am afraid ill never have a boyfriend because im overweight....i love food.....everything. People make fun of me and i eat healthy but i can just never lose weight...it hurts when people call me fat...and i know it's true...help needed..i wonder what i should do.
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First of all, clothes, looks, your body, and such do NOT have as much to do with popularity as you'd think.
The people that I consider popular, are the people that everybody likes for reasons other than appearance. They're the people that are always smiling, the people that make you laugh, the people who are confident with who they are, and the people who don't let others' comments get to them.
So, to be popular, all you really need to do is work on your confidence and how YOU see yourself. The people who call you "fat", are just insecure idiots who have to make fun of others to make themselves feel good. Just ignore them. Remember: what goes around comes around, and they'll get what they deserve.
And don't worry about the boyfriend issue. Boys aren't worth it 80 percent of the time anyways, and you have your whole life ahead of you, which means a ton of time for them later. And don't worry, you WILL find a guy worth your time, who likes you for who you are.
Other than that, just be happy with who you are! You were put on this Earth for a reason, and you are who you are for a reason. Just be happy with what you've been given, and share yourself with others =]
-Laura. (16-f)
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You could try talking to a dietitian so you can lose weight in a healthy manner. Don't worry about having a boyfriend. That will happen when you love yourself. People are mean. No one should be made fun of. Just because something is true, doesn't mean a person should be made fun of for it. Try not to care about being cool and getting a boyfriend. Work on improving your self esteem first.
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The question you have to ask yourself is "are you unhappy?" If you set aside the worry of having a boyfriend, are you happy with yourself. IF the answer is yes then thats all you need and if you like yourself everything else will follow. Yes, teenagers can be mean and talk about your weight but those arent the people you need to associate yourself with let alone start a relationship with. IF you like yourself people will like you for you and you will find that one boy that doesn't care about your weight. However, on the other hand if YOU are unhappy with the way you look its time to do something about it because in the end its all about what you want and what it takes to make you happy. So to answer your question, there are other ways to loose weight other than to starve yourself. Actually thats not how you loose weight at all. You have to eat but eat smaller portions and drink more liquids in order to change your matabalism. Also as you eat you must exercie on a regular. Create a schedule and make sure you stick to it. Good Luck!
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This happened to my friend. I'm not trying to upset you but if people really give a shit about your weight tell them to go fuck themselves. Because you are who you are, appreciate it. you could have it so much worse. Maybe you can try to get into a fat camp and try to go vegetarian, eat a load of veggies and fruits. Good luck!
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Popularity
Most people think that becoming popular is difficult, and staying on top of your game, when you do, is even worse. While that can be true in rare situations, it’s actually quite simple to become popular - you just need the right tools, and know how to play it cool. I’m here to help you with all you need to know, so moving on...
Checklist in Becoming Popular
1) Be friendly to everybody - not just a certain clique/crowed.
2) You need to be outgoing, doesn’t mean you still can’t be a little shy or even a lot really, what I mean by “outgoing” is to be able to walk up to people and start a conversation without feeling awkward.
3) Talk to three different people everyday, until you’ve met everyone in school/work/etc.
4) Try to find interesting things you have in common with people, and then introduce that fact in a conversation. You wouldn’t believe how much you can talk about one thing, when you have two people who both like it.
5) Get involved. Whether you’re at school, work or wherever you are - there’s always that chance to move up the totem pole, and you want to be at the top. So try your absolute best in everything you do, it will show people how determined and successful you are. People will want to be your friend because those are good qualities.
6) This is sometimes the hardest step for people, but one of the most important if not THE most important - open up to people. You have to show them who you really are, if not, they probably won’t want to be you friend. Don’t try to act like someone else because others can see that, and they only want you to be yourself. Otherwise, you’re not really “friend” material.
Here are some wonderful links I’ve looked up, that should give you a sense of what being popular really is and the steps involved in it.
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--Jack
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