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i'm in love with my best friend!
Right heres the deal.. i am in love with my best friend and i dont quite know how to handle it! I havent told him how i feel and i dont know if i want to. he has just split with his gf (that is what made me realise i liked him) i think i have always liked him, but just never realised it! I think he will be on the rebound so there is no way am i going to tell him how i feel, because i dont want to be his rebound girl! Everyone says that we make a great couple and i think we do too! Do you think i should tell him? and if so how long do you think i should wait?
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If he has only just split with his girlfriend, now is not the time to launch your feelings on him. I know that you probably want to get it all out in the open but there are two real problems here. First of all, you're absoloutely right to be concerned about the possibility of being a rebound girlfriend. This is a bigger possibility if he really liked this girl and/or was going out with her for a long time.
The other reason I say it is that you don't want him to feel pushed into anything too fast. He needs time to get over the split and other people don't want to be thinking you're a bad person because you swept in and took him so soon.
Leave him some time and some space but let him you're there. Then, when you sense he's feeling ready to move on, tell him how you feel. There's no set time scale for this but when he's ready, I think you will know. He'll smile more, he'll seem happier in general.
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Well, what I would do is tell him now, because if you don't some other girl might, and then he might start going out with her. I would just go up to him and be like,"Look, I gotta tell you something and I got to do it now otherwise I probably never will. Everyone says we'd make a great couple, and I think we would too, and I really like you and everything, and if you have feelings for me, that's fantastic, but don't respond or anything just yet. Wait awhile, I know you just broke up with your girlfriend and you might want some time to yourself, and I don't want to just feel like some rebound girl or something. But I just knew that if some other girl came along and you dated her, I wouldn't get my chance to let you know. But, if you don't feel the same way about me, I hope we can remain friends because I wouldn't want to lose anything we have." Well, at least something like that, haha. Because it shows you care alot about him and his feelings and want to give him time and everything and it shows you're just not looking to be some rebound you honestly want to be with him. I hope I helped. <3
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well , i think you should tell him definately because if you keep that bottle up and wait till the last minute then he might have another girlfriend by then... to answer your second question i think you should wait awhile about 2 weeks 3 tops..then tell him how you feel.. don't be nervous.. just ask him.. well i hope i helped..
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