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Hi there. Im a 28 year old from clifton park ny. I always seem to be my friends advice column and voice of reason so I figured Id put it to good use! Im always here to answer anything i can for you and ill do my best to give you the very best advice to my ability. Hope to hear from you. And feel free to ask me questions on my webpage comment section if you would prefer or on aol instant messanger! Thanks
~Dee

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I'm really skinney but I have a floppy, ugly, stomache so i'm trying to do crunches do everytime I move up while doing it, I keep sucking in my stomache by accident and I can't stop even though I keep trying to do crunches again without sucking in. Am I supposed to? Any other excercises that will help?

Try pilates. Its a great way to strengthen abs! I love it. They have great dvds that are cheap that you can do at home!

ok what happens when you want birht control does the doctor examine you with a tube or something or could you just get them please help

You should talk to a nurse about birth control. You may be able to get birth control at a planned parent hood, but I highly suggest you get examined first and discuss your need for birth control with a doctor or nurse! :)

Many people say they need to burn calories, carbs, and fat but how come it's in three categories but when you burn them it's still burning fat? Is it only one that's actually making you fat? My friend is fat and does EXTREME excercing for a year! Walking 3 km a day, and many excercises one hour a day and even eats healthy but she hasn't even gone skinny. Any advice for her? And which excercises would workl to burn fat, caloires, and carbs and which one of these three are actually making you fat?

Tell her to check out the website www.sparkpeople.com if she has internet access. It has a great section on there on what to work on and what foods are healthy. Its a great support site! have her check it out :)

im 5' 6'' and 130lbs. i dont look fat but when im in a bikini i still deff. think i do. how to i loose 15-20 pounds in a reasonable amount of time? i dont have extratime to excersize during the day, is there any like 3 minute workouts for target areas?

Pilates works great for me. I have an at home dvd and its great when your sitting home with a little free time because you can do a little at a time. Also there are some great workout dvds at target and walmart. There for people who do not have alot of time. You can work out for a few minutes or a half hour.

Hey everyone. I've decided I'm ready to have sex; however, the guy I desire to do it with doesn't want to use a condom and he wants me to go on birth control.

1. Can I get birth control at 16 without my parents knowing?
2. If I was put on birth control and we had sex without condoms and he ejaculated inside of me...is it at all possible to get pregnant?
3. Is it possible to get pregnant from swallowing sperm?
4. Do condoms protect against STDs?

Hmm well to start Im curious to know why he doesnt want to use a condom! He definitely should use one!!! Condoms are the best way to protect against std's. but there not 100%. Its not possible to get pregnant from swallowing sperm. But if sperm has contact with your private area it is possible. Also the pill is not 100% effective. it is one of the best ways to prevent pregnancy but the pill plus a condom is a great way to be safe!
If you can go to plan parent hood you may be able to get birth control pills but some places require you to be 18. Talk to a nurse about all of these questions before you have sex! Its very important to know the facts ok! If you need anything else let me know.

i have ab lounge. but it doesnt work very well
does anyone know any other ab workouts without telling me to search google?

i think pilates works very well. they focus on the abs alot. its worked for me! and you can usually find dvds of pilates at book stores. The one i got was only 7.99 and its a 15 minute workout. you can totally feel the ab burn! I love it and it works. hope that helps
~Dee

i was wondering if you guys know where i can get pussycat doll song- dont cha but without the artist saying the words to it like karaoke the only singer that oculd mention suff in the song would be the rapper in it and the background music and their voicese just not the chorus etc
please tell me where to get it cause i dont want to buy the whole song and i need to have it on a cd for a boom box/tape/etc

thanks i will rate 5s
ps please dont tell me to go to limewire, kazza, etc

try to google that song and type in the name and afterwards type in, just music. it may take you to karaokae download sites. my sister was looking for a song from 50 first dates, but only wanted the music, not the lyrics and thats how she found it. it sent her to a site that would let you download just the music itself. hope tjhat helps.
~Dee

How do i switch all my ipod to my library in my new computer without deleteing any? and how do i add music 2 the ipod without deleting any music on the ipod???
PLEASE HELP ME

if you plug your ipod into the new computer , it should transfer everything into the new library. did you download itunes? i know when i plug mine into my work computer, everything that i have on my at home library, gets transfered to here. and you can add music to a new playlist anytime and it shoiuldnt delete any older music.

hey i like your advice that is why i keep coming back for more, you help out alot. well one more thing and maybe i will leave you alone. he is coming home this weekend, i want to see him so bac and be with him, i get to see him once becuase he has to give me back my laptop, but how do i, i guess what i am saying is not want to see him so bad. is that i wierd question?

no its not a weird question at all. When my ex came to my apartment to get his stuff i was the same way. I wanted to see him so bad, but yet i didnt want to beg him to stay with me you know. So the night before he came over, i went out with my girlsfriends and we had a blast. I filled my whole night with good times and when I woke up the next morning i was feeling so good! I knew i could go out and have fun and not think about him, and if you can accomplish one night of that, then it will get easier as time goes on.
when he comes home, be as strong as you can, i know it wont be easy, but make it short and sweet and try to act like your totally ok with this whole thing. trust me that will bother him so much! Guys need to feel like we NEED them to go on with our lives. If he sees that your ok by this whole thing, he may start to realize just what hes losing out on. Guys dont like to feel unwanted. But its the best way in my opinion to get them to see whats right in front of them, it gets them thinking! Good luck darling, and be strong!!!
~Dee

the thing is i work alot i am a nursing student working at the hospital 5 days a week 12 hr shifts and on my off days i just want to sleep so i dont really have time to go out with my friends. so i think about him all the time. is there anyway that i can take up something to get my mind off of him any advice would be hellpful, becuase i dont know what to do. i am losing alot of weight fast and i know that is not healty. yes i eat but not alot becuase i get sick when i do. i need something i can do to keep my mind off of him when i dont have alot of time on my hands.

do you like to read at all? reading great books takes my mind off things. or if you have access to a computer, trying out myspace and chatting with new friends. i play the piano and paint to in my spare time and that always helps me vent and let out my frustrations. listen to upbeat music, write in a journal, start a blog. anything to keep your mind busy. let me know ifyou need anything else. good luck darlin
~dee

okay is it true that your boobs can become deformed if youre wearing a bra cup size too small..? cuz mine tend to hurt after a while and i think my bras getting a little small.. cuz im like right between an a and b.. and its really difficult to find a nice bra.

hmm, ive never heard of them becoming deformed, but its definitely not good if the bra hurts you. I use to work at victorias secret and often times when i would help customers they were never really sure what bra size that actually were. Its good to get measured. they can do that right there for you at victorias secret and help you pick out the perfect size and kind for you! :) i hope that helps
~Dee

i want to tell this girl that she really upset me about something she said...should i do it online...in person or on the fone?

I would definitely do it in person if you feel comfortable with that. if not than maybe sending her a letter explaining why your upset and letting her know you would like her to respond. but i definitely would not do it over the internet, its very impersonal. good luck!!

Ok im female and 17 and i got the worst belly ever its like im having a baby not like really fat but like theres a pile of fat that sticks out and im really embarassed i feel im putting on more and more weight i used to be slim and now im all Fat!!!!! i won't let my bf touch my belly when i see him its like a fear!!! is there anything i can do please help. x x x many thanx

i had that belly to. something that worked for me is pilates. they focus alot on abs and it seemed to work quickly for me! theres great dvds you can purchase at book stores to. i hope this helps.

to start off i would like to tell you that i am 19 and he is 23. ok so we have dated for a little over two years. recently dec. 1st he broke up with me we started going back out jan 12. we recently broke up again becuase he said that he did not like having to have someone to check into all the time to explain he works out of town. well all i ask him to do i call me when he gets off work and then he can go to sleep or whatever.well recently like last night he told me that he doesnt love me anymore which i find fishy becuase he shows no emotion and laughs when i say something, like he is doing it to hide that he is hurt, i love him so much and want to be with him. i cant eat or sleep have the time. if you would like to talk more to me about my problem then e-mail me at frankus521@aol.com. but if not then i would like to know should i continue trying to save the realtionship or just mve although that may be hard to do.

Hi there,
this sounds so much like my ex and me a few years back. he was constantly up in the air about what he wanted. And guys for some reason just dont seem to get how a simple few minute phone call is all that we require. The best advice i can give is to let him go for a while. it took alot for me to do that with my ex, and i to felt so down and didnt think i could go on. i gave him space, and then when he realized what he was losing he came crawling back to me, saying he made a mistake. Things probably could have worked out, but i had moved on. I realized that, i wait around for no man! :) you two are also very young, theres a world of cute men out there for you. try to hangout with friends and date for a bit, if you and he are meant for each other, he will come back to you! But you will remain a stronger person for letting him go and doing whats right for you! hope that helps
good luck darling
~Dee

Well I just realized how old I am getting. I'm turning 28 in 2 months and that's like almost turning 30!! I can't believe how time has snuck up on me. I remember when I was 18 thinking that someone who was 25 was anceint, and now here I am turning 28. It's quite a milestone because it means I've been out of highschool for ten years, and that the reunion will probably be this summer. I havent acomplished even half of the things I wanted to have done. When I was 18 I thought I'd be married and have kids by this age. Well I'm still single and childless. I also don't have a nice career, I work at a minimum wage job.
Does anyone have any advice to make me feel better about my age? People are joking that I'm turning into an old maid.

Girl im right there with you! I am 27 about to turn 28 and ive often felt the same way. I work for my fathers business and live paycheck to paycheck. I kept feeling down thinking, oh my gosh im almost 30. But then I got to thinking how much better it is to be at this age then to be a kid again. My mother is a teacher and when i hear all the horror stories about kids these days and even teenagers, it makes me feel glad to be an adult. I also surrounded myself with good friends and family and got myself into fun activies with people my age. I take classes at my gym and even went back to school for a few fun noncredit courses. I long for children and family all the time as well. But I also feel good knowing that at 28, im okay and doing well. I think to myself, i could be divorced or ill, but im doing alright! go out and have a good time! keep telling yourself how fabulous you are, i know that sounds corny but it worked for me. I also started a blog through blogger. its a fun and easy way to vent about things and a great way to keep in touch with people and to meet people. try myspace to. 28 isnt old, its just older than 25 when we thought that was so old.:) but were young girls and we still have our whole lives ahead of us! I hope that helps a little. good luck, and remember , your fabulously 28 :)

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