I'm a 21 yr old female college student, currently studying astronomy-physics. I also enjoy writing, and I love dogs. I don't know what I'm doing with my life, but I have experienced a lot of life.
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For people who've seen and know the movie. There's two parts I just didn't get: when John is granting Balthazaar absolution and he says you have to plead for it, why would the demon not want forgiveness? Besides, wouldn't god just sent him back to hell, which is where he was going to begin with? Also, mammon needs a powerful sourcerer to cross over. He already had isabel, what did he need angela for? What was the point of killing the first twin? (link)
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Isabel wasn't killed by Mammon. She killed herself (ie committed suicide which is why she went to hell) to prevent Mammon from using her to cross over. Because she killed herself, Mammon had to use Angela instead. Also, sending Balthazaar to hell is better than having him on Earth where he can hurt people.
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my sister put a warrent on my cousin and my aunt and they said if they find out she put a warrent out on them they would be through with them becouse i ran away to my sisters house and when i went to my mom's house to get my stuff my cousin was there waiting on me becouse my sister is a drug addict and a lesbian and my cousin didn't want to see me live that kind of life so my cousin made me get into her her car so she could drive me to her house away from my sister so i would be safe so my sister followed my cousins car to her house on her private property and started cussing and threatening her so my aunt pulled a gun on my sister for defense i might ad and now my sister put a warrent on my cousin and my aunt and they said they would be threw with me if there was a warrent out on them becouse my sister wouldn't be out there if it wasn't for me what should i do? (link)
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There isn't anything you can do. This situation really sucks. It's not your fault your sister decided to follow you, or that she took out a warrant. You can't control other people. If your Aunt and cousin are stupid enough to not want to talk to you because of your sister's actions, there isn't a whole lot you can do except maybe appeal to their reasoning skills. I don't think your relatives will go to jail. (And in the unlikely case that they did, they wouldn't be there for very long, and your autistic cousin would go back to the care of your relative.) This sucks, but you can't do much about it except try and be nice to everyone.
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m a guy of 19 ... and my girlfrnd is also af the same age ... a few monthe younger..
we love each other a lot but the thing is that she is my first love but i am not her first love... and i know almost everything bout the kind of relationship she had with the other guy for bout 1 year includind the physical contact which didnt include sexual intercoarse.. its just that he had removed her shirt a couple of times .. if you know wat i mean .. and no oral sex at all
the thing is that i want to marry her in future but am afraid that her past relationship may spoil our relationshp after marriage as i may harrass her for being wid anoher guy before marriage... if u know what i mean... i dont want her to live her life like a living hell even if it means that i have get myself away fm her...
i want to know after marrige cud there facts create some probs as i think that the special attraction kind of fades after marrige and couples may figh on the issues which they cud have overlookes before marriage...
ps. she didnt have any intercoarse..just got her shirt removed.
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Dude, you're over reacting. So another guy she dated took her shirt off. So what? Most people date 3-4 people before getting married and most of them have sex before marriage as well. Don't be so idealistic, that can kill a relationship faster than anything. Her behavior is perfectly normal. Don't freak because you're not her first boyfriend. Dating many people is important so you know they type of person you want to spend the rest of your life with. It really isn't a big deal. The only reason her past relationship would spoil yours is if you keep obsessing over it. So let it go. If you are this jealous of an ex-boyfriend, then maybe you aren't ready for marriage. You also don't know that the attraction fades after marriage. That often isn't the case. Just relax and go with the flow.
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15/f
i am going into my sophomore year of high school this year and i have a very attatched relationship with my boyfriend, and my friends.
My parents are already planning where they are going to retire, and where i am going to go to college.
Im not ready for these changes yet!
I want to stay right here, and go to college here like my friends & like my boyfriend are doing.
I really dont want to leave, and their throwing this all in my face and i am only still a kid
I cant handle this stress.
I dont know what to do, i just had to tell someone.
Im really attached to my home, and i dont want to leave.
The drive is 8 or 9 hours by the way. (link)
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Do your parents know how you feel? If you already spoke to them and they still insist on moving then maybe they have a good reason for going, but I have a feeling that that reason is to place you in the college of their choice. If you do move, keep in mind that your parents can't make you go to a specific college. You chose the college you go to, NOT your parents. When you turn 18 you will be an adult and can go where ever you want. If I were you, I would finish up high school at whatever place your parents move to, then when you graduate, you can go back the town where your friends and boyfriend are and go to college with them. Your parents can't stop you from doing so. You could also see if you can live with a friend so you can finish high school with your friends and boyfriend. Don't be so stressed about moving though. It's not that bad. As a army brat, I've moved several times. It allows for fresh starts and new perspectives, and new friends. Since you are only 15, you may change your mind in the future, but remember, it is your choice what you do after you graduate. Don't be a victim, because you aren't one. Your parents aren't just "throwing this in your face" I'm sure you have been aware that your father would retire at some point in time. Your parents happiness is just as important as yours, so you can't force them to stay. You can only choose to stay with a friend, or wait until you graduate to come back. Good luck.
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Okay, so my friend, lets call her "Luna", and I got into a stupid fight last month that only lasted a day.
The next day, my other friend, "Jamie," kept trying to start stupid fights with Luna. Now they've been at each other's necks since the fight Luna and I had and they always bring me into the fight. I always tell them to stop the fighting and how I feel about it, but they don't lisen and expect me to choose a side. What do you guys think I should do?
I'm 13 and a girl. (link)
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The same thing has happened to me. I tried to stay neutral in the fight, but I ended up on a side by default somehow. Since you can't control the behavior of others, just try to stay out of the fight as much as possible. If your friends insist you choose a side, and refuse to let you hang out with both of them, then take a break from both of your friends and hang out with someone else. They will get over the fight eventually, so then you can go back to hanging out with both of them. They could also end up not being friends anymore, in which case you need to decide whose friendship you value more. And by that, I would choose the person least likely to start stupid fights.
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The following is based on assumptions that could be completely wrong, but I still want your opinion anyway, should my assumptions be correct.
I wanted to start a Gridiron club at my school for girls. Turns out, this girl has the same exact idea I do. I messaged her on Facebook, and yup, same idea.
This girl and I...we don't exactly run in the same circles. That is all I will say about that. She is nice, though.
The thing is, I've thought this out a lot more than she has (or so it appears to). I've got EXACT events in my head, sponspored activities, etc. etc, partially because my brother plays football for a college team, and I do this a lot.
After some inspecting, it seems like this girl, as nice as she is, does not have a lot of reach. I'm putting that nicely, but what I mean is, the club will consist of her friends only, so far, she only has 6 people interested.
I want the club to be filled with a diverse group of people. And yes, I want to be leader.
Should I, even though I've talked to her, make the club right over hers? I REALLY want to make it. I've been wanting to make it for a really long time, and i got ideas from my bro's coach.
[Like I said earlier, I could be completely wrong. Facebook often doesn't depict people as they are in real life. She could have a lot of reach, and be a better leader than myself.]
Thank you. :) (link)
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Just work with her and communicate with her more. You don't have to run it by yourself, and you probably shouldn't even if you did want to be the sole leader. I know this idea of yours looks perfect in your head as to how you want to run it, but keep in mind you will always need to take others opinions into account.
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I know this isn't exactly the right column, but this suits this one more than any of the others... but, some places online there are sites where there are lists of questions designed specifically to help authors make profiles for characters (age, gender, hair color, personality, etc.) and i was just wondering, if they have the same thing for your whole novel in general. Like lists of questions about the setting, characters, plot, etc.
like, "What is the name of your story?",
"What is the name of the World/continents/cities?",
"What kind of animals and plants live on this planet and do they differ from those of Earth? And if so, in what way?", etc.
Is there anywhere online i can find something like this? Because my plot keeps changing, I'm a bit of a perfectionist when it comes to my story. Oh, and if this helps its a fantasy.
Also, to go with the story, I am making a myth/legend to go with it. This myth/legend is based on the storyline. Any help or advice on making a great myth/legend would be helpful as well.
I would appreciate any help. Thank you very much to whoever try or do help. (link)
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To make an original story, avoid these web sites. I never use them. If you want an original world, it's better to make it up yourself. There is no right or wrong in fiction. As for your plot changing, this isn't a bad thing. It's just your story getting a life of it's own outside your influence. Let the plot change and go with the flow. Novels and stories develop over time. Authors don't decide the whole thing all at once. I would just keep writing and see what happens.
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Right now i am working in one of NGOS as Webmaster/IT Officer in Kabul Afghanistan my yearly income is 10200$ which is 510000 AFG so how could i increase my income. (link)
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You could freelance your skills on the side. Or start your own business. Get a new higher paying job, or just wait for a raise or promotion.
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my girlfriend broke up with me almost 2 weeks ago and we spent every day together. I got attached really easily and quick to fall for her. She went out of town then dumped me because of a complicated situation with her parents. I'm stuck, she's moving on but still kisses me and flirts a lot. I feel like were half ass dating. I just need to figure out whats going on I know that much. I worry myself all the time. I do have extreme OCD and it's hard to take my mind off things. I am about to go back on medicine possibly and I really hope it'll help. She is also my best friend and its hard losing that half of her in my life. She is hanging out with this guy on monday with her friend and she says she may do somethings with him and he has been to jail 3 times and is homeless and 20 years old almost but living with kids around 17. I'm 16 and I don't even know what to do.
another problem is tomorrow one of our best friends is playing a show at this place downtown and she is trying to get that guy to come with her and I just can't stand to see that. I'm not ready..I don't know how to do this. (link)
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I don't know if telling her how you feel and that this 20 yr old guy is bad news will solve anything. It might cause her to resent you. But maybe not. It depends on whether your dating relationship or your friendship is stronger. You could just try and talk to her about her feelings for this other guy casually. If she dumped you because of a situation with her parents, I imagine it would be much worse if her parents knew about this other guy though. If she does choose to date this guy, continue to remain her friend, and don't bring the other guy up. Don't talk about him at all. Then, when she dumps him, you could try to get her back. In the mean time, become friends with other girls.
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Okay, I really need help with this one. I've been dating my boyfriend now for two years. Lately, every time we walk around he's constantly staring at every girl that walks by. I had said something to him. (at this time we were currently on vacation in Atlantic City. So I said to him, If yu here trying to have a good time with me, then why are yu paying attention to so many others. He went off on me and starting calling me imature and stuff. Well I decided I'll just ignore it when he looks, I mean he has been with me and only me for two years. But the other day, we were at Giant and I was looking at this one dude. He saw me and kept saying I was staring at him and crap. He was laughin about it tryin to make it seem like he really didnt care, but i know he did. He was telling everyone about it. It was so pathetic. So what should I do about me looking and him looking. Don't say anything like yu two are too imature for a relationship, because we're not breaking up over something little like this, i love him way too much. Thank yu! (link)
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What's wrong with looking? Just because a guy who is dating someone thinks another girl is hot, doesn't mean he's going to leave his girlfriend to be with her. Same is true for girls. Relationships are build on much more than just looks alone. The fact that you two get jealous of each other shows how much you like each other. Think of it as a complement. And keep in mind, that "looking" is just human nature. Try not to let it bother you. If he isn't getting the other girls phone numbers or hitting on them, then I wouldn't worry about it.
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I just finished my sophomore year in college, about to start my third year this fall. This summer I got lucky and I have a well paid job.
However, due to my grades in the past semesters, I didn't do well in one of my important classes which I have registered to repeat this summer. I also intend to take another challanging course not related to my major just to ease my schedule for the coming year. The benefit is that I'll get to take two classes: one for grade improvement, one just to get ahead in the game.
However, there is another downside to it. Since it is summer school, I am required to pay for it and I'll be spending all the money I got from working on tuition and books.
Also, I haven't even thought of next summers book cost and about $400 I have to pay towards my tiution that my financial aid didn't cover.
I have the option of continuing on working but I'll fail to fulfill my goals of raising my gpa by taking on the summer classes..
My father also is not happy with me spending money like that. He said he wouldn't even save the money I'm putting on tuition just for summer school. He can't get over the fact that if I have done well I would have saved the money I'm about to spend on tuition and even earned additional bucks by working for the rest of the summer.
I am very dissapointed!!
Help me please.
Any advice appreciated.
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Spend the money on summer school. You will be happier if you do, and regret it if you don't. If you don't do it, you will consider not taking the class again as another "failure." I know that you beat yourself up over things like grades and gpa. (I do the same thing.) By taking the summer classes, you are correcting your mistake and taking responsibility for it. After all, mistakes are only failures if you chose not to correct them. This way, this one bad grade won't be hanging over your head, and you don't have it haunting your Junior year. You can really spend the time learning the material, as you can for the other class. Your father should be proud of you for wanting to fix your mistake. Not condemn you for it. Yes, it's an expensive mistake to make, but it happens to all of us. The fact that you are fixing it and using your own money instead of your parent's paying for it, is very admirable. If you're worried about tuition for the fall, try taking out an alternitive loan like the Teri loan, or see if your Staford loan can be increased. Often times schools won't award a student the highest possible available amount for Staford loan and will increase it if you ask them to.
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ok so for the past two years i have felt like i havent belonged anymore. i feel no drive or motivation for the things i used to love to do. i feel like i dont fit in and cant be myself anymore; just this insecure, loser girl. i want to make an impact on people, and i want them to think highly of me, but when i try all i really want to do is crawl into a dark whole and never come out. i lie in my bed for hours and days sometimes, and now i seem to favor not hanging out with friends. i just dont have the patience to put up with the bullshit of being a teenager (im 16 btw). i cant open up to people, and im afraid of getting hurt and letting them in. i suffer from anxiety attacks and i dont want to anymore, how do i get rid of them? Please Help soon. When i get my attacks i feel it in my chest and head and like i am being suffocated, and i just want to cry. what do i do? (link)
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I have panic attacks too. (The feeling in your chest and the feeling of suffocation are normal symptoms of a panic attack.) You could see a therapist or doctor and be put on medication for it, but there are other ways of dealing with it. You should try meditation and progressive relaxation exercises. A good progressive relaxation technique is to breath in through your nose, count 1, then breath out. Repeat, but count to the next number. When you get to 3-5 (you can choose the counts) start over again. Another good technique is to tighten each muscle individually, then relax it. When you are in the middle of an attack, take deep breaths, not shallow ones. It helps it end much faster.
It also sounds like you are depressed. You could see a doctor or therapist for it and be put on medication for it, but it has bad side effects, so as long as you're not suicidal, I would try and fight it on your own. (It's a hard fight. I know.) Your desire to socially isolate yourself and stay in bed is the depression talking. Fight back by going out with friends even if you really don't want to and force yourself to get up, even if it's only an hour earlier than you have been getting up. Do nice things for yourself. Don't let the depression take over your life.
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16/F
Okay, well when I started high school (Freshmen year) there was this guy named, Billy, who I liked. I had him for one class and he sat next to me. Anyways, we really didn't talk like best friends or anything, but we talked like if you were to talk to someone you sat next to. So, Halloween that year me and my friend spent it at his house. You can say that I liked him a lot. But then by second semester, we moved seats. And he really wasn't talking to me anymore. My friend would still talk to him over the phone and stuff. But me and him never talked after that. We would see each other in the halls and we would just look at each other. Towards the end of the year, I found out that he got into drugs. Sophomore year, I didn't have any classes with him. But I still was hearing we was doing drugs. By then, my friend stopped talking to him. But she talked to him on the phone and he told her that no one cared about him. And that it was better off if he died. Even though I haven't talked to him in a year, I still really like him. And I want to help him. But I am scared of being let down. Anyways; second semester, one of my classes was next doors to his. And I will always see him walking with his friend. And I would get jealous because he would have his arm around her. And I know that she really doesn't care about him. Because she does drugs too. Well, I am starting junior year next year. And I really want to forget this silly crush. Because I can't be with anyone, because all I ever think about is being with him. Even though I know it's never going to happen. But there's just something about him that I just can't forget and let go of. I want to know what can I do to forget him? And is there anyway I can help him without actually talking to him?
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You can't do anything. I think your feelings for him stems more from a maternal feeling of wanting to save him than from anything else. Just because the other girl does drugs, doesn't mean she doesn't love him. Drug addicts are capable of love just like everyone else. I think this is more complicated than just a simple crush. You want to help someone, and you can't help them. It's hard to watch someone suffer and be unable to do anything about it. You just have to let it go.
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15/f
Hi, this is an odd request, but i have a quick question for ya'll.
My brother is 17 and he never lifts the seat on the toilet. It drives me crazy.
I have asked him politely many times to lift the seat for obvious reasons...i have to SIT on that SEAT!
I am starting to get really mad.
Does anyone have any tricks or ANYTHING i can do to break his gross habit?
It would be VERY appreciated!
Thanks! (link)
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Try lifting the seat yourself after you're done using it, and see if he leaves it up. I know it's annoying for you to have to lift the seat when you use it, but it's better than him peeing on it by accident. If he leaves the seat up after you have lifted it, then he is just lazy. If he puts it back down when he uses the bathroom, then he is doing it on purpose to annoy you.
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So, my boyfriend wants to finger me but i'm afraid.. I mean I want to!.. but i'm scared it's going to hurt, i've never been fingered before, or fingered myself or wear tampons... is this going to hurt????!
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No it won't hurt, not if you're aroused enough and relaxed enough. Don't let him stick his finger in until you are well lubricated down there (which happens when you are aroused.) There's nothing to fear. Having said that, only do it if you feel comfortable doing it and you want to do it. Not just because your bf wants to.
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Okay, so me and my boyfriend were having sex on the internet (because he lives far off) and after, he asked "did you really cum?". I told him no, and I tried again. When nothing happened, I started to worry that it would mean I couldn't ever reproduce. I'm female, and turning 15. So shouldn't that mean I was developed enough to? What do I do? Someone help please. (link)
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First off, you don't need to orgasm (or "cum" to say it crudely) in order to reproduce. Only the guy need to orgasm. If a penis enters your vagina without protection, you will get pregnant. Secondly, it's much harder to get a female to orgasm than it is for a guy to do so. Basically, you just need to keep practicing. Also, it's possible you may have performance anxiety with your boyfriend there, so try doing it alone. Just relax. It will happen. Have fun!
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Help, I want the directions for the game (in subject) please help (link)
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We need more information before we can answer this. Do you want directions to play the game? Or do you want directions to set up the wii? Or directions on how to play the game on wii? We need more information before an answer can be provided.
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Im 15 and I have been going out with a guy on and off for 2 months now, and I really care about him and he really cares about me, he tells me he loves me and I think I love him, but he has some major mental problems from his past childhood, and me and him have some issues. So I just found out that my best friend Davids friend Likes me and hes a sweet guy and he doesnt haven mental problems, My problem is that My current bf the one with the problems is thinking about moving back to Maine with his mother, and the other guy livs in MA and I live in NH so either way if I went out with either one of them it would be a long distance relationship. Im not sure what to do at all! I really need someone to tell me which one of these guys to go for!! im just a confused women! (link)
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Why do you have to date either of them? Why not just be long distance friends with both of them, that way you are open to a relationship to someone in your hometown.
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okay well im 18 years old and ive ALWAYS had my period on time every single month the same time ever since i first got it when i was about 11. it was NEVER and i mean NEVER irregular and never ever missed it.
well, this past november it just completely STOPPED! out of nowhere! :( and then in February it came again but now its july and havent had it at all.
i do not get any signs of pms or ANYTHING no cramping nothing wrong at all
i am NOT on birth control and NOT sexually active..AT ALL.
i am on NO MEDS
and i dont have any eating disorders such as anorexia
please help.
btw..dont say anything like..go see the gyno..go see your doc! because i know already and im going too make an appt first i just have some insurance issues i need too work out
pleasee helpp me
and thanks (link)
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I've heard weird stories that if two girls are dating each other, or if a girl isn't really around men, the frequency of their period decreases to sometimes only 4 times a year, while if a girl is actively dating someone, the frequency of her period occurring increases. This is going to sound really bizarre, (I'm not a crazy person, I promise, I know this works for me...) but maybe if you try sexually arousing yourself by masturbating it will cause your period to come more often. I had my period come a week early once because of being around a guy I was attracted to.
Also, since you are 18 that means you are either going to graduate high school, or have already done so. This is a large life transition, and life transitions also cause period changes. Stress can do it too. It could also be a hormone or thyroid problem, or a psychological problem. In other words, there could be many reasons. My cousin had a similar situation, and it was due to her thyroid.
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my brother has been picking on me for as long as i can remember.how do i stop my brother picking on me? (link)
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You probably can't. This is a very common occurrence. Usually, the sibling who picks on another one out grows it eventually, and they don't do it as adults. You could try asking your brother why he picks on you, or tell him how much it really bothers you. I don't think telling your parents will help. That may just encourage your brother to pick on you more for telling on him. Only tell your parents if he does something life threatening.
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