i really like this boy but i dont know if he likes me my friend told me that he said he liked me but how do i know if its true and also i am very shy and they said at our next basket ball game he was going to talk to me what should i do?
Be yourself!!! If this guy really likes you make sure you are yourself from the beginning. Act confident, you can be confident even if your shy and most importantly have fun! The second you're too nervous to be yourself it stops being fun...and its all about the fun! Best of luck let me know how it goes!
xoxo
supergirl
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Last Friday me and my friend (lets call him Joe), were cuddling on the couch. But it was big like he had his arms on my hips and everything. it was kind of cute. Anyway we've kissed once as a dare and 3 times in this game suck and blow(they play it in the movie clueless, its when you put a piece of paper to your lips and suck in that way you can hold it up and then the person sitting next to you has to get the paper to stick of to thier lips so if you drop it you kiss.). The funny thing is he kept saying he was this master and dropped it like 3 times haha. We always flirt thats a given. He said to my friend that me and him are friends with benifits are we?
friends with benefits is when you hook up with someone and aren't dating. essentially it is sex and all the other aspects of a physical relationship without the title of boyfriend or girlfriend-also he is not obligated to kiss/have sex with only you. being friends with benefits is an open relationship-just a warning careful what you're getting urself into.
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I dated somebody for a year. She was my first everything: first person I fell in love with, first person I got close to, first person I became intimate with, everything. We broke up in January. I am over the relationship itself, but I am not over her. I think those feelings will be there for a while, there really isnt anything I can do to make them go away. Well, now I'm dating again. Ive been seeing the same girl for the past few weeks now, and things are starting to become a bit more serious. Not very serious, but its becoming more than just dating. Shes even my date to prom, which is in 2 months now. Problem is, the feelings arent anywhere near as intense as it was with my ex girlfriend. I like this new girl, shes totaly great, but I feel like I've become jaded since my breakup, and therefore dont have much to offer her. Any advice on what to do?
hey babe-its gonng be hard after you break up with someone who has meant so much to you and who you have experienced a lot of firsts with. If it makes it any easier you just have to accept that you are never going to forget her because she was your first. Be open and honest with this new girl-let her know you were in a serious relationship and let her know you are still getting over this other girl. If she truly and genuinely likes you she will stick around for you and give you a chance to get over your ex. Honestly sometimes the reason you can't let go is because your heart doesn't want to. Sometimes your brain wants to let go and move on but your heart isn't ready so give it time and know that this girl isn't your ex so be patient with the relationship-im sure it will grow into something positive and amazing, just wait for your heart to catch up to your head. And based on what you said mentioning prom and such im guessing you are still in high school, believe me you will meet and date a lot of girls, some will mean a lot to you, some won't as much, but every person you encounter will shape your life in some way-not to be cheesy but thats just what i believe so best of luck and i hope all works out for you! xoxoxo sar
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Hey I had another question. Should I confront him about the situation or not. I dont want to look like a fool. Like I said I like him as just a friend, you know. plus I like someone else and I am afraid if he asks me out then I will say yes out of guilt. Thanx so so so much!
XoKiSsEsoX
hey sweetie! well its totally up to you. If you don't know for sure that he likes you, you always run the risk of looking like a "fool". Personally i would just treat him like i do all my other guy friends and hope that he gets the hint and instead i would pursue the guy i actually do like. So that seems like the best plan of action in my opinion. Whatever happens just know that you deserve the best! hope that helps xoxoxo sar
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ok i like this guy and we flirt a lot! he has a gf though. i think i've caught him staring at me and he always is sweet and nice. he is not the most popular boy in the class, but he is also the most sweetest boy. when we flirt people always point out to us that we are flirting and we both say" no we arn't" he is one of my friends too. my friend told him" dont cheat on prism(his gf) when we were talking and flirting. and he said " i wont" what does this mean? i mean i like him an lot, i had a dream that we kissed. once he put his hand on ym shoulder and said" i was his friend" and when he touched me i got a tingling feeling. what doe s all this mean?? does he like me??
*confused girl*
HM! sounds like an interesting situation. Your friend is right though-it would be disrespectful to cheat on him because he has a girlfriend however it seems like he's definitely paying you a lot of attention. I don't think there's anything wrong with talking to him but don't let it get any further cuz it will definitely get you into trouble. If you are unclear about the boundaries of your friendship i think it would be a good idea to back off a little, maybe make yourself a little less available to his comments and flirting-if he still comes after you then i would say he has an interest in you in which case you should talk to him! I think the dream just symbolizes the fact that you are friends, nothing more and nothing less right now, the tingling situation might mean that maybe YOU have feelings for him or that you are just excited about the fact that he might like you. In any case dreams are just dreams, they do not predict the future they are just your brain's way of sorting out your life. Sometimes i really wish i could get into the brains of guys-itd just make life so much easier don't ya think? anyways best of luck with this situation and remember there are tons of other guys out there so don't make this guy a priority!!! best of luck xoxoxo sar
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ok this guy always used to call me and say he was bored. now he always instant messages me and it gets annoying. i ask him why he calls and he says you were the only person home and i was bored. what does this mean??
*crissy*
hey babe-personally i think he's interested in you however i don't know the circumstances or the situation and im not him so i can't get inside his head! Anyways if you think you like this kid then maybe you could take his phone calls to the next level and ask him if he'd like to hang out sometime. If you don't like him and have no interest in hanging out with him then you could kindly ask him to stop calling you when he's bored. I know what you're saying when you mentioned that it get's annoying-especially if there's no point in him calling you. Personally i would get to know him better over the phone and potentially hang out with him if i was interested, and if not then i mean you could even just talk with the intention of being friends-you can always use another friend! anyways i hope this helped a little. best of luck with the situation and let me know how it goes xoxoxo -sar
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ok ive liked this guy for like 5 months now, and he told me that he likes me and i told him that i like him, my friends always tell him to ask me out and stuff but he says that im mean to him and that i dont even talk to him and stuff, which is kinda true i dont talk to him that much at school and i dont realli show him that i like him, but how can i show him that i like him and how can i talk to him more? he's always flirting with me, but he also likes other gurls too.
like i havent flirted with him like that so much and he says that i show no effection towards him what so ever. so he says why should i go out with her when she doesnt even talk to me?
well i dont talk to him that much and i dont pay so much attention, but how do i start if i start right now isnt that going to be kind of weird?
i need good advice on this. please.
hey sweetie! its wierd i know exactly what you're talking about-how do you randomly strike up a conversation-its wrong of him to blame it on you saying that you're mean and you never talk to him because it takes 2 people to start a conversation, he could just as easily walk up to you and start a conversation but it looks like you are gonna have to do it the hard way and be the first one to iniatiate something because it seems he already has his opinion. Make him get to know you before he passes judgment on you cuz thats just not fair! My first suggestion would be to either get his screen name or get his phone number and start talking to him, my second would be to approach him in person and just start talking to him perhaps about a class you have in common, something about school, or just something random. Gradually when you work up enough courage to get to know a little about him, suggest that you two get together and hang out so you can get to know each other better, maybe see a movie or go participate in something you both enjoy, example, clubs, sports, etc. Your options are really endless. This all depends on how bad you really like this guy tho, so basically the ball is in your court and sometimes its reassuring for guys to know that girls are willing to take the first step. it shows that you have a genuine interest in them and thats whats gonna set you apart from the other girls he flirts with. anyways best of luck i really hope it works out for you cuz i have definitely been in similar situations!!! xoxoxox-sar
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I've been dating this girl for quite some time now and we've just recently slept together for the first time. I'm 24 and she's 18. She wasn't a virgin so it's nothing like that but after the sex, it felt extremely wrong. I never wanted to ask her out in the first place because I was 6 years older than her but my friends kept saying that "It's not a big deal; You're both adults, 6 years isn't much, blah, blah, blah etc." So I eventually asked her out and I'm glad I did because she's an amazing girl. Her being only 18 did bug me before but not as much as it does now. The sex was great and everything and it wasn't until after we finished that I started to feel like absolute shit. If it helps any, it happened on Saturday night and now, I've been trying to avoid her. I still have strong feelings for her and I don't want to end things with us, but I just don't know how to get past this. I'm not quite sure why I feel this way either. I want to talk to her but what am I supposed to say, "Hey Hun, I felt like I raped you the other night...How did you feel about it? Did you feel as if you were being raped?" I don't think I can sleep with her again until I get past this and I'm not sure talking to her about it will help.
hey-thats definitely a difficult situation. Sex definitely changes a lot of things about a relationship no matter how close you are and i can understand it must be extremely difficult for you right now. In terms of my thinking, age is just a number but you're right 6 years is a huge age difference, if i was you, i think i might have some issues with it also, if i was the girl i know that i wouldn't have a problem with it but i'd want to know why you were avoiding me. If you love her like you say you do, you owe her an explanation because she's obviously part of the issue. Despite the fact that you sound reluctant to talk to her about it i think thats your only way outta this. It's easier to feel comfortable with and relate to people when you are on the same page and when you are emotionally in the same place. She obviously must be mature for her age if you are 24 and dating her. By talking to her i think you can establish 2 things, first whats bothering you, just flat out say "i thoroughly enjoyed our experience together you were great everything was great im just having some issues dealing with the age difference". Second you can tell her you want to work on this and try to figure out what's making it such a big deal. That way you've at least cleared the air and let her know that it's nothing she's done wrong. Ultimately from talking to her, if she is mature enough then you should be convinced that shes old enough to handle your relationship-if you are still uncomfortable then i'd say at least put the sex on hold until you can figure stuff out in your head. I know its a confusing situation but i hope some of this advice has helped. best of luck to you and your girlfriend! -sar
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I think I've finally decided to tell the guy that I like, how I feel about him. The only problem is, I'm not sure what to say. We're old friends and he's shy and I don't want it to be anymore akward than it has to be. I need some ideas on what to say and some encouragement.
hey first of all props to you for being brave enough to tell the guy you like how you feel about them. so many times people are too afraid of rejection or what the other person will think-you get major points for that!!! so as for suggestions as to what you could say i would just be as normal and natural as possible, you said you were old friends so maybe do something you 2 would normally do like go to a movie or hang out-then be as open and honest about it as possible, "i don't want to change anything between us but theres something i have to get off my chest" and then let ur feelings out. It might be a little hard at first but you'll feel really relieved that you did get it off your chest. Honestly I don't know how he's gonna respond so its a risk you gotta take. I'll be thinking of you though and i hope it works out for the best!!! xoxoxo
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Ok, There is this one guy that I know and I've known that he has liked me for a while. The day I was finally going to say yea I found out that he had a girlfriend now. And I didn't really care. I still talk to him and everything and I can tell that he still really likes me. He always says how awesome I am and everything, and I don't know what to do. Because he is like flirting with me but he has a girlfriend. What do you think I should do? Help soon plz
Honestly? Who doesn't enjoy a little flattery? I would take the compliments for what they are worth, thank him for being so kind and then remind him he has a girlfriend. If you like him then I would be honest with him and just flat out say it, if not then don't act on it. Until then just enjoy the fact that he obviously thinks the world of you!
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there is this one girl that likes the same guy as me and she keeps on stealing him. I know he likes me b/c he has admitted it, so why did he go out with her?? I really like this kid. Should I ask him out again when he breaks up with this girl, or should I find someone else?
honestly re-read everything you wrote in your question. done? ok good. There are millions upon millions upon millions of guys in this world think about the fact that you are fighting over 1. He's already gotten the advantage because he has 2 girls fighting over him. Don't let him be your priority if you are just going to be an option to him. You deserve someone who will make you a priority! One day you will wake up and realize that fighting over guys is a waste of your precious time. when i tell you to find someone else believe me its in your own best interest-you deserve better. best of luck and let me know how it turns out :)
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NEED HELP NOW!!
Ok so the other night me and my boyfriend had a talk about about porn and I asked him all these questions... and he told me that he'd only looked at it/watched it three times on kazaa... so I made him swear on us and on my life and he did, but then today me and his friend were joking and he said my b/f just had porn on his computer so i was joking around and I said I was gonna check his computer and see and he got all defensive and wouldn't let me, but then when I did... I found like 10 different websites on his computer... They're all from a long time ago, but still he lied to me! Do I have a right to be mad at him? especially since he swore on us and my life!?!?
WHAT SHOULD I DO???
PS: he appologize a LOT and said he was sorry and he loved me "so much" but I feel like an idiot now for believing him... I need help please give me advice!!
why are you trying to restrict that your guy watches porn? There's nothing wrong with it and i really don't understand what the big deal is. You can have a boyfriend that loves and cherishes you yet who also likes to look at/watch porn. Maybe this is an issue of maturity because as you get older this stuff really doesn't matter. But honestly it's not as big a deal as your making it out to be-so he watches porn-could be worse he could be cheating on you. Teenage guys look at porn its a fact so you can try to restrict him and hold him down but i don't see what the point is...anyways stop stressing so much. good luck.
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Guys like to say girls are difficult but guys can be just as difficult too. There's this guy who no matter how hard I try to not like him, he stays in my mind constantly. I know most would say move on but the truth is I can't. He's not dating anyone at the moment but he loves to flirt a lot. We've been friends for awhile and it didn't seem like him, but he played me. He promised my bestfriends that he wouldn't hurt me and also he let them know that he liked me a lot but he never came around to asking me out. Should I still wait for something to happen even though it's been months, or just force myself to move on?
I don't know if what I'm going to tell you is what you want to hear but it's what you need to do. You don't deserve to be led on and strung on. Chances are if he hasn't asked you out yet he's not going to anytime soon. You need to move on and let someone find you who deserves you. I've experienced exactly what you're going through and the truth is you aren't gonna be able to move on if you don't want to move on with your whole heart-letting go takes a lot of strength, some people don't have that and they are just stuck on this one person until someone better comes along. Do you think you deserve better? If so you need to move on. Best of luck
xoxoxo
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I just found out my husband has been cheating on me. We agreed to separate for a while because we can't live together right now. But he is still sleeping with this woman who is also married with children. He says he is not sure weather or not it is going to work out with her, that he doesn't know her, he is just living a fantasy right now, replacing what was missing in our relationship. He is getting attention he hasn't gotten from me in a while because our lives have been so busy. It doesn't make it okay, but our relationship is way to special to throw away and I want to work it out with him. We are going to couples counseling in a few months. I am having a hard time convincing him to stop sleeping with this woman, and I am thinking about sending this woman's husband the e-mails she and my husband have exchanged along with a letter I have written to him revealing the truth about what his wife has been out doing. But will this push this woman further into my husbands arms or will it make her and her husband focus on their own relationship instead of her focusing on hers with my man? Please help, I don't know weather or not to send it without everyone's advice out there!! Will it only cause more problems that will work against what I want (my husband back in my arms) or will it end the affair my husband is having?
WOW!...you are a strong woman. For me cheating is a zero tolerance policy, i don't think i could be with a man who cheated on me just because its such a betrayl of trust. I think you are entitled to do as you please in terms of telling this other woman's husband. He has a right to know. I wouldn't necessarily send the emails unless he asks for them. Just make sure he knows about the affair. I'm sorry but you sound like you deserve someone who wont cheat on you and I really hope you are able to work this all out. Just make sure you know what you want-i know he's important to you and you love him but now its your turn to ask yourself what you want. do you want to stay with him? do you want to end things? really the ball is in your court. Best of luck...keep me updated. im sure a lot of other people will be interested to read how this turns out.
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Hey SuperG
Is it pathetic to be in love with someone who really can't return the feeling? Or as you say, should I not be making this guy my priority when I'm just an option...? You know who I'm talking about
love you much
~Steph
I guess I'm going to try to give you a different spin on this one because there are 2 types of advice that people can give you. 1) They can tell you what you want to hear, 2) They can tell you what's realistically going to happen. To answer your first question "is it pathetic to be in love with someone who can't return the feeling?" NO! It definitely is not. It's called unrequited "like"-why do you think there are so many songs on the radio about that. People everywhere experience this feeling-i guess what i mean to say is that there are a lotta of people out there feeling like you. Now whether or not you make this guy a priority relies in your hands. Only you can put yourself in situation to become someone's option. So i guess the question is when do you get sick of being an option? Wellp i can tell you its not gonna be until your ready. So take your own sweet time-but when you move on, move on for good and shut the door on it. Because believe it or not, there is a guy out there for you who is waiting to make you his priority and i can honestly tell you-you deserve every last bit of his love, respect, and attention. Hope this helps.
xoxoxoxo
supergirl21
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okay, the guy i really like just asked me out. yay. but the down side is hes punk. and im prep. i kno i kno it shouldnt matter. but if i go out with him i kno pplz are gonna look at me different, think im different and treat me different. i cant stand it. i really like this guy help me, should i or shouldnt i go out with him???
alrite well the question is do you like him more? or are you more worried about your image? In the long run i think you'll find that your image isn't as important as its cracked up to be. I know its important in high school but just really think, if you didn't date a guy just because of a label people put on him are you gonna end up regretting it? and having to live with the "what if". He could be your special guy and you'd miss out on a great experience because of other people who's opinions really shouldn't mater all that much to you. Best of luck and let me know what you decide!
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i really like this guy and he likes me but i don`t want a boyfriend at the moment cuz of all this drama thats been going on and im just not sure..whats huld i do?
so don't date him-just hang out with him and get to know him...aka friends with benefits. And hopefully when you are ready he'll still be around :)
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I went through a break up a couple months ago and haven't seen this guy until last weekend. i was trying to be strong and not hook up with him again cuz it took me so long to get over him the first time around, but i just went for it because i missed him. all my feelings for him came back but he lives across the country (im in cali, he moved from cali to jersey) so i only get to see him during holidays and stuff. i have this feeling we were meant to be together and i can't let it go-at the same time its torture for me.
how the hell am i supposed to get over him again im in so much pain. a little help guys how do you get over an ex?
wow-does this sound familiar or what?!!? ive been in a situation sorta similar....im sure everyone at some point or another has been in your situation before and im guessing you are feeling really hurt and angry and just frustrated as heck. if you have a feeling you were meant to be together then have faith in that-you never know what will happen in the future or what could potentially bring you 2 together again. But in the meantime don't make yourself suffer, go out and find some GUYS!!! While it's difficult to let go of someone at first, the faster you are able to put it behind you and open yourself to new experiences, the faster you will get over him-this doenst change the fact that you still care about your exbf, it just means you have grown as a person. Anyways best of luck hope i was of some help.
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Sarah Darling
I am an 18 year old girl in college. I have a neighbor, we'll call him "B". B and I hooked up within the first few days of college, and continued to be together for the first two months of school. However, it was on and off, and then finally culminated when we both decided just to be friends. However, one night when we were both really drunk, I was really hurt by something he said and decided to just be like "maybe we shouldn't be friends anymore, B".
Now, in this one second statement, I had broken a promise to him, turned my back on him, etc. He will not give me a second chance, I have hurt him very badly with everything that I have said (and since that incident happened, there have been other occasions where I really said some nasty stuff to him) Do you think that there is any hope for us to be friends anymore? I don't want to hook up with him anymore (although I truly love this guy), I just want my friend back.
Thanks Babe
~S
hey sweetie! sounds like you are in a tough spot because this kid lives right next door to you. i dunno if this is the answer you want to hear, but what it sounds like to me is that he needs his space. He's obviously not being rational because he's hurt and upset. Guys get ANGRY when they are SCARED because they don't know how else to deal with it. B is obviously scared and hurt-it takes time to heal those things but they will eventually heal. As for your part in this, you gotta keep reassuring him that you are there for him even if he doesn't wanna hear it. Be there for him, give him his space but never ever ever stop trying because im positive one day he will come around. i hope i helped please just trust me on this one-see you in 3 weeks :)
xoxoxoxo
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Okay, its like this..
I really like this guy (Mike)- & well..he likes me too. Theres this party coming up in a couple of days and its like a huge party.. he told me he wants to get with me there - but thats just the good news.
One of my best friends (Laura) likes him..shes liked him for a long time..but shes the type that likes almost like everybody. Well, she told me that she doesnt like him that much anymore..but I just KNOW she still likes him. I really want to go out with him but I know she'll probably never forgive me. but shes not really a good friend but i know that ill feel horrible if i go out with him..i also wanna get with him but i dont want her to find out..
so can someone help me by giving me ideas of how to go out with him/get with him with out makin my friend mad?
(sorry its so long)
xoxoo
haha wow this sounds familiar and go figure the guy's name in my situation was mike also. to prevent drama id just stay away from him-lord knows u don't want it to turn out like my situation did. if you really want him tho, go for it-if your friend is "the type who likes everybody" like you said then she will get over it eventually. just be careful cuz you never quite know what you are getting into...
"always know if the juice is worth the squeeze"
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