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how can g0d put so much on one simple decision
i made a mistake! jus one small mistak (choosing the wrong highschool ... where i live you choose which onwe to go to..everyone told me not to take this one.. but i did) and now my life is ruined! im miserable! i cry myself to sleep everynight, EVERY SINGLE NIGHT! i hate my life, and all i ever want to do is sleep, just cause crying as much as i do gives me a headache.. so what? i made a mistake! it happens, right? and ok ive learnt from it! "listen to my parents and friends from now on" - its on my "learnt lessons" list! so now howcome he doesnt make it better??! why won't he help me get back on my feet?? OR why'd he make so much depend on just one choice, how could he make my happynees depend on what school i choose? so i chose the wrong one, now i have to be miserable and suffer for it? help me understand because i dont want to stop trusting in him or become bitter towards him, or blame him for my sorrow.. not at all, so just please explain this to me.. if you know the answer.. thank you!!
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I must admit I am an atheist but the answer to this is really very simple.
God is not the answer to our happiness or sorrow. He provides the tools but the truth is, each person makes his or her own happiness with what they have been given. He can't just swoop in and make things better because this was a choice that you made. He's not punishing you for making the wrong decision and he can't make it better either.
I know how hard it is. I went through a really rough time when I was at school and for two years, I was more miserable than I ever believed possible. You know what though? It doesn't last forever and eventually you will come out the other side, better for the experiences that made you so miserable because in future, you will know better how to avoid them and how best to cope while in them.
It's easy to blame God for everything that is wrong in this world but a lot of people don't stop to think that it isn't God's doing. God doesn't destroy things. Man does. Man causes war, man causes death and destruction and Man makes mistakes. God may be all powerful and omnipresent but that doesn't mean he can make our choices for us or prevent those choices from blowing up in our faces if we make the wrong one. It's freewill. He gives us the tools to learn and become better people but nothing more.
What I'm saying is that you need to realise you aren't being punished and stop being so hard on both yourself and your beliefs. Yes, things are hard now but they won't stay that way forever and I assure you that in the long run, your life is far from ruined. Many a successful person has had a bad start in life. Look at Jim Carey. He was tormented and abused by his Father and only learnt to be funny by practising faces in the mirror when he was at his lowest.
Okay, so you made a mistake. Stop punishing yourself for it and just get on with things. I know it doesn't sound easy but once you make the decision to do it, it really can be. You haven't said what the problem actually is but you CAN and WILL overcome it with a little strength and after it is all over, you will realise that your experience has made you a better person.
In the meantime, keep praying but don't forget that it's YOU that has the power to change things.
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You haven't given any details regarding why the high school you chose is the wrong one, so I don't see how anyone can give you any practical advice. Is it wrong because the teachers are idiots, or because the students do drugs, or because your friends aren't going there, or what?
You say you've learned your lesson, but there's a more important lesson you haven't learned yet. Aesop said it best: "The gods help those who help themselves" (Aesop was speaking of Zeus and company, but the essential message is still true). Faith in God, by itself, is worthless. You need to take some action to fix things yourself.
If all your problems stem from having chosen the wrong high school, is there anything preventing you from changing your mind and transferring to a different school? Depending on what your reasons are for wanting to leave, it might be entirely possible. Don't expect that to magically fix everything, though - somehow I doubt that all the problems in your life stem from that one decision.
Once again, without more details on what exactly is so wrong about this decision you've made, neither I nor anyone else can help you. I can tell you this, however: if you wait for God to fix everything for you, you'll be waiting for a very long and miserable time. You need to solve your own problems and stop expecting God to do it all.
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It's not God's fault, and blaming him won't make it any better. I have been moved all over the country to tons of different schools since elementary school and if you make the best of it, no school can be that bad. So your friends are at a different school, and you don't know anyone here. So the classes are too hard or easy. Deal with it. Go out and meet someone. Work harder or ask to enroll in harder classes.
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Well i'm not sure, but i'm guessing he wants you to figure this one on your own. There's millions, even billions of other people in this world that also are begging him for help. You got yourself into this mess, i think he wants you to get yourself out of this mess. Instead of crying, ((which does not help, so stop it!)) just think very slowly about what you can do. Talk to your parents and see what they think. Crying does absoulty nothing to help, so stop it and just think about what you are going to do. Think of the pros and cons. There must be something good about changing schools.
I hope I helped!!!
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