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ex boyfriend
my ex boyfriend and i just broke up. we had an EXTREMELY strong emotional relatoinship, and were each others best friend. but, he told me he loved me one night, and that freaked me out. i said it back by accident and when i told him i didn't mean it yet, he was devastated. we ended up breaking up b/c i didn't feel like it was fair to him for me not to be able to return his feelings. now we both still have extremely strong feelings for ecah other, and i don't know what to do. is it okay to be in a relationship if someone likes you more than you like them? i know ill fall for him, but it will take me much longer than it did him. help!
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Ok well its my opinion that everyone in a relationship will have one person have more intense feelings for the other person but that doesn't mean that they don't need to be together. I don't think breaking up with him was the answer to your problem, the fact that both of you still have really strong feelings for one another means that obviously you felt deeply for him, whether it was as strong as his feelings for you or not. I think that you should give it another try and if he loves you as much as he says he does then he will understand how you feel and know that it isn't because you don't care about him at all, its just that you want to be sure of your feelings before you tell him something of that significance. Just because you dont love him now doesn't mean that you won't feel that way for him in the future. Love really does take time and not everyone comes to that reality as fast as others do, and like i said if he loves you like he says he does then he should understand that and not penalize you for it. The most important thing was that you were honest with him in the beginning.
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Meh, you can't expect to fall in love at the exact same time. You told your true feelings and it seems like he still cares about you. It sounds like he was hurt and is just speaking irrationally. I'd give it another go.
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There is nothing at all wrong with being in a relationship where one person hasn't quite the same feelings as the other yet.
Some people fall in love quickly and some take more time.
The only time I think it would be wrong is if you just knew for certain you were never going to love them at all. Then you wouldn't want to lead them on...or waste your time as far as that goes!
If you still have feelings for the guy, by all means talk to him and let him know it is possible you will feel the same one day, you just haven't gotten there yet.
Good luck:)
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