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Dude, what's with all the fighting?
Okay, so my friend, lets call her "Luna", and I got into a stupid fight last month that only lasted a day.
The next day, my other friend, "Jamie," kept trying to start stupid fights with Luna. Now they've been at each other's necks since the fight Luna and I had and they always bring me into the fight. I always tell them to stop the fighting and how I feel about it, but they don't lisen and expect me to choose a side. What do you guys think I should do?
I'm 13 and a girl.
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Stay out of it.
You need to let them work this out by themselves, because it doesn't really concern you. Picking sides will only cause more tension in the relationship. If they want you to pick a side, tell them they're both acting like babies and you're picking neither. That's all you have to say, then just walk away and let them sort out whatever it is they're fighting about.
Staying out of it won't cause any damage on your side. =]
-Laura. (16-f)
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The same thing has happened to me. I tried to stay neutral in the fight, but I ended up on a side by default somehow. Since you can't control the behavior of others, just try to stay out of the fight as much as possible. If your friends insist you choose a side, and refuse to let you hang out with both of them, then take a break from both of your friends and hang out with someone else. They will get over the fight eventually, so then you can go back to hanging out with both of them. They could also end up not being friends anymore, in which case you need to decide whose friendship you value more. And by that, I would choose the person least likely to start stupid fights.
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