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Did I act wrong?
I am so frusturated today. I'm usually giving advice, but right now I don't have any for myself. I have been best friends with this one girl for 2 years and I'm really close with both her and her daughter, but she is constantly using me and lying to me. Finally I got fed up of her and called her to tell her she only cares about her self and then hung up. Does this diserve an apolgie? I don't plan on giving one, but I wanted to know what everyone else thought.
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Nope, friends who constantly use you and/or lie to you aren't really your friends.
Maybe they were at one point, but they aren't when they're doing those things.
If you really feel that you were too harsh, then apologize, but only after she apologizes for her actions.
After all, why should you apologize for speaking honestly to them?
My advice is:
If you had said it behind her back, you should probably apologize (at least for not confronting them first).
If you said it to her face, apologize only if you didn't mean it.
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i have a best friend i have known for years. and she lies to me and whenever i have anther person over when she is over she leaves me out and only pays attention to the other person.also we went to camp together once and i met a girl and my bff got jelous and was mad at me because i met a new friend then she told me that she didnt want me to hang out with my new friend anymore, when my bff always hangs out with her bffs and i never complain. anyways she shouldnt deserve that kind of treatment eaither way. so just apologize and tell her what you ment in a nicer way.PS sorry answer so long.
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Hanging up isnt the way to confront her about something wrong she did,its just ending it all.But NO,dont apologize.What are you going to apologize for,her using you?Let HER call you.If you told her before you hung up that what was bothering you,then just leave her and shell call.If she DOESNT call then forget it.Dont call her,shes the one who began it all not you.
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In my personal opinion, I don't think it merits an apology, necessarily, but perhaps an explanation is required.
I had a friend who was exactly the same, so I can understand where you're coming from. When someone only makes use of you because "you're there" and lies to you constantly, it's very difficult to put up with. If you're anything like me when I was in your position, it's probably also been building up for a while because you let her get away with it for so long.
The fact is that it is pointless referring to someone as a friend if they don't act like one to you. You need to trust your friends and know they will be there for you and support you. If she mainly lies and uses you, to such an extent where her actions are inexcusable, then you have every right to terminate the friendship.
However, it might be that her behaviour is without thought. She may well have been using you and lying to you...but is she necessarily aware of it? I know that might sound stupid but some people don't even realise when they're telling lies, especially when they affect others. Also, she may not be intentionally using you, but rather using you thoughtlessly, in an "I want to talk to someone because I'm bored. I know, I'll ring..." As this is a possibility, I think you need to explain to her exactly why it is you no longer wish to be friends.
Perhaps you could send her an e-mail? Or, if you think you can manage it, call her and perhaps apologise for the bluntness of your previous call, before explaining what led you to your outburst. Tell her that you don't feel you can continue to tolerate her treatment of you and you no longer wish to be friends.
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well, no. She had no right to lie to a friend like that. If it was a tiny white lie then you both should appologize. (if it was lik alot of 'tiny' white lies then you shouldn't have to say sorry) if it was a couple big lies then you should be proud of what you did becayuse as i said she had no right to lie.
Hope i could help
p.s. i think you did the right thing:)
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Well, no, you don't need to apologize for speaking the truth, but I'm sure could've gotten a calm explanation then a insult and a hang up. Because if I were her, I'd just be sitting there left hurt and really confused. Just call her again and be like,"I'm sorry for the way I called you, but I'm not sorry for what I said. I just feel like all you care about is yourself. You're always lying to me and using me, and I really care about you and all, but I just want to know why you can't be honest with me and everything." And just talk it out with her and try to resolve the friendship. So basically to answer your question, no, you shouldn't have to apologize for speaking the truth. I hope I helped. <3
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well i guess you had the right to say that but i think she needs more of an explanation more than an apologie. if i was her i'd be confused. i know working it out with her is probably the last thing you want to do with her but give it a try. you shouldnt just let a friendship like that just slip away. tell her how you feel and if she doesn't fix it or understand then u don't need her in your life at least you tried. hope this helps
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Nope, you dont need to apologize for anything.
she shouldnt of been using you or lying to you.
Remember this quote:you teach people how you want to be treated.
You did the right thing of sticking up for yourself =]
Good Job =]
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umm..well its good you got it out but you could have been harsh alil bit. and if you think your totally right dont apologize cuz obviously its the truth. but if you want to continue being friends wit this her you apologize and say tht it just needed to come out and you are sry for it. but thts if you want to keep being firneds in my opinion. but make sure she dont get attitude wit you bbecause of all this with you maybe apologizing.
good luck hope i helped ..sounds kinda confusing sry
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