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the call
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How long should you wait after hooking up with a guy and not recieving a phone call before deciding if he's used you or not? Sorry if that was a little confusing to understand, but it's been a week now and im not sure if i should just forget about him and move on, i really just can't stop thinking about him and i know after having sex the guy should at least call if he cares about the girl at all right? i mean if he dosent.. does that mean he has no feelings for her whatsoever?
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if you had sex with him and he hasn't contacted you since then, then yes, i would say he's not interested anymore. i don't know him personally and we're not in his head, so we can't exactly say he used you but that's typically how the scenario goes if a guy doesn't call you afterwards. it's time to just take it with a grain of salt and keep walking. us girls get emotionally attached in some way after that, but for some guys, its just another notch on the bedpost. i know you cant stop thinking about him, but you really dont want a guy like that anyways and be glad you saw his true colors now and not when you were really deep in. after 3 or 4 days of no contact with him, i'd say its safe to say hes a loser. if he calls within 3-4 days at most, then give him a shot because some people dont feel the need to talk every single day. everyone is different. but, if he likes you and is interested, he would WANT to talk to you whenever he possibly can. so, as i said, give it no more than 4 days at most, and then take that as a hint.
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sorry, but he used you. the only way hell call is if he wants more sex. im sorry if i sound harsh, but im just telling you the truth.
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well, if you had sex with him, and it's been a week since that happened, he might have used you.
especially if it's been a whole week.
hate to break it to you, but it really sounds like he used you. it doesn't mean he has no feelings for you, but it definitely means he thought he could get away with it.
i don't know what else to tell you, really. it's a bit confusing. . .
-collin
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well if he hasn't contacted you in a week obviouly he is a jerk and he just used you. So, just find another guy.Don't waste your time on that guy anymore.
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i think i saw your question in the public pool... i was actually thinking about how to answer it. yeah a week is a bit much, the general "rule" a lot of guys follow is dont call the next day, so you should expect a call the day after that, anything beyond 3 days is most likely a blow off. are you friends with him on myspace/facebook/aim/whatever? if so, and he hasnt contacted you through those either but has some activity then yeah forget about him, or really, yeah, just forget about him, definitely sounds like a blow off.
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im pretty sure theres like a 3 day rule... even if hes busy if he was a nice caring guy he would at least call once by now..
i say move on
he sounds like a dick
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you never know..
maybe he's busy. or he just plain doesn't like calling girls. maybe he's shy/scared to call you. it doesn't mean he doesn't have feelings for you. guys can be oblivious to girls expectations sometimes. you could try calling him? if he's rude or he tries to avoid you then he probably used you. actually, text him.. that's less straight forward. especially if you're one of those girls that doesn't really like calling guys and thinks the guy should call them.
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