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I now live with my boyfriend of 3 years and spend my spare time reading, writing, socialising with friends or just watching some TV.
Times are still hard and I'm trying to cope with various health problems on a daily basis but I'm working my way through things and really want to stop it from getting me down.
I dream of some day going to America and watching a real baseball game (we don't have that at all in the UK) and perhaps finding a job I find creatively fulfilling. Until then, I'm happy trying to be me and making the best of what I have.
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ok before i get to the point i just want to say that i really do love my boyfriend but...
he told my friend that he doesnt really like me anymore, hes also been lieing to me and make me mad ON PURPOSE to get me to break up with him. well i havent talked to him sence i found aout all of this because we live in diff citys (only 35 mins away) and he hasnt called me sence the last time i saw him. i was going to break up with him when ever i talked to him next but the problem is that i CANT do it. i love him too much i mean i am IN LOVE with him. its NOT fair either i mean i thought i was being a good girlfriend to him. and another thing is i DO NOT need responses saying things like "oh your too young to be in love" and "just dump him hes not worth it" i hear that enough from my family and friends ok. im coming to advicenators for support not to feel stupid. but anyways i love him but hes making me really upset at the same time. i know he st least did love me when we were dating (we still are but i dont think for long) but i guess he doesnt anymore and thats what i dont understand. please i just need some help on what to say to him the next time i talk to him and what to do. thanks so much to those who help (link)
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I feel so bad for you, it sounds like you're really hurting right now.
I'm not going to tell you this guy isn't worth it. After all, you wouldn't be with him unless he was. However, it does sound as though, for whatever reason, he hasn't got the courage to end this relationship, despite telling your friend that he is no longer happy in it. While I won't say he isn't worth it, it's difficult to hold much respect for someone like that.
Here's the thing. You say that you love him. If you love him and you suspect that he might be unhappy in your relationship then you need to talk to him about it. No relationship can survive without communication and until you find out what the problem is, you won't know how to fix it, or even if it can be fixed.
You need to call him or meet up with him. I would personally recommend seeing him face to face, and you need to find out once and for all what is going on. Tell him what your friend said and see how he reacts. If he says it isn't true, then you need to figure out how to deal with your friend who may or may not have been lying to you. If, however, he says it is true, no matter how much it hurts, you need to let him go.
I'm so sorry to say that. I know it isn't what you want to hear but if he is unhappy and does not want to remain in the relationship, you cannot force him to be with you for your sake. It's not easy to let go but if you love him then you will realise that it's the kindest thing to do. If you try to keep it going, you will both be unhappy and keeping each other from going out and finding the people you really are meant to be with. If that is the way he feels, then it isn't him and although it might not feel it, there is a greater love out there for you.
The first step is just to talk to him about it. Don't make any decisions until then.
I really hope it all works out for you.
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i made a mistake! jus one small mistak (choosing the wrong highschool ... where i live you choose which onwe to go to..everyone told me not to take this one.. but i did) and now my life is ruined! im miserable! i cry myself to sleep everynight, EVERY SINGLE NIGHT! i hate my life, and all i ever want to do is sleep, just cause crying as much as i do gives me a headache.. so what? i made a mistake! it happens, right? and ok ive learnt from it! "listen to my parents and friends from now on" - its on my "learnt lessons" list! so now howcome he doesnt make it better??! why won't he help me get back on my feet?? OR why'd he make so much depend on just one choice, how could he make my happynees depend on what school i choose? so i chose the wrong one, now i have to be miserable and suffer for it? help me understand because i dont want to stop trusting in him or become bitter towards him, or blame him for my sorrow.. not at all, so just please explain this to me.. if you know the answer.. thank you!! (link)
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I must admit I am an atheist but the answer to this is really very simple.
God is not the answer to our happiness or sorrow. He provides the tools but the truth is, each person makes his or her own happiness with what they have been given. He can't just swoop in and make things better because this was a choice that you made. He's not punishing you for making the wrong decision and he can't make it better either.
I know how hard it is. I went through a really rough time when I was at school and for two years, I was more miserable than I ever believed possible. You know what though? It doesn't last forever and eventually you will come out the other side, better for the experiences that made you so miserable because in future, you will know better how to avoid them and how best to cope while in them.
It's easy to blame God for everything that is wrong in this world but a lot of people don't stop to think that it isn't God's doing. God doesn't destroy things. Man does. Man causes war, man causes death and destruction and Man makes mistakes. God may be all powerful and omnipresent but that doesn't mean he can make our choices for us or prevent those choices from blowing up in our faces if we make the wrong one. It's freewill. He gives us the tools to learn and become better people but nothing more.
What I'm saying is that you need to realise you aren't being punished and stop being so hard on both yourself and your beliefs. Yes, things are hard now but they won't stay that way forever and I assure you that in the long run, your life is far from ruined. Many a successful person has had a bad start in life. Look at Jim Carey. He was tormented and abused by his Father and only learnt to be funny by practising faces in the mirror when he was at his lowest.
Okay, so you made a mistake. Stop punishing yourself for it and just get on with things. I know it doesn't sound easy but once you make the decision to do it, it really can be. You haven't said what the problem actually is but you CAN and WILL overcome it with a little strength and after it is all over, you will realise that your experience has made you a better person.
In the meantime, keep praying but don't forget that it's YOU that has the power to change things.
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Okay so I was just woundering how many times a week you should wash your hair. I know not every single day because its not healthy. I plan on asking my stylist thursday when I go to get my hair cut. But im just woundering how many times a week you think you should. Thanks (link)
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I have a book on health and beauty so I had a look in it for you. It says that you should wash your hair, at most every three days, as any more than this strips the hair of its natural oils, drying it and ultimately increasing the amount of oil produced by the follicles.
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I know this is the wrong catergory but my hair gets gross feeling easily. I straighten it & I wash it twice a week. But my hair gets so nasty feeling after like the 2nd day. But if I wear a headband then I can wear my hair down but it still looks kinda bad. & If I wear it without a headband i cant wear it down all week cuz it'll get nasty looking & feeling. & Im thinking of getting sidebangs sooner or later. So my question is how can i wear my hair down & have it feeling nice & silky until i wash my hair again ? Do you have any products I can use ? Thanks for the help (link)
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There are a number of possible reasons for your hair becoming greasy quickly. However, I would like to state once and for all that hair should only ever be washed at most every THIRD day, not every other day and most certainly not every day. Such frequent washing strips the hair of its natural oils, which causes your scalp to produce more of it, resulting in hair actually becoming far more greasy far more quickly.
Greasiness can be caused by hormonal imbalances, stress, strong hair products and poor diet, so in order to work out how to prevent your hair from becoming greasy fast, you need to work out which of these could be the problem.
In the meantime, I can offer some advice on how to get the best from your hair.
- Always make sure you wash your hairbrush/comb on a regular basis with very hot water. Grease builds up on hair tools like these and unless washed regularly, they can just put grease back into the hair.
- Bear in mind that straightening always dries the hair out. As dry hair can result in extra oil production from the scalp, it is important to compensate. Use a light hair product that protects against heat damage. Although nothing can prevent some level of damage from straightening, such products can lessen the damage caused.
- Watch out for shampoos that produce a lot of lather, as these often contain high levels of detergent which again, will strip the hair of the much needed natural oils.
- Finally, when conditioning, only put conditioner into the body of the hair, rather than up to the scalp. It can be difficult to remove all conditioner from your hair efficiently and as the main effect of conditioner is on the rest of your hair, don't apply it all the way up to the scalp and when rinsing, finish with a blast of cold water, which will help to tighten the follicles which produce the oil.
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Hi, I'm going into 10th grade 16/m- and school hasn't even started yet...
Well.. the harrassment has been going on since 4th grade...
Basically all the popular people and the majority of my class think that I'm a fag (like gay).. but I'm not.. I have a girlfriend of 6 months.. and we're really happy together...
I don't even act gay at all.. everyone just thinks I am.. and I think it's because most of my friends are girls.. but I don't understand why that would make me gay- because wouldn't that mean that I like hanging out with girls because they are nice to me??
I just feel like no one cares about me and everyone is making fun of me
Another thing.. I am one of the smartest people in the class (4.0 average).. and I always do good on tests.. do people make fun of me because they are jealous that I get good grades and they don't.. I mean I don't go around bragging about my grades.. people ask me what I got.. and I just tell them in a modest way...
I don't understand why everyone thinks I'm a homo.. when I'm not...
oh.. and on myspace- I put up a picture that was the one everyone does (upside down peace sign with big sunglasses).. so then one of the people who makes fun of me posts a comment about it saying "wow ur a homo" so i posted a comment back saying "i was making fun of myspace.. lol".. so then he posts regular comments saying stuff like "i wasn't kidding about the pic comment" and "everyone thinks you're a fag" and "we hate you"...
So that just made me think of how much my class despises me- and I don't even say anything mean to them.. I try being nice.. but they just aren't.. the only ones who actually care about me are my close friends.. and that's only like 10 people max. outta the 250-300 in my class...
Am I just worried about nothing?
Am I really that much of a loser?
Please don't say "go talk to a counselor" because I tried that in middle school and the counselor was really stupid about it
Please help!
sorry this was so long (link)
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Oh, you poor thing!!! You know, I went through exactly the same thing when I was at school. I went to an all girls school and was in a class where, for no particular reason, they all just took an instant dislike to me. I remember one group of girls in the class following me around on a lunch break, repeatedly asking me if I was homosexual or heterosexual. At that age I didn't know the difference so you can imagine what happened there.
The thing you need to realise is that bullying is mainly rooted in insecurity. People are having a hard time with growing up, problems at home, problems at school, self esteem issues etc and they pick someone they feel is vulnerable and weak to help make them feel more superior.
No, you aren't worried about nothing and don't EVER let yourself believe otherwise. Bullying is a very serious issue. Please also bear in mind that being the victim of bullying does NOT make you a loser. It took me a long time to realise this (around 5 years after I left school, to be precise) but the problem is NEVER with you. It's with them. Are you out picking on someone and making them miserable? No. Are you deliberately demeaning others to make you look big? No. Are you trying to use others so that you feel better about yourself? No. These people are. That makes them very pathetic and small minded.
You are an excellent student, with what sounds like a steady girlfriend and a developed sense of self. You're not a loser. You're better than them.
A lot of people in my position right now would probably tell you to talk to a teacher at your school but I'm not going to do that. If they make serious threats against you then perhaps you should mention it and you should definitely let your parents know what is going on. However, I would discourage you frm allowing them to do anything unless things progress to the stage when you are in real physical danger. Having been through the same experience, I found it made it a lot worse when they found out I had 'told on them'.
Instead, hold your head high. Ignore what they say. Don't speak to them but DO look them straight in the eye when they talk to you. When they're done with their insults, roll your eyes or look bored and just walk away. If you don't respond with sadness or fear, they won't be getting the rise they want so badly that makes them feel good. In the meantime, keep studying because you will regret it forever if you let their pathetic behaviour ruin your education and do what makes you happy, regardless of what they say.
If you need someone to talk to at any time, I will be happy to listen or talk about thie further so feel free to contact me.
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Everyone keeps asking me what I want them to get me for my birthday next week. I really don't know what to say. I told them they don't need to buy me anything, but they keep asking! What should I do? (link)
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I know it's embarrassing when people try to buy you something but try to look at it from their perspective. They care a lot about you and they want to take this opportunity to spoil you with something you really like. I expect you do the same thing with them when their birthdays come round. The problem is, that if you don't give them any ideas, they'll worry endlessly about getting you something you won't like or don't need.
Try to come up with just a few small items that you would feel comfortable with suggesting to them and it will all be fine.
To prevent this problem in the future, you could try making a list of things that you would like a few weeks before your birthday/Christmas and then, when people ask, you can politely decline offers of gifts if you feel uncomfortable but make a few easy suggestions from your list for persistent friends.
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im a 26 yo mal, ive been friends with this lady for a year now, and over time we have become best friends, but over time my feelings have become deeper, and im falling for her in a big way, the problem is she doesnt feel the same about me, and probably never will, the thing is i really like her, more than anyone else ive ever met, i care about her a lot, and even though im happy for her when she gets a new b/f it also hurts so much, i never want to lose her, and im always the best friend i can be, but i cant handle this pain, what can i do??? (link)
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Oddly enough, I think I have a couple of friends who are in exactly the same situation as you. He seems to be in love with her and has been for some time, but because they have been best friends literally for 14 years, she sees him as a brother and isn't attracted to him in that way.
I wish I could tell you a way to make her like you, but the truth is that there's nothing I can suggest that would help because as much as you want to, you can never find a way to make someone love you.
What you need to do is to make the decision whether you can remain her best friend, knowing that you feel this way and can never do anything about it, or if you would rather lose her as a friend but not have to deal with the pain of seeing her when you can't be with her. It's a difficult decision and not one that anybody can make for you but personally, I always believed that if you truly care about someone, in whichever sense, you would rather see them happy. I get that you feel that way from your question and for that reason, I would recommend that you try to stay friends with her. She has clearly stayed your friend for a reason and to lose each other over this would be awful. For both of you.
I hate to say this, but the only thing you can do is move on. There's little point in spending your life pining over unreciprocated feelings. Sooner or later, she will get on with her life and you have to do the same. Who knows? Maybe in the future, you will get together but for now, you need to try to move on with your life and remain the best friend to her that you can be.
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hi, well im not a politics type of guy, so i dont know why george bush and tony blair are hated so much. what have they done thats so bad? (link)
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There are a lot of people here who have said why Bush is so hated but not a lot of people know Tony Blair.
I live in the UK, where Tony Blair is the Prime Minister and part of the Labour Party. There's also The Conservatives, the Liberal Democrats and so on.
Tony Blair was elected in 1997 and made a great many promises about improving education, the National Health Service and so on and forth. In the nine years he has been in power, the National Health Service has been found to be BILLIONS of pounds in debt, with a tremendous lack of good service being provided to those in their care. Education has also not proven to be a great improvement.
To top it all off, his cabinet have been slated for sex scandals, violence and more and then a lot of people are against him for his actions with Bush towards the war in Iraq and the War on Terrorism. The main belief seems to be that this is not 'our' war but many, many English soldiers have been killed because he insisted on getting us involved. Now, the British public understand the need to try to sort the situation in Iraq and we have NOTHING against America but it has been a huge sacrifice in our country for what is largely seen as little in the way of a good reason.
In additon to this, there are major issues with illegal immigrants, as it is now believed there are more in the UK than ever before and because they cannot speak English and are therefore largely unemployable, they are a drain on our taxes, resulting in problems with other areas of the country.
It just seems that during the time Tony Blair has been in power, everything has gone totally wrong. He's handled most situations very poorly and is slowly dragging the UK into some very nasty problems.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 weeks and we had sex for the first time last night. I was really iffy about it for a really long time and he kept comforting me, telling me it was okay and that we didn't have to do it. He ended up comfortimg me so much that it actually happened. It was my first time, but it wasn't his. It didn't hurt and there was no blood last night, but when I woke up this morning, I was bleeding alot. I ended my period two days before, so I don't think it would be because I hadn't finished. What could this mean? (link)
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When I had sex for the first time, I also didn't bleed until the next day. This is really a common experience when losing your virginity, especially if you stay laid down afterwards. I must admit, I'm not totally savvy on how this works, but have you noticed that when you are on your period, you bleed less during the nights than you do during the day? Well a similar thing can happen when you lose your virginity. When your hymen breaks, it does allow the blood through but in some cases, it doesn't exit the body until the following day.
As someone has already mentioned, there is a chance that there was just a little blood left in you following your period and the intercourse caused it to come out.
The other possibility is that he might have been a little rough, which could have caused you to bleed. However, under these circumstances, the blood normally leaves the body straight after so I would put my guess as the first suggestion.
Don't worry, you may spot a little during the day but after this, you should have no more bleeding.
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my mom keeps walking into the computer room and just "looking around". its really bugging me. every time she comes in, i have to close everything except itunes because im looking up anorexic stuff and i dont want her to think im anorexic [im not]. i even had to log off for 10 minutes because she told me to do my laundry so that she would get on and see what i was doing, but i logged off. is there nething i can do? (link)
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I think that every single person out there can relate to your problem in some way or other. Everyone's parents wants to know what they're up to...but here's the thing. She does it because she's worried about you. Perhaps she feels shut out and that this is the only way she can find out what is going on with her daughter.
The other possibility that sprung to my mind is that she already looked at your PC at some point, saw you were looking at sites about anorexia and is scared that you might be heading in that direction. If this is the case, although she should not have been snooping, she has every right to be concerned if she is unsure what is going on.
The thing you need to bear in mind is that ALL teenagers shut out their parents while striving for their independence and that act of shutting them out makes parents more inclined to snoop, spy and generally play detective because they're concerned about WHY they are being shut out.
The answer here is simple. Let her in. You don't need to let her know anything because you do deserve some privacy. But tell her that you know she's concerned about you and that yes, you have been looking at anorexia sites, but that you have no problems with eating at all so she doesn't need to worry. Then explain to her that if she wants to know something about you in the future, then as long as she asks you straight out, you will always give her a straight and truthful answer. As long as you make good on this agreement, the privacy issue should no longer be a problem. She gets the comfort of knowing her daughter will talk to her openly and honestly when needed and you get the security of knowing your Mum won't be spying on you.
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can anyone give me advice on acting..i want to get better...i have theater at school and i love it..just want to know what makes a great actress..thanksss (link)
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The best way to become better at your craft is to constantly challenge yourself.
The best actors in the world today are the ones that ensure they play different roles. For example, Johnny Depp, who has played a surreal created man with hands made of scissors, a juvenile delinquent, a detective and most recently a pirate, among other things.
Tom Hanks, who has played a mentally challenged character, Death Row Warden, a bumbling businessman and a small boy who turned into an adult overnight.
You cannot learn to do something better without constantly challenging yourself. If you realise you're starting to get very good at playing one type of character, try doing something totally different. Don't be afraid to go from Shakesperian to something a little more 'fun' or something a little risque.
Try also to learn from the experiences and mistakes of other actors. If they did something that you think was a mistake and you notice it, you can keep yourself from doing the same thing.
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Hey iam 17 female and iam thinking about becoming a vegetarian and I was wondering what kind of foods are out there for vegetarians besides vege's. (link)
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I've been vegetarian for 13 years. Mostly, I eat a lot of potatoes, eggs, baked beans, vegetables such as cauliflower, broccoli, swede, parsnips and so on.
I am Coeliac so I can't eat bread products but prior to diagnosis with this, I used to eat quorn and soya products. There are a lot of meat substitutes out there that you might like to give a go. There's vegetarian sausages, chickenless nuggets, pies, burgers and so on.
Most supermarkets also have a vegetarian section these days so if you go and have a good look, there will probably be something there you find appealing.
The most important thing to remember when pursuing a vegetarian diet is that by cutting out meat, you are cutting out the body's most natural sources of iron and protein (along with other vitamins and minerals). A lot of people recommend taking supplements but if you eat a balanced diet, you shouldn't need to. Protein can be found in nuts and seeds, eggs, milk (or soya milk if you wish to become vegan), pasta, cheese and yoghurt.
Iron can be found mostly in green, leafy vegetables like broccoli, beans, peas, sprouts and best of all, spinach (often considered a Super Food, as it is very good for you all round).
Lastly, I will add that putting yourself on a vegetarian diet can be difficult and how careful you are with it depends on your reasons for going on the diet. For example, if you don't like the taste of meat, you could still eat products that contain gelatin/e, which is found mostly in sweets and jelly and is made from bone marrow. Also, if you don't want to stop eating all meat, as someone has already said, you can eat fish and be a demi-vegetarian.
Good luck to you.
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ok i got my permit in july & so my driving test is in january. i did not drive for like 2 weeks. ive been busy because school starts soon & i had to get ready for that. i really dont like driving. i feel like im behind, because all of my friends are going on the highway & they got their permit around the same time i did. i did roads in my town, but not the highway or main street. my mom said im very good & i know what im doing. i just feel really behind & they make it seem like its a competition when i know it isn't. do you think im behind?? i thought since january isn't really close to know, im fine. i never had any problems yet, not even one. can anyone give me their opinion or experience??
thanks!! (link)
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I felt exactly the same as you when I was still learning. I had two different driving instructors and due to some problems with the first, I didn't get a second until around a year later, so in all, it took somewhere around two years for me to get my driver's license!!
The best piece of advice I can give you is to practise as much as possible and in lots of different situations. Start by driving at night time, when there is nobody else (or very few other) people on the road. This give you an opportunity to practise your night driving and normal driving skills without too much worry about others causing you problems.
When you have the hang of night time driving, try daytime on a weekend, when few people are rushing to or from work. This will give you a chance to interact with other car users without experiencing full on rush mode.
Finally, go out during rush hour. Traffic will be insane, people will be cutting each other up, undertaking, tailgating and generally being obnoxious to each other. This is the most challenging time for most drivers so it's best to leave it until you feel confident.
Practise things like parallel parking, reverse parking, reversing round corners and the emergency stop time and time again. When you think you've got it right, do it again to be sure. Also make sure you do all of these in different weather conditions. Hot and dry, cold and rainy and if it snows, practise in that because driving in snow and ice is HARD.
The only other thing I would say is that you shouldn't put too much pressure on yourself, because the majority of people don't learn to REALLY drive until after they passed their test. It's a whole different ball game when it's just you in the car. Also, instead of thinking that you HAVE to do it and you're falling behind, tell yourself that you WILL do it. I did this myself and passed my test first time. There's a great deal that can be put down to positive thinking.
Good luck!
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i want to know if anyone knows how to make your hair shiney. not like greasy shiney but my hair is dull and i want to know if any one knows any tricks that are good. not like hair line products but more of a home remidy or something. thanks! (link)
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After washing your hair, give a blast of really cold water. This closes the follicles at the top which produce the oil onto your scalp, leaving your hair shinier for longer.
Beer is also supposed to be good. I know that sounds weird but apparently, if you rinse your hair with beer, it makes it shinier.
Also a hair masque (deep conditioning preferabley). I find Montagne Jeunesse products are excellent so I would recommend their hair masque.
Another trick that works is using a normal conditioner (if your hair is lifeless, try one for dry hair, which should promote shine because it moisturises it). Apply it to the main body of your hair but don't go up to the scalp. Wrap it in clingfilm or a towel and leave for 10 minutes. Then rinse out on a cold rinse. That should also help.
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Does anyone know if theres a way I can have voicemails from my cell phone traced to find out who left them? I want to ask the police but im not sure if they can do that. Also, is there any way I can have IMs traced back? Or to get the people who own the screen names in trouble? The harrassment is out of control. Thank you :) (link)
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I actually had a similar problem a few years ago. A guy was sending me obscene text messages and threats and I didn't know who it was. Eventually, my Mum made me go to the police and they kept hold of my phone for a couple of days. They tracked the telephone number, went to the guy's house and gave him a stern warning. They then managed to arrange for his number to be blocked. I never had a moment's hassle after that.
I am not so sure about Instant Messages, I'm afraid. I think the only way they would be able to do that is to take in your PC and trace them that way, if possible. Following this, the chances are they would just serve them a warning and any further action would be based on warnings they then ignored.
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Right heres the deal.. i am in love with my best friend and i dont quite know how to handle it! I havent told him how i feel and i dont know if i want to. he has just split with his gf (that is what made me realise i liked him) i think i have always liked him, but just never realised it! I think he will be on the rebound so there is no way am i going to tell him how i feel, because i dont want to be his rebound girl! Everyone says that we make a great couple and i think we do too! Do you think i should tell him? and if so how long do you think i should wait? (link)
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If he has only just split with his girlfriend, now is not the time to launch your feelings on him. I know that you probably want to get it all out in the open but there are two real problems here. First of all, you're absoloutely right to be concerned about the possibility of being a rebound girlfriend. This is a bigger possibility if he really liked this girl and/or was going out with her for a long time.
The other reason I say it is that you don't want him to feel pushed into anything too fast. He needs time to get over the split and other people don't want to be thinking you're a bad person because you swept in and took him so soon.
Leave him some time and some space but let him you're there. Then, when you sense he's feeling ready to move on, tell him how you feel. There's no set time scale for this but when he's ready, I think you will know. He'll smile more, he'll seem happier in general.
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I am so frusturated today. I'm usually giving advice, but right now I don't have any for myself. I have been best friends with this one girl for 2 years and I'm really close with both her and her daughter, but she is constantly using me and lying to me. Finally I got fed up of her and called her to tell her she only cares about her self and then hung up. Does this diserve an apolgie? I don't plan on giving one, but I wanted to know what everyone else thought. (link)
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In my personal opinion, I don't think it merits an apology, necessarily, but perhaps an explanation is required.
I had a friend who was exactly the same, so I can understand where you're coming from. When someone only makes use of you because "you're there" and lies to you constantly, it's very difficult to put up with. If you're anything like me when I was in your position, it's probably also been building up for a while because you let her get away with it for so long.
The fact is that it is pointless referring to someone as a friend if they don't act like one to you. You need to trust your friends and know they will be there for you and support you. If she mainly lies and uses you, to such an extent where her actions are inexcusable, then you have every right to terminate the friendship.
However, it might be that her behaviour is without thought. She may well have been using you and lying to you...but is she necessarily aware of it? I know that might sound stupid but some people don't even realise when they're telling lies, especially when they affect others. Also, she may not be intentionally using you, but rather using you thoughtlessly, in an "I want to talk to someone because I'm bored. I know, I'll ring..." As this is a possibility, I think you need to explain to her exactly why it is you no longer wish to be friends.
Perhaps you could send her an e-mail? Or, if you think you can manage it, call her and perhaps apologise for the bluntness of your previous call, before explaining what led you to your outburst. Tell her that you don't feel you can continue to tolerate her treatment of you and you no longer wish to be friends.
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I want to go on a detox diet, and I have a few questions.
1.) Will this help me from preventing illnesses?
2.) Will the strengthen my immune system?
3.) What kinds of foods and drinks should I have every day? (link)
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First of all, detox diets are a good idea but you should be aware that they don't come without side effects. I actually have a book here that has information on detox diets, and because I think all people should be aware of this, I'm actually going to type the first paragraph:
"Embark on a detoxification regime on the weekend or when your schedule is not too demanding, as you may experience fatigue, headaches and aching muscles, unsettled emotions, diarrhoea, tiredness or skin breakouts (these are all encouraging signs that your body is detoxifying)."
That being said...
1&2) In theory, having a body which has been greatly reduced in toxins leaves your inner workings, so to speak, much more able to do their jobs efficiently. This includes your immune system. The more effective your immune system, the better it will be at defending you against illness and helping you recover from any illnesses that do develop.
3)For foods and drink, you need to keep them as basic as possible. In other words, no processed food. This does not mean you HAVE to eat organic, although clearly there are benefits to this. Again, looking to the book, some foods that would be good for you are as follows:
All of your typical fruit and veg. e.g - bananas, grapes, kiwis, watermelons, celery, tomatoes, broccoli, etc
Fresh fish
Garlic and ginger
Nuts and seeds
4) You can exercise but if we are going for classic detoxification, rather than a diet plan (I should stress that a detox diet should only be short, rather than a long-term plan and should only be done once a month or so.) However, there are many benefits to exercise so if you are using your detox plan to start yourself on a healthy eating regime then by all means, exercise too.
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what software can be used to make a magazine? (link)
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Microsoft Publisher can be used to make at-home magazines, as it offers 'Wizards' for such publications. I myself have constructed a small magazine on one occasion using Publisher, so I know it can work, although it is not a terribly simple process.
If you want to make more professional appearing magazines, your best bet is to first create them using Microsoft Publisher and then take a copy of the pages to a printers, who will be able to offer you a price per magazine and offer you a range of papers on which to print them.
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whenever i eat mi stomach bloats very bad.
so i try not to eat so it doesnt stick out.
does anyone know what i can do to make it not bloat?
please hlp me and sometimes when i eat it hurts and makes me want to puke what should i do? (link)
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The first thing I would like to say is that a bloated stomach is in no way an indication of an eating disorder.
However, as someone who suffers from bloating very badly (it also makes me feel very sick), I can say it sounds as though there may be some sort of digestive problem there. Now, this could just be helped by taking a probiotic containing something called every day, like an Actimel, Activia or another form of yoghurt/yoghurt drink. There have been a lot of studies carried out into these and a large percentage of people suffering from bloat have found that a probiotic helps significantly.
The other possibility is that you might suffer with a food intolerance or Irritable Bowel Syndrome. However, these are both most commonly accompanied with other symptoms, such as diarrhoea or constipation and bowel cramps.
Although I can say this from experience and know the symptoms well, I would stongly recommend that if you find you suffer from such problems, you should speak to your doctor for a formal diagnosis and treatment as required. Unfortunately, there really isn't a lot you can do to ease the symptoms until some form of diagnosis has been made, although I would recommend drinking a lot of water when it happens, as this can help to ease the symptoms in a number of cases.
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