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will i live happily?????
m a guy of 19 ... and my girlfrnd is also af the same age ... a few monthe younger..
we love each other a lot but the thing is that she is my first love but i am not her first love... and i know almost everything bout the kind of relationship she had with the other guy for bout 1 year includind the physical contact which didnt include sexual intercoarse.. its just that he had removed her shirt a couple of times .. if you know wat i mean .. and no oral sex at all
the thing is that i want to marry her in future but am afraid that her past relationship may spoil our relationshp after marriage as i may harrass her for being wid anoher guy before marriage... if u know what i mean... i dont want her to live her life like a living hell even if it means that i have get myself away fm her...
i want to know after marrige cud there facts create some probs as i think that the special attraction kind of fades after marrige and couples may figh on the issues which they cud have overlookes before marriage...
ps. she didnt have any intercoarse..just got her shirt removed.
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Honestly it was in the past before you came along if she didnt go all the way then she has alot of self control and respect for herself and you should show her the same...not saying that you dont but you mentioned that you may harrass her for being with someone else after yall get married right well honestly....i think that it has nothing to do with her but that you need to get yourself to the point that your ok with accepting that that is all that happened and be thankful that it went no further and not sweat the little things that matter the least because it will destroy that that matters most...your love for her and hers for you.
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Dude, you're over reacting. So another guy she dated took her shirt off. So what? Most people date 3-4 people before getting married and most of them have sex before marriage as well. Don't be so idealistic, that can kill a relationship faster than anything. Her behavior is perfectly normal. Don't freak because you're not her first boyfriend. Dating many people is important so you know they type of person you want to spend the rest of your life with. It really isn't a big deal. The only reason her past relationship would spoil yours is if you keep obsessing over it. So let it go. If you are this jealous of an ex-boyfriend, then maybe you aren't ready for marriage. You also don't know that the attraction fades after marriage. That often isn't the case. Just relax and go with the flow.
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You want an honest answer?
I would hope that if you ever do
marry her in the future, you would
be grown up enough to realize that
its a pretty lame thing to even be
thinking about. This all happened
before she even met you!
Just because you marry someone it
doesn't mean the special attraction
is over. You certainly don't start
bringing past events into the present.
Go look at a girlie magazine. Its
about the same crime. :)
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